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My name is Ryan. And I will answer most everything you want to ask to the best of my God given ability.But I will not sugar coat any answer and I will give MY advice. I don't care about my ratings, so don't think giving me a 1 for an answer you don't want to hear will scare me. And if you already know what you should do about a sitaution, don't come to us here at advicenators asking for a second opinion. And here below is a list of questions you should NOT ask on advicenators. Granted some of them may vary and be acceptable, but overall don't ask the below questions on Advicenators.
**Don't ask questions like "OMG i heard this song on the radio with "insert pointless pop lyrics here" and i wanna know what it is so what is it! Thanks!! I rate 5sssss! hearts". This question can be simply googled with the lyrics, or you need only ask a friend
**Don't ask "ok so there is the hott guy/gal in my class and he/she like got me a *insert gift or simple trinket here* do you think he/she likes me?" This is the most common question here on this website sadly. Unless it is vitally important and actually pertains to a feeling of true feelings, don't ask it. This is most asked by teens. And what teens need to learn is "love" is not thinking a guy/girl is sweet and hott and nice. I know love, and it is so far from all those things. Remember Cicero when he said "Out of all the emotions, love is the most violent. Love is madness."
**"Ok so me and my boyfriend had sex last night and we like used no protection omg he came in me do you think i am pregnant?" Ugh. Stupid teens and their hormones. IF YOU HAVE SEX YOU ALWAYS RUN THE RISK OF PREGNANCY, UNLESS YOUR STERILE. And if you don't know anything about sex, you shouldn't be doing it. Even if you "love" your partner, half the time this is a disallusion and you will end up hurt. Sex is for marriage.
**Or asking what's "in" for fashion, or what they should wear out tonight. Or what is "cute" and what looks good. Pick and choose for yourself what you like, think for yourself instead of trying to let other people do it for you. Stand up and be yourself.
These are the most common questions I have seen on Advicenators. Now there are a few questions that are very good questions and deserve the 3 rating and the best answer possible. But they are usually blocked out with the kinds of questions listed above. If you want to ask something, check the following off that I am listing.
1.Does the question pertain to anything important or trivial?
2.Is proper grammar used?
3.Is the question long and in one paragraph?
4.Is it a question that you yourself can answer?
5.Is there enough detail?
Following those 5 guidelines, you can write a good 3 point answer. That about wraps it up.
I spend alot of time online and here on advicenators, so if you ever need anything then just send something in my inbox or IM me. I'm not opposed to helping people at all, in fact I love doing it. I just want some people to wake up from asking a stupid question.
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My lil' 12 year old sister was asked out by a boy, she asked me what she should say but the truth is I dont know. What shouild she say?
P.S. she's been asked out a lot and onceshe gave them my # and i thought it was my bf but it was hers, does this mean it's a bad idea 4 her to date (link)
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12 year olds dating is way to young in my opinion.
Have half those 12 year old boys even gone through puberty yet? My goodness what a strange world.
It's her choice, but I would myself advice againts it. But that is just me. 12 year olds dating to me...is way WAY to young.
I hope I helped, and good luck.
-Ryan
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okay so me and my b/f have been going out for 8 weeks and i would spend all my time with him and his friends so my friends were pretty mad they wanted me to hang out with them and then my friends get in the way and tell me its them forever or him for one day so they made me ignore him and then he dumped me what should i do (link)
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They "made" you ignore him?
How do you do that? Because you've got me wondering it.
You NEVER NEVER neglect your friends over a guy/girl. NEVER. Because they are absolutely right. It is them for awile or him for a short time. While your friends were crude to explain it that way, they made their point known.
You need to tell him what happened. And if not, then your friends only are proven more right. Because while the guy is gone, they are still there.
-Ryan
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First of all I am 13/f.My bf and I have been going out for a month or so.He gets horny when I dance,talk "sweet",and stuff like that.He wants to have sex with me,but he understands why I won't and want to wait til I am older.I am very mature for my age and so is he.I am sexually attracted to him,and you already know he's sexually attracted to me.He,by the way,is 13 too.I know all about std so don't bother preaching to me about that,I like him and we have french kissed before,believe it or not,we are inlove.He has had sex b4 but I haven't so this would be my first time if I did do it with me.He loves me and he is not using me so dont say that.Well what should I do!?? (link)
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Your 13....
and most certainly NOT in love. You've dated a month and want to have sex? I don't care but I will tell you no 13 year old is ready for sex, no matter how mature and responsible you are.
