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im sara, and i'm smallll. dig itim in love with tylor mutton
& have been since june 28th 2006
he's a better boyfriend than yours
i work at carrabbas as a hostess
it's pretty amazing if you ask me
i go to wilson hs.. ill be a junior
i do that softball thaaaanggggg.
oh and i have a screen namee..
you can IM me if ya wanttt=]
it's onexlove09. yuuuurrpppppp
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15/f
so, my ex best friend, who was my friend of like 3 years, all of a sudden moved. i mean, me and him stopped being friends, because i messed up. i mean he liked me, i didn't like him, and yeah you get it. but anywayss, so now, all of a sudden he just moved. like i mean, my friends all live right by him, and there was never a for sale sign infront of there house. and i mean, usually your house takes like a little while to sell. [espically his, because his is like a piece of junk.] so anyways, it was like june 29th or something, and i saw something on his away saying packing getting ready to move. and like he moved yesterday. and so, i just, don't know what to do. i mean, i planned on telling him i missed our friendship, one of these days. but now, i can't . and i dont know, what should i do?
well he could have gone on vacation.. since you said you saw 'packing' in his away message.. or maybe he just moved for the summer. call his cell, or house phone.. or if you have his parents number, or talk to some of his really good friends and see where he went, etc. but when you finally get a hold of him, just tell him that you didn't wanna stop being friends with him, just because you didn't like him the same way he liked you, and that you still wanna be friends and keep in touch, cause you don't wanna throw away 3 years just over one little feeling that no one could help. alright, so just try that.. good luck!! :] hope i helped ♥
My ex-friend, Dylana, is so annoying! Somebody on this site said I wasn't a real friend just because I got mad at her for simple things! Do you call copying my every move, stealing, can't take a tiny joke simple things? I don't. Now, all she wants is a freaking pity party that I'm being invited to! I don't like Dylana at all. Everybody takes her side! If you were her friend you'd be blowing a gaskit too! I mean come on! Dylana says she never does anything bad. She does! I mean what the F is up with that?! I get a lot of attention that I don't want. She gets attention she wants, but doesn't deserve. I'm mad because she thinks that a real friend always says yes to her, kisses her freaking feet, does her every biding and what?! She likes to be pitied! I really don't like her, but I don't hate her. Hate is too strong of a word. Anyway, can somebody help me with this girl? I don't want to be her friend because I've already forgiven her... 88 million times! Anything will help! Thanx!
it's not that hard, just ignore her and don't associate with her anymore. if she asks what's up, then just straight up tell her- that she's annoying, and steals, and copies you and whatever else. tell her you just don't wanna be her friend anymore, and that's that =) simple! hope i helped ♥
the last day of skool was the last time im gonna see my close friend cause she is moving to diffrent country soon.But ive been avoiding her for a while because i was upset that she was moving and now shes doing the same too so we dont really talk anymore.And then when the class ended i tried to hold my tears but i burst up crying front of her and she tried to cheer me up couple of times but it didnt work so she left saying"im leaving so dont cry" and left me so i cried for like 3hours after school and after that we dont talk anymore, and yesterday she was on in AIM and i was scared to IM her but i TRIED talking to her in AIM and i finally i IMED her but she didt respond me i was waiting for like 2 hours but i was talking to my other friend also but she never replied and she signed off on me and that was the time i was really sad and upset and i was blaming myself for us drifting apart, and not close anymore and what do you think about this? = /
go to her house and visit her... you need to let her know why you've been avoiding her and that you didn't mean to make her feel weird but you were just really nervous to be without her. avoiding each other isn't the best way to say goodbye, you'll never forgive yourself (and her too) if you don't properly say goodbye one last time. plan a sleepover for just the two of you... rent you favorite movies, and just have fun! the next day, is when to be sad again... but have some good fun just one last time and you'll both feel better. also, stay in touch when she leaves... write letters, call each other, it won't be so bad, i promise ♥ hope i helped!
