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So, say if you were going out with someone for 10 months. Then they started talking to this person, and looking at porn online together and they talked about her masturbation, and she asked how big he was and they'd constantly make sexual jokes to each other.. would you get jealous? Would you be extremely mad? Well that's what happened to me and my boyfriend. I had trust issues for a while and then they stopped talking for about a month and so i thought it would get better. Then, after a month, he and she started talking again. I got jealous, again, obv.. and i broke up with him. He said he was still in love with me (he's had really strong feelings for me for a few years now) and so when i was contemplating on going back out with him he told he didnt want to talk to her anymore because he feared it'd get like before. So, now she's going around and telling people that im too jealous and that im a control freak when i mean, it was well deserved because i cared/ care about him so much. Do you think im in the right, or is she? Do you think i should confront her about this (oh, and by the way, me and the girl had been best friends for a few years before that.)

First of all, 10 month's is a long time & you can't just let something like that slip away. & Yes i would get jealous if my boyfriend did that to me, & I would be extremely mad. & Ofcourse you're going to care about your boyfriend, & it's perfectly fine to be a "control freak" because that's how girlfriends are when they really care about their boyfriend. The girl is obviously jealous, because she wants what you have with him. & What I think you should do is, just IGNORE her. Let her keep starting rumors, people will realize their not true & she'll eventually stop. You should have a talk with your boyfriend, and tell him how much he means to you. Because you mean alot to him, obviously. Good luck (:

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there is a girl who likes me alot and yesterday we went with a group to an amusement park where i was just kind of messing around and hit her neck and she told me to kiss it and so i did kind of as ajoke but she said it gave her the chills and i dont really want to be involved in a relationship right now and i have told her this but i keep flirting with her and i dont want to hurt her, what to do?

Well first off, usually when you kiss someone or do something like that- a girl will think you like her, and it'll make her like you more. Maybe she dosen't want to be in a relationship either, and she's just playing around with you. But on the other hand maybe she does really like you, if you dont want to hurt her then simply just stop flirting with her, like when you talk to her don't be all flirty and dont kiss her or play around like that because that will give her the vibe that you like her. But then again, maybe you could give her a chance, it's all up to you! Good Luck xoxo Minela

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there's this guy i really like and have been pretty good friends with for more then a year... anyway, we hooked up this one time... and sence then we haven't really hung out outside of school. so because it's spring breack i asked him if he wanted to hang out, he said yes, deffinitly but then the day came for us to hang out and he canceled... but then i said we should get together the ext day instead, he said yes... but the next day came, i drove to his house and he came out and told me that he couldn't hang out again... so my question is, do you think he's avoiding me... or do you think he's just no good at keeping his word?

I don't think he is avoiding you, he's just not good at keeping his word. Because, if he was avoiding you, then he would make up some excuse and say he cant hang out & not say yes like he is now. Maybe he just has certain things come up,but if I were you I would wait untill he calls me to hang out- because you already called him 2 times and he cancelled. Because if you keep calling him you might get really annoying to him and he`ll play hard to get. So wait for him to call you & if he dosen't have a talk with him, or just ignore him. Good lUCk*

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I'm 15/f and my cat is a non-pedigree black and white male ....and he's 7 years old (is that considered a senior?) I should also probably mention that he's been castrated since like 4 months old.


My cat is SUPERR lazy....VERY inactive.....and he just sleeps around the house...in any place he can find to sleep on. He crawls ANYWHERE just to sleep. And he only wakes up when he wants to go to the bathroom. I know that cats are supposed to sleep so much...but he sleeps in the day AND night! He's quite fat also. I'm beginning to worry..because he has breathing problems. And I never want to overfeed him....what should I do? How can I make him more active so he'll live longer and be healthier? Because now, he's just growing fatter and fatter :(

You should bring your cat to the Vet. just for a check up and tell them how the cat sleeps alot & all that. But I mean it is pretty normal for a 7 year old cat to sleep alot because its getting to the "Old ages" & yes that is considerd senior. Try to throw ball's around the room when the Cat is awake and try to make it run after it, and when you buy food for it make sure it's healthy & it includes vegies and stuff like that. Good luCk*

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16/f. I'm still in love with my ex. We broke up at the beginning of June. The break-up wasn't entirly my fault, but I do take a lot of the blame. And I know that if we were to get back together, I would change so much and I would work so hard at it and try to make it last. One problem: the day we broke up he got a girlfriend and they are still together. And she is one of my friends, kind of. But I love him so much, and I want to tell him. I just don't know how to tell him, if I do. I don't know what to say or anything. And he is my best friend and I would hate to lose him if I do tell him. We have gone through a lot in the past and we are fine, it's just right now I don't know. I don't want to lose him. But this is driving me crazy, I just don't know what to do.

