about

I'm a mother of 2 boys who are 13 months apart. Talk about a handful. I'm a wife to the best husband I could have ever dreamed of.
I'm one of the very blessed.


I have Bipolar 1 Disorder. I hate taking all these medications and always going to doctors appointments, but life is too short to let mental illness get the better of me.


Often times life is a challenge, and nobody knows that better than me. I wake up wondering if this is going to be a day my illness overpowers my meds, and either sends me flying like a bat out of hell, or leaves me laying on the couch like a wet dish rag.


Thank all that is good in the world that I have an excellent support system at home.
I'm one of the lucky ones.


I'm honest, and that can either be a perk or s flaw. Depends on how you choose to look at it.
I like to see it as a perk, because it's better to hear the truth than to be told candy coated bullshit.






advice

i got my tongue pierced near the middle/end of july. it's healed up now and has been perfectly fine without any troubles. however for about the past month or so, every so often my tongue will get sore around the ring and if i touch it, it feels like there's a hard ball inside my tongue either right in front of or to the side of the barbell. i usually just mouthwash it really well for a few days and it goes away, but does anyone know what this is and how i can prevent it?

When my tongue was pierced, I never had an issue like that, and I had mine for 2 years.
That sounds like something you should really go have your doctor check out. There may be a problem with it, and removing the barbell is a possibility.
However, if it needs to be removed, it's better to get your tongue healed up and try re-piercing rather than to let this problem go.

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so i've been wanting to get my nipple pierced for a long time now, and i've done quite alot of research but lots of people keep saying different things, i know it's going to hurt a lot and im prepared for that. i'm just worried about the risks that could come after, like is it possible to get breast cancer from it? and if taking care of properly could it damage anything inside?! please let me know! i keep going back and forth on deciding whether i'll get it or not!

It doesn't hurt as bad as you think, then again, it all depends on your pain tolerance.

You don't get cancer from body piercings.

If you follow your after care instructions, you shouldn't have a problem with damage. In fact, if you have your nipples pierced and have a baby, you can still breast feed your child, even while wearing the jewelry.

It takes quite a while to heal.
You'll want to be sure to invest in sports bras if you don't already have some. For the first couple of weeks, you'll want to wear one at all times.

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My friend jacklin said i can use her account. This is her friend Jasmine. Is it wrong for a 14 year old girl to go out with a 17 year old guy? I mean i love him really much. I dotn want it to be wrong cause i lvoe him so much. IS it wrong for a 14 year old girl to go with a 17 year old?

I don't think it is.

However, right or wrong, it will be illegal once he turns 18.


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Ok Well Yesterday Night I had A Dream I Was Pregnant! The Dream Seemed SO Real I Was So Scared! When I Woke Up I Realized It Was Only A Dream!! Im A Virgin Im 15. SO Idk Why I WOuld Dream That! Maybe It Could B Me ANd My Cousin Where Talking About Pregnancy THat Morning Or Becasue A Pregant Girl Sits In Front Of Me At School Idk! Does Anyone Know What This dream Could Mean??

It means nothing.

You answered your own question: You were discussing the pregnant girl you sit by at school.

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Ok so the Last time i had Sex befor My period was September 17th. My period comes in the end of the month and ends on the 4th of the next month.

My period came Heavy the first 2 days but then After that it wasnt that heavy for the last 3 days it was only on the pad a little bit and showed most when i wiped myself. Could i be preqo ? i havent been eatinq riqht i eat a little more then usual but i dont know if its bc im so worried and stressed or if its ah siqn of beinq pregnate. What do yu think ?

Period = Not pregnant.

There is a lot of misunderstanding of implantation bleeding. It is nothing like a period.


Use condoms from now on.
Not only do they prevent pregnancy, but they protect you and your partner from the spread of STDs.

