okay, so there is this girl who claims to be one of my good friends, you see she has been talking to my ex boyfriend and he brought up to her about going out. He recently has broken up with the girl he went out with before and after me, and i had been moving on ward and started to become interested in someone who happened to be his friend(i had no idea)Well he heard about this and imed me asking how i knew him, then later if we hooked up. I think him asking my friend out was because he was jelious of the fact i like his friend. Anywho, the girl calls me and tells me this and she goes oh how about i date him to get back at him for what he did to you (he took my virginity and completely manipulated me) I said i suppose. But i think she is just doing it because she has feelings for him, she always has even when we were dating. And we were talking and somehow sex got brought up and she asked if i would be upset with her, i told her i would be upset because she says she is my friend and she knows what he did to me. I think she has feelings for him, what do you think? Should i just cut them both out of my life?
I had a similar situation. It does sound like your friend has feelings for your ex boyfriend. You can't control that but your aloud to be hurt by that. It also sounds like your ex boyfriend is doing this because he's jealous. If your friend is really your friend she will listen to you, and not have sex with him. If she does date him, and have sex with him and he breaks her heart you will know that you warned her. But don't say I told you so, just be there for her, like she was there for you (I think?). It's out of your control now, you warned her. If she is dating him, you don't need to be buddy buddy with her. You are aloud to ignore them both for a while. However it really doesn't sound like if they date it will last very long. So just remember you warned her and she knows what he did to you! Good luck! :)
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Hi..
sorry this is going to be very long.. frist I explin little about me and my freinds. ok me and my freinds been good freinds for 10 years and about and were all Deaf. well I am hard of hearing and Kayla is Deaf but hear with hearing aid and jenna is complitly deaf and where like hearing aid little different then are.. and she hase a mother who can be very over potected and yet want be her best friend intead a mom sometimes and she like to but in our friendships and even if we have small fright. but one i am tell you going be very long..
Okay I have these two friends there names are Kayla and Jenna, okay let say about 2005 My freind Jenna and I were Graduating from High school.. and Kayla had one more year.. so so far this going be about me and jenna.. Jenna went off to collage.. and I was at home and working my away getting jobs and doing like exprinces.. so pretty so far everything was giong good.. untill like maybe middle of the year.. I met one of her friend online who get on her chat thing.. how ever later on I get message like why are you not in collage and stuff like that. ( plus I not in collage becouse I don't have alot of money and yet I don't have the i don't know word but have to take, take all the classes like math and stuff like that. I was like in ld class in high school) Plus I have other problems that they don't understand.. I have more disbitles just being deaf..
so how ever now About Kayla, thing is it was her jr year and that she was kinda deppress and sad all the time becouse she was in hearing school and not alot people talk to her and stuff like that.. and that she bored and all the time.. plus jenna hate it when she or I get feeling bad or depress sometimes and sometiems we are just sad about things. she hated it and that becouse she don't nknow how to handel it and stuff. but how ever she never had one sad thing in her life yet. and someday she will and know how we feel. you know what i mean later when i writ it down.. plus durning that year jenna will come home like news years. we always do thing together.. and yet when every time we get together our other friends jennaa don't really socalize with me very much.. only if just us.. kayla be same way. oh yeah I am sorry i forgot mention Jenna nad Kayla are like best friends since they were like 3 or 4 or something like that. i met them when we were like 10 so. but anyway with jenna in collage having this roomate of hers. she wans't very nice to kayla on chat.. and to me.. I don't know why.. I don't mean to be you know races or something i am not . but i thought i put in little deatil that she is color and she be very i don't know what to like kissy on jenna and stuff. try to be touchy and being very freindly. i thought that was cool that jenna have new freinds and stuff. i was happy for her becouse before that she was in high school other peopl not talk to her eaither. i mean i was happy for her.. and that i am not jelouse becouse i know i forgot mention i was in high school i had bunch of friends and yet still talk to some now. how ever I will start tlaking about where everything start clasing. 