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I am pretty early in my pregnancy still, I guess, but was thinking I should probably start buying things for the baby. I just don't know where to start! What do I buy first for the baby? It's, of course, my first and we aren't going to find out it's gender until the baby is born :D
Should I get newborn clothes or diapers or a crib or should I wait until it's closer to my delivery date? Should I buy the expensive, necessary things right now? I just want to be prepared, that's all. (link)
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I would focus on the important things and the most exspensive things just to get it out of the way. Here is a list of ideas...
Crib
Changing Table
Diapers
Strollers
Car Seat
Booster Seat
Play Pen
If you have bought those things already you could buy clothing but you might want to buy "Yellow" as you do not know the gender of the baby yet. Once you hit about 8 months I would start stacking up on Formula, Towels, etc.
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I am 25 years old and pregnant with my second child. I have never been on birth control because I am very against putting any hormones into my body that aren't there already. I have used the pull out method most of my sexual life and the only two times I have gotten pregnant were the times my partner did not pull out. I do realize however that this is not a reliable form of birth control and I am fine with having two children, and do not want another one anytime in the near future if ever. I am sorta afraid of the copper iud since I have heard horror stories, and my partner will not wear a condom (it doesnt pay for me to try...he just won't so do not suggest it). I would like to know what other options i have out there. Probably not many lol as my standards are quite high. thanks! (link)
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There is the Mirena IUD which is supposed to be 99.99% effective, I've been on it for 2 years nevere had a problem.
There is the Depo Provera shot which is good for 3 months than you need to get the shot again however while I was on this for about 5 years I've exsperienced weight gain.
There is also the pill, Which might be your best option in your case. Take it once a day same time everyday.
There is the birth control patch, Kind of looks like a big bandaide I'm not sure of the work metheod for it as I've never used it before...
You could also get your tubes tied, However again I don't know if that is an option for you but just another suggestion.
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i have an uncle inlaw hes my wifes uncle and im renting him a room the thing is that he never has the money for the rent and im getting tired of it because he buys things for him self but yet he never has the money for the rent the thing is that he doesent have nowhere to go were the only family he has the other thing is that he is epeleptic he has violent zeigers and i have a 5year old daughter to think about i gave him a week to leave but i cant help feeling sorry for the guy what should i do le him keep taking advantage of me because thats the way i feel sometimes? (link)
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You and your wife were nice enough to rent out a room to the guy, Then he should be nice enough to pay the rent in full amount and on time. It is his responsibility and this is probably why he is where he is. Depending on how long this has been going on and that said meaning a month, You and your wife should sit down with the guy and let him know that you and your wife are not going to allow him to freeload off the two of you. You two have your own lives to live. I understand you feel sorry for the guy but again he is where he is for a reason you've giving him his chances and he decided to blow them therefore if talking to him doesn't get through to him then you and your wife need to tell him that he is going to have to find another place to stay as you two are fed up and can no longer take the stress of him not paying the rent on time. The truth is all throughout your life people will come and go and try to take advantage you in some way, It's time to put your foot down and say no.
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I'm a 13 year old girl and I have a secret e-mail address I keep from my parents. I secretly posted an anonymous online ad on a SAFE website and got a reply. The ad was advertising that I would play piano for weddings. The reply (sent to my secret e-mail address since it was linked to the ad) asked me to play for them, and I would really like to. I want to ask my parents for permission but they would ask how I got the reply, etc. and I need to keep the e-mail address secret.
Please help soon- I will need to play this Sunday!
