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Why do people hardly ever buy new bright-yellow cars? In my graphic arts design class we were discussing how yellow on black has the biggest contrast or whatever. So, I got to thinking...why do people NOT like bright yellow cars? It sounds like they'd look the best agains the black asphalt road...
I guess my question is about your personal preference. Do you like the bright yellow cars? Why or why not? THANKS! (link)
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I hate yellow cars. When I think of a yellow vehicle, I think of a school bus or taxi. I believe the color yellow should have continued to stay a symbol of these means of transportation.
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so i USED TO BE a realllllly bad cutter, im not anymore just to make that clear but the scars all down my wrist and arm are terrible enough to where i cant wear short sleeves, is there anything i can do to make them go away ? or at least get better... (link)
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Congratulations on stopping!
It is getting warmer out to continue wearing long sleeves forever.
Makeup is too noticible. This can make it look to other people like you are still cutting. Plus, it can get on your clothes.
I would research or ask my doctor for a good scar cream.
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Well i broke up with my exboyfriend about 2 weeks ago because there were rumors that he was playing me which i kno y people thought he was playin me but he wasnt i figured that story out but it made me get more aware and my eyes became more open well i broke up with him because another girl messaged me and told me he was goin out with her too but he says he wasnt and that the girl was just obsessed with him i really dont know who or what to believe i miss him and he tells me he misses me but i dont know what i should do i really need help im soo confused what do you think i should do? what would you do in this situation? (link)
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It is hard for a relationship to survive rumors. Without proof that it was or was not happening, there are always going to be those "what ifs" in the back of your mind. It makes it even more difficult that someone has come foward and said they dated him at the same time you were. Personally though, I would not try again. I was in the same situation as you a couple of years ago. Everyone in our high school told both of us the other was unfaithful. Since I knew I was loyal, it was easier for me to take his reassurances into consideration. However, our relationship was not healthy having to deal with the constant trust issues. It turned possessive, abusive and controlling. I'm not saying that this will necessarily happen. I'm just saying this issue is something that will always be brought up, and always get in the way of you two trying to be happy together.
I would not get back together with him anytime soon, if at all. If you really want to be with him again, I suggest you wait a while before trying again. Give him time to prove to you he is trustworthy.
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i am 14 and i masterbated on a corner of a matress that somebody has had sex before, like 6 or 8 months ago! and i was wondering if the sperm that was left from long time ago could i get pregnant from that sperm that has been there for a long time? i am afraid that i might get pregnant!!! (link)
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Don't worry, it is impossible for to you to get pregnant that way. For one, sperm cannot last that long, and it was dry.
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me and my boyfriend have been together for about a year and lately he seems extremely emotionless and uninterested around me, especially in public. but then we'll be alone and everything will be good. i think im just freaking myself out and every little thing he does that makes it seem like hes uninterested absolutely kills me. he says hes tired or hes sore from conditioning or something (which i understand) but sometimes have a hard time believing. am i just freaking myself out? what should i do to calm myself down, and whats he really thinking? (link)
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As for calming yourself down, enjoy the times when things are good. To find out what he is really thinking you have to bring the topic up again. Let him know you understand that he is sore from conditioning (ask him if he wants a massage!) but you are worried there is more to it. Having been together for almost a year, you guys should be able to talk about anything. Since things are not always this way, he probably has something on his mind or something he is going through. While talking with him about your feelings, let him know that you are there for him. Good luck. Hope I helped. If you need anything else, I'm here!
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today was my first day of track practice. i did pretty good i was towards the front when last year i was the last one but i was on a few antipsychotics that make people not even wana get up so i was sooo proud that i could even run. im off them now and now my only real problem is my lungs, i even dropped out of the middle of a race because my air cut off which scared the crap out of me. i know it gets harder to breathe while running but not this bad. last year i just physically couldnt move my legs fast at all. im just getting over a concussion and i shouldnt really be running but shh, i also started smoking shisha but stopped the past month. so right now im doing great health wise im proud. im determined though i wana do a sport idc if im the best. 16/f
is there anything i could do to help my breatheing get easier? because today i only focused on getting air as i ran and not actual speed. also any other advice that would apply to me? (link)
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I would definitely check with your doctor and see if any of your antipsychotics have had long term effects on your lungs. Yes, smoking shisha recently has had an effect on your breathing. Congratulations for stopping! You are right again that while recovering from a concussion, you should not be putting your body through all it has to do in order to be running. I would take a break from it until u finish recovering. Otherwise, you could do more damage to your yourself. You did not mention whether or not you had asthma? This is something you should ask your doctor also. As for running tips, sprint the straightaways and jog the curves on the track. Always breathe in through your nose and out through your mouth while running. Making sure you properly eat, drink and stretch before practice also helps. Make sure to stay hydrated during practice. Bring a bottle of water with you for breaks in between running.
