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breaking the news, ... BLOWUP!!!
Okay so my friend talked me into going to 4-h camp over christmas break. I was really excited cause we would get to spend some time together. We turned in our applications together so we would get the same classes. But the thing is over this past weekend I've kinda relized I really DIDN'T wanna go to 4-h camp. I mean I just wanted to in the first place to make my bff happy.
So my mom was happy to call and have them take me out of it (aka 4-h camp).
~The real problem i have here is how my BFF acted:
I told her on msn messanger yesterday here's how it went she is KT: I'm MG:
MG: Hey kt, wats up.. :)
KT: nothing much I"m bored, hey what baithing suit are you packing for camp? I'm thinking two peice or one... what do u say?
MG: KT, I've got some bad news...
KT: :( what.?
MG: I'm not going to camp. I'm sorry but I relized that I really don't want to go. I so so so sorry, but I just can't!
KT: WHAT WHY?????????????????????????????
MG: Well.... I'm not used to being away for a week, and I really don't want to go. All in all I just don't think I would have fun. BUT maybey next year! SORRY.
KT: Sorry?? SORRY??? I thought you were my friend? It's not to late you can still go! I'll be there. I'll be lonley without you.
MG: I'm sorry my mom already called and got me outa it
KT: SOME FRIEND> THANKS aLOT!:(((((((((
and that was it what do I do I don't wanna go but i don't want her mad at me!!
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She IS overreacting.. But you really shouldn't have done that to her. How would you feel is she bailed on you? You shouldn't have to her yes in the first place if you planned on dissing her ya know.
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honestly at the moment your friend was overreacting. she was upset because she was looking forward to you comming. i dont know how your friend is. i had a friend who hated me for a long time because my mom pulled me out of a vacation with her. the best thing you can do is give the situation a little time. hopefully she will get over it and if she doesnt you should sit her down and have a talk about it. and if you talk to her about it again dont say you didnt think it would be fun. thats offensive. hope i halped!
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Woahhh. Sounds to me like she definitely took it more personal, and selfishly blamed you for the decision you felt most comfortable with.
Sometimes when people feel alone, they make expectations for the few people that they do have around them. I believe from what I read, that she feel she needs to blame you in order to change your mind.
She has no right to be mad at you for your decision, and she shouldn't hold it against you, if she's a good friend.
Explain to her again that you are sorry, but the decision was entirely yours. Just because you changed your mind, it doesn't have anything to do with not wanting to spend time with her-- just that you and your family decided together that not going was what you felt more comfortable with.
Good luck!
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