Thanks! (link)
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Honestly,
I would NOT post something like that online only because you never know who you are talking too. Also, You could be good, great or famous but most people who would want you to play at their wedding would want to hear how good you are first. Not just randomly send a email back saying I want you to play at my wedding without even hearing how good you are or even meeting you. This is definately not the best idea, You do not have to tell your parents the email address but I advise you NOT go attend the "wedding". Afterall, You do not know what you are really getting yourself into. It is NEVER safe to meet someone who was off the internet as nobody can be trusted these days. For all you know it could be anyone on the other end..even an old creepy man. Forget it, If you want to play at weddings do it the safe way and have your parents help you with it. Think about it
EDIT: I know you wanted me to answer this again, but I'm going to have to agree with the person above me. Not a smart idea to lie to the parents...Also, If you don't want to hear the truth than don't ask.
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My dads girlfreind! For the past year she has came before everyone in his life! I mean come on now because I didnt get along with her and buy her crap she convinced my dad to make me come live with my mom. And now for the past year me and my dad fight everyday ..over her!
Im so sick of it I love my dad so much and wish we could have a relationship and talk like we used to but its impossible with her. No matter how many times I tell my dad how I feel he defends her. I wish she would die, she took the most important person in my life from me. what can I do? (link)
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Damn this sounds just like the situation I'm in now infact spot on...
I would try and tell your father how you feel about his wife, Let him know that you want to spend one on one time with him. Technically he is your dad and you really should be able to spend that father/daughter time with him. My situation is the exact same thing however over time I got tired of it and I couldn't take it anymore. I know you love your father I love mine too, but if your father wants to give up his relationship with his daughter to defend his wife then sadly there really isn't much you can do about it. You can hate his wife, call her names and wish she'd get run over by a bus..but that is not going to change the fact that she is your fathers wife.
Let me give you a little of what happended to me and what I did...
My stepmother I didn't like her for years, Pretty much everything you've said about your stepmom only mine loves to over criticize just about everything and anyone basically she controls my father and makes choices for him. I've talked to him on several occassions but he is constantly defensive of his wife and acknowledges she did no wrong...Over the years sadly the stress has gotten the best of me and I had to go my seperate way.
The only thing I can tell you is to sit down with your father and sternly tell him how you feel, Spill all of it while you get the chance. Hopefully he will come around and hear what you are saying. Remember you aren't alone in this boat
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We are expecting our first child and need baby name help. My husband and I have chosen not to find out the sex of our baby until he/she has been born. We have some names we like, but we aren't 100% sure on any of them. We thought maybe someone could suggest some that they really enjoy and let us know what they thought about some of ours.
Baby names we like so far...
Baby boy names:
Michael David
John Patrick
James Paul
David Austin
Baby girl names:
Grace Anne
Madison Faith
Anna-Claire
Elisa Grace
Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
We like sweet, old-fashioned names, and traditional names mainly.
Thank you. (link)
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I've always like Jezebellah for a female
Adam for a boy
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I want to get ear gauges. However, my parents think it's a dumb idea and I won't ever be able to get a job with them. They believe that they won't heal back if I decide to take them out. They say I can have them when I move out, but I know I won't want them then.
How do I convince my parents to let me get them? (link)
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Depending on how big you want them they can do permanent stretching to your ear. The chances of them healing and going back to normal are very slim only because the lower ear is cartilage. I don't think there is really anyway to convince your parents to get them, Trying to get them by sneaking is also not possible because anyone under the age of 18 is required to have a parent sign papers also your parents must be there and yes they do check ID's. Also, most jobs do not hire people with visible tattoos or unattractive peircings as it draws attention and costumers complain.
