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Regret?
I had a boyfriend and we were together for 9 months..we had sex and I don't think I was ready. I was one of those girls who wanted to stay a virgen until I was married...and now its gone....should I regret it? B/c I feel like I do, but I know there isn't anything I can do about it now...
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ok you say you were together and you had a boyfriend so that must mean your not together anymore. since it already happen you cant drive on the regret. you may have a feeling of regret but theres nothing you can do. the next step you can take tho to feel better or feel less guilt is try to not have sex again until marriage. and try to keep that promise to yourself because you know how it feels now it will feel like that again if you dont think your ready..once your married you will know your ready and there wil be no regret! just try waiting and make that promise to yourself. you can do it! just believe in yourself!
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First and foremost, DO NOT REGRET ANYTHING YOU DO! Ok now... your not a virgin anymore... don't dwell on that but you need to think about why you are regretting it. Remember, you can always not continue to have sex until you 100% ready. But you know what... there really is no specific time when you just say... "Up, IM READY!" But, I do think that you should be in love with the person, that way it means more than just the physical feeling. What this all boils down to is... never regret.. so you dont think you were ready... next time, stop yourself... or stop him, if you are not ready.
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never regret anything you do. it's not good. you may not like what you did but what happened already happened so just move on. life won't end and i kno u wanted to wait but it was probably just a spur of the moment thing. don't worry about it it'll b ok.
....OG....
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first never regret anything you've done my best friend told me that. You should never do that if nethang regret what u haven't done. and u are right there is nothin u can do now, but this is my own motto that i go by now . ppl come into your life and ppl go the best thing to do is to learn from each person. i mean every guy that i have been with i've learned plenty i mean about myself and what i want in a relationship. if u think u made a mistake jus learn from it. So now u know that in ur next relationship u should wait til u are ready or jus wait til ur married its ur own preference. Dont every let neone pressure u into somethin u dont wanna do. and if neone asks or rumors start up u dont even have to answer to them jus be like what are u talkin about i mean its ur own business they dont need to know. i hope whatever u decide to do everything works out jus remember dont regret and learn from mistakes! *kisses* Ash
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It might have been a mistake, but everyone makes mistakes and they always help in someway. Don't worry, i'm sure something good must have come out of it. Sorry if i didn't bring your hopes up
Lizzy
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It's alright to regret it, and it's normal. You can't be a virgin again, but when you meet the person you are ready to marry, it will feel right, and you will be happy.
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well ur right u cant do anything about it now. but regreting it and thinking about it isnt gonna get u anywhere either. if u keep having sex however its definitly not gonna go away. so if u wanna basically start over and clean ur slate so u can "stay a virgin" until ur married then stick to ur morals and make ur goal. yes u have already kinda ruined it but if u feel that strongly about it no one is making u have sex so dont.
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ok well u really cant go bak into being a virgin i dont its physically possible... but mentally maybe. u c if u htough u werent ready the best choice was to have not done it. umm with me i lost mine to sumone VERY WRONG for me n NOW i regret EVRYTHING what i do know its kinda weird but i mentally have my virginity back im gunna lose it to who ever i feel is right but maybe until im in love.. i know its kinda stupid but a friend told me to that... n now if a guy asks or sumthing ill be like "all those rumors u heard aint right im a virgin no doubt bout that"...
sorry but i tried my best...ANABEL
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Seems to me that you already regret it.
Problem is, there's nothing you can do about it.
You made your choice, and you are going to have to deal with knowing what you did, and questions whether or not it was wise to have done.
Hindsight is a wonderful thing in that regard - except for that whole inability to change the past.
I agree that 9 months with someone isn't all that long an amount of time (though it may seem it at first). If you think that you weren't ready, then you weren't ready. Perhaps you'll give it more thought next time you find yourself in this situation.
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