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this is gonna sound really bad...please no body be offinded...but i fell in love w/ this black guy and we dated for 6 months then i moved in w/ my aunt and uncle and they wont let me date him.i think its the most stupid thing ive ever heard in my whole damn life. what should i do.
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talk to them,try to get them to notbe prejuduce and tell them how much you really love him and that it has nuthiung to do with skin color!
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If they're not letting you date him because of his race, then they're wrong. Tell them how he's a great person, really nice to you, and all the other reasons he's wonderful.
If it's not because of race, then figure out why they don't like him and come up with counter arguments.
"He distracts you from schoolwork" - "He cheers me up and keeps me going."
And the like. Good luck!
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As a black person I do not think it is wrongf what so ever dating and or marrying or having kids with someone of a defferent race. I have gone out with other people besides black people. So if I where you I would sit my aunt and uncle down and tell them that God looks at the color of our hearts not our skin . Also mention that he is a good person , and they shouldn't keep you from dating someone just cause of his race. I believe every race has its people that make it look bad , but it has its people to show that that race isnt differnt from the next . I hope your uncle and aunt come to a good desicion on what you get to do .
Erin
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Point out all the good things about him and how you have been dating for 6 months and its not right for them to go and walk all over them like they own you guys and maybe if he is comfortable he can meet them and have them see for themselves-trix
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Well if the reason she's not letting you date him because he's black then that's wrong on their part. But your still young and since you living with your aunt and uncle you do have to respect their wishes.. UNLESS they are disobeying God. When your seriously thinking about marage and you feel strong true love about this guy then talk with them. But Pray to God that if this man's right for you then let him make it known. He put your aunt and uncle in your life for a reason and if they don't like it, as bad as you may hate it, it might be a sign from God that he'ls not the one.
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Well why wont they let you?? be a little more pasific..and write me back.....and if it is cause he is black thne just tell them predulous is very very very bad!!! write me back though....so i can really really help you......BYE
Love Lanabeanz
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well... i think you should go with your heart.. u no lying aint badd if you realy love someone... my parents never found out that ive went out wit a black guy or dat i even ever had b/f!! just like pre-tend your going to your friends an make sure he's there,
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y won't they let u see him? is it because he's black or is there another reason? you should talk to them about why you can't see him. that might help a little bit but other then that i can't really help you too much. if they have a problem with his skin color that sux. i'm part black myself and have dealt with many situations involving my ethnicity where i couldn't b friends with a boy cus i had black in me. if they don't like him because he is a bad ass or sumthing like that then tell them how you feel about him.
....OG....
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This is tough..... um... tell them that you love him and just because they are racist doesn't mean you are and tell them you wont stop seeing him....
when you decide what to do tell me
xxxASH
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I think you should tell them your situation calmly. Sit down with them, and ask them not to interrupt until you're done. Maybe you should have your guy over when you talk to them. Compromise or something. It'll work better that way. Good luck!
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Tell your aunt and uncle that you can't help who you love, your not supposed to. Tell them that if they loved you one bit they would let you be happy. Trust me I have personal experience in this field :) Hope I've helped.
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ok i've been in ur position b4. my dad wont let me date a black guy. i mean what u should do is sit them down and talk to them about everything and how u stand if u haven't already.it doesn't hurt to try. but i did that and it still didn't work. i mean i am not racist at all skin color doesn't matter to me one bit. and i've also tried the whole sneakin around stuff but accually that can mess up a relationship. it did mine. b/c eventually it can get back to ur aunt or uncle through gossip and its also hard to get a moment alone with ur guy. So my suggestion to u even tho u do love this guy i mean i dont kwno how old u are but i would wait til i'm out of high school when ur one ur own and in college to date him. i mean u all could be maybe act like bf and gf in school but it would be hard to go some where with him...u know what i mean. I understand its gonna be hard i know it really sux but makin stuff wrong in ur family and still not goin to be able to date the guy is harder. i hope this can help u a lil bit. and i do hope everything works out for u!! *kisses* Ash
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Ah, parentalish troubles...Some of my favorite kinds of troubles. Okay. You need to sit them down and explain to them that you love this person. The hue of his skin should make no difference. He's a great guy, and you fell in love with his personality, etc...
Just give them the "equality" talk. Like "everyone should be equal. When I see this guy, I see a great person. Not this black man that you two see. Besides, this is my life. I should be allowed to date whomever I please," and all that jazz. Just be sweet and unaccusatory and try to talk some sense into them. If that doesn't work, try sitting down with them, WITH your guy. Maybe he'll have a bit of a calming effect.
All I know is, whenever I have issues where my mom doesn't want me to do something involving my guy, I have HIM talk to her. He's better at dealing with my mom than I am. I go away for a bit, leave them talking, and I come back and they're smiling and laughing. Lol Weird, but true. Give it a shot. If you need more help, don't hesitate to ask again. =)
Good luck!
-Siren =)
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Do what i did keep it a secret. Tell your aunt and uncle you guys broke up but your just friends and nothing more. But really you guys can go hang out and still be together. Or be rebelious and tell them straight out that you love this guy. And that your not giving him up if they say anything about it tell them that they are racist. If you need any more help write back mean time i hope iv helped you a little.
Signed
Short N Punky
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