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Its not the first time i have done it but im freaking out a little.
My boyfriend rubs me down there and yesterday i went down on him for the first time and he went down on me. I also jacked him off for the first time and he cummed. He said he didnt touch his cum because i put my towel over his penis when he was cumming...so i let him rub me down there. Could I get pregnant like this.
Ps He dosent finger me he just rubs my clit and a little lower then that. (link)
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There's absolutely no way that you'll get pregnant like that. Just make sure that it's only his finger or his tongue down there and you should be safe. If it makes both of you feel better, have condoms nearby and get tested. Pregnancy shouldn't be your only concern. Make sure the person you're trading DNA with is clean. Also, at your age, I'd make sure this is as far as it goes for now. This is a very important time in your life and you don't want to complicate it with sex and sexual concerns. It's very easy to go from the couple who was innocently exploring their sexuality to the exes who now hate each other and have to worry about a pregnancy that neither of them can afford. Be very careful!
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My boyfriend confessed to me today that he cheated on me last weekend when he went out with his buddies. He said that he had sex with a strange girl that he met at a club/bar and he regrets doing it now. I still think he's lying about a few of the details because one of his buddies told me that they didn't go to just any club or a bar--they went to a strip club.
I'm really upset about it but my boyfriend says he's truly sorry and that it won't happen again. My best friend reminded me of the saying, "Once a cheater, always a cheater," and I am wondering if it's true. I don't think my boyfriend fully understands what his mistake has done to our relationship, and I don't know if I will be able to get over this betrayal anyway.
In your own experience, is the, "Once a cheater, always a cheater," saying true? Does anyone have any cases in which the saying is NOT true? Please, share your experiences with me so I know if I need to just end this madness before it really gets started! (link)
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I'm really sorry that your boyfriend cheated on you. I think it's in your best interest to leave this guy and don't look back. I mean, put yourself in his position. Would you ever cheat on him? I'm willing to bet that your answer will be no. Don't you think you deserve the same love and loyalty in return? I do. I'm also willing to bet that you would have never gone to a strip club in the first place. This guy opened himself up to temptation and gave into it. He's a jerk and a loser because he traded in a life with you for a night with another girl. He's not worth your time. You'll find someone one day who'll remain faithful and not take your love for granted.
If I'm being completely honest, I don't think the saying "once a cheater, always a cheater" is true. People can change, BUT how many times have you witnessed a person make a serious and permanent change? I'm not sure I've ever seen it. Everyone I know, including myself, has the same struggles now that we did 5 or 10 years ago. You think this guy is capable of being that rare person who changes for good? I highly doubt he is, and I don't think the the risk of finding out is worth the heartache you'll feel if he does it again. I don't think this guy loves you. If he did, he wouldn't put his immediate wants before your overall needs. There's no excuse for this.
It's not like you guys are married with children and there's more riding on this than just your feelings. You have no reason to give this guy another chance. Your broken heart will mend, but the trust you guys shared is broken forever. What would you tell your best friend if a guy cheated on her? You'd encourage her to leave. Take your own advice and decide with your brain, not with your heart. Every time you feel yourself get weak and wanting to forgive him, remember that he gave to a stranger what he promised to give only to you - his kiss, his touch, his body, his eyes, his attention, etc. You weren't on his mind at all. On that night, you didn't even exist to him.
You should be furious, not forgiving.
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My sister is 15-years-old. We have had problems with her for years, she doesn't do anything anyone tells her, has screaming tantrums on a daily basis, steals from us and more recently has been kicked out of school.
Today I found out that she is pregnant by her boyfriend of six months. I am absolutely livid. This is my final year of school and I will be taking important exams around the time that the baby is due. It is also my 18th birthday next week, which is a pretty big deal as I live in the UK, and we were planning a big party with family and friends. Obviously this is now being completely overshadowed.
I know I'm being selfish for just thinking about myself but for years I have suffered as a result of her behaviour, baring the brunt of my parents' anger and finding it really difficult to stay at home as the constant noise and arguments are too much. This feels like the last straw. This year is so important for me and instead of fully supporting me, my parents are going to be preoccupied with this.
