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The name's Emily.First off- thanks for actually reading this!
I love to give advice
I will always try to anwser your questions.
But try to not to rite lk dis
I know my favorite topics says "Love life, nutrition, and friendship", but I'm intrested in tons of stuff. ASK!
I don't care about rating..so be warned...I'm not necessarily always going to give you the anwser that you want to hear. But I do want to help you!
And I would tell you more, but that's not whats important here: let me help you!
peace.
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Would a guy who lost their mom get sad on their* birthday? *not the mom's, the child. Just wondering, cus I thought a card might cheer them up (i just met this person and their b-day's coming up). I'll still send it, but will he be sad in the first place?
Thanks.
Well he'll probably be uspet to have his first birthday without his mom, but I don't think a card would hurt any... :)
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i recently switched school, because of my group of friends. i came home every single day crying. it was horrible. they were known as the 'mean/plastic girls in school' i liked them, intill, they would start fighting with me. because i was hanging out with other people then the other 5 girls in our group. they then would stop inviting me places, like they didnt invite me anywhere. and i was friends with these girls since 2nd grade!!!
anyways, once i switched schools it was great, i made tons of new ones, i only stayed friends with one from my old school, and we were like BEST friends. but then all of a sudden, shes turning into one of them. her and all of them keep calling me. and saying i said things that i didnt!! and they usually always have done that since i switched, but i didnt care, i just didnt answer.
im so confused! what should i do?
You just need to be bigger than them and ignore it.
Okay so i am having trouble right now...(obviously)lol okay so the thing is. Well all my friends are saying so many mean things about me and its not evento my face. I hear about it from pther people. One of my bff said that i wasnt really that pretty and i wore makeup to cover everything. I mean i think i am anaverage looking person ya kno? im not UGLY but im not BERAUTIFUL either. what am i supposed to do? They are saying really hurtful things
Well I've defientaly been through this, so lets see if I can help. First things first: Do not break down. Don't grovel at your friends and beg to know why they are mad at you. And try not to cry, at least in front of them. If you do those things they will be getting just the reaction that they want. (I'm not saying to be mean to them, however)
Ok, so, most of the time, when people treat you like that, they are threatened (or jealous) of you. And the kind of friends who don't rejoice with you in your sucesses are not real friends. Some people just like to have "friends" that they can put down all of the time, to make themselves feel better.
So all I can say is this: Don't let it get to you. Just be happy at school, and talk/hang out with people that you might not normally hang out with. That's just what these girls DON't want you to do. At the same time, if they apologize, then treat them nicley- or how will they ever learn? Just don't let them use their friendship with you.
I have two best friends and now everything is changing between us. We all three have boyfriends. Amy is always like her boyfriend and I never get to hang out with her anymore and when we actually do get to talk it's always about her boyfriend. Andrea, my other best friend is not as bad its just I dont want to lose them. My boyfriend seems to be not interested in me or something. He never calls me to hang out and then always has an excuse. He would rather play videeo games, or cheat on me I guess. (he is known for cheating). But I dont know what to do because if I break up with him then I will be by myself at school with no one to talk to because my friends will be with there boyfriends.
Well you DEFINENTALY (sp?)should not stay in a relationship just because you don't want to be alone. You may feel alone at frist, but it's better than being in an unhappy realtionship. As for your friends...sadly, this stuff happens. All you guys can do is keep making efforts to stay together.Hope I helped!
Ok, here is my problem. I have a group of friends. We all were pretty cool with eachother until this year. One girl was acting annoying etc. etc. and making some huge mistakes. My other friends got made at her and talk about her everytime I come over because they are dissappointed and mad at her because she made mistakes, especially a huge one. I agree with them on some topics, but not on others. The friend who makes mistakes is still my friend...but sometimes she goes and makes a white lie to me every now and then and it makes me uncomfortable. I can not side with her or else I'll lose some of my good friends, but I cant side with them either because I do not agree with everything they are doing. I am being used and pestered by the annoying friend sometimes. I try to talk to her about it....but I never can say the things I want to say right. I need help! What should I do?
--Stuck in the Middle
When you and your friends talk about her behind her back about her mistakes..that's not doing anything to fix them. If you guys are really friends with her then yall should tell her that she is making mistakes. Help her through hard times instead of gossip. That's what you should say to the friends that you don't agree with. Don't side, be nuteral and talk to both parties about how you feel about the issue.
I have a secret crush and she dosent know it, or at least i dont think she does, she has a bf and she really likes him, i have had a crush on her for awhile even before her bf but i had a gf at that time, should i try to go for it or leave her alone?
Leave her alone while she's with someone else, but be a good friend. He probaly won't be around forever.
15 / female / Pennsylvania (if that helps with the things-to-put-in-the-box thing)
Hi, I have a penpal from France. We have been sending letters back and forth, and now I want to send a shoebox of American things.
But what kind of things should I put in it?
So far I have:
American Dollar/quarter/etc.
A magazine
Photos
Yeah, that's it. Pretty sad, I know, but I'm clueless. If you could help me think of ideas, that would be great. And I would like it if the objects would have purpose (not like a pack of stickers or stuffed animals).
