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I'm a 20 year old college student at the University of Miami, majoring in Child/Adolescent Psychology. I'm young, but have been through enough and have tons of advice and experience on almost any subject! What I'll give you is straight up advice... no sugar-coating... with alittle psych terminology thrown in for effect!
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hi im a 16(almost) year old female and i have a problem with a guy that i like, and i was possibly my first love. we used to be very veyr good friends like talk to each other every day and we were jsut really relaly close, then we started dating for about a month then i broke i t off becuase i was scared of ruining the friendship, well about 4 months later i realized i had very strong feelings for him and we dated again for a fairly long time and we broke up becuase of a really big missunderstanding. we still talked for a while then over time it faded away and now we hardly ever talk. the problem being...i sitll very much have feelings for him. he was such a huge part of my life we were so so close and im having trouble with him being gone from my life. we lost our virginity to each other abot a month before we broke up. sometimes when i see him at school i just get this feeling, like i want to be in his arms again but what i was wondering was is there anything i can do to make myself feel better or to get him talking to me or something agian?
Ok.. u owe it to yourself to try to reach out to him. If you don't, you'll regret it. But you have to prepare yourself for both reactions... either acceptance or rejection. The best thing to do in this case is to be honest with him about your feelings and see what he thinks or feels. No matter what his answer is.. you have to learn to accept it and if it's "i don't want to talk to you ever again" you have to grieve the relationship and move on. It will be hard.. but there is nothing else to do short of making urself look like a fool and run after him. If you guys were close friends you should be able to work it out.. however, speaking from experience here... best friends who get together most of the times does not work if you start out as best friends. It's the old saying.. friendship in love always.. love in friendship NEVER. So.. reach out to him and see what happens! Let me know back how things work!! I hope this helps. Have a good one and take care.
Hey! well i'm a freshmen! But i juss wnat to kno in da U.S. wut's da most recommended college to be a doctor? N how much money can u really get for playing sports? like volleyball,basketball, track! suttin like dat! I want to get out of state,I live in michigan! i mean i like michigan state, but spartans i dunno! N i hate wolverines! therre football is awesome but no! i want to attend Ohio State, NYU,or sumwherre in California! But what's da majors out therre? I want to kno wut i'm bout to face N stuff! i kno i'm young, but i juss want to get a grip N stuff, N i want to get ready for my college, so i won't have to take a year on picking N stuff! so please answer as much as u can! TAHNX A BUNCH!!!take care.
Hmm.. ok.. First of all, it's never to early to start thinking about college! You want to make the right choice and that takes time. So..first off.. to be a doctor, you should major in a science, ie. Biology, Microbiology, Chemistry. Reason for this is because med schools require you to take certain science and math classes, and these majors put you on the right track. So, best colleges would be those strong in the sciences and mostly research universities.. like University of Miami (i'm partial.. lol), University of California, Davis... University of Virginia, and of course the Ivy Leagues.. (Harvard, Yale, Princeton..etc.).. Now, there are tons of scholarships you can get for playing a sport. You need to really excel at the sport and make sure your coach in HS helps you to find recruiters. Basically.. you really need to make sure you stay on track with school and get amazing grades... get involved in clubs and sports.. and as much as I'm sure you don't want to do this.. make friends with your teachers, because you will need recommendations when you apply to colleges. There are tons of majors out there and I suggest you start looking at schools and checking out their websites.... that tells you alot about the school, student life, and cost. Well, I hope this helps. If you have any other questions.. feel free to ask! Have a good one.
Can anyone tell me how to do that new hair style where your hair kinda **foofs** at the top? (( ex. jessica simpson, pink kinda ahh ashlee simpson once in a while)) lemme know!! i rate high!!
Mousse... mousse.. mousse.. but only at the roots. Try that!
Hi well ok see me and my friend were the bestest of friends then all of a sudden I start liking this boy , and he likes me but my friend said that she wouldn't get mad at me, well I called her and told her the news about us going out and she threw the phone across the room......
What do I do?>?? Plz Help me.......And Fast
You need to talk to her. Sit her down and just talk to her. If she is a good friend... she will be happy for you.. but I hope you do realize that she is hurt. This may put a strain on ur relationship.. but in due time things will be fine.
Hey Everyone ! Ok ths is a good one, How come when your single you have the hardest time finding anyone to go out with. But as soon as you have a BF and become Attached Everyone in the world wants to date you. How many times has this happen to you guys? LOL its agravating. But I love my man so no huge complaints here. Have a great day everyone ! xoxoxoxooxoxoxox
It's called Murphy's Law.. whatever will happen will happen.. especially when you don't need it to happen. Luck of the draw sometimes... but its the "unattainable get" to guys. They know they can't have... so it's just animal instinct. Hope this helped!
This is not so much a request for advice as an asking for feedback on a random gripe...
I've only recently noticed, after years of what seems now to have been denial, that most everyone loves being unhappy, simply because it is the easiest and most familiar way to exist. After several attempts at being a good friend to many people, it is apparent that my helpful thoughts are shunned, and my existence ignored should they find any reason to be angry at the world. After speaking with a close friend of mine on this subject, their reply to my disgust was 'No Shit, people hate the truth and happiness, because they know that these things are better than what they have always had, and will most probably ever have.’
