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i might lose my best friend
one of my really good friends and i are in a fight and idk if we're gonna be friends again.he and i have been really good friends since december.a few weeks ago i thought i liked him..so i told him..cause were really good friends so i knew hed be cool with it..and he was..but then i found out that he was talking to this girl about it and he said it was weird now because he thought i was always all over him and always flirting with him..but i dont. and he was just talking crap about me.like we hug each other and tease each other but i do that with all my guy friends.i dont like him like that anymore.when i see him all i feel is friendship. but when i found out he was talking crap about me i got mad.
so the next time i saw him he went in to hug me and i said "are you sure you wanna do that?are you sure i wont be all over you?" and he just pretended to have no idea what i was talking about.now he wont talk to me at all and he just ignores me in the halls.idk what to do.weve been thru alot of ups and downs and i cant tell if this friendship is worth fighting for. how do i approach him?what do i say? will we be friends again?
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He obviously isn't a very good friend because if he was he wouldn't talk behind your back, but if he is the only friend you have, then he is worth fighting for.
If you want him to stay your friend, call his house if you have his phone number and tell him that you are really sorry and that you just didn't like it how he went around saying stuff behind your back. If you don't have his phone number, corner him in the school hall and say the same thing.
Just follow your dreams and your heart
Never follow your brain.
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Men are very stubborn. He's probably angry because you heard that he was talking about him and confronted him about it sarcastically. I did the same thing when I found out that an ex-boyfriend was calling me "desperate" behind my back. Then, when he saw me, I completely ignored him, and when he asked why I said, "Gee, I don't know, it must be because I'm just sooo desperate."
What it does is immediately attacks their ego. He probably felt like he was hot shit when he was saying that you've been all over him. It's their nature to feel like they have that authority and express things way differently then we do.
Try talking to him again-- alone. Instead of in the hallways, call him. Tell him why you were angry with him, and ask whether or not it's true. because what also sucks, is you don't know if this other girl is telling you the entire story.
A true good friend would never talk crap about you. And if you honestly believed that he was, then I don't think you'd be so concerned about the status of your friendship. It's only worth fighting for if you know for a fact that he wasn't talking negatively about you. In that case, I'd be done with it and let go of his friendship completely.
Also, if he happened to find out that your not interested in him in that way anymore, it probably got him upset and insecure.. maybe even humiliated.
When people know they've messed up or hurt someone intentionally or not, they'll avoid them at all costs sometimes. It looks like if you want to salvage this friendship, you're going to have to be the bigger person and confront him in a private and not attacking way.
Good luck.
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