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I am a 28 year old male, and I am still letting my parents control my life. They demand alot of my time, and have no consideration for the fact I am now a man, and have a family and career of my own. Recently, My dad expressed to my three year old daughter that he did not want her around, then proceeded to tell my wife that we may think our daughter is the greatest thing since sliced bread, but she's not. This made me extremely upset, and I have not gone back to my parents house or spoke to my father since that happened three weeks ago. They are not interested in reconciling with my wife or daughter, but want things to be the same. I don't want that. What do I do? (link)
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You could try to sit down with your parents and let them know that you do not apprechiate what they have said and done. You are now a man, You are free to live your own life and make your own choices. The fact that your father would turn to your three year old daughter and tell her he doesn't want her around is highly innapropriate not to mention I can only imagine what she was thinking she is just a child. I would sit down with both Mom and Dad and let them know that you are happily married now and you are not going to change things for their sake of happiness. They need to learn to except all of you as your wife and child are family also. If they are not interested in excepting them or at least try to get along with your wife and daughter than it is up to you on what you should do. You can continue to keep in contact with them but it will only cause stress on your marriage because it is something that will always sit in the back of your mind, Or you can tell them where it stands "You, Your wife and daughter" or none of the above. As hard as this might sound this is your choice to make. You are their son it is only the right thing for them to do is to except your family and be happy that you are happy and a successful man they are your parents and they should be proud. This isn't about them, It's about YOU.
Anything eles feel free to message me
BahaiMa22
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i am 18 years old and pregnant with my second child. I have a two year old. He wont listen to any one. he has slight hearing loss in his right hear and i am having tubes put in. I have been stressed out with being pregnant and the terrible twos. When you put him in time out, weather its a chair or his bedroom he throws a fit screaming crying and just gets back up you yell at him and he just does it again. he gets into everything when you tell him to stop he just acts like he does not hear you. when he gets yelled at he will smack him self in the arm or face? why does he do that? i took him to the phone store with me and we had to stand in line and he just started screaming and yelling throwing him self on the flooor. (link)
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Hello,
I am hard of hearing myself, When I was younger I used to do the same things, The reason why I did it because some who are hard of hearing get fustrated exspecially a young child. Depending on how hard of hearing he is he might only know how to exspress his anger by throwing tantrums. Does your son talk? I myself did not fully start to talk until I was 5 years old. Sign language will help your son to communicate I don't know if this is needed or not but it is just a suggestion. However, I am not saying this is the case it could be just a little boy being a little boy. Try to sit down and talk to him, You are his mom. Try not to overstress as it is not good for you or the fetus.
Please see this link for helpful tips.
http://www.ehow.com/how_4963311_teach-children-hearing-impairments.html
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Well they're not my neighbours, they're my neighbour's neighbour; the house beside our neighbour.
They are SO loud and I'm trying to sleep but I can hear yelling (and they're family is just a normal family and the oldest kids are in high school) and it's driving me nuts! it's summer and I love the earth so I'm using my window but it’s SO loud. And when I shut it I can still hear them, which doesn’t help because it's suffocating in my room if the window isn't open.
They have loud music BLARING, it's almost 12 right now and I should have been asleep a long time ago but I can’t sleep and frankly, I'm getting bags under my eyes. My sister and I just have the urge to scream "SHUT UP!" out the window and duck but we'd be sinking to their level and disrupting the rest of their neighbourhood.