And your asking us if you should have it? No you shouldn't. In fact you asking clearing indicates you are NOT ready at all.
How about you wait a few years. Because I can gaurantee you nothing good will come of you having sex now. What's the point?
That is my two cents, and I am sure I won't be the only one to say what has been said.
-Ryan
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14/f
SO me and my boyfriend Lets call him Cody were going out for 2 months and he made a promis to me to never break up with me in the beggining of our relationship, things were perfect. and he said he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me and that i was everyhting to him....but that all changed 5 days ago when he broke up with me......and i am heart broken and i just lost the love of my life. and did i mention he said we could be friends with benifits and he still wants to be bestn friends and hang out and go to movies together and yesterday after track practice we were hanging out waiting for our rides and he kissed me 3 times and he is all over me, he hugs me way more than he ever did when we were going out, but then i ask him if he still lvoes me and he tells me no,and he said he would give me anotehr chance near the summr and that i could count on us going back out and yesterday we had a track meet and i was crying the whole time, and he saw me crying and he just kept looking at me like i was some stranger in his world and he never came and said anyhthing to me like its gonna be alright or nothin like that, and after the track meet i asked him why he kept looking at me and he said because i wanted to know why u were crying and i was like well looking at me is not going to do you any good, you could of came and talked to me if u wanted to know, and he huged anoehr girl and i saw and i am really sad/hurt/heartbroken....i just dont know what to do? please help me figure it out.....and by the sounds of it, is he playing games? does he want me back? does he want me back but is scared to?
you can talk to me on AIM at BahHumBug357
thanx any advise would help. i am totally devidtated to the point were i am not eating bc i am sick to my stumach.
please help
-Ali Rae (link)
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Protossc is absolutely right.
In fact, he pretty much hit every point I could ever want to discuss. But I will add some of my own points to only make the answer to this more convincing.
Your both 14, you will find other boys. Because to be quite honest, to make such promises at only age 14, is simply rediculous.
And just so you, friends with benefits is something you should never do. It is basically 2 people using each other for physical pleasure, without any kind of string attached and there is no commitement.
And, like most 14 year old boys, he will not linger long over a ex. So don't be surprised to see him hug or do whatever else with another girl.
I will tell you that you just need to move on. Yeah your heartbroken, I can see. But honestly you shouldn't lament over a 14 year old boy who makes promises he can't make to save his life. You have to be alot more careful with relationships. You can't just "believe" you will always be together. You always have to keep in the back of your mind that there is the POSSIBILITY of a break up. Because in any teenage relationship, no matter how commited, there is always that possibility.
I hope I helped, and good luck with your heartbreak.
-Ryan
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Is giving a handjob to your boyfriend considered a sin? (link)
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I will assume by sin you are refering to Christianical sin.
If so, then yes it is a sin. It is premarital sexual contact and therefore is a sin. In fact, most any religion will say premarital sex is a sin.
I would however, ask you to ignore Brunette_Babie_cakes or however you spell her name. Just because the bible was written long ago does NOT mean you shouldn't follow it. Books were written around the time of alot of the old testament writings (The Illiad, The Odyessey, Elements) that are still in major study today and have importance, or even books written during the New Testament periods (The Metamorphoses, The Aenid, etc).
Just because the Bible is old, doesn't mean it shouldn't be followed. Age does not necessarily decrease function and purpose, but sometimes increases it. And the Bible's function most certainly increases in a more modern, and just as wicked, world.
I hope I helped,
-Ryan
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Hey babes what's going on? Well i don understand where you're coming from and i feel that way too, it's not that i want to go to college i don't know if i want to go or not but anyway last night i went to church and i had to go to the restroom so i went downstairs and Timothy was sitting down there waiting for me and when i saw him i just froze...then we hugged and made out i mean it was crazy not like “omg let's have sex but like wow i know this is real love”(yeah i know, it was at church) and then we were hugging and i felt something i haven't felt in a very long time i got that feeling people say they sometimes get when they kiss or whatever and they know that their supposed to be with that person well i felt it with timothy it was real..he said he was planning on asking me to marry him soon too so when i got home i started thinking about everything and i realize that Timothy is probably the first guy to tell me that he loves me and actually means it and i know what i have with him is real and i know no matter what we can get through anything together we've done it some many times before and i know that no matter what happens to me that as long as I'm with him everything will be OK. And its not that I'm dependent on him, i mean i am but not to as point where he controls my life so it's not like that at all (link)
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What is your question?
