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I have been taking guitar lessons from an older married man. Sometimes he says things to me like "look at me when you're playing", but says it in a turned on way. I've also caught him staring inappropriatley at my chest. I got really embarrassed at the last lesson because for no reason at all, while I had two of my fingers on the D chord, he put his hand on top of my hand; wouldnt let go, and slid our hands down the entire guitar all the way from the top to bottom, and very slowly. Now I'm not an idiot, and know this wasnt part of the lesson. I know my face was all red and when I looked up at him, he looked guilty.
Now I don't know what to do, because he had been offering the lessons for free. He's also my friends boss, and I don't want to say anything. What should I do?

Fuck the friend's boss i think your friend will understand this!! So as soon as possible tell policeman or let the boss know how serious this is and make sure he takes care of the situation ( by the way how old are you if i might ask? w/b). If he doesn't do anything don't take the lessons anymore you can always find another guitar lesson teacher. Even if they pay you it's more worth it then getting sexually harrassed. That's the teacher's way of you paying him by him making passes at you.

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Sorry this is so long...

There is this girl "A" and she and I used to be pretty good friends. Well, last summer she like my best friend "L". This whole time A has been writing L letters behind her boyfriend's back. a mutual friend, "B", of A and L Went and told A's boyfriend,"K" that L had letters that A had written him. Understand that, L and K used to be best friends. So, L gave K the letters. By now, nobody trusts anyody. Well I went on this other girls myspace and left a comment that was and inside joke betwwen me and her. at some point, A read this and thought it was and attack on her. It wasn't and now she is amd at me. What should I say to A to make her understand I didnt mean fro ti to be that way.

I wonder why no one interpret to "A" that you were not serious about what you wrote. You shouldn't have left a comment because on myspace everyone cane see a comment to another person so you should have left a message to her personally. To get yourself out of this directly talk to "A" and tell her the truth, make it look sincere and if she doesn't believe you let it go b/c you told her and that's all you can do. hope i helped.

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omg. my best friend in the world is being a slut. i mena i love the chick to death but her ex-boyfriend who used her then broke up with her to have "fun" over the break are doing any SEXUAL THING U CAN THING OF. theyve tried haveing sex 3 times but dude. the guy doesnt even like her and isnt planning on even asking her out. and shes inlove with him. hes such a man whore and i told her that she can pick up desises and stuff like that but she acts like she didnt even do anything wrong. i dont know how to tell her to stop without coming off as a controlling freak you know. I LOVE HER TO DEATH but i dont want to yell at her and make it to where she cant tell me stuff anymore. PLEASE HELP! what do i do.
ps. SHES TWELVE.

First tell the little gir lto slow down. And yelling is tuff love. Let her know how you feel (like all the i love her to death stuff) in a nice voice at first. Then if she say's something like i don't care or your just jealous or just doesn't listen get tough. If that doesn't work then let her get her feelings hurt, but don't let her HAVE SEX!!! Please think of her mom and dad. Please don't let her make that much of a mistake. Step in there or a cool grown person you know (ages 14-20) when she takes things outta hand. That's what friends are for!! Hope i helped!!

~queencece~

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My best friend Shianne has now screwed me over 2 times. It seems every time I tell her I like a guy, she offers to "help me with them" and she always ends up giving them her number, and dating them behind me back!! But she doesn't even tell me until the day after they start dating!
She did it with a guy named Steven, and now Brandon. Then whenever she breaks up with them, she expects me to not like them anymore, and to not want to date them because "friends ex boyfriends are off limits to other friends."

What do i do?!?

Should I really consider her my BEST friend if she's done this to me two times already?

Should I wait to see if she does it again?

I honestly don't know what to do, and I'd LOVE for some honest suggestions.

-Thank you so much!-

Hun, i'm telling this to you straightly. Drop the biatch!!! She's totally bogus for doing it once, but to do it twice she's really insulting her intellgience and making you look like a dumb ass!! That's no best friend!! Find a new best friend and move on!! Hope i helped!!

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ok i HAVE a "friend. we were best friends until around december. once in a while we call eachother without my mom finding or dad finding out. ok now we still "miss eachother" but i think she's a little unreliable. ex. she'll say i'll call you back in 5min. but the next thing you know she calls you in like 5hours or never even calls you back. should i still be her friend? cuz it seems like she doesn't even care about me though? so what should i do?

If you haven't talk to her talk to her and see what she says about how you feel. If she's a total jerk drop her cause you can't handle that type of crap if she doesn't have a busy life to not call until 5 hours later and have no explanation and do it again. hope i helped!!!


~queencece~

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OoK I'm gunna see this guy next tuseday and I really like this guy. So anyways i worte him a really nice letter and i really expressed my feelings about him and iam gunna give him my yearbook picture when i give him this i think hes not gunna like it or something. But is it a bad thing to do like write a note to someone that you really like?? Iam scared giving it to him i don't know how he will react.