awee :/ woah he got a girlfriend the day you broke up? well sweetie TRUST me he's a jerk & dosen't seem like he really cares for you if he just got out of a relationship with you and then got a new girl friend. But on the otherhand he could have been trying to make you jealous by getting a girlfriend on the same exact day. I know its hard to get over a guy, but you are going to have to get over him because if he's with someone right now- forget him. Hun, no guy is worth the wait essp. 10 month's. The only way for you to get over him is by not talking to much. Everday try to talk to him less & less. +Before you know it you will be over him. Always remember no guy is worth the wait or tears or pain. & If you guys are meant to be together, it'll make its way back to you guys. but if its not meant to be; find some one who is meant to be with you- it`ll take time but you can do it! Good Luck*

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ok well im alomst 15 and im a female i have a problem i cant eat food without throwing it back up i told my mum last week n now she is trying to shuff food down my throut all the time i tried to tell her that isnt going to help but she just yells at me n says she will put me in the hositpal what should i do ive tried to talk to her but she wont listen n now my boyfriend is doing the samething can anyone help me before i go back to that place with the white walls aka hositpal!!!

First of all; the only person who can help YOU is YOU! You cant excpect to sit around and wait for someone else to help you when you can't help yourself. Are you willing to lose your boyfriend over an eating disorder & to lose your friends? You need to go to rehab. Because that will really help you with the habit of you puke`ing upe the food you eat. Help yourself, & do what's best for you. & only you! Good luck*

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okay i need help
im 16/f
well lets get this started my mum died and well when we were in thehospital when she died my dad said it was all my fault and i will nevr for give you. my brother felix has been crying ever since that and i havent cried since
at school im the biggest popularest bitch ever everyone is afraid of me.
im having sex with a 21 year old who thinks im 18. he figured out im 16 by one of my back stabbing friends. my friends thought he was a total jerk but i loved him
when i told him i loved him he thought i was nuts.
then i went off at him saying i was just this hook up for him to have sex with an stuff. and then he told me he was in love with his room mate molly who doesnt like him in that way.
i got in a car accident with my back stabbing friends
the guys driving the car ran off afraid of cops (car ended up being stolen)
an i have a broken arm which looks like a alien coming out of my skin and my face has a million scratches.
my dad is mad because he figured out i was in the stolen car. he puts me on complete lock down an is thinking about sending me to boarding school. i saw print outs of different schools. smith(21 year old guy im hooked up with) came an took me to hospital since i couldnt tell dad. but i had to go back home smith was still mad that i lied to him about my age. my dad is sorta mad now but is now im off complete lock down. an me and smith well i dunno
this is what is going on in my life. crazy yes i know.

aww I am completely sorry about your loss. Wow, you seem to be getting so much bad luck! :[ You need to talk to your dad, and tell him how you feel, tell him you loved your mom very much & it isn`t your fault. That 21 year old, just forget about him. He seem`s like an idiot anyway, You told him you loved him and he thought you were completly nuts. He seem`s like he dosen`t care about you that much & he`s just with you so he can have "fun" if you know what I mean. & You need to stop doing thing`s like getting in stolen car`s because that`s just going to get you in tons of trouble you really don`t want to be in. You need to also talk to your brother, and comfort him and tell him you are there for him. & Your arm will get better don`t worry. Just try to stay out of trouble, & I`m sorry about your loss & your arm & your dad & everything. I wish you tons & tons of luck in the future! & I hope I helped! :]

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what are some drinks, food, ANYTHING that helps speed up your metabolism? i'm not talking about excerise, cuz i'm well aware that does help. but for example, is it true adding pepper to your food speeds up your metabolism?

thanks in advance ! :)

Well, you need to make sure that you eat all 3 meals, because if you keep skipping meals then your metabolism slows down. Always eat breakfast, because that gets your metabolism going right when you wake up, which actually does make it faster. & Yes, eating peppers and anything spicy does make your meabolism faster. & When you eat make sure you keep chewing on whatever your eating untill it gets really small and then swallow it, because if you eat slowely, that makes you gain less weight. I hope I helped & Good Luck!! :]

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Alright this is kind of a weird question butttt is it a serious problem that whenever I pee it's been burning? This has been going on for about a week now. I'm on birth control and have sex if that helps? Right now it hurts a little and feels like I really need to pee when I definitely know I don't need to. Does anyone know what could be wrong? Should I go see a doctor? helppp =[

