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hey my name's Sam~* i'm 14. i'm a brunette w/ brown eyes. i'm a cheerleader, & gymnast. i run track, and play volleyball. i have awesome *&* crazy friends that i love very much. i'm pretty outgoing once you get to know me. i like shopping, going to the movies, hanging out w/ friends, stuff like that. i'm great at giving advice, bc i've gone through a lot of stuff that you guys are going through. i'm a really sweet person, and a good listener! so don't be shy, ask me a question and i'll try my best to give you a good answer! and if you ever need more help, feel free to IM me on AIM anytime=)


Some More About Me



[a]ge: 14
[b]irthday: October 18th, 1990
[c]olors: pink, purple, blue
[d]ream boy: blonde hair, blue or green eyes, built, smells good, muscles..sweet, romantic..all that good stuff :-P
[e]yes: brown
[f]riends: they know who they are =)
[g]rade average: A's and B's
[h]air color: brunette
[i]ntersets: cheerleading & gymnastics
[j]obs: besides going to school, babysitting..
[k]razy: lol, sometimes..
[l]ocation: Pennsylvania
[m]aritral statis: single, for now
[n]ame: Samantha aka Sam
[o]bsession: the movie "The Notebook"
[p]izza: stuffed crust
[q]uote: have you ever wondered which hurts more? saying something and wishing you hadn't..or saying nothing, and wishing you had.
[r]ace: white
[s]ong: Candyshop -50 cent ft. Olivia
[t]ell something about you: easily hurt, and easily jealous.
[u]nbelievablly embarrising moment: the bottom of my pants ripped and i didn't notice, so i walked around school like that until one of my friends told me..and now i look back and laugh at it=)
[v]ery best thing about me: i'm a really good friend.
[w]orst thing about me: not always fully honest
[x]tremly darin stunts: well, i went down a big snowboarding run thing and i didnt know how to snowboard..ending=me on my ass
[y]ummy food: hmmm, prob. any junk food, lol
[z]odiac: Libra

**want to know anything else, just ask me!:-)




~*ratings *&* feedbacks are appreciated..xoxo

advice

The guy who I really like thinks I'm obsessed with him. I'm not and I want to show him that I'm not. What can I do to show him that I'm not obsessed with him?

hmm..well i'd just not talk to him as much, or flirt w/ him. guys usually don't like it if girls try to hard. so if you like usually wait for him somewhere..don't, and if he says "hey" just be like "oh hey" and smile and then walk away or something. just totally back off to prove that ur not obsessed or anything. hope i helped..let me know what happens.xoxo

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i'm 13,female, my boyfriend is 15 and I don't know what to get him for valentines day and he says it's up to me on were we go that day. I want to no on what i could get him and were do you think would be the best places/place to go.

hey! for the place..i'd say either out to dinner, or maybe to see a movie =) and for the gift..either his favorite cologne, or maybe a shirt? if you know he's too picky about clothes..then just get him a gift card to one of his favorite stores. a card would be cute too! hope i helped-*xoxo

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I have really hairy arms and its embaressing i dont know what to do about it. I cant shave because it will grow back darker and my stomach pluss back is hairy too . does anybody know what i can do?

you could wax..or you don't wanna do that if you use lemon juice while tanning it helps lighten the color of the hairs...hope i helped*xoxo

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Now I know most people say "Oh I hate school!", but really, I do. I get made fun of so much but I try to brush it off because I don't want to seem like a weak person. One girl and a few of her friends call me a dike whenever they see me. I don't know why, I'm not; I don't know what gave them that idea. One kid calls me fat and makes fun of the clothes I wear. For one, I'm not fat... I'm not the skinnest person ever, but I sure as hell am not fat. Then theres this other guy, who also makes fun of the clothes I wear. For instance today I had a Sid Vicious shirt on and he harrassed me the whole way home about it. "Oh my god he killed his girlfriend" "Sid Vicious is so gay" "I hate the sex pistols" "You're a loser if you listen to them" I really have had it and I'm really sick of school, I just can't put up with it anymore and have no idea of what to do. I want to drop out so bad, I just can't put up with people and there stupid jokes. Anybody know what I can do about this. I really don't want to talk to anybody about it but I just don't know what else I can do. -kate

you just need to ignore them. they sound like a bunch of stuck up bitchs. they think their better then everyone else, and they dont accept anyone thats different. but usually the popular crowd has more ppl that hate them, then actually like them. just realize that if they wanna waste their time talking about ppl and makeing fun of them then they dont have a life. i'm sure you have friends that love you for you, just hang out w/ them and ignore the other ppl. dont let them get to you..because that's what they want. let them waste their time being stuck up and thinking their just so perfect:-) hope i helped*xoxo

