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Q: 16/f. I have a huge crush on this kid. I met him at a music honor society meeting at my school. We talked alot and found out that we actually play the same instrument and have alot in common. He knew who I was right away though because he knows my brother. Well, last night, we ended up at the same get-together of a mutual friends and we hung out the whole time even though we barely knew eachother. He is so sweet and cute and now I really like him. I flirted with him, and I got the feeling that he kinda liked me too because he would stand really close to me when talking to me and make any excuse to touch me. Example: he says: "I make all my new friends shake hands with me for 15 minutes." I say: "okay!" Result: Us holding hands for a long time.. haha. Also, putting his hand on my shoulder when saying somthing important, ect. So heres the problem: I have no classes with him, we're never at the same social gatherings (this was the first time), and I am not comfortable enough with our mutual friend to ask him to set us up. Music honor society meets like every 2 weeks only, so I'll see him this wednesday, what should I do to make sure he remembers me or asks me to hang out or somthing? I really like him, but I have to make every meeting with him count!

Girl you better get him before it's to late! This wednesday is your day to shine, YOU ask him out face to face, be completley open and honest. Exchange email and phone numbers.
Then later on maybey the next day or two if he doesn't call you CALL HIM. guys loose stuff such as numbers. (but don't call every minute) let him breathe a little. Lol Love is so amazing who knows maybey he's the one!

Q: So- I am in LOVE with the new iTouch from apple!! I have two questions.. First of all, does anyone have the iTouch and what is your opinion/review of it? Also, this is for people who may or may not have the iTouch- currently it is priced at approximately $120-130, what do you think the price will be around Christmas time? Will it stay the same or do you think it may potentially drop a little? THANK YOUU! :]

I recently purchased the Ipod touch (I'm not sure what gigabite but It was like the highest one)
ANYWAYS,
I love it. I really do expeccially how you can add apps and play games.
I also think it's cool you just glide your finger over it and, well it's pretty awsome!!

I know that wasn't alot of help but it really is great, nothing bad.

Q: Well you see. i have a group of friends. there's 3 of us and at some stage one of us will feel left out which is pretty annoying BUT the worst bit is that we have so so so many fights.. atleat once a day if we're lucky we might have one 2 times a week but when we do its always gang up 2 against one im usualy left fighting for myself. but i dont know what to do. should i leave the group and find new friends or not? if i do they might start bitching about me or something stupid like that. but i probably should add that the main reason we fight is beacause of another girl that im friends with and they hate and well THEY CANT STAND ME HAVING DIFFERENT FRIENDS!
If that makes any sence.. please help me !!

Same thing happens to me. I'm friends with this other girl in my school and we hang out now and then. BUT my other two bff's ignore me when I even talk to her. They're so jelouse but about a month ago i confronted them and told them that they could either suck it up and move on and be my friend or completley forget about me. So they said they wouldn't get mad at me any more.

So that fixed it. Confronting them i mean. however your other friends might be different so i'm not sure. But in my case telling them how i felt was so much better then letting their jelousy get the better of me

Q: my friends keep suggesting i read really depressing books. like philosophy and stuff. my brothers girl friend told me to read chelsea handlers book my horizontal life and her other book.. it is sooo funny. i like reading now and it doesnt make me depressed. one problem though... i dont know any other books like it. i like dark humor.. alot. rude and crude type of stuff. and it is okay if it has dirty stuff i am over 18. so please any suggestions on really great funny books that would be fantastic thanks in advanced.

The twilight series is amazing. I just started it, it's at a lot of book stores, and most libraries.

I know that's that wasn't a big help but they are really awsome books, theres 4 of them if you want more info just ask.

Q: Ive been seeing this girl for awhile and we have a odd relationship its kinda of a friends with benifits/dating thing its hard to exsplain but ive falling for her and im not sure if she is actually falling for me or just having a good time ive talked to her a few times about it and she always just kinda tells me jsut enough to keep me on the hook i guess. its starting to get old and im not sure if i should stick it out or just break it off its hard cause i care about her alot.

Well I'd have to go with break it off.
I'm not any relationship specialist, but I have dated people, and from MY experiences dating days breaking it off would be best. BECAUSE in the end you'll be the one with a broken heart if you keep this up.

Just flat out tell her to stop flirting with you if she isn't interested, and then if she does actually want to be with you she'll make it clear. and then you can choose if you still want to be with her.