2006 summer.. okay thing is that they go to like a deaf camp every summer. and yet i always wanted to go. but i never get to.. and sometimes i feel like i never invited like sometiems i feel like i only come becouse they think they have invite me or think that i be upset if the didn't clue me in.. well i wouldn't but feel hurt that knowing they wouldn't want me there. okay now well thing is that i go like bowling stuff with them and other freinds we have they don't seem talk to me.. i try talk to them.. they seem think i always with jenn and kayla.. thing is that other part i will explin jenna is kind of person is nice and honest and sometimes very easy going. kayla little like control and want to be in charge.. but she hase change ever since last summer.. she gragted and had a exprince having a boy friend online and didn't last eather. plus becouse she being depress and stuff. and yet they had clast becouse jenna had this guy freind who she like and sometimes don't like and jenna start like him and yet that kayla date him forawhile and jenna not talk to her for long time.. how ever i know this getting little confusing but i thought i give mroe details how i feel. i am try to open up my mind little all things that happend. well maybe mostly about is i think it just that they think i feel left out and that they feel concern about me and stuff.. don't wront think of me ask funny person and happy person someone just llike enjoy her self.. no they worried about other crap. i don't even think about it. they start all that stuff.. well i can't seem put it all out. i just don't know they being my true friends or not. i mean right now i talk to kayla everything seem fine and she talk to me. she hase a boyfriend not online one lol. but she hase bf she met in school. and that she going pretty well. and for jenna she date couple guys but she can't seem have a bf and that she never told me about it not to kayla eather. and that she like online talk to me much and email. she act like she can't tell me anything.. tell me about her collage life and stuff. i know i take her wrong away but sometime is wish she say thing to me that make me feel like she being my freind.. i am sorry this not enough deatils or exlpin my real problem, is i think it this iwant the truth and honest answer and that sometimes i email jenna about problem i am having with her and that i feel hurt she just get mad think i am mad upset and telling me clam down. she don't get that my feelings are hurt.. i hope this will clear up some if not let me know i will try writ out more if u don't mind if i do.. thanks
Amanda
Ok it sounds to me like your friends are branching out, which means they are going in a different direction. Thats normal, Kayla and Jenna are probably trying to meet new people, and have new adventures. I'm sure it's very hard for all of you being deaf. It sounds like Jenna wants to make new friends, and have a successful life, and you want to do that to only you don't have the money to go to college. Thats ok, lots of people don't go to college. But your trying to hold on to Jenna and you don't want to loose her as a friend. You have a right to be honest with her, but you need to let her go as well. You've tried to tell her how you feel, thats all you can do. Don't keep emailing her, or talking to her about how you are hurt, just give her space. Thats the best thing you can do is give her space. Kayla, Jenna, and you have been friends for a very long time and it's ok that you are spreading out a little. When Jenna is done college, she is going to want to still be friends with you, and she will have more time to spend with you. College can be a very stressful thing. You need to give her space, and if she invites you into her world, then go (if she calls you, answer). Don't hold gruges against her, that will make your friendship weaker. Everyday is a new day. Your friendship isn't ending, and it doesn't sound like it's close to being over. I understaned your feelings are hurt, but it sounds like you've tried to tell her. Thats all you can do, so give her space. Good luck! :)
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Im 13.
I'm the type of girl who is really shy
infront of really any guys but close friends.
I want to get to know some guys, like
become good friends. But im like reeeeeeeally shy.
What to i do.
Ok this sometimes helps me, picture the guy like your brother. Even act mad if you want to, but you'll see yourself getting less shy around guys. Just remember guys love confidence, and if you can get into the mindset that you are in control then guys will be all over you garenteed. If your still having trouble then just focus on your positives. For example: I like my legs haha. You can make your self feel good and confident by focusing on the things you like about yourself. Then use them to your benifit. Flaut what you've got, it's true. Good luck! :)
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I have this friend "annie" who I've know all my life. She's always been a major drama queen, making up crazy stories to get attention and make people feel sorry for her. In kindergarten, it was a "rattlesnake bite" and she might die! Last year it was "internal bleeding", and no one better make her laugh or it might kill her! Her latest thing is pretending to be bulemic. After she eats she goes to the bathroom and makes noises like she's throwing up. I know she's so totally faking it, but everyone else is sooo worried about pooorrr annie! Even our friends' parents are really worried... and that's what makes me so upset. I wish I could tell people "She's just trying to get attention!", but that would make me sound mean and heartless, plus I don't like talking bad about her because she IS one of my oldest friends. I just feel bad for the parents who are being fooled by this. Should I say anything, or just sit back and see what her next drama will be?
