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Hi! My name is Kayla.. I'm 21. Through out life, I've had quite a bit of rocky roads and difficult dilemmas. They sucked at the time, but now I've become a call for help.I do it because I enjoy it.
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Ever since 7th grade ,I've had a best friend ..Carly. We're in 11th grade now ,so we've come a long way.We both have never really had serious relationships or boys that have caused us to not be close until just recently. A few months ago,she got a boyfriend .Im actually really good friends with him and he's a good guy and he's definitely the one who i'd want carly to be with. Lately,everytime i hangout with her she either talks about him or is with him ,so i can never spend any time alone with her.I used to be okay with hanging out with them together and we all got along good until the last couple of weeks ,shes been different and seems to only pay attention to him and not me..even when we are together.She still tries to talk to me and hangout,but HE'S ALWAYS THERE or shes texting him or talking about him if he's not there.As of the last couple of days,i've been acting a little different toward her and not paying as much attention to her so she can realize what shes doing. She really has been a wonderful friend and I don't want our friendship to die out because of this guy. I've also been talking to a guy too,as of the last 2 weeks so i'm gonna make sure i don't blow my friends off since it's happening to me.Any suggestions on what i should do?
Ahh.. the honeymoon stage can suck for the best friend.
It sounds to me like you are above else trying to be the bigger person by not displaying how she is hurting you. This is both good and bad. You obviously respect her, and cherish her friendship, but you also shouldn't be neglected, especially after all the year you've shared as best friends.
You need to talk to her. Ask her as casually as possibly for a girl's night in. Also, make a point that you're seeing someone, but that you would never drop a friendship or ignore someone because he is in your life.
There's no reason why you guys shouldn't be able to work this out. Wanting a friend to be a friend is a simple request. She can't however read your mind, and you need to tell her in a calm, comforting way that while you love the friendship you have with her, you're missing all the pieces that have gone missing since the new guy.
I think everything will be fine, but good luck!
Okay, so a few days ago I was hanging out with my bff, one of my other really good friends and her bf, then a day later I was talking to my bff and she told me that she thought my friends bf liked me A LOT and that we were flirting bigtime, but I didn't even notice.and I guess my friend noticed it and was kinda getting mad...so were all hanging out again this weekend and I don't want her to get mad at me for me and her bf flirting...but the problem is I don't even notice when I'm flirting with a guy! Any helpp?
First things first-- talk to your friend. Tell her that you're sorry if you misunderstood your actions with her boyfriend. You didn't mean for it to look like flirting, you were only being friendly and interactive with him because obviously, you and him have built a genuine friendship with one another. And besides, it's better that you and him get along, as opposed to a situation where you and him completely dislike each other.
When you all hang out this weekend, base your decisions on what might hurt you if you were in her shoes. Touch-contact with him should begin and end with a friendly hug, and nothing further in between. Don't let it get awkward. Don't let this get in the way of being yourself, and having a great time.
Your friend should trust that you wouldn't intentionally try to flirt with her boyfriend. This needs to be addressed, so that it's not built into something worse, because I'm sure that you don't want your friendship with her to dissolve.
She must really mean something to you, considering that you're trying to acknowledge and fix what exactly is going on.
I wish you the best of luck.
Okay, so I'm not saying I hate my best friend "Nora?" It's just that she can be really mean to me and to our other friends.
Ex.) On this one site were I posted a story she also did and my story was more successful than hers and she wrote a bad comment about me in my guestbook ,but it was annomonsye[sp?] well i found it was her because her IP addresses matched. Well I was upset about this ,but I got over it.
Ex.) She constantly says she "hates" me and she knows that upsets me. Even thought she might or might not mean it.
Ex.) She constatly offendes me.
Ex.) We both had this friend named "Laura" but one day "Nora" decided to not like and hate "Laura" so she turned on "Laura" while I didn't .
Ex.) She talks about our friend "Michelle" behind her back and tells me how much she hates "Michelle" while I sit there an listen.
