Website: My GJ
Gender: Female
Location: USA
Age: 16
Member Since: December 2, 2004
Answers: 17
Last Update: December 4, 2004
Visitors: 950
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I just got my period in July sometime and i use pads but i have her people say that tampons are so much better and LESS MESSY. but i am SOOOOO afraid to use one because just the thought sickins me. I'm asking people from experience....does it hurt the 1ST time.
-arielle- (link)
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Tampons have never hurt me. I suggest buying the "teen" kind when you're first starting off. They're slimmer and are less likely to cause discomfort.
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I need help taking care of people. I am a tough chick but need to learn how to be more tougher, and to tell people off. So if anyone can help me here please answer. Thanks.
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And why do you want to tell someone off? Is it to impress someone, to feel like a badass, or is someone harassing you?
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Ok, well, i've been looking around advicenators and stuff. I noticed all these kids between ages 13-15 are so damn caught up on sx and shit. Well, for you to know, I'm 13, and in my town people are so layed back. It's a really small town. I know almost like everyone in the middle school which are ages 12-15. No, one does any of that shit. They all think it's stupid at this age. You never have to worry about having sex at the right time and when. Everyone is like a virgin in my school. I was really confused and distirbed about this......do you think 13-15 is to young to be having sex or not? I'm so confused. Is there something in my town that we're not getting?
thnx so much
-roxy- (link)
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I do think 13-15 is too young to be having sex. Not from the moral aspect, just that sex has serious consequences, emotionally and sometimes physically, and at 15 or under, you're just not mentally ready and able to accept the responsibility that comes with sex.
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ok so here it goes tomarrow, friday people were planning a birthday party for this girl catherine and everyone was talking about it since monday well everyone but like 4 people in our grade was invited i was one of the four. Well today at brunch carla a senior, asked me and another girl to go on friday . well i wanted to go until i thought about it and since its a new school for me i wasnt sure if other people wanted me to go since they didnt ask me to go until the a day before(today). so should i go or not i dont want people to be like who invited HER and i have no other people to go/hangout with but i want to go casue carla asked me and she is really nice for asking me
what do i do ? (link)
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You should go if you want to go. After all, you WERE invited.
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Okay so me and my ex,Adam, broke up. But when i was talking to him he said he wasn't ready even though he's the one who broke it off. He started to suposely work his "charm",lol, and i am not over him, but i went through soooo much pain after the break up. I mean it felt like a peice of my heart fell off and burnt inside of me. I really need sum one to talk to!
Signed,
Helpless (link)
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The best thing to do is to move on and not worry about him. If you keep pining for him and taking him back whenever he wants, he will just take you for granted.
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15/f and my guy friend is getting me this really nice gift for christmas and i want to get him something, but im in a bad financial situation, so i can only get him something small.
i guess you could say he's leaning on the dorky side, hes into anime, football, wrestling, dresses kinda preppy, videogames, music but i dont know exactly what type...
so what can i get him that's generic? (dont say cd's, clothes, or any lame sports thing, or anime cause i have NO clue where to start)... anyway, thanks! (link)
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Honestly, the things you told us NOT to suggest are actually good ideas.
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In school, I always feel like people are judging me. Only the popular ones though (because I'm not popular, I'm just average). I always watch what I do, to make sure it's something the popular kids would "agree" with (I guess?). It's not that I want to be popular (because, believe me, I really don't), but I just want to feel comfortable around them. It's kind of a weird topic, but I want to get it off my mind. I hate not being myself and I want to stop, but it's hard. I want to know your opinion on this. Thank you so much (link)
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Stop worrying about what they think. It causes too much stress to constantly modify your behavior around these people just to impress them. Be yourself, and so what if they don't agree with you? Over time they'll see that you don't care what they think, and ultimately you'll be much more respected for it.
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If you were a boy around a 14 or 15 what would be your dream christmas gift to get from your girlfriend? Im stuck on what do get my boyfriend so share what you would love to get from a girl and please... nothing grose! Thanks soo much!!! (link)
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At his age, trying to be romantic with your gift giving might be lost on him. Find out what kinds of things he likes, perhaps there's a video game he's been wanting or maybe some CD he's been wanting but couldn't find anywhere.
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I lost the love of my life because he faught somtimes, but the real issue is- my parents won't let him be around me- i can't even talk to him!.... what do i do? He loves me so much and i love him too, we want to be together but my parents won't let us..?! help me please (link)
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Sit down with your parents and calmly talk to them about it. If you explain to them that you love each other and convince them that he's good for you, they might change their mind. If they persist in saying no, then you may have to wait until you're 18 to continue your relationship.
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I'm very much in love with a man who is much older than I am. We have so much in common, and he's so sweet and caring. He's made it perfectly clear that he loves me, and he puts no type of sexual pressure on me. The only problem is that people constantly tell me that being with him is a bad idea because of the age difference. Is age really that important? Should this cause us to end our relationship? (link)
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He sounds like a keeper to me. However, you didn't provide me your age. If you're under 18, then technically your parents could prevent you from seeing him, possibly by pressing charges on him.
However, if you're over 18, or if your parents aren't the ones who don't approve, I say ignore the hecklers and be with the guy.
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Okay heres the thing i like this guy A LOT and were close friends and the other night he told me that he likes me too..which made me happy but the thing is right now we cant date because 3 of his best friends ( theyre girls ) like him and it would hurt them and start A LOT of drama...but he told me " i need u right here now i need u right now more than ever" and he told me i make him happy but its real hard ...and i dont know if he wants me to wait until everything cools down with his friends or should i try moving on n puttin interest in someone else....because i mean we both like eachother and we have chemistry....so what should i do!? (link)
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If he's not dating them, why shouldn't he date you? They can get over jealousy. It sounds to me like he wants to keep HIS options open. I suggest you do the same instead of waiting around for this guy.