15/f

You might have a Yeast infection. Or anything related to that. Since you are on birth control & you do have sex you might have an STD. You need to make sure you drink lots of water, because that can cure whatever you have, to me it just seem`s like you have an infection. Cranberry juice is very good for cases like this, so make sure you drink lots of it. You really need to go see the doctor, asap. Good Luck & I hope I helped! :]

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you probably have an UTI [urinary tract infection] go to your doctor and tell him if you can give an urine sample and get diagnosed, its not a serious thing to worry about. :]

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Alright, so i have been wondering this for a while.. i think i have small boobs compared to everyone else i know... I am 15 years old and i am 5'4ish. i know i am probably a late bloomer, but i hate it. I was thinking of trying this High-Calorie diet thing to gain more weight so..ya know haha. Anyways, its really embarrassing because my boyfriends friends make fun of me because of it and all my friends have bigger boobs than i do and its intimidating....i know i should try a push-up bra, but i find them uncomfortable, if i had a choice i wouldnt wear them at all, but..i guess its a 'requirement' and i would be even more flat.. so im in a bit of a crisis, anyone help?

Having small boob`s isn`t a bad thing. Since you called your self a "late bloomer" your boob`s will grow, so I don`t think you should worry too much. There are these pad things that you can get at Sally`s or any beauty store. You just put them on your boob`s and they stick on there & then you just put your regular bra over it, my friend uses it & she loves it. You really shouldn`t go on a high calorie diet because you won`t like your results, you will get fatter in area`s you don`t want to get fat. So just stick to your normal diet. You could also go to Victoria`s Secret, they have really good bra`s there, and they have fuller bra`s so when you put them on your size will actually look like a good size B. I hope I helped & Good Luck! :]

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Alright, I am very excited because on january 31st its me and my boyfriends 1 year anniversary (not sure what else to call it). Anyways, i just wanted to know if any of you had any ideas on what to do or what to get him, i have a job so i have some money as well. Please give me some ideas, even you dont think they are good, just please tell me because its only 6 days away.

aww! Congrats!! :] Usually, when it`s your one year anniversary it`s so hard to think of what to get your boyfriend; since you already got him like everything! Well here are some ideas!
-You could get him a Watch and a big Teddy bear!
-You could get him a Chain
-You could get him His favorite perfume or another one that smell`s good & a shirt from his favorite store!
-If he dosen`t have an Ipod or mp3 player, you could get him that!

Those are some idea`s. I can`t think of anymore, but I hope I helped && Good Luck && Congrats +I hope you guys last forever & ever :]

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ok.. so my ex & i have been on & off, but i've hooked up with his brother.. his brother & i have decided to be friends with benefits. i'm in college right now.. && well there is a semi coming up && i want to invite him.. how should i? i want to ask him in a special way and is there anything "special" we can do after the semi?

Sincerely,
Hooking Up

how you should invite him is by just talking to him & then start out by saying, "so you know, there`s a semi comming up..and i was hoping you could go with me" and then he will probably say yes, since he does pretty much like you :] something "speacil" you could do after the semi is, go out and see a movie; or just go out and get coffee or something like that, and then maybe over to his place, or yours. :] I hope I helped & I hope everything works out+Good Luck! :]]

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HELP ME!!! I am very needy and extremly dependant on other people, and i get really nervous before presentations or sometiems even before school and i even get stomachaches all my life and they affect me in a bad way. I feel as if people dont think im good enough and I have low confidence in public and i feel like its holding me back. Is there any books i can read, or things i can do to gain confidence, and STOP caring what other people think?

I used to be just like that too when I was younger! I would try alot of things, but nothing ever really worked! It`s just a stage you go through in life, you can`t make it go away. Trust me, you are going to grow out of it, because once your body mature`s your feelings & actions change twoards things, and you become more openly about things, and you get more confidence, dont worry about it, you`ll be fine! i hope i helped :]]

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I hope I picked the right category but here it goes...
Alright so im 13/f and my cousin is 23/f. shes been dating her boyfriend for 2 years and she broke up with him and so he killed himself. he warned her that if she broke up with him he'd kill himself. hes only 23! or was..
anyway, him and her dad didnt get along very well. i feel so bad for him bcuz he was brokenhearted but he was a HUGE JERK! His parents are blaming it on HER! I feel so bad 4 her and im not gonna get into details of what he said but he was like "dont worry baby it's not your fault, you arent doing this to me" just to make her feel worse! what can i do to make her feel better? im kinda shy around her cuz i barely know her but i wanna make her feel better please help!

