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Ex-boyfriend explanation
Hello!
There is this ex-boyfriend from five years ago that I've allowed to keep in touch with me. It helped a lot when I moved out of the country when he couldn't call me anymore, and he would occasionally e-mail me and after I was in a new relationship, I decided to completely cut him out of my life. I didn't answer his pleas to know how I was doing, or how much he says I'll always be a part of my life even if we never speak and I'll always have a place in his heart and of course, that he loves me.
It's like some sort of therapy for him. I don't feel comfortable with having any kind of relationship because it doesn't feel real to me to be 'friends.'
He found me on myspace today and I'm not sure why he insists on keeping in touch? What's his MO, for doing this? According to his myspace page he's involved, and I'm the only ex-girlfriend that he's like this with, the other's they don't keep in touch.
I can be really straight forward about things so what is a humanitarian way of saying: "Thanks for taking the time to say hello. Great. Not necessary to do that anymore. Thank you!"
Signed,
Two Feathers
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hes sounding like a true ex. he still wants you but you have moved on. i would send him an email saying "my BF is not comfortable with us talking, thank you for being their for me but if you really love me you will understand" or something of that nature, and if he keeps talking to you then you can cut him down saying "well i guess you really dont love me then because you wont respect my wishes" good luck with this
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well he really loves you. and the reason he trys to get in touch with you is because he doesn want to lose you anymore than he already has. but still he needs to respect your decision. tell him 'hi and that your sorry but your in a relationship that your really happy with. you know you've had some good times but its time to move on and just go our seperate ways'. he might be crushed and wounded but he'll get over it. frankly i dont see why he hasnt taken the hint already. so basically its his own fault. anyway i hope that helped you.
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Haha I love your ending. Well think of it this way, your first kiss something simple but girls usually remember who it was with. It seems strange but to guys it's the same way. I'm not saying you guys did anything together or anything but sometimes guys hang onto things. Now I'm not an expert on guy lingo or anything but he probably told you something/acted someway/did something with you that he remembers and doesn't want to let go. For example my first time I held onto that guy for a long time because it was my first and it meant alot to me. Eventually (I know it's along time) he will get over you, just like I got over the guy I was with. If you truly don't want him to be apart of your life then I wouldn't reply to anything. Now I know this seems harsh but he will get used to you not being with him and HE WILL MOVE ON. Haha hopefully. But seriously he will and if you want to be a over the top good person than you can tell him how you feel but honestly the gentler way is straight up not replying. I know it's longer it doesn't make you feel great but it will be better for him. I hope I helped! Good luck! Any comments/questions/results haha feel free! :)
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