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ahh i bite my nails!!! its a really bad habit! i do it when im not paying attention anyone have any tips for stopping? (link)
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I suggest keeping lotion on your hands. It tastes horrible, and it's good for them.
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Can you get pregnant from pre-cum? (link)
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Yes, it's possible to get pregnant from pre-cum.
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okay i have had these 2 friends for a long time and they are 2 of my best friends. lets call them dory and marsha..
but then i got a 15 year old bf who i had liked for a long time. who they doubted i could ever get with... total lake of confidence... but then you see i am also friends with marsha's sisters... when i stopped dating jon ( 15 ) i found out stuff from marsha and her sister that he told like 4 people... the thing is they didnt call me right away to tell me these things right away. and then marsha's sister stated dating him... she asked me AFTER they started dating... lake of respect!! Well here it gets down to everything:
okay well dory and marsha have been friends for way longer they treat each other better (i think) and tell me they are better friends becuase they have known eachother longer... i dont believe that length of time makes a relationship stronger or anything... hard work and effort makes a relationship strong... well they alwasy tell eachother things and i have to pry things out of them... like when one of them has family problems she always tells the other and she brings it up but then like goes "opps i wasnt suposoe to say that..." i ask her wut its abotu she says "nothing i cant say i swore not to." well they always do that 2 me... someitmes they kind of ignore me... like jsut reply with ok... un huh... and yea. stuff liek that.
today dory needed to talk to marsha abotu something... i asked her why she couldnt talk to me... she said " well marsha always says the irght thing and thats what i need " she like went on like that and i flipped out i mean i am not perfect but i dont say the wrong thing constently and marsha isnt clsoe to perfect either... infact she says the wrong thng to me all the time... it makes me furious!! I mean i had a great reason to flip out ... i started telling her everything i told you above and she says " well sometimes i tell marsha stuff and other times i tell you" the only problem is she never tells me anything!!
then she said "that she was wasting her time talking about this..." she was wasting her time listening to my problem... that makes me mad!!!
now like me and her are in a fight and i dotn know
what to do... dont tell me 2 apologize because all i wanted was to be there for her! pelase help me
i know this was long but PLEASE!!
-beccers_boo
i rate honestly!! (link)
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Honestly, you did the right thing in telling her how you felt. She reacted unfairly, it isn't your fault.
I suppose now you should go to Marsha and tell her how you feel about things as well. If she ignores you as well, then perhaps they really aren't very good friends and you deserve better.
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I am 16 years old and I have been through hell and back! My mom was with a guy for nine years and I was molested by him. Now every year she is with a new guy. In February I was raped by my brother in-law and my mom didn't believe me at first, I was called a liar and I was told that I asked for it, the cops didn't even believe me until I took a polygraph test! I eventually got away from my mom because she hit me one day. I was living with one of her friends which kicked me out of her house for smoking cigs (She knew before I moved in that I was a smoker and I NEVER smoked in her house or even on her property!) I tried to kill myself because I didnt want to go back to my mom, i was placed in a mental institution for 4 months and now I am living with my mom again! She of course is with another guy. In the last few weeks my mom has had two strokes because of her boyfriend yelling and threatning her! I can't take it! I have enough problems of my own and the other night I tried to kill myself again! I dont want to end up back in the hospital and my moms new boyfriend is cool as long as they aren't fighting. I am scared that my mom is going to get hurt and I am going to end up dead because the slightest things make me want to cut, burn, or die! I still don't feel close to my mom, but I spent so long fighting her and finally gave in. I have no where to go but back to the hospital and I dont want that! WHAT DO I DO! (link)
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I suggest seeing a counselor. It is different than being in a hospital. You can tell the counselor everything that's going on with your family, and perhaps they can help you cope with it and alleviate the urges to harm or kill yourself.
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okay so i always fall for the "bad boys" but this time i like one of my old best friends, but the problem is he is a jerk, unreliable, and a stoner..... and like i dont know what to do, because we dont talk all that much anymore b/c he has a different group of friends than i do.. he liked me all of last year but i always said no when he asked me out because i didnt agree with him about the whole drug thing, and now i've realised that i liked him the whole time and still do and hes found another girlfriend and im just like.... sad. iono. should i tell him how i feel or not? i dont want to ruin his relationship.. sorry if thats kind of long (link)
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Sure, you might like this guy, but you need to figure out first of all if being with him is worth dealing with his drug use, and the possible consequences of associating with him. If you do decide that how you feel about him is worth it, then you should tell him how you feel.
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i have a friend who cuts, she hasnt since the summer but today she came into shcool and told me one of my other really good friends and one of her really good friends and made us sweare we wouldnt tell anyone or shed kill us type of thing.....the whole thing is me and my friend dont know exactly how we should help her we know she wants the help but we cant figure out how to...is there anyone with any experience with this that has any sugestions that worked? were all really confsued as to how to solve this and we know that we cant force her to get help but sugest it and jsut be there for her and tlak to her but there has to be somthing more we can do (link)
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Take it from a cutter, don't put pressure on her. It'll only make her paranoid and nervous and, while she may stop for a while, chances are that she would start again, but much deeper than before.
What you SHOULD do is offer yourself to be there for her. Ask her to call you first whenever she wants to harm herself. Talking to anyone, whether it's always about the problem or not, helps.
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