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Confused...
Okay,
I have this guy friend from High School whom I never really knew very well but we spoke here and there. It's been four years since I've graduated I haven't seen him. He just recently came to town to visit family and I went to spend time with him with a few "girl" friends of mine. Almost right away he started to flirt with me and get all obsessive over me. He would follow me, and say (I would be that boyfriend that would cuddle with you, protect you etc) and it got extremely annoying and I made it clear that I was in a relationship and seeing someone but I figured we could be friends so I gave him my phone number and he called me 15 times in one hour!...and I've told him to back off and that I no longer want to be his friend because he abused it.
What should I do??
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This one really came out of his shell, you should always be careful with guys, or girls who use to have a crush on you. Don't give them your phone number and don't give them an opening by saying "let's be friends", but I'm preaching to the choir here aren't I?
Be firm, give him no more openings and tell him, "don't make me change my phone number". Don't give the power to him by telling him he's scaring you, but if he continues tell him you're beginning to think he's not all there and maybe he should see a shrink. If he's not crazy, I doubt you'll hear from him after that. If you do, then you have a problem that requires more professional help, like the law.
I'm not saying this to scare you, everyone should do this, learn to use a gun. If nothing else, it will give you more confidence in being able to protect yourself. Target shooting can be a lot of fun too.
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Woooahh! Looks to me like he go a little over-excited about maybe pursuing something with you. If you've really made it clear to him that you're done, then he should back off. If it continues, you need to put your foot down because what your explaining is JUST ridiculous-- and furthermore, it's scary.
Say he doesn't stop?? It's time to tell somebody. It's not fair that you should have to deal with him calling and making you feel uncomfortable enough to look for some help on any website. That's just plain terrible!
Assure him again that you're over anything he had to offer-- if he overlooks this last attempt tell him your going to do whatever it take and take whatever precautions against him continuing his stalker ways. You owe it to yourself.
I'm sorry you had to go through all that-- damn.
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