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friends confusing me
I'm very confused.
My two best friends are starting to treat me like I'm a little kid or something because I haven't gone as far as they have, because I haven't had a boyfriend in a little while. Which I think is fine because I'm only a freshman, and my life doesn't revolve around that stuff. But it still annoys me that they act like I'm immature or something because I haven't gotten fingered, and because I didn't approve of my friend having sex with this guy for revenge. They also make fun of me for being really straight edge which I don't think I am. They think they are really cool because they hang out in a specific neighborhood in brooklyn sometimes.I don't know, I guess it just annoys me that they think they are much more mature because I don't get shit drunk and coked up all the time, and I refrain from making out with bunches of people. But I don't want to yell at them or make them think I don't want to be friends with them anymore. What should I do?
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mature? Please! You actually think that they are more mature than you because they have sex with everyone and their brother and are jacked up on coke? There the ones who need to grow up.
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What kind of friends make you feel bad consistantly? People like them are NOT friends. They have issues because if they think having sex with a guy for revenge is "mature" then they have some problems. Hanging around Brooklyn,getting fingered,drunk,high,etc does NOT make you cool! You need to find some friends who wont treat you like that. Its ok if they are different from you, but its NOT ok for friends to put friends down. Is that what friendship is about? Nope..and you dont desserve it because you sound like a down to earth kind of person who has values and does the right thing, which is excellent. Lose the losers and find some friends worth while who wont put you down!
-melissa
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You answered your own question. Find someone else to spend your time with. You don't need their stupidity bringing you down and into things you don't want. It's not about amturity, it's about common sense.
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Oh wow! this is a good question, well my answer is I have never been kissed in my life ( I am only 13 years old) and it's not because I am ugly or people don't like me...it's because I focus on more important things in my life like my dance class and school. Only becaue you haven't gone so far doesn't make you uncool or unpopular it just means you are a lot smarter then your friends. I also think that if they make fun of you because you haven't gone as far as them they are not real friends! DUMP THEM!!!!!
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Your friends sound like they are jerks. YOU are the one making the smart and mature choice, not them. If they are going to be that way, then you should find some new best friends. You don't need to have anything to do with people like that.
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Later on these "friends" of yours will regret everything they are doing now. Don't let them pressure you into anything! Just becuase they're out having sex and being hoes doesn't mean you have to be. I think being "straight edge" is way cooler than being a hoe. Forget about them!
*hope I helped*
~emmy Boo~
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Well, hun your gonna have to drop them. Try to talk to them first about it and if their buttheads about it get new friends. It's just freshman year you can form a new friend circle. Since they get drunk, have sex, and do drugs you definitely shouldn't be around them. They might try to get you to change and do all those things and you'll end up like them immature! Watch out grl. The same thing happened to me with a group of friends I tried to make it work but i hated it. So i dropped them and i got new friends very quickly. If you drop them keep a high head and be strong because if you do you'll end up with the best. Hope i helped!!! ~Cece~
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Beleive in yourself and be happy for who you are! If they start to treat you like that and you don't like it say, "Hey guys, I don't like how your treating me, so if you don't want to be me friend thats fine but if you do then change your additude 'cause it's bothering me."
And if you don't want to be friends say, "Guys, your not treatign me the way best frineds are supposed to treat eachother so i'm gonna let you go and find someone esle to hang with, Bye."
XOX Hope my advice works :D
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well... ummm just because you get shit drink and coked up doesnt mean that they are more mature than you. it makes you more mature then them. and just because they want to act like sluts and sleep around doesnt make them better then you, but you better than them. becuase you have morals about thigns doesnt make you a little kid. granted, you are young, but it isnt immature. and if they are getting more sexual action than you, who cares. and you said she is sleeping around for revenge on someone... well thats just a slut. and the only reason guys are prolly going after her is because they know she'll be easy, especially if they get her shit faced. most guys dont like sluts, but some just use them. you really shouldnt let it bother you. you have better standards set for yourself and if thats what you believe then you should follow through on them. if they consists to be such slutty, snobbish bitches about everything to you, try and find new friends who like you for you and not for what your not.
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Face it, honey. You're the one who's mature. They just don't see it because of the peer pressure today. Please please please don't buckle into it. You are on the right path. Sounds to me like you know what you want and how you want to get it and how not to get it. Alcohol and drugs and sex will NOT get your dreams any faster; in fact, you will probably NOT achieve them at all.
So stick to your guns. And if your friends decide that "you're too young to stick with them" then, remember, you're just too strong for them to handle you.
It may sound lonely, but you can handle it in the long run. I wish you all the best. If you need to talk, shelbyjunebug072@yahoo.com
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