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Why do I feel like this??
17-F I've hung out with this boy Chris twice this week and we like each other but whenever he trys to kiss me I pull away. I have kissed him but I dunno I don't have any desire to do it again. This past summer I was used by this other kid. Since then I haven't wanted to do anything with anyone. What do you think is the reason I don't feel comfortable with Chris?? I do really like him and I think he's getting frustrated with it.
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well it's obvious your not comfortable kissing him. it could be because of the previous guy using you. or maybe you just aren't comfortable kissing him yet. i don't know how long you have known chris but you only mentioned hanging out twice this week.. so it seems like you might be uncomfortable at how soon you two are kissing. you don't want to get hurt. so i would find out if you two are official before you go any further. maybe you will feel more comfortable.
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Go 4 it girl!!! the boy who used u b4 is now in da past and u should not cling on 2 the past, but have a new and refreshed start!!
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youre still thinking about the loser that hurt you. once you feel youre over him, youll be ready to kiss chris.
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Tell him the truth and if he cant take it then he does not deserve you. Kissing can be just as personal as sex or any other form of affection. Time is in your hands not his. Be strong and just exsplain why you feel the way you do and that it has nothing to do with him.
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You're still getting over what happened to you before. Talk to Chris about it, tell him what happened and why you're acting the way you are. It might just take some time to heal.
I'll pray for you hun
-Farren
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take it slowly, don't force it. and remember that he's not the boy who used you, and that he's better. best of luck
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Your scared to start really liking him because you think he's going to use you like that other guy did. It's hard trusting people especially when you gone through all that bullshit before. So, what your feeling is totally normal. Go to Chris and tell him what happened to you before, he'll understand. It might take you awhile before you can start trusting someone. ~good luck~
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You are probably rejecting Chris because you are afraid that if you "fall for him," he may break your heart... I think you fell confortable with Chris, i just think you are afraid of rejection... I hope i helped you! :)
xO Chelsea Ox
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its cuz your taking this discomfort from a using fool to your friend without knowing it! stop thinkin about your past loves. if you keep thinkin like this, all your relationships will never fully bloom into an actual relationship! dont dwell on past loves, think about the love your missing out on now! kiss him! not all guys are users! you just happened to meet the wrong guy, but what if you met the right guy now? are u just gonna brush him away! dont lose him! he could be the best thing that ever happened to u! hope i helped!
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You really just have to go with your heart on this one. It could possibly be your uncomftorbleness coming back, but just make sure he doesnt pressure you into anything you dont want to do.
hope i helped!
lyl XoXo. Becca_Boo
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well i thynk yer havin a hard time trustin someone new...heartbreaks are always gonna go on i guess maybe u should get to know him a little better then u can decide wether u trust him enuff not to break yer heart or not!! good luck <3
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Hi Sweetie,
Well if someone used you... you just don't feel comftrable and secure about trusting someone. Your subconscious is having a hard time. I'm afraid I have little advice to offer for your situation. Perhaps you should tell Chris you'd like to know him a bit longe befor you can be all couppel-ly. Or you can't just try to learn more about hi yourself. Meet his friends and see what kind of people they are... maybe (just a maybe) meet his parents or his brother(s) or sister(s).
If Chris is really great he'll understand you just ned a little bit of time to be comftrable with things.
I hope you find your answer. Best wishes! ~Blessed Be...
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I think the reason why you don't feel comfortable with Chris is that you are afraid to get hurt again. Tell Chris the story about what happened during the summer! He'll understand if he's worth it! Hope I helped :)
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If Chris really likes you, he should understand. Tell him exactly what happened over the summer, and if hes worth it he'll understand. I think you are afraid that he will use you to. Don't worry things will work out in the end. Good Luck.
- Maddie
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There is a pretty good chance that, that is the reason why u don't feel comfortable with him. Ur just afraid to get hurt again. So it shouldn't fustrate u at all, it's just a normal thing.
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Hey there. Well, I've totally been in the same place as you are. That's okay if you feel like you don't have a desire to kiss him (right now).There's nothing wrong with that. It's also good to be cautious since that one guy used you. Sorry guys are really UGH! Just because you like someone doesnt always mean that you have to kiss them. Maybe you just aren't ready. You need to give it some more time. You prolly still aren't over the using experience, so you feel liek a kiss should be more special. Chris needs to learn to deal with the fact that you aren't ready to kiss him. If he can't well then he's obviously not that great and doesn't respect you as much as he should. The choice and time to kiss is YOURS and HIS..when you BOTH are ready. He needs to be patient and understanding. You could tell him that you were used in the past and are just taking the riskfree way for now but in time you will want to kiss and you'll let him know when you are ready..don't rush yourself into anything. Stand up for yourself! :)
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