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Why is sex a sin? I know that its not a sin if your jewish, so why is it when your cathlic? (link)
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Sex before/outside of marriage is a sin because God made your body for you and your husband/wife only. Outside of being married the reason it is a sin is because God does not want you giving your body freely, he wants you to appreciate and love yourself enough to not just openly let yourself be had/used. And even if Jewish it is still a sin. Sins are yet forgiven, so if you have already and our worried, you can easily be forgiven if you want to.
Erin
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OMG all my friends (in my age range ~14~) say its okay and that they dont think its bad to have sex at this age and half of them like, arent virgins!! I just relaized this today but i think having sex at this age is just plain stupid!! Am i weird or crazy? IS it okay to have sex at my age?!! (link)
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I am 13, and I totally think it is not right! How can you love someone enough at oru age to give them something so special? I think you definatly need to wait until your readdy enough to take of a child ( not even condoms are 100% they can get you pregnant). So please be certain that you can handle that possibly. Also do not allow your friends to influence you on having sex! It isn't safe!
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this is gonna sound really bad...please no body be offinded...but i fell in love w/ this black guy and we dated for 6 months then i moved in w/ my aunt and uncle and they wont let me date him.i think its the most stupid thing ive ever heard in my whole damn life. what should i do. (link)
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As a black person I do not think it is wrongf what so ever dating and or marrying or having kids with someone of a defferent race. I have gone out with other people besides black people. So if I where you I would sit my aunt and uncle down and tell them that God looks at the color of our hearts not our skin . Also mention that he is a good person , and they shouldn't keep you from dating someone just cause of his race. I believe every race has its people that make it look bad , but it has its people to show that that race isnt differnt from the next . I hope your uncle and aunt come to a good desicion on what you get to do .
Erin
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Sometimes I feel as if I'm living a double life. At school, I cuss a little, wear makeup and more expensive clothes; at at church I'm all "love everybody" and pretty much a model Christian-youth prez and ultra-volunteer. Please help! (link)
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I think that you need to be true to yourself . If you are a believer in GOD , you can not be a good Christian just on Sunday . You need to do it 24 / 7 so if you want to stop swearing go ahead and stop you can if you really try your hardest. Also when it comes to wearing make - up and expnsive clothes that is not horrible it was they look like that could be . I have faith that you will make the right decision for you .
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Hey, i have a problem. I have this friend and she has a Boy Friend i really want to spend more time with her but she always is talking about him or with him. I HATE IT. i really hope you can help me with this problem, thanks.
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I have a friend that did that , bu tI just explained to her that I want to go to the mall , just you and her . And if she mentions inviting her boyfriend just simply tell her " I really want to spend sometime hanging out with you alone." I do not think she would get angry over that . And yes I know the consistantly talking about him thing . Well just tell her you want to talk about someone or something else ( depending on what you are talking about ) . I hope this helped .
Erin
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I'm going into the 9th grade this year. I'm looking forward to it, except for one part.. I have to ride the bus. I rode it in the 7th grade & part of the 8th grade. A bunch of the guys on the bus are total jerks. They harassed me & my friend & one guy even grabbed my friend's butt! And the bus driver doesn't give a crap about it. I dreaded going to school if I had to ride the bus that day. What can I do to prevent myself from riding the bus? I don't wanna be a victim of harassment anymore. (link)
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Well to me the problem is not riding the bus it is the people on it and i totally understand where you are coming from . I think you need to tell your parents and have them call the bus lot and report the driver and then call your school and have these idiots delt with .