Thanks a lot!!
*american candy
*a CD from a band you like
*something from a store they don't have in France (forever 21, american eagle....)
*A t shirt that says a place in the U.S. on it.
eh sorry that's the best I can do when I'm so tired!
okay, there's this gorgeous boy I know. He's completely flawless, and I have a big thing for him. One of my friends tells me that he actually likes me. Naturally, I was thirlled, but there's on problem: HE WON'T GO OUT WITH ME!! There's a lot going on with him, I guess. I mean we still flirt, hang out, etc., but does this mean I should lay off him in terms of flirting? the things have nothing to do with me [more-so family], but does that mean I should leave him be for now? thanks
Stay a good friend and try to help him through the hard times. Don't press him to date you but don't break the connection, because things will hopefully get better!
hi, well school has just ended for me. and now its been summer for almost a week. i havent seen or hungout with any of my friends. i havent even talked to them really. im getting the vibe that they dont want to hangout with me.
im kind of in a 'threesome' with my bestfriends. and of course, im the one thats left out. i just want .. new friends. but i want to keep these friends too. i dont really know what to do. can anyone help me? thanks
Hah! This is so me! Really, this one is easy!
First of all, have you called any of them? Have you tried to get them to hang out? If you're not making an effort than you can't be sure that they don't want to hang out with you. A lot of the time, the person that you want to hear from is waiting for you to call. If you want to keep the friendship, you need to work at it!
As for new friends...just call someone you want to know better and ask them to hang out! There's nothing wrong with having more friends. Really, for both of your problems, all I can say is that you need to reach out to people. Just call your old friends more often, stay in the loop...but hang out with different people too! xoxoxo!
My friend is always busy or hanging out with someone else. Its so frustrating because i try and try to invite her over but 9 out of 10 times she is busy.What should i do.
Well it dosen't look like to me that's she's leaving you out..she's just busy..right? Well, you're friend can't stop her social life and other duties just for one person. (and I don't mean that in a mean way...it's just the truth) I'd suggest not depending on just one friend, but don't stop hanging with her either. Also, it would help if you ask in advance, and don't call on THE day you want to do something. ~
My friend is always complaining about her figure and looks and it annoys me because she is one of those girls who have perfect looks skin and figure. I am overweight, not the best looking girl with bad skin and am seriosuly over my age height. I want to make her feel good about herself but she never does and everytime she starts it makes me feel bad about myself. I want her to feel better but when I reassure her she doesnt believe me. I know its wrong but I am scared I will end up like her. I used to like myself but now I have started feeling really depressed about it. Any advice on shutting her up and getting myself back how I was before? I hate the NEW me
Tell you're friend to calm down..it's not healthy to think like that! Sometimes people do that just to get attention, or to hear others say that they're pretty. So next time she starts..don't react. Don't reassure her..just change the subject. If she questions you..tell her that it's not fun for you to listen to her complain about herself constantly. And don't let it make you feel bad. When she acts like that it shows her insecurity, not yours!
ok i have this one friend and she like wants me to buy her ticket if we are going to the movies or something she says she will pay me back and she never does so now she owns me about 25$ from all the times she took my money and she always wants my parents to take us somewhere like her parents are busy her mom doesnt drive and her dad she says is always busy i feel bad for my parents cause they dont want to take us to the places but like i keep asking them until they finally say yes. thats my only friend i hang out with right my other friends i only talk to in school i use to have this other friend i hung out with but now i think she is mad at me cause of my new friend what should i do about this friend. if i let her go they all my weekends will be boring and everything please help me.
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Well next time she wants to borrow money, say something like, "I paid last time, it's your turn!" Even if that means she doesn't get to borrow money, it's a good thing for her to realize it bugs you. Just don't be too mean about it. Then with the going places thing...mabye she doesn't have a good home life?? I mean if her dad is never there mabye thats why she wants to go places with you. Still, it's ok to tell her that you feel like you give more in the friendship than she does. She probaly just has no idea you're annoyed!
Well, I have this friend who i can pretty much trust with all my secrets but when she has a secret she just wants to keep it to herself and not tell anyone, even when I already know what it is about, she just won't tell me. I feel like she doesn't trust me. Even if I tell her a secret of mine that i really don't want anyone else to know she still just doesn't want to tell me one of hers. Some of the things she keeps secret from me I really think she needs to talk to someone about, but instead she just keeps it inside of her. I am confused of her reasons not to tell me. Maybe she thinks I will tell everyone, but I don't ever remember doing that to her before. Please help
-concerned friend
Whatever you do, don't accuse her. That'll just make her mad. Like..DON'T say "How come you never tell me anything?"..yuh..won't help! Next time she wants you to tell her something, say.."I tell you a lot of my secrets, it's your turn!" If you keep feeling shut out after saying something like that, then just tell her that it makes you sad when she won't tell you stuff. Mabye she doesn't know it bothers you. Make sure she knows that you want her to tell you stuff because you care about her. If nothing works, either ask how you CAN get her to trust you..or let it go...hope I helped! xoxo