I know someone like "annie". Now just know that your probably not going to change her by saying something. It's in her personality and someday her lying with get her sunk very very deep. Now you can choose to be there for her, or let her sink. But remember that day will come and she will realize that she can't lie like that anymore. Now this bulemia lie is more serious then she thinks. Now if in fact parents are getting involved, there is a chance that she will have to enter therapy and possibly be admitted to a center. I know that sounds very scary but she built this web. It's probably best to just leave her alone. I know that seems like strange advice but I am telling you she will learn her lesson. Because think about it, she can't just wake up one day and come into school and say I'm all better people won't believe her. And therapy is not fun and depending on her parents she won't get out of it easily! Good luck! Your a good friend for hanging in there! :)
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does anyone know this?
Ex.i miss you like a child misses the blanket and
i love you like fat kid loves cake
im a girl and i need the nice/creative/funny/cute for my friend, and shes a girl too
i miss you like________________ and
i love you like_________________
i appriciate your help =)
I miss you like a puppy dog misses it's owner.
I miss you like a blind man misses his eyesight.
I miss you like a photographer misses it's flim.
I love you like a cat loves it's milk.
I love you like a girl scout loves it's cookies.
I love you like a african loves it's drums.
I love you like a tresurer hunter loves treasur.
I love you like lipstick loves lips.
Haha good luck! I got these from a website! :)
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why do when some of your close friend knows that your moving away soon and they starting to keep their distance,wont really talk to you and doesnt wanna get close to you that much?
Friends act like that because they don't want to get hurt. It's almost like their form of protection/ a shield. Most of the time they don't even realize that they are doing it. But you can try to talk to them, and if they continue to act like this then know that this person isn't a very good friend... It's sad but a good friend would want to spend as much time as they could with you before you left. However this friend could care alot about you and knows that they are going to get hurt but they think it's easier just to stay away! It's confusing and frustrating but good luck! :)
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Hello!
There is this ex-boyfriend from five years ago that I've allowed to keep in touch with me. It helped a lot when I moved out of the country when he couldn't call me anymore, and he would occasionally e-mail me and after I was in a new relationship, I decided to completely cut him out of my life. I didn't answer his pleas to know how I was doing, or how much he says I'll always be a part of my life even if we never speak and I'll always have a place in his heart and of course, that he loves me.
It's like some sort of therapy for him. I don't feel comfortable with having any kind of relationship because it doesn't feel real to me to be 'friends.'
He found me on myspace today and I'm not sure why he insists on keeping in touch? What's his MO, for doing this? According to his myspace page he's involved, and I'm the only ex-girlfriend that he's like this with, the other's they don't keep in touch.
I can be really straight forward about things so what is a humanitarian way of saying: "Thanks for taking the time to say hello. Great. Not necessary to do that anymore. Thank you!"
Signed,
Two Feathers
Haha I love your ending. Well think of it this way, your first kiss something simple but girls usually remember who it was with. It seems strange but to guys it's the same way. I'm not saying you guys did anything together or anything but sometimes guys hang onto things. Now I'm not an expert on guy lingo or anything but he probably told you something/acted someway/did something with you that he remembers and doesn't want to let go. For example my first time I held onto that guy for a long time because it was my first and it meant alot to me. Eventually (I know it's along time) he will get over you, just like I got over the guy I was with. If you truly don't want him to be apart of your life then I wouldn't reply to anything. Now I know this seems harsh but he will get used to you not being with him and HE WILL MOVE ON. Haha hopefully. But seriously he will and if you want to be a over the top good person than you can tell him how you feel but honestly the gentler way is straight up not replying. I know it's longer it doesn't make you feel great but it will be better for him. I hope I helped! Good luck! Any comments/questions/results haha feel free! :)
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so today my friend was supposed to kis sthe boy she likes right and lately he sbeen doing things that makes it seem like he like sher, but thiers a problme , today she didnt do it, and he was waiting outside the classroom and she was inside i went up to him and said listen i need to know. do you like her or what? he said only as a friend.!!!
