My name is Chelsea, I'm 17 & a senior in high school. I like giving advice and helping people in general. I have the most experience in areas like family issues, dealing with friends and losing friends, pregnancy scares, and moving. I've made mistakes and learned from them. That's where my experience comes from. So why not help someone in the same situation that you've already been in? I'll try to do just that, and if you have a question don't hesitate to ask!
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Do any of you guys have any good ideas of books to redesign the book cover? I need an idea for my Computer Graphics class. (link)
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i think redesigning one of stephanie meyers book covers from the Twilight series would be pretty cool.
or A Million Little Pieces by James Frey.
any of those are good books that have cool covers already, and could easily be created anew!
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so in going to my first concert next week and i'm excited and nervous at the same time. It's like, a hardcore, emo concert. what should i expect? and should i wear a hoodie? it is going to be really hot? its in new york (link)
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tshirt. jeans. sneakers.
like the girl below me said. its REALLY HOT. espically if you plan on moving around or moshing or anything like that, be prepared to sweat lol. but pretty much all concerts are really fun and you'll probably have a blast!
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My friends and I (It will probably be me and 2 or 3 others) want to take a trip to a beach, possibly over spring break, or if not, the summer. we're wondering about how much it would cost to rent an apartment or something within walking distance of the beach for a week. we don't particularly care where, as long as its by the ocean and WARM. How much would the trip cost, approximately? We don't plan on doing big things-- mostly just hanging out on the beach and sight-seeing. we'd probably drive there in a small car, so i'm not sure how much gas would cost...
basically, i'm just looking for some estimates here to get the planning going. we're happy to stay pretty much anywhere. we're not picky and we don't have a lot of money. suggestions, please? (link)
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Hey, I live in Wilmington North Carolina. It's right on the coast and there are like three major beaches here, Wrightsville Beach, Carolina Beach, and Kure Beach (which is basically the in the same place as Carolina Beach). There's also Topsail Island/Topsail beach and thats in Surf City North Carolina which is about twenty minutes away.
Wrightsville is in my opinion the "nicest" of the bunch, probably Wrightsville or Topsail are the most expensive, but IS a nice area. Here are some apartments and the prices I found for them.
http://www.move.com/apartments_north-carolina/wrightsville-beach.aspx
Carolina Beach is my favorite, and probably your best bet. There are a lot of apartments and things out there, a lot of cool places, and a lot of places with good food. It's more developed than the rest, but when you're closest to the ocean it's not bad. Here's some for Carolina Beach.
http://www.move.com/searchresults.aspx?styp=rent&loc=carolina+beach%2c+NC&dist=0&mnpr=&mxpr=&mnbed=&mnbath=&mnsqft=&gar=&flrs=&ptyp=1&ptyp=2&ptyp=3&ptyp=4&ptyp=5&ptyp=11&ptyp=12&ptyp=6&ptyp=7&ptyp=9&ptyp=10&ptyp=8&ptyp=13&ptyp=14
And also here are some for Kure Beach. The only thing I've seen seperating Kure Beach and Carolina Beach are some signs on the side of the road saying "you're now in Kure Beach", pretty much the same place,.same area.
http://www.move.com/searchresults.aspx?styp=rent&loc=carolina+beach%2c+NC&dist=0&mnpr=&mxpr=&mnbed=&mnbath=&mnsqft=&gar=&flrs=&ptyp=1&ptyp=2&ptyp=3&ptyp=4&ptyp=5&ptyp=11&ptyp=12&ptyp=6&ptyp=7&ptyp=9&ptyp=10&ptyp=8&ptyp=13&ptyp=14
There were only a few I could find for Topsail. But, there's a ton of cool places to go at Topsail too. And a really good seafood place called Crabby Mikes, if you like that kind of stuff.
http://www.move.com/searchresults.aspx?styp=rent&loc=topsail+beach%2c+NC&dist=0&mnpr=&mxpr=&mnbed=&mnbath=&mnsqft=&gar=&flrs=&ptyp=1&ptyp=2&ptyp=3&ptyp=4&ptyp=5&ptyp=11&ptyp=12&ptyp=6&ptyp=7&ptyp=9&ptyp=10&ptyp=8&ptyp=13&ptyp=14
hope i helped and good luck!