Q: I have a girlfriend right now... And I'm not sure how things are going with her... I still love her I just miss my ex. I thought things wern't working out with her because we fought too much but I didn't know what I was losing. I miss her more than anything but now she wont talk to me. I'd do anything to get her back but she wont talk to me anymore. Do you know what i should do?

17/m

BREAKUP with the current girl friend, that's FIRST TOP PRIORITY no girl deserves to date a guy when he's feeling for his ex.

THEN you might want to consider an nice email or call to the ex. To appologize. Then just see where you guys stand see what in the world is happening

Q: 15/f

Me and my ex broke up ages ago, but we've been on and off for about a year.
But then about a few weeks ago we had hardly seen each other, he didn't know where he stood and started to like this other girl. He said he was over me and that he liked her.

But now, me and him have been hanging out together a lot and flirting,I see him look at me like he used to, we talk on the phone for ages, he always invites me out and seems upset when I don't come, and goes quiet if I mention another guy to someone.

But he also likes this other girl, and he goes to sixth form with her and spends a lot of time with her, and everyone seems to assume they're going to go out.

I really love him, and want to be with him, how can I get him back?

Well Win back is a understaightment, I mean he's not a dog or anything, ( no offense).
I think the best thing to do in a tough situation like this is to be straight forward tell him how you feel and ask what in the world is going on. Then you'll know where you stand. Because if he IS flirting wiht you then somthing is going on in his mind when he does and it's most certainly not that other girl!

IF HE DOES say that your just friends, then well. YOUR just friends, at least for now, till he get's over the other girl. But if he does say just friends, no matter how disapointed don't shut him out or ignore him, then he's pretty much gone from your love life forever. Still be friends, just tell him you now have a NO FLIRTING POLICY atleast till he's free from the other girl!

Q: how do you tell your hair dresser you want wispy ends, they don't seem to understand the phrase, its like a pixie-cut's ends, like its all wispy. i don't know how else to put it and to describe it, any help will do.

Hey that's just what I got done, hat I did was find a hairstyle just like it online or in a magazine then show her. BUT it does have a name, I am not certain what it is called but you can say tappered at the ends. That's what I would suggest
, hope this helps,

a.m.l

Q: I'm trying to find a song that relates to somebody starting to fall in love but trying to protect their heart...does anybody know of a song along those lines?

Okay well I'm not sure if these are what you are hoping for but my best guess would be:
.should've said no
.tear drops on my guitar
.stay my baby
.bleeding love
.lovebug

sorrry if this isn't what you were hoping for but maybey you will like one of these.

Q: has anyone ever used that "sun in" stuff or whatever its called you spray it on your hair and it supposively makes it lighter if you go and lay out in the sun, i was wondering if it works or not? cause i've heard it makes your hair look orangey, just wondering if anyones had any luck with it because i wanna try it.

THANKS :)

If you have blonde hair don't use it. They say it turns your hair green if you use it along time. I have blonde hair and I just spray lemon juice in my hair it works alot better

Q: I want to buy an ipod nano. but if i do do i have to buy the songs off of itunes or can i do it through lime wire like the older versions?

I use Lime wire with my ipod touch, so YES i does work, however you can't get music videos. :(

h.t.h. (hope this helps)

a.m.l

Q: (16/m)
What do girls like to get as a gift?
(only girls answer!!!!!)

It's not how much u spend that counts, a girl like a gift that has thought, that comes from the heart. Do you get where I am coming from. Try to think of what kind of girl she is. Girly girl tom boy. That kinda thing now...
1. Girly-Girl
Maybey you've smelt her wearing purfume . That would be a good gift. My bf bought me britney spears Secrect perfume. LOVE it/ lOVE hime.
Jewelry is a good gift, however it's commen really. But make sure her ears are peirced BEFORE you get her earing.
ALSO if she enjoys reading . OR a PURSE> or a Big teddy bear. Or a dvd that she's been longing for forever.

hope this helps u/ your gf out ,
a.m.l

Q: I just wanted to know on the ipod touch if you can go on any websites or are there just a select few you are able to get access too?