Ex.)She tells me she'll never like my type of music/style and then like it. Hiprocritic[sp?] Which strangly makes me mad.
And we are slowely drifting away. I don't know if I should go with the flow considering she's been mean. Or try to remain bestfriends with her [and try to get over all this]
So please tell me what you think of the situation. Sorry it's alot and that it whatever else I could be sorry for.
Thanks in advance. :)
My advice, is to take a good hard look at that list you wrote. How upset do these things make you? Is there more you could have typed, but didn't? What is your reaction to her when she does these things?
Best friends will come and go your entire life. This girl sounds jealous, insecure, selfish, and aggressive. What part of you deserves one bit of that?
Don't be passive about any of this. If you think there's any redemption here, then talk to her. Tell her everything you here. That she makes you feel like crap and obviously doesn't appreciate you. The fact that she fell low enough to anonymously insult something you were proud of, is NOT friend.
Was she ever a good friend to you? If so, is there a chance she'll return to that person? If not, then why take one more day of your life and put it to waste?
Know that if confronting her doesn't work, and your friendship fails.. that your friendship was drifting because a good person and a bad person will never stay together.
If you do stay friends, make sure you don't get caught in the same rut. EX: Agreeing when she makes these rude comments about friends.. or backing down when she insult your interests.
And PLEASE remember.. if she's talking about other people, she's probably talking about you.
Ditch the chick.
Good luck.
Right, so..
I have a friend, lets call her... Sam.
She was inviting people to go and stay at a theme park for a few days. She invited nearly all of her friends, but left me out. I can't just ask if I can go, because I dont want to sound cheeky. But, I don't mean this to sound selfish. If I had gone to a theme park or somewhere to stay, I would've took her. Actually, I have took her to a awards show once.
I feel really sad.
What should I do/say?
The best thing to do.. is not assume anything. Maybe there's a logical reason as to why she hasn't invited you. Not because there's anything wrong with you or anything, but maybe there's something else going on.
Ask her. She must know that you have an idea about this trip, and that you're probably wondering why she hasn't included you. Therefore, she's probably expecting that you're going to ask her what's going on. And you should ask her.
There's nothing wrong with being upset about this. She's your friend, and you have a right to know why you haven't been invited.
Just approach her in a nice way-- and ask about the trip. Don't invite yourself, just bring it up and casually ask why you weren't invited. Let her know that you feel left out, and you don't understand why she hasn't invited you.
Take care. =)
i ahve a best friend, but she's a slut, and i have tried to talk to her about it, but she doesn't care, and shes really meann too. and when we fight shes always like, you're a slut, and such a bitch, when its the other way around, and she doesnt think shes a slut, she talks behind the girls' at school who do that stuff too behind theirr backks, and she doesnt even realize shes doing half the things she does, and it gets on my nerves! please helppp! :[
Sounds to me like it may be time to cut her loose. Maybe she needs to see what life would be like without you in it to help her?
It's also very important to realize that when anyone you know.. EVER in your life-- talks behind backs often, they are more than likely doing the same thing to you behind your back.
Is that the kind of friend you want? Someone who calls you a bitch and a slut? Where is the respect in this friendship? If talking to her got nowhere, then I'd leave it at that. Know that you're better then petty things, and that you don't deserve to be treated that way.
As for her slutty/bitchy ways?.. That's not your problem. If those are the characteristics that she wants to turn towards, then that's something she'll learn to settle for. It sounds to me like she might have already gotten used to the terms. You aren't responsible for changing her, or making her better. Those are decisions that she has to make by herself, if or when she is ready.
Best friends don't do this to each other... she needs to realize that.
Hi,
I won't go into detail here, as If I do we'll be here all day :-(
Anyway, I have helped a friend who was in desparate need, financially and physically for over a year now, and it has nearly drained me of all my resources. I am so tired and worn out and also worried about my own finances. She claims she will still need my help for another two months and then should be able to get back on her feet and start paying me back. Which I just can't see how she will do that. I have tried to tell her NO, that I can't do this anymore, but I just can't say it, because honestly she has no one else.
yes I feel like I am being taken advantage of, but also she needs the help.
