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Christian 15-year old female, in very much doubt.
Alright, so the backround is; I've been a christian my whole life..I know alot ABOUT G0D, but I don't KNOW G0D, does that make sence?
With that said, I really need your advise. Because you & your faith seem to be really strong.
I'm having so much doubt it's not even funny, so I appologize if this turns out to be really long.
Sometimes everything just seems so pointless, you know. And it always helps me to think "God has a special plan for you" But that quote got me thinking a while ago, what about all those people who die as children, or people who get kidnapped/raped and so on (?) I'm sure God had a special plan for them too..but it all go messed up because of one decision they made? Maybe just a small one, like going out with a couple of friends that very night, or crossing the street at the wrong time. Like, I don't get how God could put such a big consequence into such a small decision, you know what I'm saying? It definitely helps to think that there's a meaning with my life, that I'm not just living to die..but still, it freaks me out to think that just the tinyest decision could mess up Gods plan for my life.
Also, I've read this christian book "Authentic Beauty" about how to be a christian girl. And I liked it. But mostly, it got me frustrated. Cause it's alot easier for her to have had all those experiences and then say 'sorry' for what she's done when she found the right guy for her. It seems to me like she writes as if all teenage girls today are dating just to..date. But it's not like that, if we're not out there looking for the right one with everyone we date, than what are we doing? Like, what if God's plan was for you to meet this one guy, even if it's at a young age. It's not like we know already (before something goes wrong) that he's gonna end up being the wrong guy. If we did, it would be a lot easier to do what she said in the book..just wait for Mr.Right. And focus on other things, like religion, until he shows up. But with every guy, you expect it to last forever, she said it herself. Like, what if she would have ended it with her husband, look how happy she is now, what if she would have just dismissed him because 'what God wants us to do is wait'. See what my point is? It just confuses me. We can't keep waiting forever, because then we'll end up completely lonely, so then how do we know when to stop waiting?
Another thing, is it wrong to appologize for something you know you're going to do before you do it? Like let's say there's a situation..and you're sure that there's no other way to solve it than using the devils help..doing something that's actually wrong. So you know you're gonna do it, and you're not going to regret it, because you know that you would do it again if the same problem came up. Like, of course you'd feel bad about it, and wish there was another way, but you wouldn't necessarily regret it..should you appologize for that? Because I remember a part in the bible that said you shouldn't appologize if you don't mean it, or something along those lines. But in this case, you do sort of mean it, just that you would do it again.
Okey, I'm really sorry this was long, but I have no other religious friends to ask, so I figured I'd ask these questions. Not that I'm expecting an answer, these are hard questions, but I thought I'd give it a shot incase you maybe did know the answers. Oh that reminds me! My younger brother, Alan, (9 years old) has started thinking about religion. And he's asking me all these hard questions like "Howcome God created evil, if he's just gonna punish us for it in the end?" and I really don't know what to answer. Also (I'm really sorry for keep coming up with new questions all the time) but in the bible, when God says something like "You shouldn't belive in any other Gods but me" does that mean that there actually is other Gods out there? And how about the evolution theory (or however you spell that) ? Everytime someone over here finds out I'm a christian that's the first thing they ask me. And I never know what to say, so I always end up looking stupid. Because it's basically proven. And it makes alot more sense than "Eve and Adam"
One more thing, I have this cousin, James, and he really scares me. He thinks about killing people and revenge all the time! He steals and cheats and lies and a lot more, and I just don't know what to do to help him, I'm really scared he'll end up going to hell. That's another thing! How could God do that? Like my friend Elvina, she's the kindest most considerate person ever! She helps everyone, is always nice, never lies, and so on. Like the perfect christian, except that's it..she's not a christian. She doesn't belive in Jesus. But she is a REALLY good person. So how could he just send her to hell for having a hard time beliveing? I mean he's the one who made it hard, shouldn't he have more understanding for this? And you know how you feel awful when you've hurt someone you love? Well, if God loves us so much, then how can he just watch when we cry..because of things he's caused. Like a family member dying because of some disease.
I mean, God knows us better than anyone, right? So that means he knows exactly how much each and everyone of us can handle, so then howcome he gives us too much to handle sometimes..so much that some people see death as the only way out..and then they kill themselves, and then God sends them to hell for that? He's the one who gave them so much hard stuff to deal with in the first place, isn't he?