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Okay so I had the perfect relationship up until the end. Me and my now ex boyfriend made the mistake of have sex one night without a condom and we thoght I had become pregnant. Well after we had found out that I wasn't we decided to break off the relationship so we didnt make that same mistake and we could finish school and stuff. At first everything was okay and we were still really close... Like you have no idea how much I love this boy. NO one knows me better and I know that he felt the same. After a while I couldnt handle the fact that we were not together so I had to tell him that I had to stop talking to him for a while so I could be able to get over everything.. Well now he found a new girl and I have never been so jealous in my life. I feel he has replaced me and now I dont know what to do..... I know I should feel this way but I still love him and I cant talk to him because I have already tried but I cant get the words out..... I'm really confused right now. (link)
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girl i just went though/am going through something very similar to you. i know it's hard. you need to follow your heart. if you think he's the one for you, then tell him that. you can't control if the feeling is mutual or not, but you can at least be happy in knowing that you tried and you made how you felt known. secondly, feeling replaced is never or an easy or fun thing to deal with, so you need to realize that you are a unique and special individual. it sounds cheezy but its true. his new girl isnt you, and no one will ever be you. you may be hurt and down, and it may take you some time to get back up, but it'll be worth it when you do.
so good luck, i hope i helped you!
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Okay so i used 2 have this best friend! and then about a year or so ago we had this HUGE fight! Over an ex of mine. but then later on we both apologized, so we were friends. but we really havn't talked much since then, I guess we drifted apart. BUT i just got an email from her asking why i would spread mean rumors about her around the school! She said that she wishes we were friends,
WhAT do i do, i didn't say anything bad about her. (link)
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I was in a sitation exactly, to a T, like yours. My advice to you is that you really need to have a long discussion with your friend, about everything. You need to tell her upfront that you didn't say anything bad about her. You need to think about if you want to continue your friendship with her, because it seems like she misses you. From my experience, I know what you mean about not talking and drifting apart. It may always feel a little awkward with her now after that fight. But you have to think, she was your best friend. Could you put it all behind you or should you go your seperate ways. Its all about whats best for you. SO, think about that. And deffinetley have a talk with her.
Good luck!
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well this is concerning the last topic you commented on of mine.
Its going on 2 weeks now and yeah my monthley should start on sat, but for the past two days my stomack has been kinda hurting like cramping like menstral cramps, could it gust be that from excercise that it is doing that or that my monthley is coming up? (link)
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since its supposed to be coming on saturday my best guess would be that its just menstral cramps. the exercise can be increasing the cramps, but giving that its this close to saturday, it should be coming any time. so keep a look out!
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at the beginning of Step Up 2 when Andie and Tyler Gage are battling at the club... it sounds like a spanish hip hop sorta but i cant make out any words to google it. i looked on the soundtrack list but dont really see anything it could be and my speakers dont work so i cant listen to those. does anyone know what it is? please only answer if you know for sure thanks! (link)
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http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Step_Up_2_the_Streets_%28soundtrack%29
theres a list of all the songs in the movie, it might be No Te Veo.
hope i helped you
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Well just like everyone else I like having music to listen to about what's going on in my lifee. But I can't really find anything good lately. Can anyone list me a few songs? I like the alternative, acoustic music. Songs about heartbreak and relationships and all the good stuff please? :) (link)
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hmm i hope these help!
glen hansard - all the way down
david matthews band - let you down
coldplay - trouble
eagle eyed cherry - save tonight
john mayer - dreaming with a broken heart
john mayer - why did you mess with forever
( a lot of songs by john mayer sound like what youre looking for, hes awesome and im a big fan)
kate nash - foundations
maria mena - miss you love
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okay, so i'm gonna try to make this story as short as possible. there's this guy and he's liked me for a little over 2 years (he hooked up with/went out with other girls during that time but that was only during times when we were in a fight or i stopped talking to him for a little while... as soon as i started talking to him again he broke up with the girl/stopped hooking up with her. keep in mind that i didn't know that this was the reason that he broke up with the girl/stopped hooking up with her.. so i'm not like a bitch or anything i just wanted him as a friend). so anyways, i never really liked him like that until this summer. we hooked up like all summer and we went out for like a week but i didn't really want a boyfriend because i wanted the freedom. but i really did love him. and don't say i can't be in love after a week because we've been best friends for like 3 years and we've had a 'boyfriend girlfriend relationship but not really going out' for like 2 years. anyways, i made it pretty clear to him that i didn't want a boyfriend. this is for lots of reasons: i wanted freedom, my friends would make fun of me (this isn't THAT big of a deal.. but it's a long story), i feel like when i have a boyfriend my friends are more distant no matter how hard i try, and i'm not as close with my guy friends. anyways, my problem is that he's becoming more distant.. like he talks to me different and stuff, doesn't care as much about talking to me. he used to text me all the time but now i mostly have to text him first. he still like tells me he loves me and stuff though. and we haven't hung out in like 2 weeks.. which is weird since during the summer i saw him like 2-3 times a week. i kinda have a feeling that he likes/ is hooking up with another girl but i feel like if he was doing that he would tell me because he would feel guilty. i'm not sure though because i know he thinks i led him on a lot and like fucked with him so maybe he thinks i don't deserve to know. anyways, i'm not really sure what to do. i get jealous REALLY easily and i know he's been talking to other girls. so i know that means i really like him if i'm getting jealous enough to write about this on advicenators. i want him to be like just mine but i don't wanna go out with him. i know that's really selfish and stuff but i'm not really sure what to do. help? (link)
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I think you in a way answered your own question. YOU need to figure out what YOU want. If you love this guy, you need to tell him that, and not worry what your friends say. Since he isn't your boyfriend, he does have the right to talk to and be with other girls. But my best advice to you would be to talk to him and tell him that you still love him and you wouldn't mind being together with him, ask him how he feels about that. If he doesn't feel the same way anymore and wants to be with other girls then you have to accept that and try still being friends. A lot of girls have problems with getting jealous, god knows i do too! But its something we have to deal with and when things go wrong you pick up and move on. But good luck with your situation and hopefully things will turn out the way you want them.
