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Freinds problem
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sorry this is going to be very long.. frist I explin little about me and my freinds. ok me and my freinds been good freinds for 10 years and about and were all Deaf. well I am hard of hearing and Kayla is Deaf but hear with hearing aid and jenna is complitly deaf and where like hearing aid little different then are.. and she hase a mother who can be very over potected and yet want be her best friend intead a mom sometimes and she like to but in our friendships and even if we have small fright. but one i am tell you going be very long..
Okay I have these two friends there names are Kayla and Jenna, okay let say about 2005 My freind Jenna and I were Graduating from High school.. and Kayla had one more year.. so so far this going be about me and jenna.. Jenna went off to collage.. and I was at home and working my away getting jobs and doing like exprinces.. so pretty so far everything was giong good.. untill like maybe middle of the year.. I met one of her friend online who get on her chat thing.. how ever later on I get message like why are you not in collage and stuff like that. ( plus I not in collage becouse I don't have alot of money and yet I don't have the i don't know word but have to take, take all the classes like math and stuff like that. I was like in ld class in high school) Plus I have other problems that they don't understand.. I have more disbitles just being deaf..
so how ever now About Kayla, thing is it was her jr year and that she was kinda deppress and sad all the time becouse she was in hearing school and not alot people talk to her and stuff like that.. and that she bored and all the time.. plus jenna hate it when she or I get feeling bad or depress sometimes and sometiems we are just sad about things. she hated it and that becouse she don't nknow how to handel it and stuff. but how ever she never had one sad thing in her life yet. and someday she will and know how we feel. you know what i mean later when i writ it down.. plus durning that year jenna will come home like news years. we always do thing together.. and yet when every time we get together our other friends jennaa don't really socalize with me very much.. only if just us.. kayla be same way. oh yeah I am sorry i forgot mention Jenna nad Kayla are like best friends since they were like 3 or 4 or something like that. i met them when we were like 10 so. but anyway with jenna in collage having this roomate of hers. she wans't very nice to kayla on chat.. and to me.. I don't know why.. I don't mean to be you know races or something i am not . but i thought i put in little deatil that she is color and she be very i don't know what to like kissy on jenna and stuff. try to be touchy and being very freindly. i thought that was cool that jenna have new freinds and stuff. i was happy for her becouse before that she was in high school other peopl not talk to her eaither. i mean i was happy for her.. and that i am not jelouse becouse i know i forgot mention i was in high school i had bunch of friends and yet still talk to some now. how ever I will start tlaking about where everything start clasing. 2006 summer.. okay thing is that they go to like a deaf camp every summer. and yet i always wanted to go. but i never get to.. and sometimes i feel like i never invited like sometiems i feel like i only come becouse they think they have invite me or think that i be upset if the didn't clue me in.. well i wouldn't but feel hurt that knowing they wouldn't want me there. okay now well thing is that i go like bowling stuff with them and other freinds we have they don't seem talk to me.. i try talk to them.. they seem think i always with jenn and kayla.. thing is that other part i will explin jenna is kind of person is nice and honest and sometimes very easy going. kayla little like control and want to be in charge.. but she hase change ever since last summer.. she gragted and had a exprince having a boy friend online and didn't last eather. plus becouse she being depress and stuff. and yet they had clast becouse jenna had this guy freind who she like and sometimes don't like and jenna start like him and yet that kayla date him forawhile and jenna not talk to her for long time.. how ever i know this getting little confusing but i thought i give mroe details how i feel. i am try to open up my mind little all things that happend. well maybe mostly about is i think it just that they think i feel left out and that they feel concern about me and stuff.. don't wront think of me ask funny person and happy person someone just llike enjoy her self.. no they worried about other crap. i don't even think about it. they start all that stuff.. well i can't seem put it all out. i just don't know they being my true friends or not. i mean right now i talk to kayla everything seem fine and she talk to me. she hase a boyfriend not online one lol. but she hase bf she met in school. and that she going pretty well. and for jenna she date couple guys but she can't seem have a bf and that she never told me about it not to kayla eather. and that she like online talk to me much and email. she act like she can't tell me anything.. tell me about her collage life and stuff. i know i take her wrong away but sometime is wish she say thing to me that make me feel like she being my freind.. i am sorry this not enough deatils or exlpin my real problem, is i think it this iwant the truth and honest answer and that sometimes i email jenna about problem i am having with her and that i feel hurt she just get mad think i am mad upset and telling me clam down. she don't get that my feelings are hurt.. i hope this will clear up some if not let me know i will try writ out more if u don't mind if i do.. thanks
Amanda
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Ok it sounds to me like your friends are branching out, which means they are going in a different direction. Thats normal, Kayla and Jenna are probably trying to meet new people, and have new adventures. I'm sure it's very hard for all of you being deaf. It sounds like Jenna wants to make new friends, and have a successful life, and you want to do that to only you don't have the money to go to college. Thats ok, lots of people don't go to college. But your trying to hold on to Jenna and you don't want to loose her as a friend. You have a right to be honest with her, but you need to let her go as well. You've tried to tell her how you feel, thats all you can do. Don't keep emailing her, or talking to her about how you are hurt, just give her space. Thats the best thing you can do is give her space. Kayla, Jenna, and you have been friends for a very long time and it's ok that you are spreading out a little. When Jenna is done college, she is going to want to still be friends with you, and she will have more time to spend with you. College can be a very stressful thing. You need to give her space, and if she invites you into her world, then go (if she calls you, answer). Don't hold gruges against her, that will make your friendship weaker. Everyday is a new day. Your friendship isn't ending, and it doesn't sound like it's close to being over. I understaned your feelings are hurt, but it sounds like you've tried to tell her. Thats all you can do, so give her space. Good luck! :)
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