This upsets me greatly, because it has always been my policy of sorts to tell the truth and be as helpful as possible...Though I noticed as a child that even my mother gave me strange looks for this.
My question is: has anyone else recieved hatred in return for honest attempts at being helpful, or something similar?
I feel as though I've been blindsided by this concept, it is extremely confusing.
I see and feel your pain.. or gripe.. and yes I too have been there. The main problem is... the truth hurts! In order to get through life unscaved.. and without blemishs to our soul, we convince ourselves that "it's their fault" or "whatever.. life sucks then you die." The fact of the matter is... people chose to be unhappy because it gives them an understanding of why things go wrong in their lives. I'm so wise on this subject because I just lived through it. For 3 years I was clinically depressed and did not know it. My OCD, which I had no clue I had until I was 16, had gotten out of control and I ended up extremely sick and in the hospital because I knocked my immune system down to the point of almost no return. I learned from my experience.. that only you can make urself happy and unfortunately society has learned to blame others for their unhappiness and for lack of better terminology, "sucky lives." No one wants to hear the truth because it represents flaws in themselves that they do not want to acknowledge. My best advice to you about this is... keep doing what your doing but warn the person first by saying.. "I'm going to be truthful here and/or blunt... and if you really want to hear it.. I will say it.. if not tell me now." Well.. I hope this helps and remember... BE HAPPY and hopefully others will get the hint too! Hope this helps.
ok my sister's boyfriend just got into a fight with his mom. and now hes not living with his parents anymore. my sis doesnt want him to end up like my sister which did the same thing and never came back. so i think she just went with her boyfriends mom somewhere. and if he comes by wut do i tell him? or if he calls do i tell him wut is going on? idk cuz my sis sounded pretty serious about it and sed that i couldnt tell him anything. but wut should i do?!?!?! plz help
~i will rate~
I don't think it is your place to tell your sisters boyfriend anything... but I think your sister is right in talking to his mom and trying to get them back together. A person never wants to be astranged from their parents.. especially their mother... and as your sisters sis... I would respect her privacy with her boyfriend and not get involved. He needs to fix things with his mother... and let your sister handle it. Hope this helps.
Beav
P.S. Don't lie to him.. just tell him you dont know where your sister is.
okay...i dont kno how to put a picture or make a cute backround if u know how please tell me ( i rate good)
confused idiot
to put a picture on ur desktop background.. just open the pic on ur computer and right click... then just click set as background
i know this isn't really important, but im doing a poll for summer school.. im not in summer skool, but were supposed to be doing this to get ready for our upcoming high skool year, and well here's my poll...
Bush?
or
Kerry?
moderators, plz don't rate this low, it's for skool, also please don't delete this Q!!!!
Kerry -- anyone but Bush.
okay, I just wanna know for all you people who are in gymnastics or dance...can you give me tips on how to do a better switch leap? i've can almost do both of my splits and i dont know if you can help me but i just need to know how to do a better switch leap. thanks.
Ekk.. those are hard. I've been dancing for 17 years.. and here's my advice... start working on the trampoline doing them so your legs get used to the switch.. and then.. try it on the floor.. basically I try to twist my hips in mid-air to get the switch to happen.. hope this helps.
I did not know what category to put this under...
Ok it seems that I'm always at least half way depressed. I just stay stressed out. School, friends, family...and mainly this guy. But also, little things happen. I spill my drinks all the time...cut myself shaving all the time...trip and fall...stuff like that. What are some things I can do to take my mind off this guy? B/c he's what makes me so stressed out. So what can I do just not to worry so much and to be in a better mood? And not let little things get to me?
Alittle psychology trick... Self Talk. To do this.. first think about something good.. something that makes you happy.. and when you start thinking about him and all your stress hits you.. say to yourself... WAIT.. and repeat what makes you happy. Another alternative... get rid of the guy! Guys are supposed to make us happy.. not give us stress which makes us unhappy. Hope this helps....
ok so i kind of hatte my friend becuzz she goes out with my x boyfriend. now im really pissed at her and shyt and she got like the whole skool on me and now i got lyke no friends. im really sad and shyt now cause i kind of got no one. damn wut should i do ?????
from, friendless
I'm sorry hun.. I know this is a hard time for you but what you really need to do is talk to your friend and let her know how you feel and maybe you two can work things out. I'm not saying it was okay for her to go out with your ex-bf.. becuz there is an unwritten rule about dating friends ex's.. but it does happen.. and instead of being upset.. maybe you just be happy for her until he breaks her heart. Talk to her.. I hope this helps.
when u make out with sum1 does it just cum like naturally or do u have to kno how to kiss or wut? im just wondering because it seems like a lot of ppl it cums naturally too...so would that b the same for me?
Usually.. kissing comes naturally, but the more practice you get the more you become a pro at it. I'm sure u'll know what to do when the situation arises. Hope this helps.