I am seriously thinking of walking to their place in my pajamas right now and yelling at them. What do I do? Oh, and ear plugs DON'T work! Like I get it's summer, but you got to think of everyone else around you when you're living in a NIEGHBOURHOOD. (link)
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I would tell your parents you are fed up with the loud neighbors and tell them to go over there and warn them to keep there big mouths shut! Afterall, It is ILLEGAL to have music so damn loud the neighbor can hear it also..After 12am IT IS DISTURBING THE PEACE therefore file a complaint with the police and sure enough I think they will get the point and shut up! As you have every right to have peace and quiet in your own house. Call the cops
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So my boyfriend who is 17, almost 18 in 2 months and is in foster care. His foster mother said he cant see his real family unless she is there and she hates his real sister so he isn't aloud to see her at all. Well yesterday we went over to his sisters to hang out and just have a good time like usual. Well his real brother was there [who is not in foster care] and he barrowed his bike to go get something from the store. Well on his way back my boyfriends foster mother seen him and fallowed him back to my boyfried's sisters house, then told my boyfriend he had to come outside. Well we went outside and his sisters daughter fallwoed so I went to take her in well as I went in his mother freaked out on him. I go back out side and she is tells me that I can't talk to him for a while and then they left I statred crying and his sister and her husband conforted me. About an hour later I settled down to a small cry and we were just talking and I got a text from him and he said we could talk and see each other and that he was allowed to see his sister every now and again. But I have a feeling its not over because I have seen her around town on my way home from summer school. It's like she is fallowing me and I have a feeling this isnt over yet. What can I do? I am only 16 and my boyfriends mother dislikes me alot. All I wanted was to be able to be with him and have no problems but she is always causeing them and trying to get us fighting. We have been dateing 3 months and no fighting and now this. I don't know anymore. I will not dump him and he wont dump me... (link)
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There is no need to leave him, This isn't his fault. However, in 2 months he will be 18 and he will be free to do and visit whoever he wishes. Therefore his foster mother has no say on it anymore and she can be angry all she wants but she has no control over it as he will then be an adult. On the other hand, His foster mother has no right keeping your boyfriend away from his family. family is family no matter what the circumstances are. All you can do is comfort him, support him and tell him he will be 18 in 2 months and free to do whatever he wishes. If it is even possibly maybe you two can sort out a living arrangement together? If not remember 2 months isn't far away. The mother was in the wrong and also if it was me despite how mad she gets it certainly wouldn't stop me from seeing my siblings.
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So, I am moving into an apartment in about a month and a half...I am excited, and a bit scared... because I have no idea on what to do first... haha. We have found the place, we just need to sign the papers and apply to get it, and viola! Its just after we sign the papers...what do you do first...buy stuff that you need? I need some help, haha. (link)
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I just moved into my first apartment almost a year ago. Here are a few tips..
1. If you need extra furniture a good place to look is a used furniture store such as "Consignment Goods" it was great came in handy concidering money was tight for me for awhile. There I bought a dinner table for 30 bucks and it is still going strong and it's wonderful.
2. Always try and have extra supplies in the house, Soap, Shampoo, Toilet paper, etc it really helps save money instead of running on low last minute.
3. Pay off all your bills before going shopping, Or your best bet..All money goes towards checking that are to be for paying bills and utilities and saving account is whatever eles.
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So I know that my parents love me and want the best for me. So ya Im not the best person, but I try. When I do bad in college classes my dad says its my fault, not because its hard for me, "I'm just lazy" he says. My room is semi messy and my dad keeps saying that I will end up like these lonely isolated people we know. I have picked up housework but he still does not acknowledge it. Of course my brother is perfect smart, party dude... He always compares me to him. It really does not help for my self confidence. Sorry just venting. What can I do? I can't talk to him because he sees himself as perfect. (link)
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I hear where you are coming from my parents are the same way...As I am the rebel in the family.
Tell your parents that you need to talk to them, Make sure they know it is important and you don't want interuptions. Sometimes parents need a reminder that us kids are not perfect and we do make mistakes just like everyone eles. They need to know that you and your brother are two different people with different personalities. However, I will suggest trying to keep your room clean as not only will it make you feel better but possibly more confident as well. If he doesn't acknowledge that you pick up the house then maybe remind him say "Hey Dad, I picked up so and so for you I'm going to go do blah blah let me know if you need anything" etc. Remember we are not all perfect and sometimes Mom and Dad need a reminder.
-BahaiMa22
24/F
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hi im from canada and i struggle with helping my mom get over her addiction, im 14 and i have a chance of moving in with my aunt who is much more better for me and has more time, money and strengh too keep up with me. so do i stay with my mom for grade 8 and be stressed with the bills and her self or do i leave and start fresh with my aunt and hurt my mom for myself? (link)
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You need to do what you need to do. If you think it would be best to move in with your Aunt then maybe you should do so. Yes, It might hurt mom a little bit but make sure she knows that you love her and is it possible that you can stay at your aunts house just for a little while until things get straighted out? If not.. then maybe you could go home and visit mom on the weekends.
