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what is "feeling sorry for yourself" anyway?
i understand what the meaning of it, but why do people tell you that just because your sad or depressed about certain things? and why does everyone look at it like its such a bad thing? i understand if someone is constantly moping around wanting attention and just not even wanting things to change, drowning in their own problems and not paying attention to anyone else's- that really is bad and stupid. but people overuse it so much and now whenever someone is hurt or upset, just crying here and there, wanting to talk to someone about it, or trying to suck it up but it doesn't work out very well, they're like "oh stop feeling sorry for yourself." so being sad is feeling sorry for yourself? i've been through a lot and i can totally understand in certain situations what it means and why it's annoying and stupid but in others it just doesn't make sense to me. i can get really sad and i'm overly-sensitive but i don't let it get in the way of anything, i cry when i'm not around anyone, in my room. then i suck it up and try my best to move on with my day. and apparently that's feeling sorry for myself. we're human- we go through hard stuff, and we feel sadness. i don't get it.
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Feeling sorry for yourself is a form of jealousy, which is a normal human emotion that everyone feels from time to time, but it's not an emotion people should feel all the time. The problem with feeling sorry for yourself is that it often takes on a life of its own and before you know it you feel that way all the time. You don't want to encourage self pity by allowing yourself to feel it and telling yourself that it's OK. You have to find a healthy balance and that starts by reinforcing your good moods to keep your spirits up.
Think about this:
For every broken heart someone feels, countless people lose their jobs. For every job someone loses, countless people lose their homes. For every person who loses their home, countless people go starving in the streets. For every person who's starving in the streets, countless children are being born with AIDS. For every child born with AIDS, countless children are being abused in varying degrees of horrible ways - being hit, being raped, being locked in closets, being starved, being strangled, being lit on fire, etc.
Someone always has it worse, so there's absolutely no need to allow yourself to feel sorry for yourself. There's always something positive the average person can find about their day or their lives. Letting yourself live in a world of self pity is like drowning and sinking to the bottom of the ocean. It's just going to get darker and darker until you'll never be able to see the light. Things that were once great will only be good. Things that were once good are now just OK. And things that are OK feel like the end of the world.
That's no way to live.
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I suppose because even when we are feeling our lowest, there is always someone out there who is worse off. Or, at least that's what makes sense to me, even when it seems I have every right to feel sorry for myself.
You know, someone who wishes they "only had your problems." (I know someone who says that all the time when someone feels sorry for themselves, oddly, she's feeling sorry for herself...)
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