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Me and my ex bf were together a couple months but it had to go to a long distance relationshiops for awhile and he thought i hated him and then we broke up cuz we didnt talk cuz of that and now i found out he still loves me what do i do?

it depends on how you feel. do you still love him or are you over him? and even if you still love him, is there any other guys that you have your eye on? if there's not, and you still love him, i say talk it out w/ him and get back together! if you do love him but there might be another guy you kinda like, i'd wait awhile and see if ur feelings for the other guy grow..let me know what happens! hope i helped*xoxo

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hey i have a ? and i REALLY need an anwser and you sem to know what you are talkin so i will ask you ok i really like this guy ill cal him ryan and he is goin out with my friend he knows that i like him and he and i have done some stuff but i have always felt badly about it like it is nothingbad but stuff you shouldnt be doing with other girls if you have a girlfriend yya know? and well he and his girlfriend have broken up twice ( i caused it partly the first time) and then they broke up again last night and well his profile still; says i love blank and i dont know what to do PLEASE HELP ME!

try talking to him about it, if he won't tell you who it is, then ask some of his friends to find out. if it is you, find out if your friend still has feelings for him. if not, i say go for it. if she does..then you might wanna think about who means more to you and if going out w/ this guy is more important then ur friendship w/ her. but i guess that depends on how much u like the guy and how close you are w/ the girl. anyways, hope i helped, let me know what happens! xoxo*

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how can i make sure that my girlfriend that lives 300 miles awya will never wanna leave me?

the best thing you can do, is call her Every night if possible and talk w/ her. you could also talk to her online and stuff..just make sure you guys stay really close. and whenever you guys do see eachother be really sweet and affectionate, other than that there's nothing that you can really do. there's always that chance that'll she like some guy that she sees everyday in school. good luck, hope i helped*xoxo

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i just started liking this guy. lets just call him bob. and about a year ago we were good friends and randomly i started liking him the other day. it was really weird. but i just found out that he has a gf n i know nothing about her or how long theyve bin goin out. im really upset but what should i do? i cant just win him over because i NEVER see him except for in the halls but i dont have time to talk to him then! ill rate u a 5 if u answer!

i was in the same position last week except he was going out w/ my Bestfriend. how serious are him and his gf? if you really like him, and you think he's worth the while then you just have to be patient, try to talk to him more in school, and on the computer or phone. and eventually he'll see what a great girl you are and you guys will become really close. once your close friends start flirting w/ him when you see him in the hallways or if you guys are at the same place w/ friends outside of school..he'll eventually see what an osm girl you are and like you back! hope i helped, let me know how everything goes! *xoxo

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Ok, well, let me start off by saying i'm a 7th grade girl. Today at lunch this kid named derek passed me a note and said it was from my friend brian. I took one of my girl freinds, tara, to the bathrooom and read the note. It was really orny and soft....it read, "Roses are read, Violets are blue, sugar is sweet, and so are you......will you go out with me?". My friend tara started cracking up while i was numb and shocked from the note. I threw it in the trash and ignored brian the whole day. Now, me being quite popular (not rele popular, but popular as in knoing everyone in our grade and tlk to them and hang) and brian being shy and non-social. It's really weird and almost gross that he asked me out.....i rele don't know how to tell him that i don't want to go out with him at all so that he on't get embarrased and i won't get embarrased. Pleask tell me what i can write to him so he on't get hurt.
Thank-you so much for the help

just tell him that you like being friends w/ him and you wouldn't want to go out with him and take the chance of ruining your friendship, that way your saying it nicely and he won't get hurt! hope i helped*xoxo

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So i was answering a question and after i press send or whatever it says "Chatspeak detected. Type in english" what is that?

it means your using words like "ur, omg, u, lyke, ppl" this site makes you use proper spellings! "your, oh my gosh, you, like, people" the same thing happened to me, hope i helped*xoxo

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So this is my first year at this new school and I came here looking forward to a whole new future and being able to restart witha clean slate and nobody knowing who you were or what you were like. And I have been doing pretty good so far I wanted to be friends with everyone, because that wasnt how it was at my old school, and that worked except I had this one bestfriend at the begining of the year now we hardley ever hang out and she says that I am just trying to be popular. She is completely wrong I think???? I tried to explain and she says she understands now but I dont think she does. What do you think I am dong trying to be popular or just trying to have a lot of friends?!?!?!?!?!?!

having lots of friends could be condsider the same as being popular, and there's no problem with wanting that, i think almost every girl at one point or another whats to have lots of friends and be popular. and it's perfectly fine as long as you don't forget your old friends, and the ones that were Always there for you. hope i helped*xoxo