Is there an easy way to say NO? If she didn't have small children--I could do it easier perhaps.
There are easy ways to saying even the hardest of things. This girl, good friend or not, is taking advantage of you. Just because her life is in a dip set, doesn't mean that she can take you along with her now.
The easiest way to say no.. is to say it with a lot of substitute options after. Suggest what she can do for herself, and her children to help get her back on her feet. Organizations.. different jobs.. classes.. clinics.. clubs.. any of that.
You have to ask yourself... what is she doing to help herself, in comparison to what YOU'RE doing to help her. These number don't seem to add up, do they?
Say it calmly and nicely, because you don't want it to come off as a personal attack of any kind. You understand her dilemma, you WANT to help-- but at the same time, you have a life to live, which involves money, time, and space. She needs to let you have that.. she owes it to you.
Good luck.
A girl I know, Macy, is being used by a guy who did the same thing to me. He does the whole "I love you, you're my everything" thing to get into your pants then he takes advantage of you blah blah blah. Macy actually helped me out when I was so upset after it happened, she was the one who comforted me telling me that the guy, Drake, was just another tool out there and that I should just do everything possible to stay away from guys like that.
I found out this morning that they're dating.
How the heck am I supposed to get it through Macy's head that its happening again. He's already done half of the same things he did with me.
I feel its my duty as her friend to help her out some how.
Well... the good news is that she's already heard it from you. She already knows what happened, and she decided to date him anyway, which wasn't the best decision to make.
Bad news? If you re-inform him of what happened to you while you were with him, she may take it as an attack-- or even a sabotage.
My advice is to just stay out of it. You already told her once before what he did, and it's her choice to take a chance with him-- even if it means she may get hurt. She's already aware of what he did, so reminding her now may not do anything to benefit your friendship with her. Let her find out on her own what his deal is. Because obviously, she didn't listen the first time you told her-- so why would she listen now? You'll just end up defending yourself, and swearing you're not saying it to mess them up.. and that's not fair to you, especially since all you want to do is help her.
I hope it all works out. =)
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i have an old friend that i had for about 3 years in middle school and we were very close. almost like sisters. wel we had a few fights like most friendships and that was fine and wed stop talking every once in a while. she would get mad at me for talking to ANY other girl and thats what bothered me the most. i dont know if i should let it bother me so much that we r not friends anymore. but i am a little scared on her reputation now. shes been smokng and shes only in 7th grade and shes becoming a WAY different person
now that i have new friends though it doesnt btoher me that much. but it wouold be nice if i could talk to her and just be cool
any advice?
thank u=]
Your concern for your friend, even if she isn't right now-- is admirable. That's why this situation is going to be a bit harder to bear. Losing a friend is hard enough as it is, but actually showing genuine care for them, is even harder after the friendship is done.
My advice-- is to talk to her. Tell her that you miss your friendship and that you think about how much fun you used to have. Leave out the part about her changing into a different person that you're not happy with with. Because no matter how nicely you say it--it can come off insulting, and almost like you're attacking her. Save that for another day, and just work on the friendship, and not the person. Chances are, even though you don't like who she is now, changing for you won't be what she wants to do.
Just be real. Honest- and friendly. It'll work itself out.
so i had this best friend
i was with her all the time
we were really close
but she started being a really bad friend
and this huge thing happened
and we completly stopped being friends
she never even apologized or anything or even try to be my friend again
not that we could be friends even if we wanted to
actually if we realllyy did im sure we could
but the other day she came whne i was hanging out with my other friend
if wouldnt normally be okay but nothing bad happened
we still arent friends
but everyone says she misses me
today i found something we made
and just started crying
i really wanna be her friend again
but i don't even know how to go about it
or if i can even trust her
Talk to her. If the two of you are both hurting-- either you need to make a friendship work, or gather closure from the friendship being over. Be the bigger person, make the call, knock on her door. Do it alone, and do it nicely and stay honest. Tell her that it's going to be hard to trust her, and explain why.