I know she might not even end up having the baby as it is very early days and she hasn't made any decisions yet, but I am furious with both her and my parents, who I partially blame for this. Ever since she got together with her boyfriend I told my parents I didn't think it was a good idea to let her stay at his house and that she wasn't using protection but no one listened to me. They are now angry with me for being upset. My sister and I had a bad relationship anyway but now I don't want her anywhere near me. As far as I'm concerned she has ruined what is going to be one of the most important years of my life.
What should I do? I honestly don't think I can bare being anywhere near her, let alone live with her, especially if she decides to keep the baby. I can hardly look at my parents because I'm so angry about their attitude and the way they're dealing with it. (link)
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Before I go into any kind of detail, I have to say several things in your defense:
1. I don't think you're being selfish.
2. I think you have every right to be angry.
3. I think you sound very mature for 17.
4. I think you have a very bright future ahead of you.
I come from a family that sometimes makes me wonder how I could be related to such stupid people! Every one has flaws, but my family could be on a two part episode of Jerry Springer. It might sound mean, but it's the truth. My mom and my siblings' choices still confuse me and I'm 26 years old. I don't know how I went on to college and got on the honor roll, but I did and I'm in the process of transferring to UNC, which is a major university here in America. If I can do something like that with the way I was raised, I'm positive you can do something even greater.
It sounds like you're a very level headed young woman who's tired of dealing with the drama of a younger sister who desperately needs to grow up and two oblivious parents who won't do their job and show her the way. It's understandable that you would be angry, frustrated, and maybe even a little jealous that her BS continues to steal the spotlight from all the good things that you're doing. Unfortunately, your parents aren't going to change and it doesn't sound like your sister is getting an efficient amount of guidance and support from them, so you're going to have to keep your eye on the prize and focus on yourself.
I really wish you got the attention you deserve, but you have to remember what's important: your future. While your sister and your parents are going to suffer the consequences of their actions, you get to be the one who gets away from it all. You're not going to be the one with the baby to take care of. You're not going to be the one who has to take care of the baby who had a baby. Will your life be easy? Absolutely not, BUT it'll be easier AND better than theirs. It might sound selfish to take comfort and joy in that, but it's not. This is your time to shine, and even if you're the only one celebrating how great your choices have been, party like a rock star!
You really deserve it.
So what should you do, you ask? Absolutely nothing. Keep doing what you're doing because you have success written all over you. Soon you'll be out on your own, I'd imagine, and you won't have to deal with this. Their problems are only your problems if you let them be. Regardless of what your sister decides to do with her baby, live as though it's you against the world. If things change for the better and your family stumbles upon some common sense, then good for them and great for you, but don't expect that to happen. Remember, your family are the people you choose to keep in your life. Don't let these people get you down. You have to ignore their attitudes or accept them. It's your choice to make.
Good luck!
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I broke up with my boyfriend last weekend. We decided that we don't want to hate each other and want to be friends and talk but when would be a good time to talk? I'm over him except that I miss talking to him but I'm 90% sure he still loves me. (link)
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If you think he still has any feelings left for you, you need end your "friendship" with him and be the bigger person. It might be a friendship to you, but to him it's just an opportunity to remain in your life in hopes that you'll change your mind and eventually get back together with him. It's not fair to hold on to the part of the relationship you liked (the communication) and discard the other parts. Don't forget to take his feelings into consideration.
Either you want to be with him or you don't. If you don't, you need to move on. It'll be tough at first, but it'll be much easier for both of you later on. And when enough time has passed and he no longer has feelings for you, then you two can consider being friends. As for right now, this is really mean. Every time you talk about another guy or get happy because of another guy, it's going to crush his heart all over again. He's stuck in the friend zone right now, and trust me, he's miserable about it.