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is antibiotic ointment okay to put on a tattoo? I just got one behind my ear, I got it two days ago (it's my second tattoo, the first I baught a cream from the tattoo parlor), and it's really red around the area, it also hurts. I've been putting triple antibiotic ointment on it ever since I got it.
Is this fine?

NO! Stop putting that on your tattoo!

They should have given you care instructions, which should specifically say not to use that. At most, you should only be applying lotion to relieve itching.

The instructions they give you should always be followed. The folks who give them to you are professionals, and know exactly how you should care for your tattoo.

You seriously need to go back to the parlor and have them look at it. I'd say that it hurts because it's behind the ear. The more meat under the skin, the less likely it is to hurt. There's no meat behind your ear. Redness and puffiness is normal with fresh tattoos. However, you should still have the professional look at it and advise you.

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so i was in a huge rush to get home, because i was already stressed enough.. so on my way home, i accidentally turned on the wrong street. and so i was planning to do a U-turn, so i was sitting waiting for about 10 minutes because it was traffic time, and the cars behind me were building up. and when i thought that there were no cars, i finally did a U-turn, and all the sudden a car behind me honked, so i hurried and got in the other lane before we got into an accident. so it was a red light, and cars started piling up again, and i was sitting waiting for a green light... then my friend went up to me and said "you almost hit my mom..." and i said "that was your mom?! ohhh sorry!" and he goes "yeah, but i still have to get your license" so he went to the front of my car and wrote down the number. after i got home, i called him and told him to tell his mom that i was sorry, but i didn't hit her car.. because i didn't know why she wanted my license plate number if i didn't. and he said "yeah, you didn't really hit her car, you just sorta hit the bumper but there isn't a scratch or anything on it." so i was just wondering, are they able to report me for "hitting" their bumper with no scratch on it?

and it kind of gets me confused, because they were from behind, so doesn't that mean that she hit me? O_o

If they were behind you, then she was in the wrong for being too close to the rear of your car. Tailgating is illegal, and it's still considered tailgating at a stop light. If her car is hit by the car in front of her due to tailgating SHE is at fault.

Maybe friend's mom needs to re-read her driving laws.


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Hi folks, looking for any and all advice. My question pertains to my web site. http://www.shannoncassidy.co.uk All the information I have is contained within three main pages, story pt1, pt 2 and latest. My question, is after you have read the site what do you think I should do? What options do I have? How much effort should I put in? Should I leave it till she's older? lol, loads of questions, guess I'm just looking for advice. Anything will be appreciated and thanks for your time in getting this far.

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You totally missed my point about you people putting that child on the internet.


Obviously you only saw what you wanted to see in what I said. YOU ARE EXPOSING SENSITIVE INFORMATION ABOUT AN INNOCENT 9 YEAR OLD.

That is by NO MEANS OKAY.

If that's the best you can come up with...
As a mother, I'd love to stick my foot in both of your asses for the sake of that little girl.

Seriously. If my husband did that to my children, I'd skin him alive.

THINK ABOUT IT.


P.S.
I also add, that the information I obtained about your daughter, her mother, you, aren't just from the video you linked to. See, I looked around your site. You have other links posted there.

Like I said.
Any dedicated child molester can hunt her down with the information you have both put out there about her.

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"...provide her mother with an avenue to contact me with her lawyers details so I can sort this situation out the correct way"

Why doesn't YOUR lawyer contact the mother's lawyers? That is their job to find her. If they can't find her, hire a private detective to find how to contact her, and then they can turn that information over to the courts.

I don't think either of you are doing the right thing. I understand you are trying to do all that you can to reach your child. I would be too, believe me.
However, you're both exploiting her to the world on the internet.

You don't know who I am, but I now know her name, her mother's name, your name, what she looks like, what her mother looks like, her age, that she has a rare condition, and I have a general idea of where she lives...should I go on?

All of this information, I got from your site, by what you've said, and links you've posted.
Sure, her mother is bad for putting her on TV, but you are doing her no better by advertising them on your site.