awee oh my god!! that`s so sadd. But anyway, what you could do to help her get through this & make her feel better is just talk to her tell her of how good of a person she is, even though you don`t know her that well. You need to spend as much time with her as possible & talk to her like you`ve known her for your whole life, be really nice to her. And explain to her that there are so many other guys in the world that would love to be with her, and remind her of how big of a jerk that guy was to her when they were going out. Just be there for her, and remind her that you wouldn`t want her to spend her life regreting something that isn`t her fault, just because some idiot decided to kill him self... isn`t her fault, AT ALLL! good luck! & I hope I helped ♥

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I need to lose 15 lbs. in a month. I hate exercising. I need dieting tips!

No matter what you eat, you have to excersize in order to lose weight. Since you want to lose about 15 pounds you should go to the grocery store and buy those meals that are made by weight watchers, or any of those dieting foods. They are very affordable, and anyone can eat them. While you do that you should RUN, running helps you lose fat everywhere around the body all at once. When you don`t have the chance to run; you can do 50 curl-ups it works very very well. If you stick to a well-balanced diet, you will be AMAZED by the results you will be seeing in just about 5 days. Good Luck & If you need any further help just drop one in the inbox! I hope I helped ♥

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okay, so I have this really nasty sweating problem, and as spring approaches I'm becoming more and more freaked out because then I'd have to wear shirts. Like literally I have giant pit stains, that's why I layer my clothes or wear sweaters so I'd cover them up. This happens all the time, and sometimes I don't even notice that I sweat but the marks are there. Does anyone know whats wrong with me? Solutions? Please help, thanks.

There isn`t anythign wrong with you,trust me! Some people just tend to sweat more than others. I think you should try the "spray on" deoderant, because i used that before and it works very well.

Check this website out;; it just might help you!
http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/sweating-and-body-odor/DS00305/DSECTION=6

I hope I helped & I wish you tons of Luck! ♥

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heres a couple questions:
a) are there anyways to make your boobs bigger (haha0 with out like pills or anything like that?

b)im kind of shy and i want to know how i can make new friends, and quick.

thanks

There really isn`t, esspecially if you are growing up. But you can stuff them Lol. Which is stupid to do, but if you really really want to have big boobs, then do that. There`s also these little pad thing's that you can get at sally`s or at wal*mart, and you stick it on your boob, & then you ware a braw over it. It makes them look fuller. Or you can just wait, they`ll grow. Don`t worry! :]

&& A way to make new friends- Just be really friendly, & talk to random people. Just be yourself & try to start up conversation's with someone sitting next to you in a class or something like that & just be like "Hey what are you doing this weekend?" Or "How was your weekend?" Or just say "What's Up?" That always works! I hope I helped && Good Luck :]

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how badly does it hurt to get your tongue pierced?

I have heard it hurts very bad. Just think of getting like a "knife" or something like that stuck in your tounge for about 10 seconds. I wouldn`t peirce my tounge if I were you, since 80% of people get infections, and all that. & When you eat food get`s stuck around it,Yuck. But good luck if you do get it perice & I hope I helped :]]

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i made out with my boyfriend last weekend for the first time and then i heard this girl using the term "french kissing"...is there any difference?

thanks in advance =]

No there isn`t a difference, some people just perfer to call it "French Kissing" & others perfer to call it "Making Out!" Hope I helped :]]

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well i had this great boyfriend and u kno went out for the entire skewl year untill like may and i miss him alot but... he dont miss me i luved him so much he wuz the first guy i ever loved! and then shortly after me n him broke up he found another girl and this girl wuz one of my best friends and i keep tryang to convince myself im alright with it but when ever i see them together i break down cryang! i relly dont kno how to make this pain stop! the other day i asked him if he relly loved this girl and he said ya and that just broke my heart! i mean he is still my best friend and he tells me everthing and calls me and stuff but its not enuff plz help! :-/

Awee♥ First of all if that girl was your `true friend` she wouldn`t of had gone out with him. You need to just put your self out there & go out wtih guys you don`t really like so much, & later on you will like them. That`s the easiest thing to do to get over a guy & trust me it works. & don`t talk to the guy you cant get over alot because the more you talk to him the more you are going to fall in love with him, you should ignore him for a little while untill you are about half way over him & then just talk to him once in a while, & before you know it you`ll be loving some other guy & I hope everything works out & If you need any further help just stop by and ask or you can I.M me MaLa MiNeLa xO is my sn, because I have been through this & it took me forever to get over him! Great Luck ♥ =)

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