If you feel that he's genuinely over you, which you've admitted to doubting, you guys can talk any time. If he's really over you, there shouldn't be a communication barrier. How will you feel, though, when he starts talking about other girls and asking you advice about how to make his new girl happy? I predict some awkward times up ahead for both of you. If you're smart and truly want things to be over with him, you'll get out now why you can. If you guys have a fight post break-up, it's unlikely that you'll ever be able to repair the damage.
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My parents are having some really bad marital problems right now. It sounds like they are going to be getting a divorce soon, but they are still living in the same household with me and my little brother. I am 17 and my brother is 15, by the way.
My parents are always fighting and they sleep in different rooms. My dad sleeps in the living room on the couch and my mom sleeps in the bedroom. I have my own room and so does my brother, by the way. Mom just started working nights while my dad works mornings so they just don't interact any more than they have to.
Two days ago I found my brother smoking pot. I know he's 15 and lots of kids his age are turning to weed but, let's face it, it isn't good and it isn't the best way to cope. I know he's stressing out over Mom and Dad but drugs can lead to serious problems in the future. Weed is illegal, too, and I don't want him to get in trouble with the police. He begged me not to tell Mom or Dad about it and confessed that he's been smoking pot for like 2 months now or more.
I want to tell my parents because it just isn't good for anyone. They need to start paying more attention to us, I think. I don't want my brother to find safety in smoking weed. I want him to be able to rely on the family.
What do I do? How do I tell my parents what is going on with my brother? How can I explain to them that he's turning to drugs because they are not here for us any more and haven't been since they started fighting? (link)
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I really think you're going about this the wrong way. Your intentions seem good, but I get the feeling that you're very close to making a bad situation even worse. Your parents are already stressed out, working a lot, and not communicating very well. The last thing they need is to find out that their 15 year old son is smoking pot, but it's their responsibility so they do need to deal with it sooner rather than later. Your brother is very young and it seems like he's turned to weed to A) deal with the stress of the situation in your household and B) to experiment with something that a lot of his friends are probably doing. Contrary to what a lot of people on this site will say, it's honestly not the end of the world.
I get the feeling that you, more so than your brother, are craving your parents' attention. It seems like you're almost excited to tell them about his new hobby because it'll get their focus off of themselves and back on to you guys (more so you). Unfortunately, that's not going to work. You're not going to be the hero. Not only is your brother going to be very angry with you, but your parents will be even more stressed out. I'm sure you love your brother, but it's not your problem. This is your parents' news to find out. I would suggest that you talk more openly with your brother and get into his head. Find out what's going on with him before you get him in trouble and make his situation even worse. With his parents fighting and his sister ready to sabotage him, no wonder he's turned to smoking pot.
Maybe if you show your brother some support and let him know that he can come to you with his troubles, he won't need to turn to pot to unwind. You're right, he does need to rely on his family, but why would he do that if his family feels more like soldiers in battle than a support system? Talk to your school's guidance counselor and get their opinion on this matter. That might help you and your brother out a lot. Let a professional deal with these issues while you deal with being 17. I'm sure you have a lot of stuff to figure out too. Maybe talking to the guidance counselor can help with that as well. They might contact your parents and help set up some kind of family counseling, which could benefit everyone. Don't be afraid to open up about you. You count too.
I'm sorry that your parents are fighting so much and that they're not paying enough attention to you and your brother. Instead of talking to them about him, talk to them about how you feel. Maybe that will help ease some of the tension and help remind them that in addition to taking on the roles of husband and wife, they also took on the roles of dad and mom. Regardless of how their marriage works out, they need to get their priorities straightened out immediately. I don't think you guys should take a backseat to their frustrations. Also, when I was a very young teen, my parents decided to divorce and I was very happy about it. It relieved a lot of tension in my house and everyone was so much more peaceful. Sometimes divorce can be a healthy step to take.
Good luck!
