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my ex
I am still contantly thinking about him.
I was for sure in love with him and he told me he loved me.
I cant stop thinking about him.
The other day was my birthday, and he sent me a text telling me happy birthday, and I replying saying thanks.
& he sent back, im sorry for the way everything happened, and I wanted to let you know that im still a friend if that is okay with you.
I wrote back that that is fine and if he ever needs someone to talk to im here.
But you see, ever since we broke up, he hasnt said a word to me. Nothing.
It kills me that he wont talk to me, and I dont want to make the first move and talk to him, since he already has a g/f. ( his gf is one of my friends)
but I dont know what to do, im about to move, and school is almost over and I want to talk to him.
I really do think I am heartbroken.
Any advice?
Sorry its so long.
Thanks in advance.
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Men tend to be unsure how to handle breakups, even when they are the ones leaving you. Often, they don't want to hurt you, but don't know how to break it gently, so they get mad, or they cut you off. The fact he sent you the text is a sign that he still cares about you, even just a little bit.
If you really want to talk to him, and you have to be sure that you will be able to, then you should. Initiate the conversation. It's okay to be forward. He's your ex now, and you have a right to tell him exactly how you feel or whatever you want to say, regardless of if he wants to hear it or who his girlfriend is. If your friend is a true friend she'll understand that.
I've had more than one time in my life when I've been completely heartbroken and I know how painful it is. I really think that you will feel better if you can talk to him, have it out and say what you need to. You must be prepared for all the consequences though. Since you'll be moving and school is almost over, you'll be able to leave behind whatever is left and allow yourself to heal.
Have confidence, know you're worth his time, and do what your heart needs you to do.
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First, you have to be honest with yourself. If deep down you still want him, then I think you should just let it go. This already sounds like a powderkeg waiting for a match, and the last thing you need is drama between you, him and her.
If you don't still want him, and have come to terms with the fact that you are no longer together, then I suggest brokering a meeting. Say that you need some closure before you move, and if your friend/his girlfriend has to be there, then let her.
Once you do finally make contact, say goodbye. Get all the feelings you need to out without causing drama between them, say goodbye, and go.
Don't wait for him to make the first move, because you may end up moving with nothing being resolved.
And as for your heartbreak, remember this: every guy that you love and lose is but a step towards the one who shares your soul. And one day, you WILL find him.
Good luck.
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