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Friend question again!
I asked a question about this before. I was the one who was being indeed very selfish about my geeky friend who was embaressing me like hell!!! She was being very clingy and I was starting to feel embaressed about her because of her being geeky and annoying!
Well, she sat with me at lunch today. I followed someone's advice on trying to get some space because I realized I needed it!! But, how can I get space without making her upset. She's completely oblivious to me being annoyed with her!! I don't want to go out of the blue saying "You're annoying be so give me some space" She'll ask why! And then i'll have to tell her the truth! She's so annoying at lunch. I sit with cool people and she's totally butting in to all our coversations going "What?" "Who did?" ITS DRIVING ME NUTS!!!!! I've been avoiding her and I know its not right! I need further inforimation!!
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The truth hurts. However, I do think you should tell her the truth. It's only fair. The best time to talk to her about this would be when you two were alone tho. It would be completely rude if you just started telling her she was annoying and too "clingy" in front of everyone. You could try to introduce her to some new friends and get her to talk to new people. I do understand how you feel tho, b/c last year I had guys who were kinda like that with me. They never got the hint when I rolled my eyes after EVERYTHING they sed. So this year, I just stopped doing that and started talking to them. I still get annoyed with them, but not as much. Just remember to say things as nicely as you can when you are telling her how you feel.
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I think the best thing for you to do would be to talk to her when you two are alone. Tell her in a nice way that she is way too clingy and you need some space, it's not that you don't like her you just feel suffocated and you need space and time away. If she asks why then explain to her that she can be annoying and tell her what it is that she does that gets you upset and try to make her understand that you don't want to hurt her at all. I hope everything works out and she stops annoying you. Good luck
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Just tell her. Being nice to someone who really you hate is very two-faced. As for being embarrassed because she is "geeky/clingy/annoying"...why the fuck would you be friends with someone who annoys you that much? That being said, there is more to life than hanging out with the "cool" people. After high school, none of that shit will ever matter again.
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Geez do I know what your going through. Well its pretty much better to upfront tell her, take her away from the group and say "I'm sorry I really feel like I need us to just be apart from each other for a couple of days, I just feel really attached to and I need some space and time" if she gets upset, say " would rather of me have not said anything and embarssed you in front of people?" Trust me in the end its better to upfront tell them. Would you rather be clueless and have all the people around you be soo annyoed with you or be filled in and know that you need to make new friends? I know its harsh but trust me it's the better thing to do! :) Good Luck! Anyother questions just write to me on here or email me at mollysie@yahoo.com ;)
Love,
Molly
Age 14
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omg i have the sameee problem except the girl i am dealing with NEVER talks. i would juss say to her, "some one is sitting hear sry" amd that way she can't bother u... thats what i did...
hope i helped
esoccer1717
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introduce her to a new friend that she liks just as much as u
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