PS: Smoking pot has never killed anyone. It's by far the most normal thing mentioned in the question you asked (most people experiment with marijuana at some point in their life and it's much safer than many drugs prescribed by doctors - cigarettes, alcohol, caffeine, and junk food are far more unhealthy and much more dangerous to a person's life span). Just keep an open line of communication going with your brother and make sure that his experimentation doesn't go any further than weed. If you find out that he's doing anything else, disregard what I said and tell your parents about it immediately. If they don't do anything, tell your guidance counselor as well. As of right now, there's no need to panic. Just talk to him about it. He needs you. :)
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Are you sure your brother is the 15 year old and not you? I've never communicated with a more uneducated and naïve 17 year old in my entire life. So let me get this straight, you blame weed for the death of your two cousins who decided to get high and drive? Would you also blame a cell phone for their deaths if they died while texting? Is no one in your world responsible for their own actions? You're unbelievable! Also, you make a comment suggesting that there's something wrong with me if I think weed is natural. Um...you do realize that marijuana is a natural herb that grows just as organically as tomatoes and apples, right? It's not like it's some man-made substance meant to rot the minds of the youth of America. As for me needing to live somewhere else, it's been predicted that marijuana will be legal in the state of California as early as 2010. Just like with gay marriage, other states will follow. You really need to lay off the Disney movies and get a dose of reality. No wonder your family is falling apart - none of you can face what's right in front of you, so you run away to something else. Your parents avoid you guys and each other by working odd hours and sleeping in separate rooms. Your brother avoids his true emotions and numbs himself with pot. You avoid the truth and make up "facts" to get yourself through the day. You and your family need help. Good luck finding it.
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i understand what the meaning of it, but why do people tell you that just because your sad or depressed about certain things? and why does everyone look at it like its such a bad thing? i understand if someone is constantly moping around wanting attention and just not even wanting things to change, drowning in their own problems and not paying attention to anyone else's- that really is bad and stupid. but people overuse it so much and now whenever someone is hurt or upset, just crying here and there, wanting to talk to someone about it, or trying to suck it up but it doesn't work out very well, they're like "oh stop feeling sorry for yourself." so being sad is feeling sorry for yourself? i've been through a lot and i can totally understand in certain situations what it means and why it's annoying and stupid but in others it just doesn't make sense to me. i can get really sad and i'm overly-sensitive but i don't let it get in the way of anything, i cry when i'm not around anyone, in my room. then i suck it up and try my best to move on with my day. and apparently that's feeling sorry for myself. we're human- we go through hard stuff, and we feel sadness. i don't get it.
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Feeling sorry for yourself is a form of jealousy, which is a normal human emotion that everyone feels from time to time, but it's not an emotion people should feel all the time. The problem with feeling sorry for yourself is that it often takes on a life of its own and before you know it you feel that way all the time. You don't want to encourage self pity by allowing yourself to feel it and telling yourself that it's OK. You have to find a healthy balance and that starts by reinforcing your good moods to keep your spirits up.
Think about this:
For every broken heart someone feels, countless people lose their jobs. For every job someone loses, countless people lose their homes. For every person who loses their home, countless people go starving in the streets. For every person who's starving in the streets, countless children are being born with AIDS. For every child born with AIDS, countless children are being abused in varying degrees of horrible ways - being hit, being raped, being locked in closets, being starved, being strangled, being lit on fire, etc.
Someone always has it worse, so there's absolutely no need to allow yourself to feel sorry for yourself. There's always something positive the average person can find about their day or their lives. Letting yourself live in a world of self pity is like drowning and sinking to the bottom of the ocean. It's just going to get darker and darker until you'll never be able to see the light. Things that were once great will only be good. Things that were once good are now just OK. And things that are OK feel like the end of the world.
That's no way to live.
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i love my boyfriend to death n weve ben together over a year but he has let himself go n he doesnt care at all about what he looks like.. he refuses n its gross but i love him, how can i get him to workout some or take care of his heigene? (link)
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It sounds like your boyfriend is stuck in that dark abyss called depression. I know it might be hard on you, but it's worse for him. Most people go through it at least once in their life time, but for some the problem can be much more serious. Sometimes it can be remedied by a really strong support system (such as family, friends, etc.) and other times it takes the expertise of professionals (psychologists, psychiatrists, etc.). My advice is to do a little research on the subject (Google is your friend - search "depression symptoms") and have a talk with him.