Gaaah! It's just so frustrating because nothing maks sense, nothing! So it feels like it would be alot easier, and like a stone lifted of your shoulders, just to..stop beliving. But then we'll go to hell. And have a hard life.
I'm not expecting an answer to ALL these questions, just maybe the questions you know the answer to?
Thank youu alot! ♥
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Maybe give some free advice about: Spirituality?
By this time, most teenagers will question their morals and beliefs.
I think the best way to answer this is to tackle one question at a time. But I will just say one thing before I say anything else. God is holy, and because of this, he cannot sin or make people sin. And in time, everything is made perfect in God.
With that said, let me start with the first question.
The answer to the first paragraph is simply that everything is made perfect in God's love and plan. In time everything does come full circle and becomes what God intended it to. God is never going to abandon us, even when it seems like he has. Over and over in the bible we see people falling from God, and God raising them right back up again. God's plan is always perfect, but it is human nature and sin that seem to "corrupt" his plan. Even if we still think it dead and broken, God see's it as another point in his plan. I like to view it as everything that goes wrong, is a lesson in life that we can learn from. God can work through mistakes, and he does quite extensively. It's hard to explain.
The second point you ask is on relationships and so forth. Well to me, there is no Mr.Right (Mrs.Right in my case). Any person could be mr./mrs. right to another person. It is a matter of perspective. Like I said before, everything is like a lesson, and in this aspect, it is still the same. Say for every guy a girl dates, she learns a little more about which guys work better, and which don't. So she learns for herself whats right for her in time.
Or maybe...I am just got the whole question above wrong and answered it wrong. If so, I am sorry. But I will still answer to the best of my ability and I will highlight some of the other questions and try and answer them.
*For your brother. God can't sin and isn't evil. Evil didn't come from God, evil came from someone who wanted to be God, and failed (Satan). We know from the book of Revelation that Satan was once an angel who challenged God's power and was cast out of heaven after he tried to overthrow God.
*When God says don't follow any other gods, he is speaking somewhat figuaraitvly. There are no other gods. People make gods for themselves (such as say, an idol, or something more common like themselves or money). God says not to follow gods people make or give credit to as being a "god". There are no other gods, just God himself.
*The evolution theory is just that, a theory. My view is God did make everything, but things have evolved since then. You see change all around us. The whole "common ancestor" thing is completely ridiculous. How did the cell "know" to become something? Life is much, much, MUCH more complex than just saying "we all came from one cell, which basically spawned from nothing". life is from God. And to say evolution happens now since creation, I will believe that.
*About your cousin James. Have you talk to him about everything?
*About your friend Elvina. God isn't just going to send someone to hell for being bad, but he will send someone there if they reject God, Jesus, and faith. Jesus says the only sin that will never be forgiven will be blashpeming the Holy Spirit, which is rejecting faith, since the Holy Spirit is what gives you faith to begin with. So rejecting Him, is rejecting faith.
Your referal to her being a good person with characteristics you might see a Christian having, is something to do with "works righteousness". Which is the belief that you get to heaven by your works and deeds. Some people will believe that doing good deeds and being a "good person" will get them to heaven. It won't. And it won't because the person is relying on themselves instead of God to get to heaven. God sends us the Holy Spirit to have faith, and that faith will get us into heaven, not works. God's love saves us, not our works.
*God doesn't give us more than we can handle. Most of the time we think it is too much for us to handle. Our mind and our nature makes us to think God is really againts us by letting all this stuff happen. He isn't. People who commit suicide aren't just "damned" to hell. Say a person cuts themselves to kill themselves, but as they draw their last breath, they ask God for forgiveness. God is going to grant it to them because they asked. Now say someone blows their head off, in this case. It is God's decision, and I cannot say anymore.
I can understand your questions, and I can honestly say I have asked them before myself. But alot of the answer have to be found using your own understanding of God. People will understand God in different ways, and what I just said is how I understand God from the questions you asked.
Your views after reading this may change. But as long as you can draw your own conclusion, your fine.
God is extremely complex in his nature. Alot of things most people won't get. But some will. It is a matter of how much you really truly understand and believe God. We all have trouble at some points, and how we understand God, can sometimes affect the outcomes of those troubles.
I hope I helped. And to my sincerest word, I hope you find what your looking for in God and all the questions you asked. If you want to ask anything else. You can ask me again if you want, and I will answer it to my best ability.
-Ryan
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