I can't say I understand what you are going through, but I do understand why you are doing this. Just because your actions are understandable doesn't make them right.

I hope you get to contact your daughter, but posting all of this, including such sensitive information about an innocent 9 year old, for a world full of strangers is wrong. Especially considering a child pervert could take the information and hunt her down.

Think about it.


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I have a 97 blazer and my dad wants to trade me for his 98 ford because im selling one of them to get a mini van every one says itd be stupid.. but i have me, my husband and three kids.

And your question is?

Do I think it's stupid to buy a van with a family of 5?
Hell no.

Sure, you can sandwich 3 kids into the back seat of a car, but you got to think to the future...
I don't know how old your kids are, but I'd hate to try to squeeze 3 teenaged kids into a 3 person bench seat. Cars aren't a mile wide like they once were, so such a bench seat doesn't seat 3 adults comfortably.

Besides, why should it matter what "everyone" says? You do for YOUR family, and screw everyone else.

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i understand what the meaning of it, but why do people tell you that just because your sad or depressed about certain things? and why does everyone look at it like its such a bad thing? i understand if someone is constantly moping around wanting attention and just not even wanting things to change, drowning in their own problems and not paying attention to anyone else's- that really is bad and stupid. but people overuse it so much and now whenever someone is hurt or upset, just crying here and there, wanting to talk to someone about it, or trying to suck it up but it doesn't work out very well, they're like "oh stop feeling sorry for yourself." so being sad is feeling sorry for yourself? i've been through a lot and i can totally understand in certain situations what it means and why it's annoying and stupid but in others it just doesn't make sense to me. i can get really sad and i'm overly-sensitive but i don't let it get in the way of anything, i cry when i'm not around anyone, in my room. then i suck it up and try my best to move on with my day. and apparently that's feeling sorry for myself. we're human- we go through hard stuff, and we feel sadness. i don't get it.

I suppose because even when we are feeling our lowest, there is always someone out there who is worse off. Or, at least that's what makes sense to me, even when it seems I have every right to feel sorry for myself.

You know, someone who wishes they "only had your problems." (I know someone who says that all the time when someone feels sorry for themselves, oddly, she's feeling sorry for herself...)


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Ok, so my boyfriends dad offered to sell me a car, that was valued at 6000, for 1500. He said eh wanted to keep the insurance and title in his name until the car was paid off. I had no problem with that, but when i was on my way to take him somewhere, someone ran a red light and smashed the car. its gone, totalled. now he wants to pay his random bills with the settlement! My bf thinks im being selfish by thinking that he should keep the 1500 that he would have gotten from me out of the settlement, and give me the rest to get a new car. Am i being selfish, or is his dad being a real jerk? I really think that he only wanted to keep it in his name so that he could reap the benefits if I got in an accident. Help! dont want to see his face everyday while im so angry at the fact that he's gloating that hes making out on the deal!

Well, any smart man wouldn't want to keep his name on the car for "in the event of an accident."
See, that means if YOU were cause of an accident, HE is responsible, and therefore can be sued. Why? It's legally HIS car as long as his name is on the title.

This is what I think is RIGHT and FAIR:

From the settlement he should receive the amount owed on the car, the amount he paid for tags, the amount he paid for insurance. The rest of the settlement is YOURS. See, you could have been hurt, even KILLED in an accident. So what's left beyond what he is OWED, is yours.

If he don't like that, take him to small claims court. Sure, it will piss off your boyfriend, but if he is against doing right by you, then he doesn't deserve to be your boyfriend to begin with.


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I eat fiber everyday for breakfast and lunch. I exercise whenever possible 2-3 times a week. I drink as much water as I can. I stay constipated. I don't know what to do anymore. There are some days where I can't go for 3 days unless I use a laxative. I've asked my mom if I can go see a doctor, but she keeps telling me they're just going to tell me to do what I've been doing. Is there no medication? I've been held back because of this for a while now. I can't deal with it anymore. There must be a solution. I cry a lot. It's hurting me emotionally because I can't help myself. I feel very helpless. :'(

Well, you don't want to have to resort to medication unless there is NO OTHER alternative.

