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Prengancy
hi. i've been with my b/f for about 5 mo. and i'm 14 and he's 16. i REALLY want to have a baby! i don't know why i just ReAlLy do! but also my cuz whos 20 's g/f just had a baby and she was 17(now 18) and they really struggle with financial problems. then his bro was dating a woman last year and just 2 weeks ago found out he was a dad. i really want to have a baby! what should i do?
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i think you should wait. talk to your mom about maybe having another baby or ask you parents into fostering a child. your way to young to have a child trust me im the same age. you could think your ready but it could ruin your life forever. talk to someone that u trust (someone of the same sex) and tell them how u feel
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You should wait- 14 it is too young to start a family- you already have to worry about school and everything else- bringing a baby into you life would just bring alot of stress into your life. but when your older then of course!
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You are too young to be thinking about having a baby.. Wait until your out of school and you are stable enough to have a family.. you are to young to want a baby right now.. you have your whole life ahead of you... Having a child is a very big responsibility.. and you are young... and when you have a baby you have no time for friends.... going out.. or anything.. so live your life as a teenager.. and think about having a baby when you have the money.. The home..... and the things she will need... money.. Love....
I hope I helped..
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welll your only 14.. are you srue you want a baby? youll have to quit school and live with your boyfriend and get a job working at a fast food place. and are you sure your up for that? its gonna be tough but if you want to have a baby then you should have one but remember once you have it theres no changing your decison. it will always be with you. forever
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I really dont think that someone at the age of 14 is ready for a baby, no offense. Maybe youre really mature but probably not mature enough at 14. And with all the bad luck youre cousin is having and his brother, If i were you, id wait. best wishes
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That is really awsome that you want to have a baby, but considering you are 14.. I would not reccommend it. You have only been with your boyfriend for 5 months... you dont know if you are going to be with him the rest of your life, and you dont wanna make a big mistake. Think about your future.. and what the babies future would be like. Dont rush into things.
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I think you're too young (but thats my opinion) I think you should talk to your boyfriend about what you are thinking.. because he will listen if he loves you and he will help you
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you should deff. keep what you got in your pants!! your like really too young!! you better think this threw gurl!!!! GOOD LUCK AND STAY SAFE!!!! :) <3 liiiza!
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hun, you shouldnt have a baby... your only 14 an it messes up your social life, you wont be able to go out with friends, sleepovers, an your partner wouldnt be able to so that could cause a break up an you being a single mom wait till you know that you can give that stuff up an talk to your mom about it...
x0o Shellz
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Ok. Try to think of why in the world you would want a child. How would you feed it, clothe it, and shelter it? You are too young to get a job. He can't get a high paying job because he is so young. You need at least 26,000 a year just for a child. That doesn't include you? How are you going to get around?
If you just want the attention, forget it you are too young. If you just like children and think they are cute, babysit for your cousin or other close family member. There is nothing wrong with liking and taking care of children, but its terribly difficult if you are too young. There is so much more to do in the world at your age than stay home with a child. You have friends and things you want to do that will not work out when you have a baby. You will either not have the money or the time or the babysitter.
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For god sake don't do it. You've got your whole life ahead of you to do that kind of stuff. It'll fuck up your life, guaranteed.
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ok first of all u dont want to have a baby at that young of an age it will ruin your life...u gotta have fun while ur young! u need to fun in life first then when ur a lil older u can have kids and stuff...but if u truly want a kid then tell ur boyfriend about it
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DON'T HAVE A BABY! You may feel like you do but when the time comes you won't like it. Baby's reguire alot of time (obviously) that means you have to care for that baby, no friends, no dating. And since you have to finish school you might have to go to a new one for teenage mothers. It is emotionally and phisically draining to have a baby even for some adults. You should wait until you are old enough to have a job to support the baby.
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Wait till your older! if you have a baby now ull ruin your whole life. Trust me i know this stuff just if you havnt beleived anyone beleive me please. I am 16 years old and i have a 2 your old son and daughter there twins. And i ruined my life royally by not listening to my friends and family. My kids wake me up at night crying so the next morning im whiped out for s chool. I had to move in with my boyfriend which he is now my fiance because my parents kicked me out. And just trust me i cant go out and party with my friends now because i have two kids to take care of. And its just harder to have kids at a young age then when your older trust me on this one. I lost my job i have no money and were depending on my fiance for money plz dont be like me! wait till your older.
