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Love hurts
14/f
SO me and my boyfriend Lets call him Cody were going out for 2 months and he made a promis to me to never break up with me in the beggining of our relationship, things were perfect. and he said he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me and that i was everyhting to him....but that all changed 5 days ago when he broke up with me......and i am heart broken and i just lost the love of my life. and did i mention he said we could be friends with benifits and he still wants to be bestn friends and hang out and go to movies together and yesterday after track practice we were hanging out waiting for our rides and he kissed me 3 times and he is all over me, he hugs me way more than he ever did when we were going out, but then i ask him if he still lvoes me and he tells me no,and he said he would give me anotehr chance near the summr and that i could count on us going back out and yesterday we had a track meet and i was crying the whole time, and he saw me crying and he just kept looking at me like i was some stranger in his world and he never came and said anyhthing to me like its gonna be alright or nothin like that, and after the track meet i asked him why he kept looking at me and he said because i wanted to know why u were crying and i was like well looking at me is not going to do you any good, you could of came and talked to me if u wanted to know, and he huged anoehr girl and i saw and i am really sad/hurt/heartbroken....i just dont know what to do? please help me figure it out.....and by the sounds of it, is he playing games? does he want me back? does he want me back but is scared to?
you can talk to me on AIM at BahHumBug357
thanx any advise would help. i am totally devidtated to the point were i am not eating bc i am sick to my stumach.
please help
-Ali Rae
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I know you may have really liked this guy and he probably really liked you, but he's acting different.
If he is talking about how he wants to be friends with benefits, you shouldn't even try to hang around him. In case you aren't aware, that means he wants to do things with you sexually without any commitment. Which is not something you want. I know that you don't want that because you have feelings for him.
The truth is that he doesn't want you back. He doesn't want love or commitment. It's not that you are the problem, he doesn't want what you have to offer because he wants no strings attached.
I know that you are in a lot of pain from this break-up, but it happens. Sometimes it's better to find out now that he's not the one for you. It can only make you stronger as a person to handle guys. Besides, you are young. You aren't meant to find love yet and the truth is that this guy is a jerk who only wants the physical stuff in relationships and not emotional.
-TheTeenGirl
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i know it may be hard because your feelings for him are still strong ... however if you guys arnt going to get back togeather then its better to just be friends... not w/ benifits.... just friends this way you wont stay to connected with him (or in that way) and my advise would be to not get back togeather with him. Dont let him think that you will always be there, and that he can keep coming back to you. And remember there just guys nothing to get sick over.
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No. when he said ya'll could be friends with benifits,that means friends who still do "stuff"like hug and kiss and stuff.he is not worth it so get over him,there is a guy out there for u and just cuz its not him dont be sad,you r only 14 and you will go through 100 more boys and heartbreaks.im 12 and i know that,and yeah i gotta bf.but still ull be alright email me at sky678900@yahoo.com if you ever need to talk.
I hope my advice will help you,
Sky
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Protossc is absolutely right.
In fact, he pretty much hit every point I could ever want to discuss. But I will add some of my own points to only make the answer to this more convincing.
Your both 14, you will find other boys. Because to be quite honest, to make such promises at only age 14, is simply rediculous.
And just so you, friends with benefits is something you should never do. It is basically 2 people using each other for physical pleasure, without any kind of string attached and there is no commitement.
And, like most 14 year old boys, he will not linger long over a ex. So don't be surprised to see him hug or do whatever else with another girl.
I will tell you that you just need to move on. Yeah your heartbroken, I can see. But honestly you shouldn't lament over a 14 year old boy who makes promises he can't make to save his life. You have to be alot more careful with relationships. You can't just "believe" you will always be together. You always have to keep in the back of your mind that there is the POSSIBILITY of a break up. Because in any teenage relationship, no matter how commited, there is always that possibility.
I hope I helped, and good luck with your heartbreak.
-Ryan
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wow.breakups are NEVER good=( and i think you should just ask him straight up if hes screwing with your emotions because if it has become to the extent where you dont eat somthing is wrong..and im really sorry=(
if you need to talk IM me on CutiSammy
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maybe he just wants to be single and be able to do what he wants with any girl. Thats the joy of friends with bennifts. And if thats not something you want you shouldnt be letting him kiss you your hurt and hes being a bit of a tease. move on be firneds but i would keep the bennifts out.
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