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ok i love my parents, both of them equally. but lately (past couple years) they have been fighting quite a bit...sometimes it gets physical on both parts. ive never really stepped in b4 ive usually kept to myself or expressed my feelings later when they were in a better mood. but just like a month ago while my family and i were on vacation and in the middle of the night they started yelling at each other! and u wanna know what it was about!? a friggin hat!! i guess my mom felt guilty for buying a 40$ shirt and w/ no reason got on my dads case about his 40$ hat. and my dad got "hurt" by it. it was pathetic at the most. so finally upset by the fact that they woke me up and we still had a full day ahead of ourselves and just cause i was tired of it all i got out of bed and barged in on them. my mom in tears yelled go back to bed but i yelled back no this is stupid u guys r fighting while we r on vacation. anyways i ended up mediating for them until 3 in the morning when things seemed to finally be settled and they thanked me and apologized profusly. anyways things were ok the next day until i duno all of a sudden they were yelling again in the middle of disneyland. my mom was crying nad they were both yelling and acting so childish. i was so embarrassed i just ran away from it hoping to reach a bathroom. my dad caught up w/ me and told me he was sorry and that "we would fix this" and i yelled at him a bit for how stupid it all was and he apologized and we went back to my mom and they both apologized then too and hte rest of the vacation was great. i love my parents they r awesome and since then everything has been great... nothing wrong. but now this morning!!! im not sure what started the fight because i was still sleeping until my dad started screaming. but it ended up being that they were fighting about who "broke the rule" first. i guess my mom slapped him aside the head to get him to calm don and my dad slapped her across the face and they are now currently as i type yelling about who started what. its soooo pathetic!! i just wanna walk in and thell them how friggin childish and immature they r!! but im not sure if i should... really it hurt when i had to mediate for 3 hours. i dont know what to do... they swore they would get counciling when i was helping them a month ago but nothing has happened of course. oh and my dad is bypolar and add. and my mom seems to expect to much w/ his condition....grrr (link)
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Well for 1 thing being bi popar is not an easy thing to handle , I am so yes i would know . And your mom should know that jumping on your dads case for that hat was not nessacry .; With him being bi poolar little things will set him off , so if i where you i would talk to her alone and let her know that she needs to stop doing things to get on his case . Now as far as your dad goes he needs to just leave and go somewhere alone when he feel a heated arguement going on so that way nothing gets physical or worse cause one day he could her a little to hard and being bi polar , I know for a fact no matter how big or small he is he can really hurt her . SO sit them down and tell them they do need to argue over petty things and they also need to go to counseling if they can not fix thier issues on their own .
Please e-mail if you need to know anything else morethanuthinkiam91@hotmail.com
Erin
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okay im 16/f n im a virigin
ive have known ma man for 3 1/2 years and he really wants to do it and so do i.but im so scared b/c its my 1st time and im so scared of gettin pregnant. he told me that we will use a condom and everything but still im not 100% sure.can anyone tell me how can i be 100% sure that i will not get pregnant. (link)
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The only 100% sure way is by not doing it , also it doesnt matter his speed the condom can break no matter what speed.
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13/f- heyy!! does have a tattoo on their left shoulder??? if s0o does it hurt when you got it done, cause im gettin one sometime this year.. and im really scared that its gonna hurt really badd :'(!!!!
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Since you are 13 with your parentsa consent you CAN get a tattoo , but make sure that it is something that you want and since this is your way of paying respect to your brother i guess we all know it definatly is what you want . I do not have any tattoos but yes from what i have heard it does hurt but the pain will go away eventually.
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I am so in love with this boy named Jake. He was EVERYTHING I have ever wanted in a guy. He was so fine and sexy and every girl wanted him. Well, last Friday we went to his house and were making out on his bed when he asked me if I wanted to have sex. I said no, but he wasnt going to take no for an answer. He ripped off my clothes and fucked me and hit me a few times. I guess you can say, I was raped. I need to tell my mom but she will tell me to stay away from Jake and I'm too in love to lose him! Do I tell my mom? How can I stay with Jake forever? (link)
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Well for one thing basically he abused you and if he did it that time he moer than likely will do it again , so yes tell your mother and give him a second chance if he ask fo rit if he does somethhing like this again then you need to let him go .
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I am 14 years old, 15 in 2 weeks.. and I just found out I'm pregnant! I cried for days.. my parents dont know yet and I dont know how to tell them...They said they would ALWAYS support me but I doubt they will now when Im not sure who the father is... how should i bring up the convo with my mom and dad? (link)
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I think that you need to be straight forward , and let them know . Tell them before it is to late and they start to notice your belly getting bigger . It is not a good idea to wait and have them know from someone else . Also DO NOT have an abortion , for many reason such as it can be very harming to your health (preventing you from having children in the future can be a side effect) and also because you should not handle this issue by taking your baby's life away . If you cannot take care of the baby then give it up for adoption , but please know that in most states adoptions are not reversable ( once you give the baby up you cannot get it back ). I hope everything works out . E-mail me if you wanna ask or comment on anything . morethanuthinkiam91@hotmail.com
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hi. i've been with my b/f for about 5 mo. and i'm 14 and he's 16. i REALLY want to have a baby! i don't know why i just ReAlLy do! but also my cuz whos 20 's g/f just had a baby and she was 17(now 18) and they really struggle with financial problems. then his bro was dating a woman last year and just 2 weeks ago found out he was a dad. i really want to have a baby! what should i do?
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OK you can not even fully take care of yourself ( since your only 14 i do not think you pay all of the bills) how can you take care of someone else ?Can you ( not your mommy and daddy or other family and friends ) buy your baby clothes and diapers and food ? Can you always be there 24/7 . I do not think you drop out of school right now to raise it . Will you not miss all the going out with your friends and doing fun stuff cause if you have baby where ever you go it will have to go . And I guess since you want to have a baby , you might be having sex which means you might get your wish anyways , cause no condom is 100% ( and wearing 2 , 3 , or 4 .....) will not change that they are only 80% percent effective .