Most people don't even realize that they're depressed and sometimes it takes an outsider to point it out to them. You might be the person who helps him through this, but don't get down if you can't do it alone. Just keep in mind, depression can be a really sensitize subject for guys because society tells us that we're supposed to be the strong ones and not show weakness. Approach this with sensitivity and positivity. Don't tell him that him or his behavior is "gross." Find another way to express yourself without making him feel worse about himself.
Also, if the two of you are in high school, a guidance counselor can be a great help for both you and him. Educate yourself and take advantage of what's around you. I was home schooled when I was a teen and was pretty much isolated from a lot of resources that could have helped me through my depression. Something as simple as going to your library or talking to a teacher can really help. One thing few people will tell you about depression is that it can be contagious. Just as someone's positive energy can have an effect on you, so can someone's negative energy.
After all is said and done and you still find yourself unhappy, you might need to reexamine your relationship. Relationships need compromise from both people to work. You shouldn't be the only one who gives up your needs just to please him. You deserve to be happy too. That doesn't mean that your happiness and supporting him can't coexist, but it sounds like you might need to put your relationship on pause to focus on the more serious issue, which is his depression. There's something going on that's making him shut down in pretty much every way. Help him to help himself.
Good luck!
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17/f, this guy i met in school this year texted my friend asking a bunch of questions about me (do i have a boyfriend, what do i like to do...ex) and i thought ok weird i never would think i was his type. So anyways later that week we were assigned a project in school and he picked me to be his partner, at the end of the class he gave me his number (not based on the project just in general gave me his number). So i texted him later that night saying heres my number so he could have it, then he askes me to hang out the next day so i said sure, he ends up getting grounded and we couldnt hang out. Today we talked and he was like sorry blah blah blah and i wasnt mad about it or anything so i let it go, it wasnt a big deal. But today hes not trying to get in contact with me at all, i was just hoping for advice if you think he likes me or its just more of a friend thing...cause im kinda confused. thanks =)
-Emily
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I think there's a strong possibility that he's interested in you, but sometimes life gets in the way and things don't always work out like we want them to. I'm sure being grounded put him in a bad mood, which might have caused his focus to shift for the time being. It's not easy being a teenage guy. In your head you feel like a man, but having to follow your parents' rules only reminds you that you're still just a boy and that can be humiliating and emasculated. He could be embarrassed. Give him some time and see how things go. Remember, guys are natural predators and we like to hunt. As long as you give him something to chase and you let him think that he's closing in on the kill, he's going to remain interested.
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i'm a senior in high school this year. i've been dating an incredible guy for about nine months. he's been my best friend for almost four years, so we already knew each other really well. he is the most amazing guy i've ever met. we have a deep, deep connection. we're both strong christians and very spiritual and have built our relationship on that. we deeply love each other. i've never felt this serious or in love with anybody. i'd never loved until him. i'm the first girl he's dated, but i've dated a lot before him. i know he is the kind of guy i want to spend the rest of my life with. he knows all of this. we talk about our future together a lot. we hope we will get married someday. this kinda scares me though because we're young and serious. i'm afraid i'll get my heart broken or break his heart. honestly, i can't see myself ever loving anybody else like this. i want to marry him. we want to make it though college before we marry, but we're probably going to different colleges. we know we can stay together but it will be hard. i love, love, love him. and i think, if possible, he feels even stronger. ;) do i sound like another crazy high school girl in puppy love? or does this sound like we have a future together? if there is a possible future there, do you have any advice for our future? like tips to stay together over long distance? this is a while away, but we want to be prepared for the change. i don't want to lose him. i love him. sorry for the 'mushy' message, it's just been on my mind a lot. :) (link)
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You guys have a really beautiful love story, but I have good and bad news about your future. First, I'll start with the good news...