14/f
yeah, well i have a boyfriend now... but now when i talked to this one guy.. that used to lik` me.. and he waited for me because he wanted to, but i told him not to... but he said to wait for me anyways is mad now. he says that i lied to him and made him wait and lead him on when he was away from town... but i didnt.. well at least i didnt think so. but when i went out w/ the guy i am now i was goin` to tell him to not to wait for me, lik` i did last time, but then the day after he got mad saying that he shouldnt have fell for me and etc. i dont know what to do.. but i was pretty sure i didnt tell him to wait for me. he asked me out before but then i said that i felt a vibe and all.. but i didnt really like him. >.< help me please.. i want us to stay friends. and now i`m not sure if i want to stay with the guy i am with right now... now i`m all confused and stuff cause i feel bad about the other guy even though i have no idea what i did..
well i'm confused too lol cause this question was all over the place... but i'll do my best...
well if you were talking to a guy, and you went out with another guy, then you must have liked the guy you are presently going out with, right? so what's the problem? you liked each other, so you're dating. but another guy liked you, but couldn't have you cause now you're taken so he's mad now? tough shit. why should he be mad at you? you didn't like him that way, so of course you're gonna do waht you want... if he's mad, than that sucks for him, but he needs to get over it... and if he cares about you at all, he should be happy for you cause you found a guy that you really like and that you're happy with. sorry if this was bad advice, but i tried ♥ hope i helpedd
"Nothing’s worse than watching a friend in pain and knowing there is absolutely nothing you can do about it"--- what does this quote trying to say? sorry im just a exchange student from japan.
it means that there is nothing worse than watching someone you care about be hurt really badly and not being able to help. like lets say your friends mother dies, there's really not much you can do.. since nothing can bring her back. so you feel really bad because you want to help soooo badlyy, but you just can'ttt. =) hope i helpeddd ♥
"never take someone for granted hold every person close to your heart cause you might wake up one day and realize that you've lost a diamond while you were too busy collecting stones"-- what does this quotes trying to say? is it about friendship? or what?
it means exactly what it says. it means to cherish everyone you have no matter what. the diamond stone analogy means that you weren't really paying attention to the important things [diamond], because you were too busy worrying about the non-important things [stones]. so for example, let's say you're running around worrying about silly things- like who's going out with who, what's the latest fasions, or whatever it is that you do lol. while in the meantime, you haven't been actually looking around and realizing how lucky you are to have everything.. such as your parents, and close friends and family. =) so it's just trying to say, to be thankful for every SINGLEEE thing you have. even right down to the fact that you can walk and breathe.. cause those too are treasures.. and to stop worrying about things that don't really matter ♥
You might remember me from awhile back, I asked a question about my friend Carly and how she went to a party, didn't come home on time, and I told her sister where she really was and she ended up having to break up with her boyfriend.
Anyway, that's not the point. That night, while Carly was at that party, she got really drunk and her boyfriend took advantage of her and had sex with her. Now, her period is really late and she thinks she is pregnant.
I already "bitched out" her ex-boyfriend for taking advantage of her like that. He is a jerk and I can't believe Carly EVER trusted him in the first place.
My question is, though, how can I be supportive of my friend at this time without being harsh and telling her she's stupid for getting herself in this situation? I'm sure she knows she messed up and she's worried enough as it is, so I don't want to make things worse for her than they already are. I told her to go get a pregnancy test and if it comes out positive, then she should make a doctor's appointment (which her ex WILL pay for) to make sure it is correct.
I want to be there for my friend at this difficult time. What else can I do to help her out?
it seems like you're doing everything perfectly right =) be with her when she takes the test, so she knows for sure you're there for her. if you want, you guys should go to planned parenthood.. they have tests there and could help you =) now i'm not sure if you need a parents or not, so just look up your local planned parenthood, and go and talk with them about taking a test.. or just buy one at the grocery store =) also, tell your friend not to worry, because that's what makes your period late.. good luck to the both of you!! [♥]
i'm having some issues at home, and i'm really stressed out and just stuff like that. anyway, i really hate crying or being sad around people or talking about my problems... but last night i was hanging out with some of my friends and i just couldn't stop crying! i layed on my friend and just cried... i'm almost positive he knew i was crying...but anyway, i felt bad afterwords so i texted him and told him i was sorry and he won't reply... could he be mad at me?
he probably just didn't get the text. =] just wait it out.. he might just feel a little out of place because guys usually aren't very comfortable with things like that.. so just give it timee. maybe if he doesn't respond in an hour or so, text him again and tell her that there's just been alot on your mind, and you felt comfortable enough around him to let it out.. i'm sure he understands.. he probably just didn't get your message. =] good luck! ♥
My classmate is having a party and she invited everyone in the class except me. I talked to her online and here's our conversation...
Me - why didnt i get an invite ?
Friend - huh?
Me - an invitation to your bday
Her - ...?? what ??