now this girl is my bestfriend for life i tell her everything she tells me everything and so i told her what he said, but calmly and rationally i let her know he dosnt like her and she started crying,a nd now she is like really upset more upset then ive ever seen her, because she fell for this guy and hard but he was a jerk and lead her on. please help me in what i can do or say to her thank you
First off let me say that I feel terrible for your friend. It's happend to me and I think almost every girl in the world, sad but so true. There is no word or sentence that will make things automatically better, unfortantally, but you can be there for her. If she needs someone to walk her to class, or hang out with her then you can be there. I don't know your home situation or anything but maybe you could have her over and have a movie night. Have a theme like all disney movies/fairytales/classic/ comedies anything but love movies or chickflicks. In my experience it's going to be the hardest for her when she's in school. You did the right thing for telling her. Just be there for her and someday she is going to look back and say "Do you remember that jerk Bobby hahaha he was such a loser and he wasn't even that cute" and she will remember that you were there for her! Good luck! Feel free to comment or ask any questions!
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How can you be friends again? When you haven't seem them for long time and you don't know what to talk about anymore. I need your help please is tonight that I'm going to see my best friend Raymond that i haven't seem him for a long time and i don't know what to talk about with him.
If you were good friends once, I can almost promise you that you will have some things to talk about. Memories, what your doing now, ect. If you aren't as good of friends as you once were, don't feel discouraged, people change. Good Luck! I hope I helped at all! I love feedback good and bad!
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my birthdayy is in late august. i don't really feel like having a party, and i want to do something fun maybe with just my best friend or a couple people. what are some suggestions? thankyouu! sorry if its in the wrong category.
I know how you feel, sometimes I just want to spend time with just one person not through a big party! Theres lots of things you guys can do, some of them cost money some don't so heres a list!
-pinic
-go camping
-go to a water park for the day
-go to a fun park
-have a movie marthalon
-swim
-go tubing, water skiing ect.
-go to the mall
-go out to a fancy resturant for dinner and get dressed up
-go to a non fancy resturant and get dressed up
-dancing
I hope I helped at all! Good Luck! And Happy Early Birthday! I love feedback good and bad! :)
Love,
Molly
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I'm 14.
To make a really long story shorter, my bff...Jane. Has an abusive boyfriend, also, she's only 13, which makes it even more weird. She's going out with a 15 year old.
And she says I'm the only one she told.
She says he doesn't like beat her up, he just hits her a lot..
I never noticed, but recently she's been wearing long sleeves. Because she's actually BRUISED.
But, Jane says she really has it under control, and doesn't want to break up with him because she apparently realllly likes him. And she says he likes her, but..
I said if I were her I would break up with him.
Then she said something like that I didn't know what love was, so I couldn't say that.
I've never really been in this kind of situation before.
Do I tell an adult?
If you were me..what would you...do?
ugh, I'm kind of confused.
And I want to help my friend.
Oh man. This guy, has so serious issues, and your friend Jane seems like she needs to get help. That is not love and don't ever think that. You need to tell somebody, if this guy is hitting her on a regular basis think about what he is capable of when she gets mad and wants to fight back. It's a terrible situation I know, your friend might be upset at first, but it is for the best you tell an adult. It's up to you about which adult you choose, maybe your mom, or a school counsiler. I wish you the best of luck! I hope I helped at all. I love feedback good and bad.
Love,
Molly
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me and my group of friends about 9 of us always hang out together. theres 5 girls and they are each different. i noticed that they are competitive. because 1 of them im really good friends with and she tells me everything. she tells me about what the other girls say about her and how they said things to make her feel bad, because 2 of them liked my other friend rob.
it's a big mess, but now the other girls started to tell me stuff too. you kno what they all said? not to tell any1 anything they told me. so now almost all of them tell me things about how they dont like 1 or 2 of them because of things they said to them or said to other people. its confusing and they are trying to out-do the other just for my friend, and just to make sure that 1 girl doesnt get more attention than the other.