Beav
im 16/f and i weight 110 pounds. am i really really skinny???
depends on ur height... if you are 5'7" and taller.. probably. i'm 5'6" and i weigh 105... im alittle too skinny. but if ur shorter than me.. ur good to go and im sure u look great! hope this helps.
Beav
im 14, and have been with my b/f for about 5 months and today i ACCIDENTLY stuck my hand down the back of his pants. i meant to put my hand in his pocket but i missed! he told me not to be embarrassed but i still kind of am! am i overreacting?
Lol.. I'm sure he did not mind at all!! Really, it was a simple "oops" moment and if hes cool about it, then you should be too!
You never know what someone means to you until their gone.
Those are good words to live by, and here’s why.
Once a day, everyday I talked to two girls that rode my bus.
They were twins, and also older than me, they were seventeen.
They were always nice, not even once were they mean.
We would talk about all sorts of things.
They even helped Kyla with one of her reports.
I remember Kim would always drop her books on the floor.
One time Kathy tripped walking out the door.
Soon school was out, I had no fear that I would see them next year.
But I was wrong.
I heard about the accident from a friend, I didn’t know what she meant.
She said it was a car accident and they went to the hospital.
But I didn’t think anything of it.
I got online to look up any information about the accident.
It took me a while, but I found an article.
It was named “Twin Disaster”.
I started reading slow and I got faster and faster.
I couldn’t believe what I had read.
The accident was really bad.
Their car was hit by a pick up truck
The car was so smashed that they were stuck.
The paramedics came and got them out.
There were five people involved in the accident.
They were all alive, but Kim and Kathy were barley living.
So they were rushed to the hospital.
The article said the other passengers would be all right.
The next day I got a phone call.
It was my friend she said Kim and Kathy had passed on.
She also asked if I wanted to go to the funeral.
I said no because it was more of a family thing.
I soon got off of the phone and started crying.
I later found out that they both had died around eleven.
I was happy that they were in heaven and didn’t have to suffer.
But it was so sad because they were so young.
I remember them telling me they were going to go to the Career Center.
But they never will.
I know the guy that had hit them didn’t go out that night to kill.
But he did, he ended two teenagers lives.
They didn’t get to get married, have a kid, and so much more.
I feel so sorry for their mother because she didn’t only loose one child.
She lost two; it must be so hard to live in the house without them there.
I think everyone should live their lives to the fullest,
And never take anything for granted.
Because you never know what something means to you until it’s gone.
Wow, sorry to hear this but it sorta reminds me of a email forward that went around about a couple on a date and they get into a car accident... dunno, that just came to mind. You are a gifted writer.. keep letting it flow.
How many people regret their time having sex?
* raises hand *
Ok, if you regret it... then you're with the wrong person. Making love is something that should be shared with someone you are in love with... that is what makes it special. Sex is just sex... if you regret sex then find someone to "make love" too.
evr since i was born my grandmother has always been with me. even more than my own mother........not lyk she a bad mom or nethin but......lemme explain.....wen i was born my mom was have some economic problems so she told my grandmother to take me to the Dominican Republic (country where all my relatives were born cept me)neways i came bak 2 us wen i was 4 n my grandmother has lived with us ever since......well until a few weeks ago when she passed away..........ne advice on how to deal wit it?
I will be honest, death is incredibly hard to deal with... I have lost many people in my life and what I have found to help the most is to just grieve! Make sure you grieve your grandmother... remember her.. cry if you have too... just get in touch with the feelings you have for her and eventually you will look to her as a guardian angel. Hope this helps. Sorry for your loss....
Well been married to my husband for 2 year's been together for 3 year's and he is getting worse, he work's night shift from 9 p.m.-6a.m. mon-thur and he sleep's all day until it's time for him to go to work and than when it's time for him to be off from work he sleep's all day and stay's up all night he spend's no time with me,i feel like he is my room mate and than he just started stop telling me he love's me and kissing me good bye,but we do still make love he never hold's me, please help i cry all the time,don't know what to do.
You need to tell him how you feel. It's unhealthy to keep things bottled up, especially when it comes to the one you love. I will say this, coming from a psych background... it is hard to switch your biological clock when you work the graveshift BUT.. in my opinion, I do not think he is happy working those hours... and obviously you aren't either. SO... I suggest setting some time out for you both to talk and explain yourselves.... remember the key to a good relationship is communication. Hope this helps.
I had a boyfriend and we were together for 9 months..we had sex and I don't think I was ready. I was one of those girls who wanted to stay a virgen until I was married...and now its gone....should I regret it? B/c I feel like I do, but I know there isn't anything I can do about it now...
First and foremost, DO NOT REGRET ANYTHING YOU DO! Ok now... your not a virgin anymore... don't dwell on that but you need to think about why you are regretting it. Remember, you can always not continue to have sex until you 100% ready. But you know what... there really is no specific time when you just say... "Up, IM READY!" But, I do think that you should be in love with the person, that way it means more than just the physical feeling. What this all boils down to is... never regret.. so you dont think you were ready... next time, stop yourself... or stop him, if you are not ready.