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Short N Punky
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you sound a lot like me when i was 14. i loved the idea of having a family and everything but being 14 it isnt the time. no matter how much you think you LOVe your boyfriend now. at such a young age boyfriends arent really the most stable thing and when you have a baby you want to make sure you have a stable relationship and can support yourself. also labor is TONS of pain. so if you dont like pain i definantly WOULDNT want to have a baby right now. plus your still in school and a baby would basically ruin your chances of having a good career when your older. you need to just wait to have a baby. its very unhealthy to have a baby at such a young age. no matter how bad you want one. you will regret if you have one at this young age. trust me and just wait til your older! you see the problems your family is having and they are older.it would so much worst for you since your younger. so just wait and trust me on this one. its better to wait..
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14 is a very very young age to have a baby. You'll get many people descriminating you at school and your social life will most likely go down the gutter. Also, many young mothers who have children before they get into college have to drop out of school after their required years of education (sophomore year) Perhaps you could take in the habit of babysitting or even ask your parents for a baby sister or brother.
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hey first off its alot of trouble having a baby at a young age..its not fun and you will not get to do alot of things with friends and it cost money.I think it would be better if you waited till you finished school.Hope I helped
-Hal
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to make it short.. ur not ready.. u awnt a baby.. u pretty much are one.
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hormoanal changes in your body are going to make you want a baby. its a human instinkt to have a baby. but for your sake and the babys sake wait until you have a good job and are able to give the baby a good life.
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Wait until you're at least 18! You have to wait for a baby. 14?! That's usually freshman in high school, which is just out of junior high! Do not. You are not emotionally ready for a baby and I doubt your boyfriend is. If you lov elittle kids, babysit or something. Wait to have a child, though, please!
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OK you can not even fully take care of yourself ( since your only 14 i do not think you pay all of the bills) how can you take care of someone else ?Can you ( not your mommy and daddy or other family and friends ) buy your baby clothes and diapers and food ? Can you always be there 24/7 . I do not think you drop out of school right now to raise it . Will you not miss all the going out with your friends and doing fun stuff cause if you have baby where ever you go it will have to go . And I guess since you want to have a baby , you might be having sex which means you might get your wish anyways , cause no condom is 100% ( and wearing 2 , 3 , or 4 .....) will not change that they are only 80% percent effective .
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Ok hunny... here comes the answer that everyone is trying so desperately to avoid. Why do you think you really want to have a baby? Girls who want so badly to have a baby are lacking something... they are lacking love and affection and a dependency. You are only 14!!!! You are still a baby and you need to reach inside yourself and see why it is that you really want to have one.. fix that, and then your wish will fade away until you are in a better situation.. ie: married to the love of your life and financially stable. Trust me girl... there is another reason why you want a baby... and the answer to that reason is not to bring another entity into this world who would not be able to have the life everyone, especially you, would want to give it. Stop and think. Sorry for being blunt.. but someones got to do it.
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honey you are a baby. i'm 23 years old and i'm the only one out of all my friend that does not have a baby. i know that i'm not ready because i see how they struggle. they can't have a life because they are parents. there is too much living to do. my boyfriend and i have been together for 6 years and a baby is still far on our list of things to do. please enjoy your youth. when i was younger, i hated when adults would tell me "don't rush to grow up, it's not as fun as you think". now i see that they were right and that was the best advice anyone could have given me because it is so true.
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Shit, I didn't have kids until we were 26, and THAT was not exactly easy.
You have no clue what you'd be getting yourself into. You are not financially secure, you are not emotionally secure, you are not at all independent, though you likely think that you are.
You are absolutely NOT ready for a child. A child is not a play thing - it is a huge undertaking, a responsibility that you cannot set aside for whatever whimsy comes your way. Once you have a kid, you have no life - for your life now belongs to the kid, because it needs you. Are you ready for that?
p.s. - interesting how, according to the questions you've asked on this site that you're 14, you're also 12, and you're 10 and have already been pregnant.
Bye bye.
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YOU REALLY NEED TO WAIT! I think you are just trying to grow up to fast., even if you are in love, if you love yourself enough you would wait. You will miss out on EVERYTHING a teenager is supposed to do. PLus at 15 i dont think you are responsible enough to bring a child into the world. Wouldnt you want your kid to grow up having the best? and with two young parents that isnt very possible. This is a very serious step, and you need to look at the Whole situation. Maybe you should babysit kids or something if you want to be around them, but trust me sweetie you have your WHOLE life to have a kid, and i dont thjinkg now is the time...
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u need to wait! you shouldnt have a baby at least until your settled in, out of school, and on your own. 14 is way to young. you dont have money, your with your parents, and its just not cool.
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