Thanks,
Lauren

NOOOO! Don't ever do that. Only to a boyfriend that you really know. You don't know if he won't show it to his friends and make fun of you. Be careful and also be aware that he may have girls come bother you about them liking him too out of nowhere. Get your nerves up and talk to him yourself, but never let him see you sweat as to act like you don't know what your doing. If he hurts your feelings cry at home don't let him know you care or he's got all the power. Don't lose you common sense with him in front of you. Don't stop thinking smart you have to know how to handle yourself strong, common senseful and ladylike. Als otalk to him alon and with no one around to capture the real him. Okay, hope i helped!!!

~queencece~

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I'm 17/f and I've been best friends with this guy my whole life. Our dad's were friends in high school so it's literally my whole life. His name is Ryan.

Ryan has a girlfriend that I just cannot stand. Last year she got me kicked off of my cheer squad at school and since then I've despised her.

When that happened they were dating and they way she got me kicked off was by showing my cheer coach pictures of a party I was at. At my school, cheerleaders aren't supposed to go to drinking parties and things like that.

Well I asked Ryan to talk her out of giving them to my coach because quite honestly, I never did anything like that to her and I never would have so I still don't understand why she would do such a thing. But anyway, he never talked to her about it and she gave them to my coach.

During this past week Ryan had bought her a beautiful white gold ring with a bow in the middle and in the middle of the bow there was a blue sapphire. He told a few people and it got around to her.

Monday after school Ryan and I were at my locker and she came up to us (him) and asked if he got her the ring. He said yes and she replied with "Ryan I HATE blue! You know that!”

That REALLY pissed me off so I said, "Yeah and I hope he knows you're a bitch too." Ryan told me to shut up and he walked off with her.

What kind of girlfriend would say that when her boyfriend bought her such a nice, expensive gift?

Every time I try to say something about her to him he gets all mad and tells me not to talk about her. Yet, I hear her talking to him about me all the time. And they're way worse things that I would ever say about her. I even have other friends tell me that she says things about me and he AGREES with her!

Today I went over to his house and walked into his room and they were in there. All I heard was "(my name) is such a bitch why do you even talk to her?" and Ryan said, "Yeah she just gets jealous sometimes"

If I were to say that to him about her he's have a fit! I don't know what I'm supposed to do here because it seems that he just doesn't care about me. She’s a bitch to everyone including him but he still puts up with it. Why does he treat her so much better than how he treats me?

Fuck him seriously! I mean dang you warn him about her and he blows you off. I think if he's not had many g/f's that he would hold on to her and be in his little world to much. Sorry for that. You need to pull a move on him and say that you don't feel he cares about you and i want your to be so mad that you cry for real. Have him feel guilty. The g/f hates the fact that your so close to him and she wants to munipulate you both so she can be center of attention. She's trying to trick him and have you let him go in anger. Don't let that happen! hope i helped

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Okay, so I've been talking to this guy for awhile. Lemme point out the majority of my friends are guys. I just like them better - they're easier to get along with.
So this guy is kind of a jerk, but he's not really mean. He just like, teases and makes fun of me a lot. I was talking to him the other night, and I said something about talking to much and joked about him "probably want[ing] to duct tape my mouth and hands" (we were talking on line) and he said "you know, I might just have to take you up on that," and we went into a whole conversation about like, tying me up and he made it like, really sexual.
Then last night I was talking to him and I asked him what he wanted (I meant out of life) but he turned it into a discussion about what we wanted in relationships, and then he asked why I was so curious/interested, and I answered honestly first, saying it was "just something to talk about, and gets me into your head a little." and then said (obviously sarcastic) no, it's because I want you. And he thinks I seriously like him! I can't convince him otherwise, and I totally don't. I mean, I like him as a friend, but that's honestly it.
I don't want him to go around thinking I like him when I don't. So how do I fix this situation? I've tried talking to him about it and calmly explaining that I really, honestly don't like him like that and that I was totally kidding, and he said something like "You can lie to me but you can't lie to yourself."
Yeah, he's kinda arrogant. But like...what would you do?
It almost sounds to me like he likes me, but he specifically said he didn't.
So I ask you, what the heck?

He's fucking with you, dear. Really! If you go to school with him ignore him or tell him to leave you alone like he's really tormented your life if he doesn't get the mesage with you saying it in a calm voice. This guy you say is a jerk , right? Well jerks tend to be immature too so he's probably playing with you hard just to be a joker. I advise you stop talking to him online because if you continue talking to him and given the amusement by answering back the whole time it will sound like you like him. hope i helped!!!!