Good luck.
okay, we're best friends, lets call her Anna, and i love( like family) her to bits but she drives me crazy!!!! she'll ask me some advice and i'll tell her but, as soon as i say something she doesn't want to hear, she'll go mad at me! and lately, she's made a mistake with two of these guys, and she asked me my opinions on them, and i told her, my answer wasn't harsh at all, but she came out with the sort of answer like 'yeah, well you've never had a boyfriend so what the hell do you know?' my question is, should i tell her these things piss me off or should i just keep quiet and ignore them?
Ahh.. I've had a friend just like this. She'd ask me for advice on college, boys, and family.. I'd answer her, and she'd get pissed at my answers. And if that wasn't cruel and unappreciative enough, she went ahead and insulted me the same when your friend is insulting you.
I finally got through to her when I stopped giving her advice. I told her to do whatever she wanted to do, make her own mistakes. She did. Then one day she finally asked why I haven't been giving her advice. And it was simple, because she didn't like the advice I gave to her.
Maybe your suggestions to her are too much for her to handle. You could be too honest to the point where it bothers her. That isn't your fault. If she wants your opinion, she's going to have to learn to accept it the way it is, or don't accept it at all. That includes making you feel insecure about any personal issues you have.
That's not a fair friendship. Ignore her calls for help, show her what she's going to miss out on if she continues to take advantage of you.
Take care.
I love this friend to death, but lately I can't really tell if we are actually "friends" anymore. She completely ignores me on long intervals, and then decides to talk to me again when it's convenient. Next year she's going off to college so I probably won't see her very much, even though we are neighbors. Is this "friendship" worth it?
It's worth it to talk to her about the way you've been feeling. It's important in any friendship or relationship to hear each other out. This way, you can tell where the friendship stands, and if it happens to go back, you can gather closure on it.
If telling her how you feel is a lost cause, and doesn't change things for the better, then it wouldn't be fair to pretend anymore.
Friendship is a tricky concept to some people. You shouldn't have to deal with a part-time friend who's there at their own convenience.
Good luck.
one of my really good friends and i are in a fight and idk if we're gonna be friends again.he and i have been really good friends since december.a few weeks ago i thought i liked him..so i told him..cause were really good friends so i knew hed be cool with it..and he was..but then i found out that he was talking to this girl about it and he said it was weird now because he thought i was always all over him and always flirting with him..but i dont. and he was just talking crap about me.like we hug each other and tease each other but i do that with all my guy friends.i dont like him like that anymore.when i see him all i feel is friendship. but when i found out he was talking crap about me i got mad.
so the next time i saw him he went in to hug me and i said "are you sure you wanna do that?are you sure i wont be all over you?" and he just pretended to have no idea what i was talking about.now he wont talk to me at all and he just ignores me in the halls.idk what to do.weve been thru alot of ups and downs and i cant tell if this friendship is worth fighting for. how do i approach him?what do i say? will we be friends again?
Men are very stubborn. He's probably angry because you heard that he was talking about him and confronted him about it sarcastically. I did the same thing when I found out that an ex-boyfriend was calling me "desperate" behind my back. Then, when he saw me, I completely ignored him, and when he asked why I said, "Gee, I don't know, it must be because I'm just sooo desperate."
What it does is immediately attacks their ego. He probably felt like he was hot shit when he was saying that you've been all over him. It's their nature to feel like they have that authority and express things way differently then we do.
Try talking to him again-- alone. Instead of in the hallways, call him. Tell him why you were angry with him, and ask whether or not it's true. because what also sucks, is you don't know if this other girl is telling you the entire story.
A true good friend would never talk crap about you. And if you honestly believed that he was, then I don't think you'd be so concerned about the status of your friendship. It's only worth fighting for if you know for a fact that he wasn't talking negatively about you. In that case, I'd be done with it and let go of his friendship completely.
Also, if he happened to find out that your not interested in him in that way anymore, it probably got him upset and insecure.. maybe even humiliated.