2 questions: why all this competition, i mean are girls always like this? and two, what should i do, stay out of it or help them? i've known them for a long time and i like all of them as friends, but they dont seem to get along. please help me
I had a similar problem. It's hard when you have ALOT of friends, rather than just one or two. You just need to remember I'm sure you have your own set of problems, you never have to listen to them explain there issues, or talk about your other friends. I think the reason they compete is because they all like you and they probably know that other people are talking about them and they think if they get alot of attention from you than they look like your favorite. It seems like your pretty popular but that is no reason to have to listen to other people talking about your friends.If I were in your situation which I was, I would probably explain to them when they came up to me and started talking about my friend I would be like, I have to go, I will talk to you later or something. You don't need to come out and be like I don't want to talk about her. You just need to find a reason to leave the conversation. It's important that you don't talk about your friends alot. It is just asking for trouble. I kept going with the talking about other people, I ended up loosing all my friends including the girl who was talking about people. I hope I helped at all! Good Luck. Keep your chin up! I love feedback good and bad! :)
Love,
Molly
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17/f.
My friends birthday is on monday and she's turning 18. They all want to go to a hooka bar. She said you don't have to do it, its just fun going down and watching people do it.
I've never been to a hooka bar so I don't know much about it. I know what it is, but is it bad for you? Also, I don't know if my parents will be up for it so how do I tell them. If I go I probably won't do it anyways but my parents won't believe me probably. And anyways, I'm unsure about going. How old do you have to be to go? How old do you have to be to do it? Is it bad for you? What should I tell my parents?
Well I think it sounds like you really aren't into it. I think your friend really wants to go because it's her big 18th and she wants to do something special. But trust me it's not special. I don't care what people say if your smoking it than it isn't good for you. I sincerally think that you should figure out if it is really worth it. You shouldn't lie to your parents. I don't mean to sound like I want you to do the right thing, if you want to go, go but if your unsure, I wouldn't. It's not a good situation to be in. Peer pressure is a bitch. You really don't want to get into it. I wish you the best of luck with your situation. I love feedback good and bad! I hope I helped.
Love,
Molly
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I'm 14 year old gurl. okay to my question..I like my moms bestfriends son, my mom and his mom have been friends since highschool and there now around 40 years old. Anyways I like her son and he likes me too..we have discussed dating eachother, and really want to but our parents won't let us because their afraid if we break up that it will destroy their friendship, I just really want to date and be with him but dont want my mom and his to hatte me for it.
First of all I think your mom is being unfair. If they have this great friendship then why can't it withstand if you and the son breakup. I guess you should think about what you would do in your moms place. But if I were in this situation and I really liked a guy and he liked me back, and I thought it was more than just a fling, like it could actually be something than I would probably go for it. That might be helpful or not helpful advice. Family comes first to me, but your mom and his mom have been friends since highschool, they should be able to handle it if you and her son breakup. I mean I'm sure they have been through a lot of fights and if they are still friends than I'm sure they figured out how to work things out. I hope I helped at all. Good luck! I love feedback good and bad!
Love,
Molly
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Ok, this might be long, so yeahh..
Well I'm going to be a freshman in high school. I have 2 best friends, let's call them Marissa and Erica. I can be my complete self around them, tell them anything, etc. I'm shy when you first meet me, so I don't have that many friends, I mean I have these 2, and a few others [but it's different with the others] and that's it. It's hard for me to make new friends. But now, I feel like this friendship between me, Marissa and Erica is slowly falling apart.
Let me give you a little background here. Marissa's parents are very protective of her. She is almost a year younger than Erica and I, being born in August, me and Erica in November and December.. Anyway. 8th grade, she was hardly allowed to go anywhere, mall, movies.. she wasn't allowed to go, UNLESS a parent was there. I live close to a park, if me Marissa and Erica wanted to walk down there, she HAD to call her parents, when she got there, got back, etc. If we wanted to go to Friendly's or whatever to eat, had to call when she got there, got back, etc. When we go to HER house, we hardly go anywhere. Don't get me wrong, I love Marissa, I've known her since kindergarden. She can get annoying at times, but so can everybody. Her house can get boring, but we can do other stuff.