Have you tried fiber drinks, such as Metamucil?
AVOID LAXITIVES. With regular use, your body becomes dependent on them. Try fiber drinks, and if they fail, use stool softeners. They aren't hard on your body like laxative are.




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my boyfriend is 17 years old, and i let him go to homecoming with his friend since it was his friend's senior year and including the fact that he already bought him a ticket. i was against it at first, because he lost my trust like... 8 months ago when he flirted with a girl, but ever since i talked to him about it.. it didn't do it ever again. and at first my boyfriend didn't want to go because he knew i would be upset, but i told him to since his friend already got him one... and just not to have anything happen (flirting with girls, cheating) or whatever... even though he doesn't do anything close to that, but you know.. just telling him. So, i was supposed to see him after homecoming at 10:30, and on my way driving back from work he texted me saying "hunnie ima have to see you later" i sent a question mark and i was always wondering how come our plans keep getting canceled. but he never answered. i stayed up til 1 waiting for his phone call since his parents said to be back with the car by 12:30... no answer. i called him a couple of times, but he never answered the phone. so i woke up at 9, and called him it went straight to his voice mail (my guess was that his phone died) so i went on facebook and it said he was on.. at 5 in the morning. which made me mad, because he didn't answer my text or call me and he was up at 5 in the morning... then i tried going back to sleep, but i started having dreams about him and it kind of pissed me off. so when it was 12, that was when he was supposed to be at work. so i called *straight to voice mail again* so when it was 12:30 i called.. IT FINALLY RANG! but it only rang 3 to 4 times, and it went to voice mail *rejected phone call* then i called another 2 times, same thing. then i called again, it went straight to voice mail, so then i called again after waiting for 5 minutes, it rang 3 to 4 times... *rejected*

i thought he was avoiding me and stuff, so i don't really know what to do. i don't really want to end up going to his work place and ask to talk to him. i just really want to know what the heck is going on and why didn't he answer my phone calls or text me back.... help please?!

Maybe he lost his phone, or left it at his friend's place?

Try not to jump to conclusions or freak out without knowing his side of the story. Why don't you call his house?


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okay so i recently just asked a question about this but last night i recieved some more info on it so yeah... okay so this guy (lets call him mike) and i have been talking and hanging out for around a month now. and i really like him. were just friends right now but there has been a lot of flirting and we got a little physical (just a little). well the other night these two girls that im kiiiiiind of friends with came up to me and told me that mike and their friend (their friend likes mike) had been sending naked pics (btw, this girl is like three years older than mike who is fifteen... ew.) but anyway i didnt really believe this and i kind of firgured they were only saying this bcuz their friend likes mike and they want me out of the way... well i asked one of mikes really close friends and he said that this happened like four months ago and he also said from what mikd said, that mike only had his shirt off and that the girl also had some sort of clothing on. but the girls who told me made it sound like he had nothing on... so i dont know what to do. i dont know who to believe (i do trust mikes friend muuuch more) and i dont want to ask mike because its really none of my business seeing as i barely even knew him four months ago and im not his girlfriend or anything, but still. him sending naked pictures would bother me. i think i could handle the no shirt thing, thats not too bad, but still. and mikes friend DID say that mike had gotten a lot better and that he doesnt do stuff like that anymore and i believe him on that but i dont know what to do...

What do you do?
Nothing.

It is in the past.

So he did something stupid.
Everyone does. (Though not everyone does something so stupid as that, but...)

Really, the only time it should matter is if he's your boyfriend and does it. Other than that, just let it stayed buried in the past where it belongs.


