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ok i have a big problem. ok heres the scoop: i just moved to kentucky from chicago. its been real tough. i met my best friend and now we are always together, we are inseperable. but in the beginning of october her brother asked me out. he said that he really liked me and he told every1 i was the one for him and that we were going to run off and get married so now i am like in luv with this guy. he has the religion though of a penticostal and one of their beleifs is abstinence. and well i was raped when i was younger so technically i am not a virgin. his cousin has a really big crush on me though and when he found out that i was with his cousin he decided he was gonna make up a whole bunch of crap about me. so he told him that i screwed 20 guys and he broke up with me not even hearing what i had to say. now he wants nothing to do with me and i told his sister the reason i was not a virgin and now hes still like he cares but its not the same. he still wont even look at me. i dunno what i did wrong we were so happy. Ive been crying over him for about a month now and 3 days ago i started going out with this guy that is my other best friends boyfriends cousin. ( if that makes sense). and today he told me that he likes me a lot and that he loves me. he dosent understand how much weight that puts on my shoulder. i like him but i dont now if im using him to get my ex off of my mind. i want the relationship im in to last because i dont wanna fall apart again and have a breakdown but i really dont know what i should do. and i dont want to break his heart b/c i know hes 4 real. but how do i express what im fellin? please just tell me what you think i should do i need an opinion from someone who knows the basics. thankyou for reading please help me out!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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honey, if he wouldnt even listen to you trying to defend yourself and just went by what everyone else said, then you really do need to get over him. hes not worth it.
i dont know if youre going out with your bf now to get over the ex, but mayeb since youre thinking about it, you are. so maybe its not a good idea to be dating him, either.
this is a very complicated situation, and i cant just give you a few kind words and that'll make it all better. just use your head and give it time. i hope everything will work out for you. hope i helped! ~*stefanie
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Well first off, I recommend commas and capitalization...it was very hard on my eyes. But other than that I'm proud of you for using periods and such...
I suggest dropping your ex on his ass (or on spikes) because he fucked up...and explain to the other guy the situation that you're in. If he really feels the way he says he does, he'll understand and help you through it. And if he doesnt, then he wasn't worth your time.
I also think that telling the new guy what's going on will allow you to find out if you can really trust him.
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i think the guy that broke up w/ you sounds like a jerk. he couldnt have cared about you that much if he didn't even want to give you a chance to explain yourself. and if he doesnt wanna look at your or talk to you, then he's not worth your time. the guy your w/ now sounds like such a sweetheart, i'd try your best to get over the first guy and just move on w/ your life. i know moving on from guys that you Really liked can be hard..but sometimes once you do move on, it makes your life 1000000 times better. hope i helped~xoxo*
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wow sweety...sounds like you have a lot on your shoulders. You know your with this guy but it seems to me that your just with this guy cause you want someone to be with you....WHICH ISNT BAD dont get me wrong. But they way you talk about your ex its as if you really care bout this guy. If you really like someone and you can see a future with him fight for it. now dont go beggin or thing like just try to be friends with him again. Now if he totaly blows you off ...sweety let it go... cause what happened to you isnt your fault and its totaly wrong of what his cousin said about you. If your ex broke up with you and found out what had happened to you and still doesnt give you a second chance he isnt worth your time. Now with ur new guy.... hes told you he loves you ... but if you dont feel that way DONT SAY IT BACK....even if it hurts his feelings dont say it back trust me from personal experiance it hurts more to say it then it not work out and the person find out you never really meant it. If you have ne doub that you might be using this guy to get over you ex tell him that you like him but that you wanna get your thoughts in order first and that once you relieze what you want that hopefully he will still be there. and trust me if he cares enough about you to say that he loves you he should be there. Its better to get things straight now that its still fresh than when you've been with the guy for a while... trust me a big nasty tangle will develope if you do that and it will hurt both of yall!
I hope everything works out for you...and i hope i was some what of a help....
With care,
Sita
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The guy that broke up with you first is a jerk, don't go out with him again. Try your best to get over him. The guy that you are going out with at the moment will help you forget about the jerk. I think that you should continue going out with the guy you are currently in a relationship with because he seems really nice and he loves you and thats sweet. Hope I helped. If you need any more advice ask me a question! Good luck!
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Wow that's a tough one :-/ I'm thinkin maybe you should try talking to your new b/f and telling him what happened. Tell him you do like him, but maybe not as strongly as he likes you. If you feel you need to, then tell him that you feel like you're not being fair to him b/c of the whole situation with your ex. That's really all I can think of, I hope that helped some! I'm really sorry that happened! Goodluck hun! -Amber
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Ok, first off I have to tell you that because you were raped, it wasn't your choice and you still are a virgin. Also, you need to make that guy talk to you. Ask your friend to set something up at her house one day so her brother talks to you and she will leave the room or something. Just make him listen and tell him that everything his cousin said wasn't true and it hurts you that he won't even listen. Another thing, I don't really think the guy you are with, you like a whole bunch, I do think that you are with him so you won't feel so lonely because you don't have that other guy and your boyfriend shouldn't be telling you he loves you this early. It's too soon. If it does work out to where you can talk to your ex boyfriend, then I think you should break up with your current boyfriend and see where things go with your ex. Don't break your boyfriends heart though unless you know the other one likes you or there could be a possibility between you guys. -Kayla
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Well you should tell him how you feel be honest and truthful...that always works in a relationship it should too and if he really loves you then he'd understand how you feel so go with your heart tell him...be TRUTHFUL and HONEST...
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