Good Luck. I hope I helped. If you need anything else, I'm here!
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so in my class at school there are these 2 boys an were really good mates. and latley i have started to like them as more than a friend uf you know what i mean. but is it right to like both of them ? (link)
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It is perfectly okay to like more than one person when you are single. Just don't: flirt with both of them at the same time, tell both of them that you have feelings for them, or try to date them both.
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I am a 21 year old woman who has begun having feelings for one of my two best friends and they found out about my feelings for one of them on a recent four day holiday (they don't know who I like). I was so upset when they found out I had to leave the house for fear it would be awkward. They came to talk to me individually so I felt comfortable (they get crazy when they are together), they both assured me that things would not get awkward and that nothing would change the fact that we were all Best Friends. I want to move on, but have no idea how as you don't often come across a man like my Bestie. How are things supposed to go back to the way they were when I feel they will think I like them no matter what I do or say?. I couldn't bare to lose either of them as they are my world. I have no idea what to do, I feel like I have betrayed our friendship and knowing things may never be as they once were breaks my heart. (link)
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Moving on takes time. Still having this man in your life as your best friend is more positive than negative.
If they both individually reassured you that things will not get awkward and that you three will remain close, than this most likely will remain so. Relax a little.
It is unfair to you and to both of them not to reveal which one you have feelings for. Telling them will eliminate those thoughts you fear.
Let them know regarless of those deeper feelings, you couldn't bear to lose either of them. By reacting the way they did to the first bit of news, they show that they truly are your best friends; best friends should be able to talk to eachother about anything. Definitely talk to them again. Good Luck. I hope I helped. If you ever need anything else, I'm here!
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So my boyfriend and I havent had sex for over 2 months. Its not that I dont want to have sex with him, its just that I dont want to just have sex anywhere. He is constantly reminding me that we havent had sex. Today we got into a huge arguement because we werent gonna be able to see eachother and he ended up telling me that he cant take it aymore and that if im not going to have sex with him, then he's going to get it from someone else. A few hours later he text me and told me that he was sorry, yet he doesnt want to talk about what was said. He called me after asking me if I like Guess purses and I said yes, but i don't want him to think that he can just buy me something and its going to change what was said. I really don't know what to do anymore and I need help on what this relationship will be like if things stay the way they are. Please comment. Thank You very much! (link)
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Not having sex just anywhere is a very respectable decision and behavior. Be proud of yourself for that! Among many things, respect is a key component to a healthy and successful relationship. If your boyfriend truly cared for you, he would have respect for you. Constantly reminding you that you haven't had sex? Not only is that disrespectful, but it is also rude and immature. You said the argument was "because we werent gonna be able to see eachother and he ended up telling me that he cant take it anymore". This sounds to me that when you guys were supposed to spend time together, he was yet again going to pressure you to have sex with him. I'm sure among your many reasons for not wanting to have sex just anywhere includes that sex to you is not just sex. Sex is more special. For you, it is probably making love everytime. It seems both of you view sex differently. Also, how can he expect you to build the want to have sex/make love to him when he treats you in this way? Threatening you to "get it from someone else" is one of the lowest things a guy can say to a woman. It is wrong, abusive and controlling! To top it all off, he wants to to accept his apology without a discussion? You are right- he cannot buy you and you shouldn't buy him! Honey, you deserve way better than this sorry excuse for a man! You deserve someone who accepts you for who you are and respects you for it. You need someone who feels the same way about you that you care about them. Your partner should never make you feel the way he does. Besides no respect, your boyfriend has now brought a trust issue into your relationship with his threat to sleep with other women. If you let things continue to stay the way they are, they will only get worse! It is time to let him go and save your heart for someone who deserves it! Good luck. I hope I helped. If you ever need anything else, I'm always here!