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I have been peeing a little blood today and I know it's not my period or anything like that. I was wondering if it was a sign of chlamydia because the guy I slept with two weeks ago just told me like yesterday that he has chlamydia and hasn't been treated for it yet. He was serious. Should I go to the doctor or just let it go away on it's own? It's not a lot of blood or anything and I don't have any signs of a STD so I don't think it can be chlamydia, right?

It doesn't matter if you are having symptoms or not. If you are told you have had sexual relations with someone who has an STD, you need to get tested.

Did you know that untreated chlamydia in women can cause infertility and increased chances of ectopic pregnancy?
Infertility means you may never have children.
Ectopic pregnancy is when the embryo attaches to fallopian tubes. Those pregnancies MUST be terminated, or it will kill you.

STDs should ALWAYS be diagnosed and treated by a medical professional. The "D" stands for "Disease", and no disease should be left untreated. Now I know you're going to do the wise thing and get tested and treated, correct?

Chlamydia is generally treated with antibiotics, and from what I've read, it is common for chlamydia patients to also be treated for gonorrhea, since it seems the two diseases often occur together.

Did you know that most women don't even experience symptoms of chlamydia? Since you are sexually active, it is a good idea to start having regular STD screens, just to make sure you're in good health.

I don't know how old you are, but if you are a teenager, they can't tell your parents that you are being screened and/or treated for STDs, unless you want them to.

Always use condoms. ALWAYS.
They are the only thing that protects you and your partner against the spread of STDs.
Your local health department should give condoms away free of charge if you need them. (Yes, women should carry them, too. We got to protect ourselves, and can't always rely on the guy.)


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my ex has been playing these games with me for a year and half now (ever since he broke up with me)
how do i get it so hes chasing me instead of me chasing him?
he dated another girl and came back to me and i had him chasing me for like a month this summer, but somehow im again in the vulnerable hurtful position
how do i get him to chase me again?
or how do i tell him without sounding childish that this isnt going to work
its obviously not going to workout because if it was, we had a year and a half to get back together. weve had this whole summer to get back together also when he dumped his new girlfriend who he dated for a month for me. but we never got back together.
whenver i try to talk to him about it, i feel kinda like i sound childish/dumb?
but all i want to do is tell him how i feel. like listen, i dont understand what we're doing here you know? i dont get why we continue talking
how do i tell him how i feel without sounding too upfront/childish or obsessed?
beacuse i dont want to fall hard again (like i think i am now) and then him go and date another girl and break my heart again
we've talked once about things a little bit and he said he still has a lot of feelings for me, but hes not sure what he wants. but thats all weve talked about

***EDIT***
You said here:
"...how do i get it so hes chasing me instead of me chasing him?"
"how do i get him to chase me again?"

Yet you said to me in my feedback:
"dont you think i know thats a lot of time waisted? obsviouly i want to move on..."

Don't say one thing in your question, only to turn around and say you meant something different. Nothing in this question says to the world that you want to move on. So I don't see the obvious want for moving on??

Then said to me:
"you coulda been a little uhm, nicer about it?"

What do you expect?
Should I pat you on the head and call you a sweet little girl for wanting to play games like this for a year, which, let's face it, is pretty obsessive and creepy?
I think not.

See, I thought I WAS being nice about it, considering I refuse to sugar coat the truth for you. So this is the bald version of the truth:

Pull your head out of your ass.
Don't worry about not sounding upfront/childish, or obsessed to him, because you've done quite well at making yourself look that way.

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So... If you are wanting to move on, why the hell are you wanting him to chase you? Do you think that would make you feel good about yourself? You want to lead him on and make him feel bad, even though you know how it feels when it's done to you?

It's getting about time to grow up and realize that playing such games won't get you anywhere with anyone important. Don't you think?

Look.
You would be much further along (and happier) in your love life if you stopped playing childish games with your ex. The time you are WASTING on him is time you could have spent possibly falling madly in love with the guy who may be the one who falls madly in love with you.

Won't know until you realize it's time to move on.
Seriously.
It's been over a YEAR.
Damn. That's a lot of wasted time.
Don't you think?