You can go anywhere, it's pretty cool i got one last year. Plus it's got a youtube button so u can search it too

Q: i know this is a common question.
i'm 5'7
and i bench over 130
so i, pretty strong
i weigh 220...
i dont understnad
yet i'm called little

when i eat, i compare what i eat to the person i'm with that day
and if i eat more than them- i punish myself by not eating the next day

im asking-
are people lying if they call me thin?
or do i look what i weigh?

mee:
http://img72.imageshack.us/my.php?image=rgforiogjrthm4.jpg

**ill be up, please help now [:

Are you sure you weigh 220? You sure don't look it. I wouldn't worry about it that much. But everyone that has called you little arn't lying, you look great. But Don't punish yourself because someone else doesnt eat the same as you do. But if still feel self consciouse about your body go to seventeen.com and look at the body peace thing. or workout more. but you look fine. Muscel (idk how to spell it) weighs more then fat! :D

-a.m.l

p.s. I like your hair

Q: I have never been so confused in my life!!!!
I'm a 16/f and i was talking to a boy that went to my school...i will call him "R"! So yea i really liked him but now "R" is in jail and might be in there for some time...and recently i have been kinda talking to another boy i will call "N"! I like "N" and we flirt and kiss and we really get along great! As friends and as a couple! But there's a slight problem...he has a girlfriend!!!!! he doesn't claim her at all and they barely talk too! I don't want to be the woman on the side or a home-wrecker but im really into him and he seems to feel the same! And on top of everything i still got "R" on my mind! I don't know what to do!!!! please help!!!

I say let "R" be, if he's in jail you shouldn't be with him, your 16 and from what I can tell "N" is the guy for you.
For starters, You like N, i mean seriously if you kiss and all! and come one he has a girlfriend?
You need to set him straight tell him you don't wanna be the other women,and that you LIKE HIM> but to dump that other girl so you two can be together!

Q: hi! i'm going on a cruise and need some book reccomendations. i'm looking for something thats not totally trashy or superficial.. but something entertaining. i'm a bit picky. im 18/f just graduated. thanks!

I don't know if your into these books but some of the cool one's i've read latley that I bought at barnes and noble, Teen section is:
.Sweet 16
.Ready Or Not - meg cabot
.avalon high-meg cabot

basically i'm a meg cabot fanatic, any of her books are good. Although avalon high is a little strange. (they arn't little kids books if u know what i mean

Q: ok so theres this one guy at school and my best friend likes him but i like him to and he knows that she likes him but he donn't know that i like him and he flirts with me and my friend told me that if he starts going out with someone else she would get really pissed and if he goes out with me she is going to be pissed at me and she is my best friend... What should i do...

Well. Your friend seems to be jelous that he's flirting with you obviously if she told u she would be mad at you. But If you really like this guy you need to tell your friend to take a hike and get over it. that you still wanna be her friend, but you like this guy too. Then you need to tell this guy that u like him and if your confrtable ask him out or even see how he reacts and then maybey he'll ask you out.
But if you friend is a TRUE friend she may be "pissed" but she'll get over it sooner or later!

Q: I need some really easy to do, really quick gorgeous hairdos that i can do before school. I want something different, but still really easy. Only Straightening (No Curling etc...) (I only have straighteners lol)

I usually have it down, or in a bun, so something a bit different from that please!

I have about 10mins max. in the mornings to do my hair, so not long. I will practise so that it comes naturally, but i also want something i could wear non-school?

My Hair:
Straight, about 2/3 inches past my shoulders, and blonde/chestnut. I have Layers, and a small side fringe put in.

Sorry to be fussy lol ! Thanks in advance for you help! (Websites that show how to so it, and what it looks like would be great!)

i have longish blonde hair as well. I always either take a shower that morning or night before, but either way I put herbal essenses de frizzer gell in my hair & herball essensess moouse (for straightening) then dry it, Then after it's dry I brush it out the way I wanna wear it annd straighin away.
* I use a mirror to look at the back of my head to see if it's straight.

Q: What are good products to use to curl hair, and help maintain the same bouncy curl throughout the day. I'm looking for a product that does not make my hair look stiff and un-natural. Any ideas?

I know Herbal Essensess has a curl product, mouse, and gell i think. I use the herbal esseses hair spray "SET ME UP" it hold any lock but it doesn't give it that STIFF fake barbie doll hair do' feeling.

TRY it ,

a.m.l

Q: ok, when i go to the tournament arena on webkinz and select a game where the 'find me an opponent' button lights up, i click on it. it will say finding an opponent and bring me to the game screen that says waiting for other player to join. but no matter what game i play it sits there for about a minute and then says game has timed out waiting for an opponent. why does this happen? is it happening to anyone else? and how do i fix it? because i really want to play some of the games that dont EVER have tournaments and i cant because this keeps happening

I'm not sure if this is really whats wrong, but that happens to me all the time. my other friend says that it's whenever your opponent leaves the game because they don't want to load it.

HOPE THIS IS RIGHT, sorry if it's not,
AML

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