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okay i have had these 2 friends for a long time and they are 2 of my best friends. lets call them dory and marsha..
but then i got a 15 year old bf who i had liked for a long time. who they doubted i could ever get with... total lake of confidence... but then you see i am also friends with marsha's sisters... when i stopped dating jon ( 15 ) i found out stuff from marsha and her sister that he told like 4 people... the thing is they didnt call me right away to tell me these things right away. and then marsha's sister stated dating him... she asked me AFTER they started dating... lake of respect!! Well here it gets down to everything:

okay well dory and marsha have been friends for way longer they treat each other better (i think) and tell me they are better friends becuase they have known eachother longer... i dont believe that length of time makes a relationship stronger or anything... hard work and effort makes a relationship strong... well they alwasy tell eachother things and i have to pry things out of them... like when one of them has family problems she always tells the other and she brings it up but then like goes "opps i wasnt suposoe to say that..." i ask her wut its abotu she says "nothing i cant say i swore not to." well they always do that 2 me... someitmes they kind of ignore me... like jsut reply with ok... un huh... and yea. stuff liek that.

today dory needed to talk to marsha abotu something... i asked her why she couldnt talk to me... she said " well marsha always says the irght thing and thats what i need " she like went on like that and i flipped out i mean i am not perfect but i dont say the wrong thing constently and marsha isnt clsoe to perfect either... infact she says the wrong thng to me all the time... it makes me furious!! I mean i had a great reason to flip out ... i started telling her everything i told you above and she says " well sometimes i tell marsha stuff and other times i tell you" the only problem is she never tells me anything!!

then she said "that she was wasting her time talking about this..." she was wasting her time listening to my problem... that makes me mad!!!

now like me and her are in a fight and i dotn know
what to do... dont tell me 2 apologize because all i wanted was to be there for her! pelase help me
i know this was long but PLEASE!!

-beccers_boo

i rate honestly!!

wow..that sucks. i'd sit them both down and talk it out. tell them how you feel, about how you feel not included at times and that they never seem to talk to you or tell you anything. if you don't think they'll listen in person, then write them each a note. that way you can say what u have to say w/o getting interupted. after you talk to them and stuff, if their really your bestfriends they should understand where your coming from and try to fix the problem. if they dont, then their not worth your time anyway. let me know how it goes..hope i helped*xoxo

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first of all your really pretty. ok anyway, i've been hearing rumors that my boyfriends been cheating on me with some girl that goes to another school. he's cheated on my twice before, but i forgave him bc he apologized and said he'd never do it again. so i asked him about it and he said no, and that he loved me and that he'd never do that to me..should i believe him or the rumors? thanks~

thank you~* find out who started the rumors, and find out who he supposedly cheated with. then talk to that girl and see what she says. if she says yes then chances are it's true. if he's cheated on you 2 times be4, then he'd prob do it again. and you deserve so much better then that! let me know what happens*xoxo

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k im 15 and ive kissed but never made out b4 yes sad i know. anyways i was wondering, exactly how do u do it? and am i the only 15 year old who hasn't?

your deff. not the only 15 yr old who hasn't done it, i know lots of girls in my school who haven't. and it's not your fault your not a slut and makeout w/ just any guy. it's really hard to explain how you do it, you basically just stick your tongue in and out lol. just let him lead. dont worry about it, it just comes naturally, and its one of those things you laugh about later on. hope i helped*xoxo

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k..my friend is out of town right now and i like her boyfriend..the other day we madeout in his truck when he drove me home..and we've been hanging out a lot since she left for thanksgiving..i feel really guilty but i just cant get him off of my mind..i like him way too much..and i dunno what to do!..i swear im gunna end up going crazy..what should i do??

your gonna have to tell your friend. if you try keeping it from her, one way or another she's going to find out, and then she'll be even more mad then if you would have just told her in the first place. so i'd sit her down and tell her what happened, and how you feel, and just talk it out. hopefully she won't get to mad, and if she's a good friend..she'll Eventually forgive you..but she's prob. gonna be mad at first, but you'll just have to let her cool off. and as for the boy..if he cheated on your friend..then chances are he'd cheat on you too! so i'd just try to get over him..you deserve better. if you have any more questions ask! hope i helped*xoxo.