Quite honestly I missed it completely.
And the next time you ask a question, better grammer would be very much appreciated. I even found myself struggling to read that mess of words...
-Ryan
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I'm a Christian. Lately, I've been worried about something. I've been thinking things like "What if Christianity isn't the true religion and Islam/Buddhism is?" Basically I'm scared that Christianity may not be the true religion. I believe in Jesus, but what if Islam is the true religion? Then I would go to Hell forever because of one decision, you know? It makes me scared =(. What do you think..? (link)
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Let me give you a few pointers.
First, any religion that has any kind of self glorification or reliance on oneself to get to heaven is just nuts.
Second. Islam is a copycat religion. The Qu'an is basically the Torah translated into Arabic and Muhammad adding a few verses in to gain himself some power and justify some actions he and his followers took. Islam isn't real.
And Buddhism really isn't a religion, it is a philosophy. But then again, some religions can also be philosophies.
But I find the first point to be most convincing. Any religion telling you that you can get to heaven on your own means is pretty much wrong. Christianity says that the only way we get to heaven is through grace and faith. And none of this is by our own works but by God's.
And trust me, I have studied and reviewed on a few religions and if I weren't a Christian and was a skeptic looking at them all, I would accept Christianity hands down as the true religion.
But I am a Christian, so it goes without saying. One bad decision won't change a thing. You have forgiveness for as long as you want it.
I hope I helped. And I hope, you have your faith strengthened from this.
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Here is the deal.. Lately I've been thinking alot about if god is real or not.. I don't know if I should believe it.. I mostly think that life was created by mostly scientific reasons.. The bible could really be made up from along long time ago..Nobody really knows right? Has anybody ever been touched by god? If I do not believe in god what would I be? (link)
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Well if the bible is made up, then no one could be touched by God.
If you don't believe in God or any other higher power, you are an atheist.
It is your choice to believe. Personally, I believe the bible over ANY theory of creation or evolution any day of the week. Life is much much MUCH to complex to believe it all came from just 1 cell that "happened" to know how to divide, reproduce, and mutate at the same time. But that is just my opinion.
-Ryan
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ok so im going to the rascal flatts concert in june and i have no clue what to wear!! what do people wear to country concerts cause i've never been to one..also im 16/f (link)
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Whatever you want.
Seriously, it doesn't matter what you wear to any concert. Just wear what you want. It's your choice.
-Ryan
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It was midnight,i ve been walking through the graves ..there was noone exept me to cemetery..only darkness..and terrifying silence,someone waswhispering,laughing ..thought had gone mad..i did it for forgetting u,but even there i couldn't have done it,even fear couldn't make me put your name out of my mind..you'd never know how much i prayed to be with you.feel there's no one who can help me (link)
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Why is this question still getting a "2" rating?
Don't post poems for us to rate. This isn't even a question, just some kind of weird lamentations. Therefore it should have not been posted.
-Ryan
*edit* Afte reading the feedback I got to this I feel compelled to ask, why did you even post this to a bunch of near complete strangers. And for those of you reading this, she says it is the story of her life.
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What's an orgasm? (link)
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When you are old enough to mature, please consult this website.
http://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/Main_Page
-Ryan
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I have a friend..well she might be. She is from Taiwan and she has lived in the U.S. for 2-3 years already. What bugs me is this: she doesn't know very much English. And this BUGS me! She'll say something like, "He don't like fish" or something and I'm like DOESN'T! Anyways, that's not all. When we go to the movies or wherever, and she's paying for both of us, she won't talk to the people giving out tickets. She'll make me order them because "she's scared". Scared of being made fun of for her English. And she makes me go with her when she has to talk to a teacher. And we were at a party and we were playing a game where you describe something until someone guesses it. Well she got all quiet and she said that she was about to cry because she doesn't know much English.
Also when she eats she lowers her head to her plate instead of lifting her fork to her mouth. Just everything she does bugs me! I've told her and she started writing me all these notes saying "Are you mad at me? -Your best friend".
She doesnt even try to learn English, she and her family only speak Chinese in their house.
What do I do? (link)
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You do realize English is probably the hardest language to learn, right?
You may not think so, since you are probably English speaking from birth. But to others, the language is extremely complex with many vocabulary rules and words. A good chunk of english, is basically words from other languages.
