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Friend problems
Okay maybe I just need to vent right now or whatever but I need help. So my bestfriend whom I tel basically everything to, and when I say everything I mean everything. Thats just the way our friendship works, we tell each other everything. That is until lately. She's been acting different. Ever since she met this guy who she likes that lives next door to her. I have to admit I am a little jealous. Only because she always gets the guys, but she just uses them and takes them for granted and fights with them constantly more then most people do. It's always her starting these fights, that might I add are about the most rediculous things. I dont like saying it but some people would consider my friend a "skank". Now today it just set me off I dont know why. Basically i texted her saying I cant go to this talent show thing tomorrow with her. Normally she'll say "aawww what you cant go? Why? You have to go. We need to hangout." stuff like that. This time she texted back "Bummer, i'm with Steven ( her next door neighbor that she likes) i'll call you later. I dont know that just really made me mad. Not to mention well she spends like every weekend at my house, cause she likes to. But I really needed someone to talk to this weekend cause everything seems to be going wrong but no she's too busy with Steven. I dont know. Am i wrong to be mad at her? Am i overreacting? Any advice?
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Okay, well I can see where your coming from, I mean If your supposed bff was a true friend then wouldn't she want to hang out with you, not her stupid boyfriend, who will probley be gone in a few weeks anyways? Well... of course your mad. But here is how to deal with this event that could shatter your friendship:
1. DON'T just all of a sudden up and be mad at her, she'll feel like she didn't have a chance to fix the problem.
Try telling her that you miss her. That you feel that she spends more time with "steven" then you. Tell her everything you've told us here, but be nice about it. Then she should understand where your coming from. Then try to make plans for the weekend with each other.
But you HAVE to remember if she still hangs out with this steve guy then you should let her, SOMETIMES! Maybey if you have a bf. or if you get one you all can DOUBLE dATE! :D
REALLY hope that this advice helps,
-A.M.L
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I've been in very similar situations. I know what it feels like to be left in the dust when your best friend finds comfort in a different friend.
The best way I got through it, is just letting her do what she needs to do. To her, this may be a potential love interest with her new neighbor, and that's why she's spending so much time with him.
In the calmest, and I MEAN calmest way-- tell her how you feel. Explain that you feel almost replaced in a way, and you don't like it. In the same matter, tell her you're happy she found a friend in someone else, but that you miss having her around, and you need her in her life, too.
Let me know what happens! =)
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you are just feeling the shaft a bit. and have a right to be. she has a new crush, and once she balances out time with him and you things will be okay. but you might want to start setting yourself up for the idea that she might become closer with this guy. handling a boyfriend and a single best friend can get complicated.
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