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best friend mix up!!
okay i have had these 2 friends for a long time and they are 2 of my best friends. lets call them dory and marsha..
but then i got a 15 year old bf who i had liked for a long time. who they doubted i could ever get with... total lake of confidence... but then you see i am also friends with marsha's sisters... when i stopped dating jon ( 15 ) i found out stuff from marsha and her sister that he told like 4 people... the thing is they didnt call me right away to tell me these things right away. and then marsha's sister stated dating him... she asked me AFTER they started dating... lake of respect!! Well here it gets down to everything:
okay well dory and marsha have been friends for way longer they treat each other better (i think) and tell me they are better friends becuase they have known eachother longer... i dont believe that length of time makes a relationship stronger or anything... hard work and effort makes a relationship strong... well they alwasy tell eachother things and i have to pry things out of them... like when one of them has family problems she always tells the other and she brings it up but then like goes "opps i wasnt suposoe to say that..." i ask her wut its abotu she says "nothing i cant say i swore not to." well they always do that 2 me... someitmes they kind of ignore me... like jsut reply with ok... un huh... and yea. stuff liek that.
today dory needed to talk to marsha abotu something... i asked her why she couldnt talk to me... she said " well marsha always says the irght thing and thats what i need " she like went on like that and i flipped out i mean i am not perfect but i dont say the wrong thing constently and marsha isnt clsoe to perfect either... infact she says the wrong thng to me all the time... it makes me furious!! I mean i had a great reason to flip out ... i started telling her everything i told you above and she says " well sometimes i tell marsha stuff and other times i tell you" the only problem is she never tells me anything!!
then she said "that she was wasting her time talking about this..." she was wasting her time listening to my problem... that makes me mad!!!
now like me and her are in a fight and i dotn know
what to do... dont tell me 2 apologize because all i wanted was to be there for her! pelase help me
i know this was long but PLEASE!!
-beccers_boo
i rate honestly!!
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Honestly, you did the right thing in telling her how you felt. She reacted unfairly, it isn't your fault.
I suppose now you should go to Marsha and tell her how you feel about things as well. If she ignores you as well, then perhaps they really aren't very good friends and you deserve better.
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wow..that sucks. i'd sit them both down and talk it out. tell them how you feel, about how you feel not included at times and that they never seem to talk to you or tell you anything. if you don't think they'll listen in person, then write them each a note. that way you can say what u have to say w/o getting interupted. after you talk to them and stuff, if their really your bestfriends they should understand where your coming from and try to fix the problem. if they dont, then their not worth your time anyway. let me know how it goes..hope i helped*xoxo
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you just need to talk to her and make sure she understands that you were trying to help her, and not get you two in a fight. sit her down and talk about what's bothering her, and what's bothering you, and you guys should be able to work it out! but you're right, if you were just trying to help, you shouldn't have to appologize! good luck!
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