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Okay,
My boyfriend has been looking at p*rn a lot lately and it really bothers me. It bothers me because that is what he seems to prefer rather than us having sex together. He doesn't tell me he is looking at it, He hides it. Whenever I question or ask about it he lies...and it is really starting to tick me off. (link)
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I think you have a right to feel bothered by it. To me, looking is the first step of cheating. The people in the porn videos are just as real as the people walking down the street. I agree with you that it is wrong for him to continue this behavior when he knows you don't like it. If he really cares about you, he will respect your feelings. One can argue if you really care about him you'll let him watch something he enjoys watching. However, since you said "lately", this implies he has recently started this while dating you. Lying is not helping him either. Honesty and trust are key components to a healthy and successful relationship. You said he seems to prefer watching porn than having sex with you. This is not a good sign. This could mean he is doing more than just watching porn. Or it could mean he is losing interest in you. You need to confront him about your feelings and the fact that you know he has been lying. Tell him you would appreciate if he would be honest with you. Let him know you care about him and want to work things out. If he continues to lie or is not willing to compromise with you, than I say he is too immature for a relationship and that you deserve better. Good luck. Hope I helped. If you need anything else I'm here!
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theres this guy who ive known for almost a year now, id say ive liked him for about 8 months now. he always knew i liked him and he always said he liked me. he wasnt ready for a relationship. we had a fall out not long ago and after that he apoligised and said he missed me and things...and now we are dating. obviously im really happy that we are now together, but it doesnt seem right to me, i dont know why. has anyone else felt like this? he is my first serious boyfriend. ive dated other guys before but they havent really meant this much to me. (link)
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It seems to me that you're afraid he is going to hurt you. It must have been hard for you when you knew he liked you back before and didn't want to go further. Deep down you're probably wondering: why didn't he want me than? What made him ready now?
You could also be worrying that there will soon be another fallout, and you don't want that because you guys are finally official like you always wanted.
To fix this, you need some reassurance from your boyfriend. Be honest with him about how you feel. Let him know how much you care about him and be open with him about your worries. Ask him if he feels the same way and if he wants things to work.
I'm sure you'll get the answers you're looking for.
Remember when he was "ready to date", he didnt choose some other girl- he picked you.
Hope I helped! If you ever need anything else, I'm here. xoxo
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im president of the breast cancer club at my school, but i dont have any ideas to do around my community to get hours, any ideas? (link)
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When I was in high school, we held a "breast cancer walk." I think we charged 5 dollars per person. Everyone got a "fight against breast cancer" t-shirt and pin. All the participants walked together for a mile or so around our town. The walk was to show people that even something small can do so much, and how much you can accomplish when people work together. Alot of people got involved. Afterwards there were games and refreshments set up. It had a really good turnout. If you need anything else, let me know. Good Luck!
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at a bar/club can you tip bartenders individually or is it more "proper/expected" to use the tip jar? i use the same bartender and usually just throw him a 5 or 10 on my first drink to cover my tips for the night, is that okay to do? (link)
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I would definitely keep tipping my bartender individually so I know they will be getting it. You can never be sure who is getting the money from the tip jar...
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San diego or san jose?
hi im a senior in high school and i live in san jose, and i would like to go to the san diego state after i transfer to the community college in san diego, and my cousin lives there and i already talked to her about me going to college and living with her in san diego and she said sure i can do that, but recently, my cousin is getting married and my mom said "you shouldnt go since your cousin in san diego is going to get married and i dont think her fiance would like that" Im not sure why she said this but what should i do? i really want to go to school in san diego even for the first 2 years so i can get used to the place and all what would it be better?
A.) go to community college in san jose for 2 years and transfer to SDSU?
B.) go to community college in san diego and after 2 years transfer to SDSU?
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I agree with your mom. If your cousin is gettin married, she will want to be starting her marriage throughout the next two years (and from then on).
I think you should go to the community college in San Jose and transfer later.
While you are attending college in San Jose, you can save up for an apartment or for a dorm for when you transfer to SDSU.
At the same time, you can visit your cousin and her husband every once in a while and start to get a feel for the area than.
Good luck! Hope I helped. If you ever need anything else, I'm here!
