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Well been married to my husband for 2 year's been together for 3 year's and he is getting worse, he work's night shift from 9 p.m.-6a.m. mon-thur and he sleep's all day until it's time for him to go to work and than when it's time for him to be off from work he sleep's all day and stay's up all night he spend's no time with me,i feel like he is my room mate and than he just started stop telling me he love's me and kissing me good bye,but we do still make love he never hold's me, please help i cry all the time,don't know what to do.
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maybe you should try talking to him....telling him how you feel...call him once in awhile and talk to him...
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Well i'm young so I dont know much but I think you should talk to your husband! I do know that when you have those shifts your days and nights get flipped around... maybe since he sleeps all day when he has days off maybe you could spend time with him at night time... and maybe if possible he might be able to get his shifts switched around. I think you really need to talk to your husband and tell him how you feel. He loves you and he'll understand! Good Luck to you!
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Tell him exactly how you feel instead of having sex. Go out to dinner or to a movie or something get out of the house. Where you can be together more. And tell him on his days off that you feel like your marriage is going down hill and you feel as if hes your room mate instead of your husband. And like when you both are just sitting around the house doing nothing ask him if he wants to do something like go to a movie or something. Just tell him how you feel good luck on what ever! and i hope iv helped a little. Dont be afraid to write back.
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there are many things you can do. you can talk to him and tell him you feel like your being pushed away because he never seems to have time for you. tell him that you miss his love and kisses and just him holding you. you need to talk to him about everything your feeling because not letting him know isn't going to help at all. you could also talk to him about getting a different shift. it will help you guys have more time for each other. or just try to wake up up around 3ish because that will be around 8-9 hours of sleep and spend some time with him. i think you need to start off by telling him how you feel first. i hope i helped
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Unfortanetly if you want this situation to change one of you has to change their schedual. Either you start working nights, or ask him if he could find a job working days. Does your husband know how upset you are, does he know you are crying? Tell him how you feel, how you feel more like roomates than a married couple. Ask him how long he plans on working this crazy schedual, because you don't want to live your life like this forever. That is why you married him, so you could share your life together, but it's awfly hard to do that if you never see eachother. If he won't budge, maybe you should think about marriage counsling because at the moment you are unhappy, and unless something changes you will continute to be unhappy.
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awww. well maybe you should talk to him about this right before he goes to sleep. tell him how u really feel.tell him that you dont feel like your married b/c ya dont spend time together, and ya feel like roommates. ask him if he can or wants to change his scedule..see if you cant work it out, and if not, then i dont know
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You need to tell him how you feel. It's unhealthy to keep things bottled up, especially when it comes to the one you love. I will say this, coming from a psych background... it is hard to switch your biological clock when you work the graveshift BUT.. in my opinion, I do not think he is happy working those hours... and obviously you aren't either. SO... I suggest setting some time out for you both to talk and explain yourselves.... remember the key to a good relationship is communication. Hope this helps.
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try telling him and sitting him down and saying yall need 2 talk and tell him whuts on ur min and how u feel hey works for me with my friends and boyfriend
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When my wife and I first got married, I was working 2nd shift, and it pretty much sucked. The only good thing was that she was able to find a job working about the same hours, but it was such a miserable way to live. Thankfully, I was able to find a new job after only a few months, putting me on 1st shift hours, so we could actually sleep like "normal" people and have the evenings to ourselves.
I would suggest talking to your husband about the possibilities of either adjusting his schedule - such as sleeping once he gets home from work until the late afternoon so the two of you can have evenings together before he has to go in to work.
Also, see if he is willing to either seek a shift change, or even a whole new job. Let him know that it is important and you feel like your marriage is suffering because of this.
If that fails, you might try to drag him into marriage councelling, but that'll only work if he's willing.
I'm hoping that it is just stress from his job that is causing his behavior - and that can somehow be overcome with a little effort and determination.
Best of luck.
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