Me - i saw the invitations sam showed me
***SHE BLOCKS ME***
we arent like best friends but i hate how she invited random boys and not me!!!!!! we've never been in a fight and now im crying because she hates me
i feel like i have no friends now
how do i handle this situation?
i'm pretty sure its not a big deallll.. its just a birthday party.. why cry and think you have no friends cause you didn't get invited? it could end up being a surprise party for you! lol. it's really not that big of deal.. just try confronting her in school, and don't fret. =] good luck ♥
my friend is getting abused by her boyfreind but she doesnt know it. i can tell, because she says "i called him an a$$hole and then he slapped me., but i forgive him because you know, if he called me a b***** i would slap him" or how she says "me and him had sex, i didnt really feel like it but i mean i am his girlfreind, i kinda HAVE to". and how he can check her phone atleast once a day. She just says its him making sure that noone is calling her that could harm her. Oh please the only harm that she has is him. What should i do? Ive told her a few times its considered abuse if he hurts her in anyway, and forcing her to have sex, even if shes his girlfriend, is rape. And checking peoples phones to make sure they arent calling anyone or texting anyone they shouldnt is basically violation of trust and privacy. She just won't listten. and won't report it. WHAT SHULD I DO? Hes even starting to not let her hang out with me and her other friends
f that man.. hes a loser. if you can't get it through your friends mind, she's probably just blinded by [what she thinks is] love. reeeepooorrrrtttt ittttt!!! to a trusted adult.. depending on what kind of parents you guys have, tell them. or a school guidance counselor. or any kind of official. because that is definitely abuse.. wow he's a jerk. try your best to convince her of this. i'm sure it will eventually get through to her. if not, simply report it =\ good luck babe ♥
what exacly does understanding means? can you give me an example?
im from korea
understanding means that you can relate to where people are coming from.. if you're an understanding person, you're very nice, and you are very approachable. it means to grasp the meaning of something =)
for example: i am a very understanding person. i can always see where people are coming from and i can find something good about anything anyone tells me. people can always come to me for help, or if they did something wrong. because i am understanding and i find good in everything people do.
website with more definitions:
http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/understanding
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This is gonna be long. Sorry. =[
Thanks in advance, though.
Mk, I have been BEST friends with this girl, Madison since I was eight. We're in eighth grade now and I seriously can't take her much longer. SHE GETS MAD OVER EVERY SINGLE THING! Anytime I get mad about something, she turns the whole thing around and starts cussing at me. She didn't do it this time but, she invited like eight girls over right in front of my face and didn't even invite me. Obviously, that pissed me off so I just hung out with my other friends the rest of the day cause every time I went over near her she'd start talking about Friday and what she's doing with everyone but me. Whenever I came home from school she IMed me and was like, "are you mad at me?" and then obviously she was talking about me cause some girl who I never even see at school was like, "are you mad at madison?" i just said sort of and then they were like, "oh, well it seemed like it." and then I told them why and Madison got all pissed off at me. She was saying, "I DON'T HAVE TO DO EVERY SINGLE THING WITH YOU! YOU INVITE YOURSELF OVER EVERY SINGLE DAY!" First of all, I know that. She doesn't have to invite people over in front of my face...I don't ever do that to her. Second of all, what the heck? NO I DON'T. She invites me over AND it isn't every day. It's like once a week. The only time I do is cause my dad is abusive and she the only one who I've told -- I only do that about once a month though. Then today I was talking to her about my profile on IM and she's like, "Well, you practically copied mine. I mean all the screen names are bolded and it's in black and white. So thanks?" I wanted to say, "OKAY! WHAT THE CRAP!? Every single person bolds the screen name like that or the name if they have conversations in their profile. Second of all, you copied Jordan's(This other girl who she acts like it's her best friend and then she tells me that she's a bitch. She's not a bitch. At least she doesn't get mad for no reason). Third of all, mine are ALWAYS black and white. I wasn't even trying to copy you. Why are you even making such a big deal about it!? It's a freaking profile." But instead I just said, "Oh sorry, I didn't mean to." and she didn't say anything. For about two weeks, anytime I say anything when she's around someone she just glares at me and says something rude or sarcastic back. I've become really good friends with some of the people who she says are her friends, so I don't know if she's just jealous about that or what. Gah, what should I do? If I talk to her about it, she'll freak out.
ok well basically, most girls suck and are overly dramatic so that's just something you'll have to deal with in life. but about your frined, just wait til she's in a calm mood, and just talk to her about it. and if she flips, then you gotta think; am i better with her, or without her? personally, it sounds like a little of both. i mean you've trusted her with some serious information.. but if she's being dumb all the time, then she's not worth your time. just try talking to her. and if she doesn't listen, you can always make new frineds. i know that losing friends is a very hard thing to do, but just remember.. what doesn't kill you, will only make you stronger. and you're probably better off without her anyway =] ♥ GOOOODD LUUCCKKKKK!!!!