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what to do about this guy...
16/f
okay, so i'm gonna try to make this story as short as possible. there's this guy and he's liked me for a little over 2 years (he hooked up with/went out with other girls during that time but that was only during times when we were in a fight or i stopped talking to him for a little while... as soon as i started talking to him again he broke up with the girl/stopped hooking up with her. keep in mind that i didn't know that this was the reason that he broke up with the girl/stopped hooking up with her.. so i'm not like a bitch or anything i just wanted him as a friend). so anyways, i never really liked him like that until this summer. we hooked up like all summer and we went out for like a week but i didn't really want a boyfriend because i wanted the freedom. but i really did love him. and don't say i can't be in love after a week because we've been best friends for like 3 years and we've had a 'boyfriend girlfriend relationship but not really going out' for like 2 years. anyways, i made it pretty clear to him that i didn't want a boyfriend. this is for lots of reasons: i wanted freedom, my friends would make fun of me (this isn't THAT big of a deal.. but it's a long story), i feel like when i have a boyfriend my friends are more distant no matter how hard i try, and i'm not as close with my guy friends. anyways, my problem is that he's becoming more distant.. like he talks to me different and stuff, doesn't care as much about talking to me. he used to text me all the time but now i mostly have to text him first. he still like tells me he loves me and stuff though. and we haven't hung out in like 2 weeks.. which is weird since during the summer i saw him like 2-3 times a week. i kinda have a feeling that he likes/ is hooking up with another girl but i feel like if he was doing that he would tell me because he would feel guilty. i'm not sure though because i know he thinks i led him on a lot and like fucked with him so maybe he thinks i don't deserve to know. anyways, i'm not really sure what to do. i get jealous REALLY easily and i know he's been talking to other girls. so i know that means i really like him if i'm getting jealous enough to write about this on advicenators. i want him to be like just mine but i don't wanna go out with him. i know that's really selfish and stuff but i'm not really sure what to do. help?
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I think you in a way answered your own question. YOU need to figure out what YOU want. If you love this guy, you need to tell him that, and not worry what your friends say. Since he isn't your boyfriend, he does have the right to talk to and be with other girls. But my best advice to you would be to talk to him and tell him that you still love him and you wouldn't mind being together with him, ask him how he feels about that. If he doesn't feel the same way anymore and wants to be with other girls then you have to accept that and try still being friends. A lot of girls have problems with getting jealous, god knows i do too! But its something we have to deal with and when things go wrong you pick up and move on. But good luck with your situation and hopefully things will turn out the way you want them.
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