Now Erica.. well her parents aren't as protective, but whenever we wanted to hang out on Fridays after school or whatever.. she [sometimes, most of the time actually] couldn't, because she had to babysit her sister. Now I know that's not her fault. But over we weekends we didn't see each other because of other plans, or we just didn't call each other. See like, Marissa nevers goes online [hardly], Erica does sometimes, not as much anymore actually but once in a while and she'd usually always be on after school. My friends.. well they don't like call each other. I don't know.. it's weird. Now it's summer and we call once in a while but.. i don't know. I'll get into this soon. Also, whenever Erica wants to hang out, she'd always have to leave by 9, 9:30, whereas Marissa could stay until 10, 10:30..
But now, Erica is mad at Marissa. she's always telling me how she hates hanging out with her..like everytime she comes online and i'm talking to her we end up talking about marissa and i feel soo bad talking about her behind her back because she doesnt even know. shpuld i tell marissa what's going on or will that make things worse? ok so like on friday i think it was i went to the movies with marissa and her sister [yeah for like the first time, her parents actually didnt stay, which was a surprise] anyway. all 3 of us had hung out about a week before that, and marissa kept talking about seeing the movie. well when she mentioned the movie to erica, she was like no i don't want to see that.. well ends up marissa didnt invited erica and now she is mad. she says she always feels like she is the one left and and me and marissa always text each other, well erica always said it cost a lot of money and i didnt want to add it to her bill, she says she can text sometimes..okk well then shes saying how me and marissa always calll each other first, well like erica doesn't even TRY to call one of us. i didnt hear from her from a whole week, the first week of summer..SHE could text me or call me..right? if she really feels that way. marissa atleast i keep more in touch with. idk. i love thse girls and dont want to end our friendship but do you think whats going on is right of either of them? am I being a bad friend? i feel like im stuck in the middle. what should i do about this? im so sorry this was so long, if you read it all thanks and if u answer it, thanks again♥
Haha that was long, but you explained it well. It seems like Erica is always busy, Marissa is always being protected and your just getting a little frustrated. It's common to be somewhat annyoed if you've known these people since kindergarden. I got caught in a position similar to yours, I would talk about the other friend really not meaning to hurt her, but it turned out when the two of my friends got back together she told her all the mean things I said. I'm not saying you should totally ignore your friend when she talks about the other but it's not a good idea. Erica seems like she has some jealousy issues, which is no reason to get mad at her and you and Marissa shouldn't gain up on her, but I think it would be a good idea for the both of you to talk with Erica. If it doesn't go smoothly than just back away, at least you said your piece and Erica would know what you think right now. Don't tell Marissa, it's not your fight, and it's not your position to say. As far as the calling, yes she could call you, but maybe she just wants a summer vacation solo for a little while, just give her some space. You can still hang out with Marissa. I hope I helped at all. And good luck. I hope your summer goes better than what it sounds. I love feedback good and bad!
Love,
Molly
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I really hate my uncle's girlfriend. she isn't nice and i think she's making my whole family treat me wrong. And I'm the one whose wrong when i try to stand up for myself to them or tell them the problem i'm having. how do i deal?
She doesn't seem very nice your right. Alright it's not wrong to stand up for yourself, never ever think that is wrong. I'm not sure how she is making your family treat you wrong but that is not ok regardless. You need to talk to your uncle, and say whats happening, if he doesn't listen tell your parents that you don't like her and it's ok if they like her but you don't want her around you. You need to explain to them that this is making you upset. Your parents, or your uncle can't force you to be around somebody you don't like. I don't know your uncle, so I don't know what he is like. But I think you should deffinatly tell him what is going down. Don't be afraid to get upset. This is obviously bothering you, you need to stand up for yourself. If they don't listen, then at least you said your piece and they know how you feel about your uncles girlfriend. I have a similar problem with my cousin's boyfriend, and I talked to my sister, and my cousin. It helped because she understood. She didn't stop dating him.. But she doesn't have him around when I am around. I hope things work out for you! And I hope I helped at all! Good Luck! I love feedback, good and bad! Any questions please write me!
Love,
Molly
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hey my names maddy
my two best frends are guys
one has a girlfriend who im frends with and ones single
ever since i met them, both of them have liked me on and off but they dont know i know that..
i like both of them in that way aswell just not alot and i hav too much of a single life now to drop it all for a boy
what do i do when eventually one of them asks me out? i dont want to loose my best frends.... but then again i like them...