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I'm a 17/f dating an 18/f and we've been together for more than 4 months. I love her, I really do.. but sometimes I think it's not healthy to love her this much. Whenever I'm away from her I wonder about what she's doing and where she's at. Is she at home? Is she sleeping? Is she on facebook? Is she eating? Watchig t.v.? Things like that. I really miss her when she's away from me and I go crazy or something because I can't talk to her and start thinking about all the possibilities that she could be out with someone else. I know that this is my insecurity and I wish she could reassure me that I'm the only one in her heart and I don't want to have to ask her. Our parents don't know that we're together, but we think that they might have some clues. My mother asked me to help her cook some food for a bit and she gave me a talk about boyfriends and her gay friend who had to work hard since she was with a girl that was lazy and stuff like that. I don't think my gf's lazy but I'm also afraid to fall into that kind of lifestyle that my mom's gay friend lived. My mom's friend worked 2 jobs and overtime, idk and she bought two houses for her gf only for her family to take her away. I think it's natural to be attached to someone when you love them, but I feel this gap inside me or something, Idk.. it's a feeling that I don't want. It's not bad not seeing each other for after while because when we do see eachother we laugh like crazy even over something that we wouldn't normally laugh at. But when we're apart I feel really lonely and I don't want to be with anyone but her. Not only that, but I feel this when it hasn't even been 6 or 7 hours away from her yet. I guess for me it's because being around her and hearing her voice makes me more happy and it just makes me laugh even more. I think I'm just really insecure about this because the last girlfriend I had was out with someone and I caught her having sex with a guy on a picnic table. Sometimes I think that by being with her, I'm hurting her too because.. really what I can do for her? I'm 5'2 and I can barely take care of myself.. I stay indoors more than go out to the mall and stuff because walking around and seeing so many people makes me tired. I want her to have fun too. (link)
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You said you don't want to have to ask her, but I think this is the only way to fix this situation. You need some reassurance from your girlfriend. You care about her, but you want to know if she is as serious as you are. You are afraid to lose her. If you do, you don't want it to be because of something you have done wrong. I think you need to sit her down and let this all out. Start off by saying what you're about to tell her is because you care about her and that the last thing you could ever want is for anything to ruin what you have. Good Luck, I hope I helped. If you ever need anything else, I'm always here!
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This is going to be pretty long, sorry.
Well, approximately 3 years ago me and my friend were walking down the street and we met these two girls. Let's call them Linda and Julia. Well, I am a big flirt so I started to flirt with Julia. And we hit it off. I invited them to a party that weekend. Long story short, we became really close friends. Within one year of our friendship, My friend and Linda have gotten pretty close and they started going out. And when I saw them going out, I decided to ask out Julia a couple months after that. All four of us became really close friends. Due to some family problems, my friend had to move which put a strain on my friend and Linda's relationship. They split but they were still pretty close friends. While he was gone, me and Julia were still together. But Linda and I have gotten to be really close friends. She was a like a little sister to me. A couple of months later, my friend moves back and him and Linda get back together. While they were all together, I found out that Julia has been cheating on me all these years. So I broke up with her. After that, everyone started hating her. Like I said, we were like a close family and when we found out she did that we didn't want anything to do with her. Linda was there for me. Around my friends I am the tough guy, but with Linda I knew I could cry and tell her anything. And after that, I started realizing that she's a pretty amazing girl. And I guess you can say I started having feeling for her. Two months later Julia comes to my door and I see she's pregnant. She told me I was the father. Since I didn't really have my parents there for me, I decided to give it another shot with her. Although my friend and Linda didn't approve of it, I was still with Julia. I came to found out that the baby she was having wasn't mine. So, I leave her. And after that I didn't feel so well. Linda was there for me once more. I told her everything and I she was always there for me. I soon learned to move on with my life, and I started hooking up with a lot a girls. I would says that I would have around 15 different girls a week. Linda didn't like it, but she didn't say anything. All three of us were still close friends. We told each other everything and we would always hang out. It's been three years into our close friendships with one another when my friend had to move once more. Linda and him still kept a relationship although it was a long distance one. Since he's been gone there has been a lot of problems with another guy trying to get with her. I met the other guy and we became friends. Since my other friend was gone, I thought I can get Linda with this other guy to be together. Lida kept telling me that she didn't want to have anything to do with him because he was a bad guy. I really didn't see that side of him, so I kept on pushing him onto her. I later realize that all he wanted was to sleep with her. And I told to back off. I then realize that I have feelings for her. I told my friend about how I know that they're taking a break and all but I like her. He told me to go for it if it's how I really feel.
I really want to ask her out, but I know she doesn't deserve me. I am a total party animal, I drink, I do drugs, and I'm always around girls. She's really conservative and she's a really good girl. She gets straight A's in class, nice, doesn't drink or do drugs, and she's overall a great a girl.
I want to tell her how I feel and I want to be with her, but I feel like I will ruin her life. And we're pretty close friends, I don't think she'll think of more as more than her best friend.