~queencece~

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Okey, well, I don't know if I like this guy or not. But well, this guy is my best friend. He likes me since he was in 2nd grade, and now he's in middle school. It's been a long time!! Then, this year, I'm moving to another country, and he's like sad and thinks that he doesn't have any chance to be with me anymore. And now, I've heard about him alot from my friend that he likes another girl, and I'm kinda jealous to that girl. And two weeks ago, I called and asked him about that girl. I don't know what to do. I really want to ask him, if he still likes me or not. That's the only thing I want to know from him , but I don't know how to ask him that question. And also, my sister always says "You like him", but I always say "no, I don't!" Then she would say like, "You always say NO, but you really like him, I can tell!" And I try and try to make her thinks that I don't like that guy. So, do you think that I like him or not, and give me some advice about how to ask him if he still likes me or not. Thank You..

Well i'm in sort of the same situation. If he's your best friend ask him like a friend would. Start a conversation saying i heard this.... Then it won't be just cause your curious. Then if he asked why tell him the truth in person or over the phone. No email or telegram. Either face to face or ear to ear is best. Share your feelings because years from now or sooner your going to feel a what if coming on. We both don't want that. First tell your self out loud that you like him. Cause if you can't even tell your sister how the hell are you gonna tell him man. say in the mirror i like him (his real name). Over and over until you can say it to your sister or a friend and then if you feel comfortable enough you tel him. Be strong, hun! HOPE I HELPED!

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*sorry this is so long but i really need help!* okay so my best friend has been with this one guy *bob for like 5 months. they never stop fitin n im always in b/w it! c *bob hated me for the longest time and he wud always start fites with my friend and tell her how she shudnt be friends with me... well she didnt listen but she also never stuck up for me! but dont worry im over that now! but just recently they broke up and fought every day since and then yesterday they got back together and broke up last nite. the problem is me and *bob put all of our feelings of hate aside and now we are friends! im really glad we dont fight anymore but now its causing problems with my friend! she always wanted us to be friends but now wenever we talk she usually comes up in the convo bc *bob still loves her! i feel really bad and idk wat to do! so my friend says she hates him and he makes her sick and stuff... but she still talks to him! (??idk y??) so now hes askin me to tell her that hes sorry and all this stuff and shes asking me wat to do! ive been in b/w all of their fites for 5 months and i really dont want to be involved anymore! i tried to tell my friend this but she doesnt listen and juss got mad at me... so my question is... do i help her? or do i try to stay out of it? please help me!

Stay the hell up out of that. Just be there for a support and listen person. Give a few opinions that's all!! That's a fucked up situation and if you got in the middle of that you would end up with no friends. Watch out and just be a support system for now!!!

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there is this kid in my grade that likes me, the only problem is that he is a total geek and i don't even like him as a friend (not because he is a geek though, because he is annoying)
Now he told everyone that he IS stalking me and that he likes me!
what should i do without hurting his feelings?

If he likes you and cares about you go up to him and tell him that he's hurting you and that it's scaring you what he's doing. I'm sure when you tell him that he'll think he's hurt his "Queen" and stop. But then he'll try to be buddy, buddy with you. Just be as nice as you can because remember everyone likes a girl with a good heart. Hope i helped!!

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ok im planning a sweet 16 at a hotel..i was wondering how i can control the people who come in? i dont want people who arent invited or random teenagers who are hotel guests popping in. Any suggestions? 5's for anyone who isnt obnoxious

I've got the adive for you dear. I have had many hotel parties to brilliantly answer this question. Have your party be a private party make a list of the people you want to come that are good party starters and that keep the party going and send out invitations. Also when you send out invitations people will know what to wear, if to bring a gift, or if they can "bring other people." It also lets them know it's your party and the attention is all on you! Make sure at the party that everyone does make you the center of attention because if it was a having this party I would make it a impossible thing to let anyone else steal away my party that was all about me. Ihope you know to order a DJ to. Don't be so none open mined when it comes to the music too. All these people that you are about to invite all do have different opinions(just saying).

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I'm very confused.
My two best friends are starting to treat me like I'm a little kid or something because I haven't gone as far as they have, because I haven't had a boyfriend in a little while. Which I think is fine because I'm only a freshman, and my life doesn't revolve around that stuff. But it still annoys me that they act like I'm immature or something because I haven't gotten fingered, and because I didn't approve of my friend having sex with this guy for revenge. They also make fun of me for being really straight edge which I don't think I am. They think they are really cool because they hang out in a specific neighborhood in brooklyn sometimes.I don't know, I guess it just annoys me that they think they are much more mature because I don't get shit drunk and coked up all the time, and I refrain from making out with bunches of people. But I don't want to yell at them or make them think I don't want to be friends with them anymore. What should I do?

Well, hun your gonna have to drop them. Try to talk to them first about it and if their buttheads about it get new friends. It's just freshman year you can form a new friend circle. Since they get drunk, have sex, and do drugs you definitely shouldn't be around them. They might try to get you to change and do all those things and you'll end up like them immature! Watch out grl. The same thing happened to me with a group of friends I tried to make it work but i hated it. So i dropped them and i got new friends very quickly. If you drop them keep a high head and be strong because if you do you'll end up with the best. Hope i helped!!! ~Cece~

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