Dear Maddy,
Well I think that if your fearing that your friendship will be ruined by you guys dating then that means your friendship isn't as strong as you thought. Dating somebody is like wanting to be with them more, doing more than just friends would do. You've got to think if you really want that or not and then think about what you have right now. Just lay it out. I love being single so I would probably choose to just keep my 2 guy friends. But if you really like him and you don't take that opportunity to go out with one of them than maybe you'll be spending all your time with him thinking god why didn't I say yes. You just need to think about what you truely want. Sorry that probably wasn't much help. But I hoped it helped at all! Good Luck. I love feedback, good and bad!
Love,
Molly
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so theres this girl and we were friends for a long time since 5th grade .. but this year we kinda stopped talking.. idk why but the people who we hated in september now shes BEST friends with them.. and it made me mad in the begining but now it doesnt bug me.. so we made plans sometime in december when we were close and we had a great time and lauging and everything and then the next day we went to the mall and had fun again.. but then after that we started talking less and less everyday.. we were in the same math class and lunch table and we hardly talked to eachother..i felt like we werent hanging out and talking much so i decided to try to become better friends with her again by asking her to go to this carnival by my house and she said yes so i went to go pick her up except my sister(one of her friends but they dont do anything out of school) and her best friend(my sisters best friend) went too! so this girl who i invited wasnt even hanging out with me just talking to them because shes better friends with them and i was like in myhead.. uh hello i invited you ! so then when we got there they ran off and me and this girl started walking around but we ddint really have enouigh money to buy those bracelt things so we didnt know if we should buy tickets.. so for like 20 minutes we were like in dead silencewalking around.. and it was really awkward cause everytime i tried to start a conversation or laugh or something she would just be like..yeah..whatever and keep walking and so then i said how bout we go get more money from my mom and buy tickets and so she said yeah.. and so we went on the rides and laughed a couple times but it was still awkward around her.. i thought she was ina bad mood that night or something but then when we ran out of tickets on our last ride.. my sister and her friend came right behind us and i was left out again because im not really friends with the other girl either. idk if i should keep on trying to be friends with this girl or not..it seems like evry time i try to talk to her or hang out with her its so awkward sorry that its long..
I want to let you know I had a similar problem and trust me I deffiantly know what your going through it's not fun and totally awkward. It's a tough situation but take it from me who put up with the being left out and feeling awkward it doesn't get much better. And in the end I didn't even get to be friends with the person again. Take some time to meet new friends. I almost can promise you that when this girl sees you have new friends and your having fun with them she will say she misses you. It's a deffiantly tough situation, and unfair. I think it's because people just grow apart from eachother, different interests. But you don't deserve to feel left out, no friend should make you feel that way. If you have any questions please please contact me! I wish you the best of luck!
Love,
Molly
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I asked a question about this before. I was the one who was being indeed very selfish about my geeky friend who was embaressing me like hell!!! She was being very clingy and I was starting to feel embaressed about her because of her being geeky and annoying!
Well, she sat with me at lunch today. I followed someone's advice on trying to get some space because I realized I needed it!! But, how can I get space without making her upset. She's completely oblivious to me being annoyed with her!! I don't want to go out of the blue saying "You're annoying be so give me some space" She'll ask why! And then i'll have to tell her the truth! She's so annoying at lunch. I sit with cool people and she's totally butting in to all our coversations going "What?" "Who did?" ITS DRIVING ME NUTS!!!!! I've been avoiding her and I know its not right! I need further inforimation!!
Geez do I know what your going through. Well its pretty much better to upfront tell her, take her away from the group and say "I'm sorry I really feel like I need us to just be apart from each other for a couple of days, I just feel really attached to and I need some space and time" if she gets upset, say " would rather of me have not said anything and embarssed you in front of people?" Trust me in the end its better to upfront tell them. Would you rather be clueless and have all the people around you be soo annyoed with you or be filled in and know that you need to make new friends? I know its harsh but trust me it's the better thing to do! :) Good Luck! Anyother questions just write to me on here or email me at mollysie@yahoo.com ;)
Love,
Molly
Age 14
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