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Friends and Boy friends
Hey, i have a problem. I have this friend and she has a Boy Friend i really want to spend more time with her but she always is talking about him or with him. I HATE IT. i really hope you can help me with this problem, thanks.
Amy =(
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ive had the same problem before. just try and tell her that you miss spending time with her and you want things to be the way they were before her boyfriend. but dont make it sound like you want her to dump him because thats never good!
hope i helped you
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well i would talk to your friend and tell her how you feel if i were you i would say " can i talk to u for a min i don't like you talking about your Bf all the time i want to talk to you without your bf in it"
well i hoped that helped
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that is how most gurls r! u would proley do the same thang. maybe u should talk to her & tell her u miss hangin out. & if she is a good friend then she will make time for u. i had the same issue & i just made equal time for both of them..& it worked out perfectaly...oh & if u talk to her dont make you sound selfish! she does have a life & it might not revolve around u. do what u need to & make sure u do it right..GOOD LUCK
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Hey Amy,
OK...i kno EXACTLY wat you are going through with this whole fiend thing. My friend Brittany sorta went though it with my other friend Danielle. They are best friends. and no 1 could ever change that...at least thats wat they thought. Soon Brittany started going out with this boy named Sam. Danielle was rele good friends with Samm too. Soon she noticed that Brittany would all ways go off with Sam...and not with Danielle. Danielle then talked to brittany about it. They worked things out great because they are too wounderful understanders. Im sure that you are too...Notify your friend with the sittuation...and do it calmly. Getting all owrked up about it wont help a thing. And about the whole Brittany and Sam thing...they stayed together after Danielle and Brittany's talk...so it didnt ruin Sam and Brittany's relationship. So dont be worried about that.
-Hope i helpd-
_Chelsea_
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I think u should tell your freind 2 just stop cause you dont want 2 hear it any more tell her stright out!!
I've hoped i helped~!
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*I had the exact same problem except we grew apart and never spoke again. So what you need to do is tell her exactly what is on your mind and you might want to tell the boyfriend too.*
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Talk to your friend.Tell her your situation.Tell her that you feel like she is pushing you away for her boyfriend.Maybe you two can plan ahead and have some free time for you two to just hang out with him being there.
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Try talking to her about it. Just tell her how you feel about this situation. And maybe one day you can hang out with her and another day her and her boyfriend can hang out. Just talk to her about it, she is your friend, she should understand and try to work things out with you. Just say "I know you have a boyfriend and all, but we barely hang out now and I really miss that" Just say stuff like and tell her exactly how you're feeling. Good luck and hope this helped!
xoxo Kourtney
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Talk to her about it and tell her you feel excluded sort of like the 3rd wheel-trix
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Well tell her you are just tired of hearing about him ... tell her she can talk about him ... TO HIM ... and you want to spen time with her because she is your friend and you dont want to feel left out anymore ... and if she is your real friedn she will listnen
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Keep with it, when her and her bf are finished you'll be there for her.. i hope, suggest lots of fun things to do together! Gd luck
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I have a friend that did that , bu tI just explained to her that I want to go to the mall , just you and her . And if she mentions inviting her boyfriend just simply tell her " I really want to spend sometime hanging out with you alone." I do not think she would get angry over that . And yes I know the consistantly talking about him thing . Well just tell her you want to talk about someone or something else ( depending on what you are talking about ) . I hope this helped .
Erin
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Make plans in advance, call her up and ask her what shes doing next weekend or something, dont let a guy come between friendship, maybe he can tag along sometime...
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i know how you feel i think that you should talk to her and call her up sometimes then try to make more plans with that person
~jessica~
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Tell her how you feel. Tell her that you feel she is putting him before you and she shouldn't be doing that. Its chicks before dicks. If that doesn't work she wasnt truely a good friend
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Let her talk herself out for half an hour (you don't have to pay attention) then change the subject. If she keeps bringing her b/f up, say "He sounds cool, but I came here to talk to you, not him" Say it jokingly, and maybe she'll get the hint.
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let her know how you feel about it but be nice and serious cuz sometimes ppl can get the wrong impression but say you know i dont see much of you anymore and i miss hangin with you. and plan to go to the mall or pool or something.
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u should let ur friend be with her bf becuase if ur goanna have a bf soon shes goanna probably feel the same way u are feeling now....but she should give u atleast a day wit her ..i have a bf and my best friend doesnt and i sometimes take her where i go wit my bf and theres other people around too so she considers it hanging out wit me but i spend every friday or one day of the week wit her like a girls day out
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hey...maybe you should talk to your friend!! just be straight up and honest! tell her that you're glad shes happy..but you miss the way things were!! make it clear that you dont want her to break up with him or she might think you're just being selfish!!! but tell her you miss those nights where it was just the two of you..girl talk and stuff!! tell her you need her still and you dont want things to change...shes ur girl she'll understand!! and if she doesnt just remind yourself..she is going through a phase...she'll eventually come out of it but till then just remind her that u still like it to be just the two of you sometimes!
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girl you are so jealous get out there and take her man cause thats what she wants you to do nothing will go wrong if you do it trust me i know it happen to me.
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just let your friend know that you were there before him and you will be there after him he's just a boy she will get over him soon
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I think the best thing to do is to tell her how you feel. Tell her that you know she likes her boyfriend a lot, but you feel like you guys are drifting apart and you want to spend more time with her since shes your best friend.. I'm sure she'll understand !
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well has she had a lot of boyfriends? i mean if she really hasnt had many boyfriends then she juss mite be like excited to have one or close to one. but if its like she always has had boyfriends then maybe like tell her to stop wit the dude.
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I know how you feel. It can be really annoying when friends talk about nothing but boys. Ask her to please stop talking about him 24/7, but be nice about it. Say something like, "Hey, I know he's your boyfriend and all, but I'd like to know what else is going on in your life." You know, something nice. If she's a good friend, which I'm sure she is, then she'll tone it down with the whole obsessive thing. Good luck~
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yea i kno how u feel =( but wen i had a dum boyfriend named dave..everytime he signed on i wouldnt talk to any of my friends..and then my friend did that and i was like *wtf why..friends come first* we got in2 a fight..and then i noticed that u shouldnt do that if ur b/f comes on or anything..bc when she did it to me i got pizzed..just tell her..wen she isnt with her b/f be like hey! how come ur different every tyme ur with ur bf? we were friends first and then everytime a boy comes in u gotta act different! AND I HATE IT! <~ just say that..she might get mad at first..but she will no that ur rigth..hope this helps!
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It was the EXACT same with me and my best friend. I told her how i had felt, and it ruined our friendship. You definatly need to tell her. I kept how I felt about it from her for along time... and when I told her I was angry and bitter and I didn't say it nice at all, it was the end of our friendship. But you should talk to her as soon as possible, let her know that you're hurt cause you feel a guy is coming between you. She's not doing the right thing, but i think that everyone eventually get's caught up in a new flame once or twice. When you talk to her, she may not realize it then, but soon she'll figure out how much she misses you. I'm sure things will work out, just say it in a calm way and don't approach the subject with hard feelings. hope everything works out for you babe!
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you could ask her to keep it to a minium on the boyfriend chat..and tell her you want to spend more time with her :]
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