Cut her some slack. I'm sure she TRIES to learn English. But I wouldn't expect her to be that great at it after only a couple of years.
Just be patient with her. And learn to take her for who she is. People who act annoying on purpose bug me, so does that mean I will avoid them? No because I have to deal with them every day.
Be patient with her.
I hope I helped. And tell her good luck on her English. www.wikipedia.org (in the dictionary section) is a good source for words in english, and it is also in chinese for her if she needs it.
-Ryan
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where can i get a really cute layout. thats really simple. like a "skinny layout". (link)
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Consult the oracle, google.
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My lil' 12 year old sister was asked, she asked me what she should say but the truth is I dont know. What shouild she say? (link)
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Yeah we can't really do much without knowing what she was asked..
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My Boyfriend tells me I'm not coming onto him strong enough and says that I need to put my hand on him when he's "hard on." I hardly know what that means...and i dont know what to do when my hand is there. What do i do when he gets like that and I put my hand on him? (link)
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While I normally wouldn't answer this because it has been answered before, I felt the need to answer that one.
To reinforce the point. If you don't even know what a "hard on" is or what to do during that..."time" with your boyfriend, then you have absolutley NO business doing what your doing.
And most likely, if he is asking you to do that and you have no clue what he is talking about, he is just using you. My advice would to be get rid of him before you go any deeper.
Or at the very least, stop having that kind of contact with him.
Just my 2 cents.
-Ryan
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Is a Tomatoe a fruit or a veggie cause I really need to no know my dad and I are fighting over wich one it is I say that it is a fruit am I right? Please answer my question as soon as possible thanks-from ? (link)
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It is technically a fruit.
But the U.S. gov and other governments classify it as a vegetable for economic reasons.
Naturally, it is a fruit.
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I have had my period like 4 times and i ahvent got it and it was due like a 4 days ago. Ive never had sex could i be preganant!?!?! (link)
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Ugh.
YOU CAN'T EVER GET PREGNANT UNLESS YOU'VE HAD SEX.
Simple, why can't people realize that?
-Ryan
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Okay, I'm 13/f there are 2 boys that I likeone named Luis the other names Logan. Logan is always nice to me, he makes sure he has all of my attention if he does something humorus, and seems please when I laugh at it or one of his jokes, and jealous if I talk about Luis. Luis is my ex, we went out even though i'm not supposed to until I'm 16. He broke up with me because he 'felt like it'. He is always nice to me unless Cole is around(I'll tell you that story later if you care to hear it.). We are still friends but not as close as we used to be. He gets jealous when I mention Logan around him and looked even jealouser today at P.E. when(we were playing dodge ball) I gave Logan the ball instead of Him(I had 2 balls and would not give him my other ball so he looked even more dissapointed) Luis is okay with me until Cole(as I have already said)is around, but Logan no matter what is nice to me. Which one do you think I should pick? (link)
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Whoever you choose.
I can't choose for you. And the only advice I can give it to use your best judgement and follow what you feel the right course is.
And besides, you shouldn't worry too much about any of this stuff anyway. Your only 13, you have more important things that can occupy your time than a silly love mix up. Don't waste to much time on your love life, because it will always change and it is pointless to get too involved with it now at 13.
There will be others.
I hope I helped, and good luck.
-Ryan
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so like me kayla brandon and kyle just got back from the movies.okay so me n kyle arent going out but we sorta have a 'thing' i guess for eachother. okay so i was sitting next to kyle.. and i bend down to get my sweatshirt from the floor and he like he put his hand on my booty and like i sora jumped up and like he like pulled me toward him so i was leaning on his shoulder... and his hand was on my ass for the longest time so like i pulled his hand off and like onto my lap and just like held his hand ad he like had a BONAR
i was like ohhh shitttt. l.ol and then he kept like kissing me on the forehead and stuff like tht and just cute little ones on the cheeks and like then at the end he kissed me on the lips... like he tried to get some tongue-idge but i just kinda pushed away but then like i.dk. thts the problem we arent going out i cant just go around kkisssing random people lmfao bc like tay just broke up with him like 2 days ago dude thats not right like yeah hes a sweet guy and all... and tonight was fun.. just like idk hes not the cutest thing on earth... and zits are a major turn off lo.l
what should i do? i need your help!
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My goodness. I feel like I lost a few IQ points after reading that jumbled mess of "words". If you can call them that.....