When people know they've messed up or hurt someone intentionally or not, they'll avoid them at all costs sometimes. It looks like if you want to salvage this friendship, you're going to have to be the bigger person and confront him in a private and not attacking way.
Good luck.
Hi, you answered my question about friend A and B and how they were hypocritical and stupid and junk like that. It was titled "Hypocrites..." I really liked your advice it made me feel so much better. But I sorta have another question...
I went to a party last week and both A and B were there. It was kinda weird around B, so I just mostly talked to this other girl. A had to leave early, and as soon as she did, that's when B started talking to me more. It was ridiculous. And the worst part was, she was talking to me like we were close again. Now there was no way that I could tell her how she was treating me and how it was making me feel because that would seem weird after she was all friends with me again. But then it was the same thing the day after once A was back around her.
I get the feeling that if I were to tell her what she's doing to me, she would totally deny it...just like A did. Because there was that case at the party where yes, she wasn't ignoring me. She's so two-faced...but a still don't want to lose her. Without her, basically without the rest of the group too, I'm nothing. I really don't have many other friends. =(
Any advice on what I should say? Or if I should just totally drop it at this point...
I just don't know. This might be like repetitive and sorta a duplicate of the last question, but I'm just still caught up in this mess and in need of advice.
Say something. I know that it may seem horrible that you may lose out on a friend.. but by telling her exactly what you think, will put you on a pedistool. Don't conform to the kind if people that they are, because they don't seem nice to me at all. B is USING you as a part time friend at her OWN convenience.
Good friend's don't leave you hanging.. good friend's don't make you feel this alone. As much as you want to fix things up with B, and possibly A.. it's not your responsibility to do so. They left YOU. They'll choosing to make you feel like this and it's not right.
Open your mouth to B. Ask her is she thinks it's fair how she's been treating you? Now, it's funny that you call her B.. because that's exactly how she's treating you.. Like her plan B. Don't settle for that.
Next time she pulls this on you.. straight up, and loud.. own it. Tell her she's been WRONG. Tell her you were a GOOD friend to her, and that she's not paying you any respect in return. You were there when A left her in the dust.. and if she doesn't fix this, now.. then be done with both of these hypocritical bitches.
Okay,
I have this guy friend from High School whom I never really knew very well but we spoke here and there. It's been four years since I've graduated I haven't seen him. He just recently came to town to visit family and I went to spend time with him with a few "girl" friends of mine. Almost right away he started to flirt with me and get all obsessive over me. He would follow me, and say (I would be that boyfriend that would cuddle with you, protect you etc) and it got extremely annoying and I made it clear that I was in a relationship and seeing someone but I figured we could be friends so I gave him my phone number and he called me 15 times in one hour!...and I've told him to back off and that I no longer want to be his friend because he abused it.
What should I do??
Woooahh! Looks to me like he go a little over-excited about maybe pursuing something with you. If you've really made it clear to him that you're done, then he should back off. If it continues, you need to put your foot down because what your explaining is JUST ridiculous-- and furthermore, it's scary.
Say he doesn't stop?? It's time to tell somebody. It's not fair that you should have to deal with him calling and making you feel uncomfortable enough to look for some help on any website. That's just plain terrible!
Assure him again that you're over anything he had to offer-- if he overlooks this last attempt tell him your going to do whatever it take and take whatever precautions against him continuing his stalker ways. You owe it to yourself.
I'm sorry you had to go through all that-- damn.
15/f
Okay, so a few months ago one of my friends (A) decided that she didn't like me anymore. So, she kinda just kicked me to the curb and started ignoring me, telling other people to ignore me and stuff. So, I was left with only two friends. One of them has stuck by me through thick and thin and then the other one (B) I'm kinda mad at now.
A few weeks after my incident, friend B was hanging out with me more than A. I guess she felt that I needed a shoulder to cry on and all that junk, which I did. Well, because B was supporting me, A and these 3 other girls who also used to be my friends started ignoring B also. Then B was all like "I can't believe they would do this to me!" and stuff like that. And I was completely there for her because I knew EXACTLY how it felt considering these same girls had just done this to me. So B and I grew closer.