The good news is that not only are you devoted to each other, you're also devoted to Christ. As a fellow Christian, let me just say that I have seen the miracles and blessings God bestows upon those who unite their love with his. With Jesus, anything is possible, so I think you guys have a strong support foundation with God on your side.
Unfortunately, God gave us free will and therefore he is not responsible for the choices we make. This is where the bad news comes into play, so prepare yourself...
I've seen very few long distance relationships work out. I've seen even fewer relationships last where the young couple decide to go to different schools. You two are headed for disaster. I'm sure the two of you have opened up and shared your feelings, but its not enough. Sadly, you have no idea what you're in for until you're already in it. When he's missing you and several other girls throw themselves at him, you're gonna be miles and miles away oblivious. It might be easy for him to turn away a couple times, but the more time that passes it's going to get harder and harder especially when his friends start weighing in on his decisions and suddenly your boyfriend begins to resent you.
Also, while you're at one school turning down the advancements of other men, jealousy will soon begin to eat at you as you wonder what he's doing. Is he telling the truth or did Satan win that coin toss that night he went out with the boys? It's going to be a heartbreaking nightmare for you two, especially you. Think long and hard about this before you proceed and be logical about it, This is a huge choice you guys have to make on your own!
Good luck sweets! Just remember that Jesus is on your side.
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this is distrubing..
I was at school last week and my friend who is 18 told me that lately she has been really horny and is thinking of having sex with her dog?! wth? I was extremely shocked and disgusted by this I didn't even know what to say or how to react is there anything I can say to her to talk her into some sense?! what the hell is she thinking?!
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Unless you ARE the friend and I've found myself in one of those situations where a person seeks advice for their "friend" even though the advice is really for them, I would suggest just coming right out and asking her if she was joking or not. She was pretty bold in making this statement to you, so feel free to be just as bold in your reaction.
Chances are, she's just kidding. Let's look at the facts here. Your friend was at school when she told you this. Now I don't know if this is high school or college, but both institutions are known for students doing and saying crazy things. Another thing to take into consideration is that we're talking about an 18 year old girl in school. Why would she need a dog to please her sexually? I'm sure there are plenty of students who'd be willing to give her a hand with her "problem." Lastly, if your friend was serious about this, why would she tell you at school? Why not at home, in your car, via email, on the phone, through a text, while the two of you are out shopping, etc.? I can think of a million places more appropriate for this kind of news than at school. Again, I think she's kidding!
If for some crazy reason she's not kidding, don't freak out. Yes, this is bizarre, but this girl is your friend. Open up the lines of communication and get to the bottom of this. Ask questions. Get some more info. Like I said, I'm sure there are other students who are into her. Ask her why she's not interested in exploring her sexuality with another human being. Maybe set her up on a date. The two of you can join some singles dating website and look for people for her on there. Also, your friend might be really down and feeling self conscious. Maybe take her out and treat her to a makeover. That could be fun!
Summary:
1, Find out if she's joking.
2. Remedy the situation.
3. Continue being friends.
Your friendship is what's most important here. Don't let social taboos or possible jokes affect how you feel about your friend.
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My boyfriend turns 18 in about two months. We'll have been dating 10 months by that time, but we're very serious. We don't want to spend lots of money on each other, but does anybody have any good ideas? I've already given him cds for Valentine's Day. I don't want to give him cologne because he already has some that smells really good. He's not into sports at all. He's into theater and music. He's an incredible singer. Nothing sex related, please.
Does anybody have any suggestions for gifts? My birthday is a month before his, Christmas is just three weeks after his, and our one year is one month after that, then Valentine's day. So any ideas would be wonderful and very much appreciated in the future as well. Absolutely anything will help. Thank you so much. :) (link)
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You said your boyfriend is into theater and music. Maybe you could get him a couple books about the history of plays and musicals. If this is an aspiration of his, he'll love reading about and studying from some of the greats. Even if it's merely just a hobby of his, I'm sure he'll appreciate the thought and enjoy it all the same. Books about Shakespeare, Bach, and Beethoven come to mind, but make sure that whatever you get for him caters to his tastes. As far aas CDs go, mix CDs make nice additions to any gift.
