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How can I tell her.
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This is going to be pretty long, sorry.
Well, approximately 3 years ago me and my friend were walking down the street and we met these two girls. Let's call them Linda and Julia. Well, I am a big flirt so I started to flirt with Julia. And we hit it off. I invited them to a party that weekend. Long story short, we became really close friends. Within one year of our friendship, My friend and Linda have gotten pretty close and they started going out. And when I saw them going out, I decided to ask out Julia a couple months after that. All four of us became really close friends. Due to some family problems, my friend had to move which put a strain on my friend and Linda's relationship. They split but they were still pretty close friends. While he was gone, me and Julia were still together. But Linda and I have gotten to be really close friends. She was a like a little sister to me. A couple of months later, my friend moves back and him and Linda get back together. While they were all together, I found out that Julia has been cheating on me all these years. So I broke up with her. After that, everyone started hating her. Like I said, we were like a close family and when we found out she did that we didn't want anything to do with her. Linda was there for me. Around my friends I am the tough guy, but with Linda I knew I could cry and tell her anything. And after that, I started realizing that she's a pretty amazing girl. And I guess you can say I started having feeling for her. Two months later Julia comes to my door and I see she's pregnant. She told me I was the father. Since I didn't really have my parents there for me, I decided to give it another shot with her. Although my friend and Linda didn't approve of it, I was still with Julia. I came to found out that the baby she was having wasn't mine. So, I leave her. And after that I didn't feel so well. Linda was there for me once more. I told her everything and I she was always there for me. I soon learned to move on with my life, and I started hooking up with a lot a girls. I would says that I would have around 15 different girls a week. Linda didn't like it, but she didn't say anything. All three of us were still close friends. We told each other everything and we would always hang out. It's been three years into our close friendships with one another when my friend had to move once more. Linda and him still kept a relationship although it was a long distance one. Since he's been gone there has been a lot of problems with another guy trying to get with her. I met the other guy and we became friends. Since my other friend was gone, I thought I can get Linda with this other guy to be together. Lida kept telling me that she didn't want to have anything to do with him because he was a bad guy. I really didn't see that side of him, so I kept on pushing him onto her. I later realize that all he wanted was to sleep with her. And I told to back off. I then realize that I have feelings for her. I told my friend about how I know that they're taking a break and all but I like her. He told me to go for it if it's how I really feel.
I really want to ask her out, but I know she doesn't deserve me. I am a total party animal, I drink, I do drugs, and I'm always around girls. She's really conservative and she's a really good girl. She gets straight A's in class, nice, doesn't drink or do drugs, and she's overall a great a girl.
I want to tell her how I feel and I want to be with her, but I feel like I will ruin her life. And we're pretty close friends, I don't think she'll think of more as more than her best friend.
And she's been with my other friends, on and off for three years. I feel that she still likes him and she would want to stay true to him although he's far away.
These pass few weeks, I guess you can say I've been flirting with her. When she's at my house, I sit next to her and I play with her hair and hands. And when we're over at her house we're always watching movies on her bed and I get pretty close to her and we cuddle.
I finally came to the conclusion that I want to pursue a relationship with her. But how can I do it without being the best friend, the guy who has had a pregnancy scart, the guy who has been with multiple girls? I want her to know that I'm serious about her and that's she's not going to be like the other random hookups. How can I tell and show her that I want a serious relationship with her?
Help me please.
Sorry, if it's long.
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you gota be real with her && let her know how yew feel!
tell her you want hurt her send her a text or call her!
stop flirten with other people !
let her know its all about her !
let her know no one comes above her !
ikN0 she wants to here it !
nobody said it would be easy!
they jus promice it would be worth it !
kuz sadly im in the same situation !
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If you are willing to change for her, than change first! Work on being what she deserves. Once your current lifestyle is behind you, how could you ruin her life?
This is the best way to go, because than when you talk to her about how you feel, she will realize how much you have already done for her. This will be her proof that you are serious about her.
Later,if she is concerned about her on and off relationship with your other friend, you can always talk about it all together...
So, if you want her, work for her! Get rid of your old habits and while doing so, start showing her you care!
Good luck! I hope I helped. If you ever need anything else, I'm always here!
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