And she's been with my other friends, on and off for three years. I feel that she still likes him and she would want to stay true to him although he's far away.
These pass few weeks, I guess you can say I've been flirting with her. When she's at my house, I sit next to her and I play with her hair and hands. And when we're over at her house we're always watching movies on her bed and I get pretty close to her and we cuddle.
I finally came to the conclusion that I want to pursue a relationship with her. But how can I do it without being the best friend, the guy who has had a pregnancy scart, the guy who has been with multiple girls? I want her to know that I'm serious about her and that's she's not going to be like the other random hookups. How can I tell and show her that I want a serious relationship with her?
Help me please.
Sorry, if it's long. (link)
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If you are willing to change for her, than change first! Work on being what she deserves. Once your current lifestyle is behind you, how could you ruin her life?
This is the best way to go, because than when you talk to her about how you feel, she will realize how much you have already done for her. This will be her proof that you are serious about her.
Later,if she is concerned about her on and off relationship with your other friend, you can always talk about it all together...
So, if you want her, work for her! Get rid of your old habits and while doing so, start showing her you care!
Good luck! I hope I helped. If you ever need anything else, I'm always here!
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heyy..
if i shouldnt have handled it silently.. what should i have done. because i could tell he was already embarassed.. i dont know if i should bring it up again, because it might be awkward and i dont think he wants to talk about it haha. so what should i do and what "should" i have done? in your opinion. and if i do bring it up.. what should i say?
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you could of said something along the lines of "I'm glad I can make you feel so good"
if you guys have been together for almost a year it shouldn't be awkward to bring up...
just let him know you appreciate the feelings he has for you and you enjoy kissing him. Tell him you want to make him feel good and you enjoy seeing that...Apologize for reacting the way you did. Say you hope you didn't make him feel embarrassed because he should never feel that way around you.
If you don't bring it up, there's a chance the next time you guys go to kiss that things will be awkward than. In a relationship, that is definitely not a good time for things to get awkward...
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so...this may be an awkward question, but, how come, whenever you have sex, it kinda, hurts a little bit inside, and makes it feel like you have to go to the bathroom?? (link)
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If you're having pain it could be from a certain position or something worse. Which sensation are you feeling? If you feel like you have to urinate, that is normal. If you feel like you have to #2, that may be something of concern. To get the facts straight about your situation, I would definitely go to a gynocologist.
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me: 17f
him: 16m
so, ive been with my boyfriend for almost 7 months. and all we have done is make out, he feels me up.. and thats it. like nothing sexual. but today, i went over his house and we were making out.. first, it was just me like on his lap, then somehow he ended up laying down and i was straddling him. [he had jeans on, i had jeans on] and we kept making out. then he was like, here, lay down. [we were on a couch] and i was like.. uhm, where. and he was like, ontop of me haha. so im like laying ontop of him and we're still making out.. and then like idk, hes feeling me up all over. and i kissed his neck and i think he kinda like, shuttered. then after a little we kinda just stopped, and like we sit apart.. and i see that he has like a wet sopt on his jeans.. and i didnt say anything.. and hes like goin to the bathroooom.. blah blah. and we didnt talk about it afterwards.
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what happened hahhaaa. did he like.. ejaculate just from making out with me and feeling me up? and could i be pregnant. because i think i might die if i could be. like FROM MAKING OUT. aaah. and did i handle this the right way? and how did he get THAT turned on.. haha.. uhm. help? (link)
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Sounds like he did ejaculate. Because his sperm did not come in direct contact with your vagina, you have no worries of being pregnant. If you guys weren't wearing clothes at the time, however, than you would have a problem. I don't think you should have reacted so silently. He probably feels embarrassed or ashamed...He is really attracted to you and you should let him know that you appreciate that! So i would definitely bring this up and let him know that. I'm sure he is worrying about what happened.
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Okay do I'm bi. I'm sixteen and I'm a girl. I know I like girls but I wanna know how do I get one to like me if they're like that and how do I find out if they are? (link)
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Also a bi female(19)
This can definitely be frustrating but...the same rules apply as if you were straight. You can't make anyone like you if the connection isn't there. Also, if you find out a girl is bi, doesnt mean they will be interested...
The waiting part always sucks but the saying "good things come to those who wait" is really true.
Basically have hope and eventually the right girl (or guy) will come along :) That's the beauty of being bi also- we have double the chance of finding true love and happiness.
Hang in there! Hope I helped. If you ever need anything I'm always here.
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