I don't know what your budget is, but tickets to a play, musical, or concert would be really nice. There's almost always a community theater around and tickets to see their plays cost very little - sometimes nothing. Maybe you could check to see if there are any colleges nearby putting on student performances. Not only is your boyfriend likely to enjoy seeing a show, but the performers are typically very happy for every person who shows up. Most of the time, the costs of tickets go to charities, organizations, or helping to fund the theater / school.
Lastly, there's something every 18 year old guy likes no matter what he's into ... food. He's a growing boy ... literally! You can't go wrong with food. Taking your guy out to eat will make him happy and it'll give you time to talk and enjoy a meal without family and friends around interrupting your quality time. Another thing you can consider is making him a basket full of treats and decorating it with bows and ribbons and all kinds of things that'll make him think of you. Put a variety of treats in it: cookies, rice krispy treats, brownies, fudge, cupcakes, etc. This will be a homemade gift that will light up his heart and his taste buds!
Good luck. I hope he has a great birthday!
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my friend sort of likes this girl and only can communicate to her (in a non-sketchy way.. note: AIM & texting - thats too early) is through facebook wall-to-walls. so, what should they talk about thats not too awkward? right now, theyre stuck at
"whats up?"
"homework, you?"
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There's a lot of ways two people can break the ice on Facebook. It's a social network! Your friend needs to be more creative. Ask the girl what her favorite part of the website is. Ask her how long she's been on Facebook and if it's her favorite social network. If she prefers Twitter, then your friend can say something like, "Oh I have Twitter too." Then they might start talking about Twitter vs. Facebook. The girl might even ask the guy to follow her on Twitter or if your friend is feeling bold he can ask her. Maybe they might start discussing how much Myspace sucks now. That'll open up a lot of opportunities for conversation.
Ask her if she plays games on Facebook - if so, ask her which ones. Your friend can take or fake an interest in those games. Surprise her and send her an app request. Girls love to take quizzes. Find out what her five favorite summer movies are or what her ultimate playlist would look like. You'll definitely get a feel of what this girl's into if you do a bit of digging and talk about what she likes. Once your friend knows these things, he or she can take it from there. Maybe your friend will find out that her favorite band is Paramore and they happen to be playing in a city near you in three weeks. Ask if she's going. Get the conversation away from Facebook after awhile.
If the girl doesn't respond often or she doesn't add a lot to the conversation, she's probably too busy or uninterested. I hope this helps!
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I am looking for a cheap dog house for my outside cats (2) this winter. It snows A LOT here and it's our first winter in this sort of climate so I'm worried they will be a little cold, especially since the wind is insane here. I thought about getting them a small to medium sized dog house and tying it down (again, the wind is crazy) somewhere near the house. I already have a heated water dish so I could sit that and their food near the dog house so they didn't have to go out too far if they didn't want to. Everybody says they're cats and they'll get along just fine but I'm still a little worried, you know? Anyway...I was wondering where a decent, cheap dog house was? Walmart? I thought about going to Tractor Supply but am not sure if they even carry dog houses? Does anyone have any suggestions?
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Your best bet is to go to Wal-mart, but you have other options as well. Other stores like K-Mart and Target also have dog houses. Of course, you could always go to a pet store like Petsmart or Super Petz and see what they have to offer. One alternative you might not have even thought of is building the house yourself. It might sound complex, but it doesn't have to be. In fact, it can be quite fun. You can design the house to fit your needs unlike at a store where you would have to make due with what's already built. Finally, you could order online. Just Google "dog houses" and you'll be amazed at how many options you find. It's so much easier to browse at home than to go from store to store unable to find what you're looking for. Good luck on finding your cats a home for this winter. Luckily, you still have some time left to find your felines a perfect home!
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