What you should do is so painfully obvious. You've already said you shouldn't do anything with him because your friend just broke up with him and I guess he isn't cute enough for you. So do what you said and don't do anything.
Don't do anything. But I WOULD recommend proper typing lessons. Just an idea you know...
-Ryan
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Alright, so the backround is; I've been a christian my whole life..I know alot ABOUT G0D, but I don't KNOW G0D, does that make sence?
With that said, I really need your advise. Because you & your faith seem to be really strong.
I'm having so much doubt it's not even funny, so I appologize if this turns out to be really long.
Sometimes everything just seems so pointless, you know. And it always helps me to think "God has a special plan for you" But that quote got me thinking a while ago, what about all those people who die as children, or people who get kidnapped/raped and so on (?) I'm sure God had a special plan for them too..but it all go messed up because of one decision they made? Maybe just a small one, like going out with a couple of friends that very night, or crossing the street at the wrong time. Like, I don't get how God could put such a big consequence into such a small decision, you know what I'm saying? It definitely helps to think that there's a meaning with my life, that I'm not just living to die..but still, it freaks me out to think that just the tinyest decision could mess up Gods plan for my life.
Also, I've read this christian book "Authentic Beauty" about how to be a christian girl. And I liked it. But mostly, it got me frustrated. Cause it's alot easier for her to have had all those experiences and then say 'sorry' for what she's done when she found the right guy for her. It seems to me like she writes as if all teenage girls today are dating just to..date. But it's not like that, if we're not out there looking for the right one with everyone we date, than what are we doing? Like, what if God's plan was for you to meet this one guy, even if it's at a young age. It's not like we know already (before something goes wrong) that he's gonna end up being the wrong guy. If we did, it would be a lot easier to do what she said in the book..just wait for Mr.Right. And focus on other things, like religion, until he shows up. But with every guy, you expect it to last forever, she said it herself. Like, what if she would have ended it with her husband, look how happy she is now, what if she would have just dismissed him because 'what God wants us to do is wait'. See what my point is? It just confuses me. We can't keep waiting forever, because then we'll end up completely lonely, so then how do we know when to stop waiting?
Another thing, is it wrong to appologize for something you know you're going to do before you do it? Like let's say there's a situation..and you're sure that there's no other way to solve it than using the devils help..doing something that's actually wrong. So you know you're gonna do it, and you're not going to regret it, because you know that you would do it again if the same problem came up. Like, of course you'd feel bad about it, and wish there was another way, but you wouldn't necessarily regret it..should you appologize for that? Because I remember a part in the bible that said you shouldn't appologize if you don't mean it, or something along those lines. But in this case, you do sort of mean it, just that you would do it again.
Okey, I'm really sorry this was long, but I have no other religious friends to ask, so I figured I'd ask these questions. Not that I'm expecting an answer, these are hard questions, but I thought I'd give it a shot incase you maybe did know the answers. Oh that reminds me! My younger brother, Alan, (9 years old) has started thinking about religion. And he's asking me all these hard questions like "Howcome God created evil, if he's just gonna punish us for it in the end?" and I really don't know what to answer. Also (I'm really sorry for keep coming up with new questions all the time) but in the bible, when God says something like "You shouldn't belive in any other Gods but me" does that mean that there actually is other Gods out there? And how about the evolution theory (or however you spell that) ? Everytime someone over here finds out I'm a christian that's the first thing they ask me. And I never know what to say, so I always end up looking stupid. Because it's basically proven. And it makes alot more sense than "Eve and Adam"
One more thing, I have this cousin, James, and he really scares me. He thinks about killing people and revenge all the time! He steals and cheats and lies and a lot more, and I just don't know what to do to help him, I'm really scared he'll end up going to hell. That's another thing! How could God do that? Like my friend Elvina, she's the kindest most considerate person ever! She helps everyone, is always nice, never lies, and so on. Like the perfect christian, except that's it..she's not a christian. She doesn't belive in Jesus. But she is a REALLY good person. So how could he just send her to hell for having a hard time beliveing? I mean he's the one who made it hard, shouldn't he have more understanding for this? And you know how you feel awful when you've hurt someone you love? Well, if God loves us so much, then how can he just watch when we cry..because of things he's caused. Like a family member dying because of some disease.
I mean, God knows us better than anyone, right? So that means he knows exactly how much each and everyone of us can handle, so then howcome he gives us too much to handle sometimes..so much that some people see death as the only way out..and then they kill themselves, and then God sends them to hell for that? He's the one who gave them so much hard stuff to deal with in the first place, isn't he?