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Ok, I have this friend who I've known since like kindergarden, and she started to hang out with the people who I absolutly despise. They (I'm sure of) are using her, just to get back at me. Becasue they hate me to. So one of the girls she is haging out with, started to call me a Lesbian because me and my friend (who is a girl) were walking down the hallway locked arms (which I think is harmless). So my friend started to belive it. I thought she knew me well enough to know I'm not. I love boys I flirt with boys not girls! OMG she got me so mad. Well anyway the rumors stoped because I set everyone straight, but my firned is acting like nothing happened! She didn't even apoligesed to my face! How am I supposed to deal with such a back-staber!?. Plus I don't want to loose her as a friend. But right now, we are kinda on the edge of ending the friendship! PLEASE help!

try talking to her..not in front of the girls that dont like you..tell her that you think she owes you an apologe, and tell her that the girls arnt really her friends and are just using her. don't say it in a mean way or anything, just talk it out. if she starts being all bitchy and rude about it then shes not worth your time and friendship anyway, and you deserve better. hope i helped*xoxo

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heyy! im 13 yr. old girl.. ok so i had this friend and she was my best friend since kindergarden.. we were friends from kindergarden to 5th grade .. then came middle school .. she became somewhat popular somehow .. but she was trying wayy to hard .. anways im in 8th grade now and its only the begining of the 2nd marking period .. she has been mean and stuck up and a bitch to me .. i get upset sometimes (i dont cry but her being me to me hurts bcuz we were friends for so long) and like should i be upset or am i jealous? plz helpp !

hey, i was in the exact same situation. it's like she's a totally different person. but if she's going to be fake and be someone totally different, just so the "popular" crowd likes her..then she's not worth your time. just hangout w/ your other friends. you sound like a sweet girl, and deserve better then a so-called friend that's gonna be a stuck-up bitch to you! hope i helped*xoxo.

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I am a 14 year old female
ok, my boyfriend and i have just started going out so the relationship is still a little akward. He is really shy so we dont talk much. But his best friend; who hooked us up, i think likes me too. b/c he is always talking to me n flirting. I whink i could have a better relationship with the other guy(not my boyfriend)but i dont want to throw away a good relaionship b/c he might just be a little nervous. I am so confused.
PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Im sorry its so long!!

hey! i think you should talk to your boyfriend. give him a week or so to come around, like you said..he's prob. just nervous. try making the first move..call him, and try to make him feel more comfortable around you. if he really likes you, and get's to know you..he'll come around. if he doesnt improve in a couple of weeks, and you don't see the relationship going anywhere, and you like the other guy, then i'd break up w/ him. hope i helped*xoxo

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ok...i have been going out with this guy for about a month now...he has become one of my best friends too...any ways....my friend is all over him ALL the time! she hugs him, holds his hands...and i dont like it...im going out with him not her! im not jealous....i just dont like it! what should i do!?!?!? thank you soooo much!

maybe she likes him..did you ever suspect that before you started going out w/ this guy? i thnk you should sit her down, and talk to her about it. but don't sound all rude and mad and stuff bc then you'll just cause a fight. just nicely tell her that it's bothering you etc, and if she's your bestfriend..then she'll back off. then, i'd talk to your boyfriend too, if he's flirting back then chances are he might have feelings for her and you..so ask him if he likes her more then a friend. hope i helped*xoxo

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ok i have a big problem. ok heres the scoop: i just moved to kentucky from chicago. its been real tough. i met my best friend and now we are always together, we are inseperable. but in the beginning of october her brother asked me out. he said that he really liked me and he told every1 i was the one for him and that we were going to run off and get married so now i am like in luv with this guy. he has the religion though of a penticostal and one of their beleifs is abstinence. and well i was raped when i was younger so technically i am not a virgin. his cousin has a really big crush on me though and when he found out that i was with his cousin he decided he was gonna make up a whole bunch of crap about me. so he told him that i screwed 20 guys and he broke up with me not even hearing what i had to say. now he wants nothing to do with me and i told his sister the reason i was not a virgin and now hes still like he cares but its not the same. he still wont even look at me. i dunno what i did wrong we were so happy. Ive been crying over him for about a month now and 3 days ago i started going out with this guy that is my other best friends boyfriends cousin. ( if that makes sense). and today he told me that he likes me a lot and that he loves me. he dosent understand how much weight that puts on my shoulder. i like him but i dont now if im using him to get my ex off of my mind. i want the relationship im in to last because i dont wanna fall apart again and have a breakdown but i really dont know what i should do. and i dont want to break his heart b/c i know hes 4 real. but how do i express what im fellin? please just tell me what you think i should do i need an opinion from someone who knows the basics. thankyou for reading please help me out!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
confused/tjlover

i think the guy that broke up w/ you sounds like a jerk. he couldnt have cared about you that much if he didn't even want to give you a chance to explain yourself. and if he doesnt wanna look at your or talk to you, then he's not worth your time. the guy your w/ now sounds like such a sweetheart, i'd try your best to get over the first guy and just move on w/ your life. i know moving on from guys that you Really liked can be hard..but sometimes once you do move on, it makes your life 1000000 times better. hope i helped~xoxo*

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