Then all of a sudden, B decided to bring up the fact that she felt ignored to A...and A was EXTREMELY APOLOGETIC and said things like "Oh I'm so sorry! I had no idea we were!" and then she invited B back into their little group and everything is nice and happy and wonderful for her. And B tries to talk to me and stuff, but I can tell she'd rather hang out with them instead of me, just like everyone else.
The thing that bugs me the most is that when I brought up how I was feeling to A, she yelled at me and said she was doing nothing of the sort and then we weren't friends anymore.
So basically, now that B is back in the group, she doesn't really talk to me as much anymore and she'd much rather be friends with them than with me. And it also really really bothers me that now she's close to this other girl who at the beginning of the year both B and A hated and now they both prefer hanging out with her than with me. This other girl is actually pretty much the reason why I have no friends now because she started everything between me and A. It's so stupid and I hate this so much. I'm so frustrated with B that she would be so hypocritical.
Any advice whatsoever on like I dunno, how to feel better about this I guess? Or should I talk to B and tell her how I feel? Though I don't know if I should do that because I don't need another life-changing fight on my hands...
I just don't know what to do :(
(By the way I'm really sorry this is so long)
First of all, don't apologize for having a long question. If you didn't describe everything the way you did, it would be hard for the reader to give you the kind of answer you need to get through this.
I know that you're hesitant to confront B, because of what you already experienced with A. But, I also think that B may understand you more than A will, because she's felt it before, and she saw what you went through already.
If you want to avoid a bad fight with her, then be kind about your approach. Be careful as to not make her feel like a bad person-- because she's probably just confused and doesn't know how to act around you since all of her friends are being kind of childish.
It's obvious to me that B goes the way the wind blows instead of comforting a good friend-- that you've described in here that you've been.
The best thing to do right now is talk to B-- tell her how you feel nicely, and get some answers as to why she's ignoring you and making you feel so bad in the same way A was.
It's not far to you, and good friends don't do things like this. If your conversation with B gets you nowhere, it's time to keep your head up and look for good friends who won't do things like this to you.
Please keep me updated, because I'd really like to help in any way possible.
Okay so my friend talked me into going to 4-h camp over christmas break. I was really excited cause we would get to spend some time together. We turned in our applications together so we would get the same classes. But the thing is over this past weekend I've kinda relized I really DIDN'T wanna go to 4-h camp. I mean I just wanted to in the first place to make my bff happy.
So my mom was happy to call and have them take me out of it (aka 4-h camp).
~The real problem i have here is how my BFF acted:
I told her on msn messanger yesterday here's how it went she is KT: I'm MG:
MG: Hey kt, wats up.. :)
KT: nothing much I"m bored, hey what baithing suit are you packing for camp? I'm thinking two peice or one... what do u say?
MG: KT, I've got some bad news...
KT: :( what.?
MG: I'm not going to camp. I'm sorry but I relized that I really don't want to go. I so so so sorry, but I just can't!
KT: WHAT WHY?????????????????????????????
MG: Well.... I'm not used to being away for a week, and I really don't want to go. All in all I just don't think I would have fun. BUT maybey next year! SORRY.
KT: Sorry?? SORRY??? I thought you were my friend? It's not to late you can still go! I'll be there. I'll be lonley without you.
MG: I'm sorry my mom already called and got me outa it
KT: SOME FRIEND> THANKS aLOT!:(((((((((
and that was it what do I do I don't wanna go but i don't want her mad at me!!
Woahhh. Sounds to me like she definitely took it more personal, and selfishly blamed you for the decision you felt most comfortable with.
Sometimes when people feel alone, they make expectations for the few people that they do have around them. I believe from what I read, that she feel she needs to blame you in order to change your mind.
She has no right to be mad at you for your decision, and she shouldn't hold it against you, if she's a good friend.