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Freedom of speech is very important and should not be limited, assuming it doesn't offend or hurt others.

How is this relevant/acceptable to today? For example, people in countries without freedom of speech like America have to go through ridiculous things when they do try to speak up or change things. Any specific examples (American, preferably), or anything along those lines..?

I have to write an essay for a scholarship contest about that concept, but I can't think of anything especially moving/that will get me noticed..

Thanks.

I don't have much to say other than you are kind of mixed up, here.

I have the right to say whatever I want, outside of shouting "FIRE" in a crowded theater. That act of stupidity gets people hurt, perhaps even trampled to death. I do NOT have the right to cause such panic.

You say that freedom of speech is important, and you are very right, because it is extremely important. But you contradict yourself by saying "...[Freedom of speech]should not be limited, assuming it doesn't offend or hurt others."

You say it shouldn't be limited, yet you are willing to put limits on it at the same time? When prepared to limit and/or strip the rights of others, you must be prepared to limit and/or strip your own rights as well.

It matters not if what I say hurts someones feelings or offends them, because everything hurts/offends somebody. Does that mean my right is the freedom to shut the hell up?
I think not.

Did I offend you?
Did I offend the person who gave you this idea that freedom of speech is important as long as what's being said is what others agree with? So sorry, but that's not the way it works.
See, I have the right to say what I want.
You have the right to not like what I say.

I hope I taught you something important. Then I can say I at least made some sort of difference today.


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My husband and I are FINALLY expecting our first baby and we are so excited! I'm about three and a half months pregnant now and we think it's time to tell our parents about the great news. We thought it might be super cute to take a home pregnancy test and then mail it to them! :D Do you think this is a good idea? If so, how exactly do I do that? Just shove it in an envelope and send it off to them? haha

Personally, I wouldn't mail a pregnancy test that you've used. The idea sounds good, but we must face the fact that you'd be mailing a urine covered stick through the mail, if you know what I mean.

When we found out I was pregnant with my second baby, I asked my mom, "How many grandkids do you have now? I seem to forget..."
She'd say, "X amount of grandkids"
I said, "You sure about that? I thought there was one more?"
"... Oh, wait. One more when this one is born..."
Or something along that order, anyway.

But that will only work if they have other grandkids. Then again, maybe you could ask them how many grandbabies they'd like to have, then after they answer, say something like, "Ok we'll just start with this one."

I like the idea of sending an ultrasound picture, but they usually don't preform ultrasounds until 20 weeks, unless there is a worry. So you'd have to wait another month and a half before you could tell them, doing it that way.

Or you could just mail them a card to them, something like a "Thinking of you, Grandma and Grandpa" sort of thing.

If you do decide to send a pregnancy test you've taken, be sure to check with the post office about how to mail it properly. Urine is a body fluid, and body fluids are treated as biohazards.


Either way, congratulations to you!

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my hair r dry and damaged.i hair loss problem also.presently using l'oreal colour vitaminos shampoo but giving me more of hair loss.PLS SUGGEEST..

I've had many problems with my hair being dry and damaged due to years of chemical processing.
I must disagree with the person below: You don't have to buy expensive salon products to get a good product. Many salon products are just put out as being "the best" because stylists make commission off of selling you those high priced products. I know this for fact, my aunt works in a salon.


Best thing is to use a regular conditioner EVERY time you wet your hair, but only wash your hair no sooner than every other day. Shampoo strips your hair of natural oils that are vital for healthy hair. Whatever shampoo and conditioner you are currently using is fine.

Do a deep conditioning treatment at least once a week until your hair is restored. Deep conditioners can be found in the same isle with the shampoos and conditioners in the store. They will say something along the lines of "Deep Condition" on the container.
I advise against V05 hot oil treatments, because I, personally, have had no luck with that product.

If you use styling products, heat styling tools, or dye or perm or hair, then I highly recommend you make a regular habit to deep condition weekly.