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Hi, i am 17 and my bf is 18. And last weekend we were kinda fooling around yeah it involved protection, me still a virgin went along with it to see what it was like, anyway i am not on the pill but he used protection how likely is it that i am pregnant cuz idk and i am afraid of that ... i've also ben feeling kinda sick for the past few day that isnt helping or it could be that i am gust making myself sick about thinking of it. I plan to wait untill my monthely which is in a weeks time, but i gust need help decifering if i could be or not.. and yeah i know buying a pregnancy kit would work gust as well which i may resort to on the weekend.
also no the protection didnt break and he only took it off after he was done, keeping all fluid away from me so as to avoid the chances.
Thanks for your help.
Lizard-Girl (link)
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the person below me is right. if you worry too much it will make you feel sick, and basically make your mind think youre pregnant. i know its hard but try not to worry. it sounds like nothing went wrong, so you shouldnt have anything to worry about. but trust me, worrying makes things worse. my period was a week late once because i was so stressed about it. just try to relax. and always use protection.
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I have experienced plenty of orgasms from the clit but I have never experienced an orgasm from the g-spot.. is there a real big difference with how the orgasms feel?
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ive heard that if you can get an orgasm from the gspot than its more intense than an orgasm just by your clit
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I REALLY want to try tampons. I've tried it once and it wasn't good. so i just use pads. But whenever i want to try tampons, i keep chickening out!!!!
is there anyway to get confidence and just do it?
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Just make sure you have the right size and brand of tampon. I don't know about other people but from experiance, I think Pearl tampons are the best. If you put it in and it hurts, it is either too big of a tampon, or you put it in wrong/too far. Just go for it is all you can really do, make sure you are prepared with the right tamps.
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14/f
okay, my boyfriend calls me his everything.. and that he doesn't want to loose me and stuff like that.. and me & him worked out EVERYTHiNG so theres basically nothing wrong in the relationship. but one of the things that we worked out still bothers me.. cause yannoe it was dealing with this girl .. who used to be my friend cause she talked behind my back and stuff.. and was also his last girlfriend. and it had been almost a year since they've broken up. and hes kinda stupid in relationships cause they stopped talking because she was talking behind my back to him, so he didn't want to be friends with her anymore. and like 2 months later she talked to him first, and now they're friends again. like.. bestfriends. so thats why i can't trust them together yannoe? cause she told him that she doesn't hate me and she stopped talking about me a long time ago. but EVERYBODY knows she hates me... she even left some clues that are obvious that says she hates me.. and she talked about me to him, but he was slow enough not to know. and he says "she wouldn't lie to me.. cause we're good friends." and he even talks about our relationship problems with her.. but the reason why i have changed, and i don't want her to get to know me anymore. and then when we talked it out... he told me that he'll change and he'll come to me now, and talk it out with me for now on. and that he loves me, and that his ex and him are bestfriends.. but she could basically be his mother (not the first time i heard that), and that i'm not competing with her or anything. >. (link)
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I was in a situation similar to yours recently, and I know it isn't easy.
But really honestly, I do think you need to consider everything here, the pros and cons about him if you want to. You shouldn't stick around if you think you're going to get hurt, and if other people that see you in the situation and see him first hand are saying that you should break up, then they're saying it to help you.
If you believe that you can do better, which you could, then you should do it! Don't limit yourself to what you have at the moment, and don't settle for anything less than what makes you completely 100% happy all of the time. A boyfriend that isn't completely yours, really isn't a very good boyfriend. And you should get what you deserve, and that is one that you can call your own for sure
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Okay, well I like all types of music. (Rock, Hip-hop, rap, oldies, 80's, all types) Well, I am looking for the following type of songs:
1) Songs for a friend that has been there for me.
2) Songs that are good. And that keep you thinking about life.