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everyone is calling my mom a slut an stuff just cause a few weekz ago at the feast my mom got really drunk (like always) an she wuz actin slutty an stuff (flirtin wit everyone an stuff) she was wearing a really hoochie outfit to an she was like yelling at me cause i was embarrest i tryed to talk to my mom but she kept yellilng at me an sayin "YOUR EMBRARRSING ME FOR CRYING!!!" mean while she was the reason i was crying! i really dont know how to handle my mom! she gets drunk to often! an i think she may be doing pot cause i walk in her room an like it smells like pot or somthing (its so not cigs!)
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I think you need you need to just tell her she is acting like a child and needs to grow up have some of ure family and her friends there to back you up . DO not hold anything back tell her she is acts like a whore when she is drunk and even though she thinks it isn't bad tell her it really is . Let her know how this affects you , and if it doesn't get better try to find family that you can move in with cause she isn't going to do anything except get worse if someone doesn't stop her . Send to the meetings with people who are achohlics ( spelling ?) get together to talk about and overcome their problems. I hope this helps . E-mail me at morethanuthinkiam91@hotmail.com to let me know what you decided to do or if you need more advice .
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im moving to a new house and i couldnt be more happier about it. the only thing that i thought was bothering me was the fact that its out in the middle of no where! but last night i broke down talking to a friend and realized more was bugging me. I live with my grandparents because my mom has a boyfriend that i was never really fond of. he use to hurt her a lot and she picked him over me. so i moved out.she still comes over every day to my grandparents house to visite me but now that we are moving i dont see her driving every day an extra 10 minutes to see me. she lives not even 2 minutes from me now and now im moving farther! i hate the fact that im moving away from my parents because they are my parents but yet i can never live with them and im still hurt from what happen. i dont know what to think or do? (link)
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The funny thing about this situation is I understand EVERYTHING you are going through , I live with my grandparents because my mtoher chose her lazy , jobless, complaing , self centered ...etc. boyfriend over me . Now not only do I not live with her , we live in different towns ( 45 minutes apart) . I think you need to choose what is best for you . Yes even if you move with your grandparents again youwill miss her more , but still you will be happier than seeing her get mis - treated . If you have any more questions or comments or want to know anything else about me , e-mail me at : morethanuthinkiam91@hotmail.com
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one of ma best mates really hates my other mate i really dont no wot to do can sum 1 help m,e (link)
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Oh My Goodness , now I know that I am not the only one with this friggin issue ! I personnally think two things need to happen . 1) Talk to them ( separately ) and let them know NOT to put you in the middle or try to make you choose friends and also not to bad mouth the other around you . 2 ) Do not try to force them to be friendds , but if possible try to make them act civil around you. Even though they do not like each other do not let their opinions of each other effect yours.
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female/13 ok ..... I have a friend who that when ever she needs me I am always there , but when it is put the other way around she doesn't do the same for me . I am sick of being in last place , whenever I ask can she go to the mall with me she ditches me to go with some other guy , but if she wants to go and I have am not able to she gets mad and gets an attitude , and when ever we fight it is always MY fault . Like last time she got mad cause I tld my other friend something that I was going through with my amily and I refused to tell her cause she wouldn't understand cause she has both of her parents. What should I do ? (link)
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Just talk to her and let her know how you feel ! Stand up to her !
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Alright well tonight I found out that my bestfriend had sex with my Ex boyfriend... he actually wasnt my boyfriend but i concider him one because we were "Together" But not offically! And I dont know what to do because the person that told me I swore to him i wouldnt tell! And this is the hardest thing that I have truely ever had to been threw! I dont know what to do! Please help me :-/ (link)
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First of all , I think you need to ask your friend cause the 'person' who told you might not know everything about what happened , and also if you and the guy never really went out then why is so bad ? I am not saying your friend should not have asked you first if she new you really liked him , but still you should talked to her before listening to anyone else . If she is a true friend she will tell you the honest truth !
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ok well ive been drinkin for 5 years(10-15 yrs old) its all started out with just drinkin like on the weekends or at parties, but lately ive been drinkin everynite. or at parties ill tell my self o ill just have one beer, but then i end up drinkin a 12 pack by myself! ive been arrested for drinkin and smoking, ive been to AA meetings NA meeting and everything, but i dont know wut to do... is it stress related or wut? is there any medication i could take?
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I think one of the things you ned to do is stop going to the parties since they are mainly the time you drink !
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