Gaaah! It's just so frustrating because nothing maks sense, nothing! So it feels like it would be alot easier, and like a stone lifted of your shoulders, just to..stop beliving. But then we'll go to hell. And have a hard life.
I'm not expecting an answer to ALL these questions, just maybe the questions you know the answer to?
Thank youu alot! ♥
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By this time, most teenagers will question their morals and beliefs.
I think the best way to answer this is to tackle one question at a time. But I will just say one thing before I say anything else. God is holy, and because of this, he cannot sin or make people sin. And in time, everything is made perfect in God.
With that said, let me start with the first question.
The answer to the first paragraph is simply that everything is made perfect in God's love and plan. In time everything does come full circle and becomes what God intended it to. God is never going to abandon us, even when it seems like he has. Over and over in the bible we see people falling from God, and God raising them right back up again. God's plan is always perfect, but it is human nature and sin that seem to "corrupt" his plan. Even if we still think it dead and broken, God see's it as another point in his plan. I like to view it as everything that goes wrong, is a lesson in life that we can learn from. God can work through mistakes, and he does quite extensively. It's hard to explain.
The second point you ask is on relationships and so forth. Well to me, there is no Mr.Right (Mrs.Right in my case). Any person could be mr./mrs. right to another person. It is a matter of perspective. Like I said before, everything is like a lesson, and in this aspect, it is still the same. Say for every guy a girl dates, she learns a little more about which guys work better, and which don't. So she learns for herself whats right for her in time.
Or maybe...I am just got the whole question above wrong and answered it wrong. If so, I am sorry. But I will still answer to the best of my ability and I will highlight some of the other questions and try and answer them.
*For your brother. God can't sin and isn't evil. Evil didn't come from God, evil came from someone who wanted to be God, and failed (Satan). We know from the book of Revelation that Satan was once an angel who challenged God's power and was cast out of heaven after he tried to overthrow God.
*When God says don't follow any other gods, he is speaking somewhat figuaraitvly. There are no other gods. People make gods for themselves (such as say, an idol, or something more common like themselves or money). God says not to follow gods people make or give credit to as being a "god". There are no other gods, just God himself.
*The evolution theory is just that, a theory. My view is God did make everything, but things have evolved since then. You see change all around us. The whole "common ancestor" thing is completely ridiculous. How did the cell "know" to become something? Life is much, much, MUCH more complex than just saying "we all came from one cell, which basically spawned from nothing". life is from God. And to say evolution happens now since creation, I will believe that.
*About your cousin James. Have you talk to him about everything?
*About your friend Elvina. God isn't just going to send someone to hell for being bad, but he will send someone there if they reject God, Jesus, and faith. Jesus says the only sin that will never be forgiven will be blashpeming the Holy Spirit, which is rejecting faith, since the Holy Spirit is what gives you faith to begin with. So rejecting Him, is rejecting faith.
Your referal to her being a good person with characteristics you might see a Christian having, is something to do with "works righteousness". Which is the belief that you get to heaven by your works and deeds. Some people will believe that doing good deeds and being a "good person" will get them to heaven. It won't. And it won't because the person is relying on themselves instead of God to get to heaven. God sends us the Holy Spirit to have faith, and that faith will get us into heaven, not works. God's love saves us, not our works.
*God doesn't give us more than we can handle. Most of the time we think it is too much for us to handle. Our mind and our nature makes us to think God is really againts us by letting all this stuff happen. He isn't. People who commit suicide aren't just "damned" to hell. Say a person cuts themselves to kill themselves, but as they draw their last breath, they ask God for forgiveness. God is going to grant it to them because they asked. Now say someone blows their head off, in this case. It is God's decision, and I cannot say anymore.
I can understand your questions, and I can honestly say I have asked them before myself. But alot of the answer have to be found using your own understanding of God. People will understand God in different ways, and what I just said is how I understand God from the questions you asked.
Your views after reading this may change. But as long as you can draw your own conclusion, your fine.
God is extremely complex in his nature. Alot of things most people won't get. But some will. It is a matter of how much you really truly understand and believe God. We all have trouble at some points, and how we understand God, can sometimes affect the outcomes of those troubles.
I hope I helped. And to my sincerest word, I hope you find what your looking for in God and all the questions you asked. If you want to ask anything else. You can ask me again if you want, and I will answer it to my best ability.
-Ryan
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