Explain to her again that you are sorry, but the decision was entirely yours. Just because you changed your mind, it doesn't have anything to do with not wanting to spend time with her-- just that you and your family decided together that not going was what you felt more comfortable with.
Good luck!
Okay maybe I just need to vent right now or whatever but I need help. So my bestfriend whom I tel basically everything to, and when I say everything I mean everything. Thats just the way our friendship works, we tell each other everything. That is until lately. She's been acting different. Ever since she met this guy who she likes that lives next door to her. I have to admit I am a little jealous. Only because she always gets the guys, but she just uses them and takes them for granted and fights with them constantly more then most people do. It's always her starting these fights, that might I add are about the most rediculous things. I dont like saying it but some people would consider my friend a "skank". Now today it just set me off I dont know why. Basically i texted her saying I cant go to this talent show thing tomorrow with her. Normally she'll say "aawww what you cant go? Why? You have to go. We need to hangout." stuff like that. This time she texted back "Bummer, i'm with Steven ( her next door neighbor that she likes) i'll call you later. I dont know that just really made me mad. Not to mention well she spends like every weekend at my house, cause she likes to. But I really needed someone to talk to this weekend cause everything seems to be going wrong but no she's too busy with Steven. I dont know. Am i wrong to be mad at her? Am i overreacting? Any advice?
I've been in very similar situations. I know what it feels like to be left in the dust when your best friend finds comfort in a different friend.
The best way I got through it, is just letting her do what she needs to do. To her, this may be a potential love interest with her new neighbor, and that's why she's spending so much time with him.
In the calmest, and I MEAN calmest way-- tell her how you feel. Explain that you feel almost replaced in a way, and you don't like it. In the same matter, tell her you're happy she found a friend in someone else, but that you miss having her around, and you need her in her life, too.
Let me know what happens! =)
ok so me and my friend are reallly close ill tell her everything. but she wants me to do her a huge favor she wants me to date her ex because he likes her but she doesnt like him. i mean hes cute but idk if i want to date him because idk how do i tell her i dont want to do this.
Ultimately, this decision is up to you. But you shouldn't be or feel responsible for doing her dirty work. If she doesn't like this guy, it should be her dealing with it, not you.
If you don't have feelings or even like this guy, then whats the point of wasting your time?
Be rational about this, and your friend should support and understand your decision-- if in fact she is a good friend.
Saturday night, a couple of my friends were hanging out in my basement celebrating a friends birthday. We couldn't throw it at her house because her parents were away for Mothers Day. Well were all laughing and playing videogames when my oldest brother Scott came home early from where ever he was, he came down stairs completely drunk and swearing at up saying everyone has to leave because he's going to bed. [[His room is downstairs]] And he started going off about how he owns down here because he pays rent and everything. My Dad was gone and Jason was over Natashas so I was like Scott shut up you came home early you can wait because you deffietly don't own down here! Well Scott ended up picking me up by my hair and like throwing me on the ground! So Cole stepped in and like attacked.. and he completely protected me from my intoxicated brother!!! Well my brother ended up telling my Mom Cole picked a fight with HIM and now my Mom is saying I can't see Cole anymore...
What do I do?
Okay, there's a few odds and ends here. First of all, your brother, if he's paying rent probably felt the authority to tell you all to leave-- especially since he must be older then you.
The other answer the this question made a lot of sense-- tell your mom the truth, and explain that even though the fight was immature, the story was one-sided, and she needs to hear you out.
If worst come to worst-- print out this entire Q&A. Show her how much is concerns you and how bad it would hurt if you she didn't understand your side and know that Cole means a lot to you.
Take care!
ok so i have this friend her name is lizsandra. her recent boyfriend dumped her and he didnt tell her why he just said he wanted to be friends with her.so today at school she was in the girls bathroom making she was making herself through up and shes thinking of commmiting susicide what advice should i give her?
Report it to an authority figure. A teacher, parent, adviser. I know you might be worried about her being angry with you-- but her life is apparently on the line. She confided in you.. so she trusts you. Make the right decision for her.