Can anyone please tell me songs. I'd greatly appreciate it. Thanks(: (link)
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I know a couple country songs that are about friends like that. One of them is called Find Out Who Your Friends Are by Tracy Lawerence feat. Tim Mcgraw & Kenny Chesney. Also there is one called My Best friend by Tim Mcgraw but that one is more about lovers.
Also, there is My best friend by Weezer.
songs that make me really think about life and stuff like that are a lot of songs by John Mayer. such as Gravity, Vultures, New Deep, Clarity, and Bigger Than My Body.
hope i helped.
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My boyfriend used to weigh 300 pounds but he lost a bunch of weight and hes around 180 now. He lost his weight so quickly so he has some skin hanging. He is so self concious about it how can I make him feel better about it? (link)
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Make sure that if he mentions it, tell him you don't mind or give him compliments randomly, like telling him he looks nice today or that he smells good, whatever you like about his appearance. But also don't forget to make sure he knows that you don't only like him for his looks, but that he has a great personality as well.
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I am a very jealous/protective type, the main reason is I have been hurt so much in the past. I am currently in a long distance relationship with an amazing guy who I love very much, and I know he has girlfriends and he has a flirt personality, I do also. But sometimes he will be online after he said hes gone to bed, he could of left his computer on to download music, but I know at one time he talked toa lot of girls on here, which bothers me. I know people have online buddies they talk to but is there any way I can get over this jealousy? He told me to think about it that if he had another girlfriend why would he want me to be down there all the time that he loves me and wants to be with me always. What should I do? (link)
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That is a hard part about long distance relationships. My advice to you would be, if it really bothers you, talk to him about it seriously and honestly. Being that you are in a long distance relationship, living away from eachother means having to have a lot of trust in eachother.
Let him know that you care about him and love him, and make sure that you both DO have a strong trust, hopefully that can make you a bit more reassured he loves you and only you when it comes to your jealousy.
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i know masturbation is healthy and all, but how much is too much? i masturate 2-3 times a day, mostly right before i go to bed at night, but sometimes during the day when noones home. (link)
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As long as your masturbating isn't consuming your life, and you still leave the house and talk to people, then it isn't a bad thing. Right before bed and being a lone at home are probably the best times, so no, it is now too much.
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I dated one of my best friends for like a month, and I really really loved him this was long time ago.. anyways he broke up with me and that was okay and stuff, and he said that he would always have feelings, and after we broke up we were still friends and we still hung out at school, then he just started being an ass hole? and like now he won't even talk to me anymore. sometimes he will talk now he won't at all. if I say hi on msn he won't even say anything back and hes just being a real dick. he cheated on me to I heard from all his friends.. the most pathetic thing is I still love himl he will ALWAYS be special to me. I loved him alot, he was my best friend I felt like I could tell him anything. and I did. and he did the same with me, and it sucks because Idk what he wants?? why did he do this? is he only nice to me when it suits him?? (link)
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The last thing you said is probably the answer to your question, he's only nice when it suits HIS OWN wants. And that is a prime characteristic of a real jerk.
If he cheated on you, and now he is being this way, my best advice to you would just be to try your hardest to move on, but we all know that is easier said than done. Maybe try to not talk to him for a while, give yourself space to get over him and that situation, maybe talk to other guys if you want to. See what happens. Just know that you are better than that, and you will find someone one day that won't be such a buttwipe. =]
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when i can't sleep i normally rub my clit. that doesn't give me an orgasm though. all that happens is my legs twitch once maybe twice. and i don't like to finger myself it is just uncomfertable to me. is this normal? because everyone tells me that if i rub my clit then i should orgasm. nothing happens. i really want to experience an orgasm. then my friends tell me to use a vibrator or something that vibrates. i don't have anything that vibrates or a vibrator. not even a cell phone. is there any thing else i can use to masturbate? and i live somewhere where i don't get cold water. so the faucet wont work. plez someone... sights aren't the best but if it is necessary then go ahead and give me one. i would really appreciate it.
thank you.
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If you are feeling the twitches when you are rubbing your clit, maybe all you need to do is keep going, the twitching could be your orgasm building. But I can't tell for sure because I'm not feeling your twitches haha.
You don't get cold water? And using the faucet is better with WARM water anyway, so if you get warm water, then give that a try. It works really good. You can always use random objects to masturbate, not just a vibrator. And I've even heard of people using a turkey baster to masturbate, so hey if it works for you, enjoy.
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is fignering yourself the only way to mastubate for girls? I mean, I do it but it doesn't give me pleasure......I just feel normal like it doesn't give me enjoyment......is that weird or is there any way I can ......"pleasure" myself? Help!!!!! (link)
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Like another answer said, majority of females need clitoral stimulation. You can do that with your fingers or other objects if you please. Also vibrators work, if you have the money and a way to get one. You can also use the bath tub faucet to masturbate if you have no other way.
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