A product I use to help is a leave in anti-frizz serum, called Frizz Ease:
http://www.johnfrieda.com/products/product_family_category.asp?productLine=frizz_ease&productCategory=8&trk_semgrp=fe_brand&trk_semcamp=jf_fe_brand&trk_semterm=frizz-ease+hair+serum&trk_semeng=g&trk_medium=p&trk_semmatch=broad&trk_semadid=4146950729&gclid=CKH2ob7KnJ0CFdFL5QodhDRA1A
Personally, I use the extra strength in the purple bottle. It doesn't take much, either, and can be used daily.

Another product you may find useful:
http://www.johnfrieda.com/products/product_family_category.asp?productLine=root_awakening&productCategory=2

The hair loss could be due to damaged/breaking hair. However, if you continue to experience hair loss after bringing your hair back to a healthy state, then I highly advise you seek the advice of a medical professional.

I also recommend you see a doctor if you still experience dry, breaking hair after following my advice (assuming you choose to do so). The dry, brittle hair that falls out could be a symptom of an underlying medical problem.

But always try the easiest and most obvious step first. Cut back on shampooing, condition regularly, deep condition weekly, maybe try out the frizz serum I suggested.


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For weeks I have been iffy about even writing this.
I am young 18 and just got married in August. I am pregnant that is not why we got married but I think we rushed into it. We were planning the wedding already had my wedding dress before i found out I was Pregnant.
Sometimes I find myself regretting getting marred My reasons. I wanted to work days and go to school nights. It would be tough but id be able to better myself for me and my family he through a fit and didnt support me at all. told me either work or go to school but advises me to work because we need the money. Being pregnant I have my mood swings like most if we have an argument its all my fault he will yell at me and blame me then make me feel guilty by saying oh its always all my fault i forgot your so perfect. sometimes he makes im crap. If i feel nauses or sick at night or anything and he wants sex he pouts and acts like he is mad by not saying a workd until he gets it then goes to sleep. he goes hunting, fishing, baseball teams and tournaments etc. anything he wants and i dont argue about it i just let him.
I have asked a million times to look harder for a job. he works 2 days aweek at a sale barn doing something he likes i work full time on my swallon feet 40+ hours a week and come home exhausted and tired. its like he dont care he doesnt want to even try to look he put an app. in at burgerking one app.. in 5 weeks? we live at my dads. which i dont feel is save but dont have a choice. hes lazy
and to top it off he always wants to spend money. i used to get food stamps which just stopped but hed want a gallon of tea every 2 days. go out and buy food he wants all the time because hes to lazy to cook one thing or wait for it to get done. as soon as he gets paid he goes and spends most of the money on garbage food and gets mad when i tell him i dont want it id rather eat food i cook at home.
I love my husband to death trust me and want to work things out but i dont know what to do i talk to him about it and itslike it is in one ear and out the other.

Sounds to me like he wants to sit on his ass while you support him. On top of it, he doesn't want you to further your education to not only make a better life for your family, but to set a fine example for your child??

Honestly, sounds to me like you need to kick him to the curb and ask your dad to allow you to stay there and GO TO SCHOOL.

Maybe the boy you married will decide it's time to grow up and be a man, then you can reconsider things. Now, don't get me wrong- I think it's best to raise a child in a two parent home, but what does he bring into your family unit?
What is he going to teach your child?
That it's ok to sit on their lazy ass while someone else works theirs off?
Seriously. There's enough of that bullshit in today's society, as it is.

I'm married with two babies, ages 1 1/2, and 2 1/2. If my husband was like yours, do you think I'd pack my kids and ask Mom and Dad for a place to hold up for a while? You can bet your ass I would. You do what you got to do in order to provide THE BEST life for your children that you can.

Life is no longer about him, it is no longer about you.

At this point, you and your child would be much better off with him not in the home. At least until he opens his eyes to reality.




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