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OBESE FRIEND
WELL my friend is way over weight...and she wears a 2 peice, and she looks really sick in it. She's really just embarassing herself by wearing it. How do i tell her this!? Or should i just let her embarass herself?...Help..its really sick!!
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I know that2 deep down your friend knows shes "obese", but she doesnt want to admit it, she obviously has a high self consions about herself and you woudn't want to spoil that. Its good that your looking out for your friend but if you think shes embaressing herself then tell her, but in the nicest possible manner e.g i dont really think thats your colour or even better take her to a shop and find something you think is her size and say ooh id totally wear this,or wow it really brings out your eyes. And your friend will agree and hopefully buy it. Don't make your friend upset, she might not want to think of her self as a obese person which helps her self asteam. Good Luck
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the best thing to do instead of hurting your friends feelings is maybe taking her to a store and look at some whole pieces and be like this one is cute why dont you try this one on...i think this one is the perfect one..so you will be happy and that your friend wont be angry with you or embarrassed
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I think that shes already embarrased herself more than enough.So be a good freind and tell her the truth.Tell her shes embarrasing herself and if she wanst to wear a 2 peice to lose some weight.Ask her ,"What would you say if you saw a overweight girl wearing a 2 peice?"
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dont tell her she looks fat. she wont like you and might develope an eating disorder. tell her you want to go bathing suit shopping, and when your at a place, find a bathing suit and be like 'omg i LOOVE this' and then try it on. then come back out and say that it doesnt fit you, and tell her to try it for fun. (also, if she tries on one, YOU should also try it on)
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ask her to go shopping with you and pick up a bunch of one piece suits or whatever would look decent on her. tell her she looks better with a one peice.
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i know that friends can sometimes be embarassing, so you should tell them whats embarrassing about them, but in a nice way. just tell her in a way that you would want her to tell you if you were in her position hun.
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Hmm , Well Think of it this way.
If you were her, would you want someone to tell you?
Most likely yes. If she needs to loose some weight, you should confront her, but in a nice way. Friends should always be honest with eachother ,and you dont want her to be embarassed.
Good luck!
--KEndra
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You should tell her. This happens all too often and girls tend to have no clue. Break it to her easily. Or, you can have a fat dude break it to her.
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I think worrywart is probably "obese". As for your question, I would just let her do it. Eventually she should pick up on people laughing at her or being grossed out by her rolls. By the way, you really are a horrible person for asking this question.
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Talk to her about it! Don't come straight out and tell her, but hint towards it. Go bathing suit shopping and say something like, "I think I need to try a one piece! I think I'm too chubby and I think it's not very attractive when chubby people wear 2-pieces!" Then point to a 1-piece and say that would look good on youu. Not right after you say that but maybe 10 min. she won't be as suspicious!
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well i think u should tell her the truth because u r just looking out for her. if she likes two pieces then go shopping with her and try to talk her into getting a two peice where the top goes to her hips because those r cute and dont show what shouldn't be seen.
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As a person who hates to see bad fashion happen to good people I would ask her why she likes it, maybe she feels attractive in it or maybe thats all she has and has no choice. At the end of the day though being a friend doesn't mean turning a blind eye to mistakes our friends make or decsions we don't agree with it means caring enough to tell the truth, even when it may hurt the other person. I mean would you rather hear something like this from a friend or from someone who is teasing or being mean??
As someone who would rather the truth then a lie this is what I would do.
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There's nothing wrong with your friend wearing a 2 piece. If there was then the company's wouldn't make them in sizes bigger than a 6 but they do, so we wear them. Be glad that your friend has high enough self esteem to wear something like that. Who cares if she's not the best looking girl in a 2 piece? People that make rude comments to overweight ppl don't realize this, but when you say hurtful things, it doesn't help them loose weight. It makes them more depressed and lowers there self esteem and brings on more bad eating habits. Let her be happy just the way she is.
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Well!! Now thats not very nice!! How could you consider her your friend if you would say such a mean thing about her?? She obviously is proud of herself and she doesn't care what people think, she can have fun just like every other girl, just a little pudgy. Dont say anything to her and I suggest you respect her! If thats what she wants to do then let her do it!! Later!
Much love && sunshine
Neelz ♥
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THats really rude. Sounds to me that Your emabarrassed to be with her And its not her embarrassing herself.If she wears the bathing suit then it obviously doesnt bother her && that being said it shouldnt bother you either.
I say let it go and get on with life.
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Wow, if you're her 'friend' you shouldn't be judging her like this. Sure, you might be embarrassed of her, but that's not being a good friend. I guess tell her if it really bugs you, but you'll be losing a friend. :/
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Well it sounds like it's embarassing YOU and not her. If it bothered her I don't think she would wear it, and who cares what everyone else thinks. I wouldn't say anything. If it's what she wants to wear, she can wear it.
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