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Promise a guy makes and brakes it!! What do I do?
Hello, i am an 18 yr old grl dating a 28 yr old guy. See i have this thing with me not going to have sex till marriage which is not a bad thing... right? well my b/f knows this and knows my limits.. but see everytime we get alone and stuff he always tries to stick his dick in me. He almost did about hmmmm should i say 5 TIMES!!!!!!
Its not easy to remain abstinent but i tell you what its not FUN EITHER!! Its like your head is telling you go for it and grab the fuckin condoms but yet your heart is like wait a fuckin min. do you really know this guy or is he just using you for sex?? see the 17th is our 5th month anniversay
but yet i knew him for a few months before we started dating. so my question is to you all is what am i supposed to do. He promised me he would never do it again but yet he said that last time. I told him hes lucky b/c usually its like a baseball game 3 strikes your out!! but yet i've given him 5 chances so far and this is the last chance. So what should i do?? let him try and screw me or what?? See I love him to death but as you can tell i am not ready yet! I need help and need it bad! Plz someone help me.. i really need it!!
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Stick to your morals, and remind him that you're NOT going to have sex until you're married. If he can't respect that, dump his ass.
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Girl, Im 17, and I have been in this situation many times before, (Fortunately I am also still a virgin, so I can relate to how you feel about the abstinance.) and I have to tell you, you have to say something to him. If you try telling him that you are aware of what hes trying to do and you also need to tell him that you warned him in the beginning and he already knows that you would like to practice celebacy. TELL HIM that if he tries it again, its over, tell him not to take advantage of you because you love him and he knows it. Sometimes guys will try that. So tell him exactly how you feel. Believe me, he will stop or either he will get mad leave you alone, and if thats the option he takes, then youre better off because then you know that he was just after your "Goodies."
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YOUNG LADY!!!!!
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well, you really need to make him aware of your limits. i know you "love him" but sometimes, people lie, especially guyz (no offense :D ) and i am sooooo proud of you for holding out. but the guy will push your limits and then you just tell him...but, men will be men! and you know that! but if i was you, i'd not pout myself in a postion to where he can "stick it in you" and there should be no problem. good luck grl
Juelz
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Dont let him pressurrue you into anything!!!! It is so so so so so so wrong!!!!!!! Tell him if he cant wait hes not woth it!!
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Bianca
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He doesn't respect you, and considering the fact that he is ten years your senior he has absolutely no excuse for behaving so immaturely.
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He's 10 years older. WHY CANT HE GET A GIRL HIS OWN AGE?
That's not even to mention his disrespect of you.
Dump his sorry ass.
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follow your heart! 4 months isn't that long! i would wait a while! and he isn't worth it if he is pressuring you! be safe and like i said..trust your heart! set boundries..and follow them! i hope i helped! rate me please!
<3*Chelsea xoxo
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Ok I'm not sure if your first question was rhetorical or not but no,waiting 'till marraige to have sex is not a bad thing.I applaude you for remaining abstinent but it doesn't seem as if your boyfriend does too.Remind him of your morals and if he doesn't respect them maybe you two aren't right for each other.
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stick to your principles. thats always more important then pleasure.
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Go with what your heart tells you. You said yourself your not ready, so why do something you dont wanna do. If he loves and cares for you then he will understand. Although it sounds like hes forgotten uhm 5 times. Tell him your not ready. Be honest and open. Remember trust is the BIGGEST part of a relationship! gOOD lUCk! -aMaNdA<3*
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Wow, you've managed to go a really long time! Keep it up! I really wish that I had, and so does my fiance. You have an admirable goal, and I think that you should stick with it, especially if you're not ready. Don't do anything until you are ready. You will feel so much better about yourself if you at least wait until you are really comfortable with it.
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I think that you need to let him go you have givin him so many chances and everything and this is still happening i mean yeah hes 10 years older then you and i mean hes a horn dog i think that you 18 and there are so many other guys out there that would respect you a bit more then he does cause i mean he should even try to dick with u haha made a funny sorry anyway but i think that you should let him go if says that he wouldnt do it again and broke a promise and everything i mean you can see where this is going hes just going to continue trying to stick his dick in you and everything but i give you ups on still being a virgin i am too and im 17
Hope everything turns out okay
-Cass-
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You are not ready, so don't have sex. It's as simple as telling your boyfriend - in a serious tone - that waiting until marriage is what you want to do.
If you tell him this, and he still tries to penetrate you, then it's clear he does not respect you or your feelings.
You might love him to death, but having sex before you are ready can mess you up emotionally, get you pregnant, or give you a disease. You deserve to find someone who loves you - and if your boyfriend doesn't care about your beliefs, then he does not love you.
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come on you should know that if a guy breaks a promise, then he's taking advantage of your forgiveness and he'll do it again! don't give him 3 strikes! let him go now. show him that you won't be used. i know its not what you want to hear...
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Wow you rock gurl! Saving yourself is the way to go i`m proud! Wow and this guy is being a jerk if he isn`t listening to you. Tell him that this is important to you and if he doesn`t understand that then he`s out. Good luck babe, and stick with abstinence, it`s your commitment and dont let one guy that you dont even know if your going to spend the rest of your life with, change that.
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Oh geesh. Well my motto is "Once they pop..they cant stop". Your mans hornyness probably over rules his head at the time. Just stick to your morals..no matter how hard it is. You will be so happy you did later on. If he cant respect your wishes than you should really re-consider him. Though i am sure that it is extremely hard for him to keep control if you guys are getting all hot and heavy..so maybe if you want to avoid the near sex situations..you should tone what you do down a little bit. You just need to do what you feel is right :)
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Okay, this guy needs a serious talking to. You set your limits, and he needs to respect that. Either that, or you need to get rid of him.
He breaks his promises, and you keep giving him more chances. It's good that this is the last chance.
DO NOT change your values for him. Sex is not a need, it's a desire. Desires can be left unfulfilled. It's good that you know you're not ready. You should never do anything you're not ready for, and he shouldn't try to make you.
I really don't think this guy is doing you any good. As much as you may love him, really think about what he's been doing. That's as good as rape, and that's not cool.
He needs to know that he either starts respecting your limits, your decisions and your ideals, or he gets the boot. That's what I'd do, anyway.
I hope this helped!
-Siren =)
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Baby,that's a 10 year difference and at our ages,that's way too much. 28 and 18 is a LOT different than 45 and 35. Don't ask me why,it just is. Consider the gap,he's graduated college,have you even started? He should be starting his career,you still need to be enjoying your youth. He's ready for sex,understandably at 28,but you're not at 18. Should you let him "screw you"? Hell no. Don't have sex if you're not ready. He's trying to take advantage of your being young and he wants some young pussy. That's the truth.
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If he can't honor your limits then you don't need him!
If you aren't ready then you aren't ready and it's completely wrong of him to keep trying to push sex on you, and in such a brutish way. That is a MAJOR invasion of your personal space.
Next time you get together (if there is a next time) don't let him get into a position where he can do that.
Sorry, I know this sounds harsh, but he sounds like a complete jerk.
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stick to your decision and dont have sex til you are ready!! thats a big age difference.. and if he keeps doing it and it gets to you maybe you should take a break or find someone more around your age =( sowwy.. gl!<3
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