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death of family member
evr since i was born my grandmother has always been with me. even more than my own mother........not lyk she a bad mom or nethin but......lemme explain.....wen i was born my mom was have some economic problems so she told my grandmother to take me to the Dominican Republic (country where all my relatives were born cept me)neways i came bak 2 us wen i was 4 n my grandmother has lived with us ever since......well until a few weeks ago when she passed away..........ne advice on how to deal wit it?
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my great gma recently died...so i kinda know what ur going through. she wasnt a mom or nething, but she still had a big peice of my heart, but i realized that she was in a better place, and think of it this way, you have 1 more angel looking down on you. she can protct you now more than she ever could. she wouldnt want you to be upset, she wants you to remember all your great times, she just wants you to be happy!! make her wish come true!! if you wanna talk my contact info is on here. x0x0x
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Aww sweetie. My mommom just passed away in January and I thought I couldn't get over it. I am 18, that's a lot of years and a lot of love. And although she was really sick I still wanted her here with me. I hate being selfish like that but I did. But I would think about her every night and realize she is happier now, with her husband and her father looking down on us. I live my life for her because I know she is watching me. You should do the same. If you need to talk..feel free to e-mail me and I would LOVE to talk. Good luck sweetz!
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Sadly, death is a part of life. It sucks, and its difficult, but you really have to go on.
The only way to deal with this properly is to cry if you feel the need and to remember your grandmother. Think of all your memories you have together, look at old photographs and remember her. And don't ever forget her.
The worst way to deal with death is to bottle it up and try and forget because it hurts to remember. The best thing to do is remember her, remember all the good memories and know that even though she is gone, you will always be connected.
Because you were so close, you have to be strong now that you are on your own.
Don't ever let the death of another person stop you from living. If the pain of losing someone stopped life because of so much sadness, then everyone would be as good as dead. Remember her, and remember to keep living your life because that is what she would have wanted.
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i first want to say that im sorry for your loss. losing a family member is very tough. i was like you, sorta. my grandpa lived a bike ride away from me and id go over to his house all of the time. id go over there when i wanted to talk to someone, when i wanted be around someone, when i was mad at someone, when i wanted to play with his dog, or just when i wanted someone to hug...he was like my best friend. he was always there for me no matter what. he died back in 2002. it was the toughest thing ever. i cried for at least a month. how i eventually dealt with it was to make sure i had something to remember him by because you want to remember them forever. and still, sometimes when im alone and want someone to talk to, i pretend he is there and i talk to him. omg, im crying right now! ahh! lol, ok sorry, this is hard to talk about, but anyways, im sure you miss her very much and im positive that she died happily knowing you loved her.
i hope this helps!
-Sarah-
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heyy. srry bout ur loss. just think dat ur grandma is in a better place now. always look on da bright side.
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I am so so so so sorry to hear that! I know exactly what you mean, my grandfather was everything to me and he passed away too. Even though I was only 4 at that time that he did pass away those four years of my life were amazing. And growing up I realized that he's always here with me in my heart and he takes care of me as much as he can. It hurts so much losing someone so valuable to you that it weakens you in some ways. And in other ways it makes you stronger. Through out your life people die and usually the ones that mean so much to you hurt you the most. But this is how it was intended to be. Dealing with this is so hard, and chances are you'll never get over it. Or at least that's how it is with me because my grandfather meant everything to me and although I'm 18 years old now and grown up I'm still not over it. Hun, I would just cherish the memories you had with her. It all makes you a stronger person in the end. And think about it...would your grandmother want to see you live your life and be happy or would she want to see you sad? Most likely happy, so do her a favor and make her see that you are willing to try and be happy. Because she wants the best for you and to be happy. And I want you to be happy to!! Once again I am so sorry for her death! Take care, and be happy! Love you -Mandee
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its hard to lose someone that you were so close with. i have been living with my grandparents for a long time. they became like my mom and dad to me since my parents werent around as much. my parents werent bad parents i just was really attached to my grandparents. just think that shes in a better place away from all the crime and the harsh world we live in now. shes in a much better place then here. that helps knowing that she doesnt feel pain anymore and she doesnt have to deal with any health problems she may have had or anything. know that she will always be in your heart and shes with you every step you take. shes not gonna leave someone she loves. it also helps that when you feel like your missing her or need her to just go talk to her. sit in a room and talk to her and just tell her whats going on. she listens. i hope i help. i know its a really hard thing to deal with. and im here if you need me
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Well it is very hard to lose a family member that close....but you just have to thnk that she is looking down right now at you being very very proud of you......i know it is very hard to lose her but you just have to think of the good old days with her....and dont worry she still loves you!!
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just look at all the good times you and ya grandma had, and know that she is in a better place. and that one day you will see her again. i know its hard to deal with stuff like that. the only thing i can do it tell you what i did or tell someone about it..just express it and talk to someone who will listen
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I will be honest, death is incredibly hard to deal with... I have lost many people in my life and what I have found to help the most is to just grieve! Make sure you grieve your grandmother... remember her.. cry if you have too... just get in touch with the feelings you have for her and eventually you will look to her as a guardian angel. Hope this helps. Sorry for your loss....
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Pray for them...I had 2 friends die in a car accident and I was totally lost in what to do but just pray and be happy that their in a better plac now. Don't dwell over it b/c I'm sure thats not what your grandmother would want you to do...just give it time...time heals everything...g/l in everything and you'll get through it!
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