Good Luck
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i'm 21 weeks pregnant 25 years old and have two other children my husband works for his mother at her resturaunt from 7 in the morning till 4 or 5 at night he dose everything while she walks around doing nothing we live at her home so she pays him 50 to 100 a week because we have to buy all our own things including food , soap , and colthing etc she is an alcholic and throws tantrums regularly yelling and screaming i dont think it's right in front of my children but what can i do ??? my husband's sister is trying to get us to move all the way to las vegas but thats over 600 miles away what to do?? (link)
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If you have the money then maybe it is time to move out, Look for an apartment locally or a house for rent. It is her house and you can't lay out her rules..Therefore there is not much you can do but hang in there.
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My mom has always drank some on the weekends to relax from her stressful job. I've lived with this all of my life and there was never a problem. Well, my dad has been gone for about six months now (died in a car wreck) and my mom has started drinking more.
Dad's death was really hard on us but it's hitting mom the worst, I think. She drinks a lot more than she use to. She drinks every night and sometimes (more frequently this past week) passes out in the hallway floor before it's over. She's even missed work a few times because of her hangovers. Since she has started drinking like this I've started waking her up for work and stuff because she's been oversleeping dramatically. I mean, I don't want her to lose her job and I know this is a hard time for her.
Anyway, I am concerned over all of the drinking now. I know alcohol does some nasty liver damage and I don't want my mom to die too. I'm afraid to confront her about it because I don't want that stress to have her drinking even more. What do I do? (link)
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She might very well be an alcholic and if not then she certainly isn't far from being one. If she is passing out on the floor and sleeping in dramatically on top of missing work then clearly she has a serious problem. You could try to get in contact with a family member and ask them too take her to rehab for alcoholism. You also could get in touch with a hotline. The next time she passes out instead of helping her try calling 911 and maybe then they can put her in rehab and possibly help her recover.
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I am from Bangladesh.A Muslim women(38years) .Age of my marriage is 14 years.I have three children of 12,10 & 8 years old. I had a very good relationship with my husband(45years). He is very honest ,caring to me & my family . He is from a very good & honorable family.I never find any bad habit in him.But recently he made a sexual relationship with my maid in my absence at home.I couldn't realize due to my blind believe.But when the occurrence comes out ,he confess. he said it was just an accident.he didn't control him at that 7/8 times.he tried to return from that situation.There was no other mental involvement.He sick my forgiveness .He still love me.He can't think himself without me,give promises that this will never happened again etc.etc.In this situation i am very much upset.I love him very much & don't think to live without him. I don't understand what i have to do in this situation & what will be my behavior to him.Finally how can i forget all this thing which seems very much painful to bear. (link)
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Like the person below me said,
I would get rid of the maid, Tell her that she is no longer welcomed in your home. 14 years is along time, You and your husband have three children and it is wrong for him to be doing something like that. The next time he makes a promise tell him "Don't make a promise you can't keep" Infact, If your husband can't be a man and love you and your children then maybe your husbands also needs to go. I know you love him but you don't deserve a man that treats you badly like that. A marriage is a commitment, Don't let him treat you like this.
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Hi I am 19 years old and live at home with my mother. my sister just recently moved out and my dad left us a year ago. I have tried to have a relationship with my dad but my mother is the one who kept it together when he left us with debt, and so if I go to see him she gets defensive and depressed. The Point in my question is that my mom irratates me. She never really supported me on going to school, while my friends parents are constantly asking "what are you going to do, what school do you wanna go to?" my mom never was interested she was just happy that I had a job didint care much about a career. When i told her I was going to school she thought I was moving out and got upset, then when she found out where my school was (which is right between my house and my bfs house) she got angry that it is close to his house and wanted it to be closer the her. She alwasy asks me to do her hair and her eyebrows and I alwasy do, I recently started telling her I don't want to do her eyebrows I am sick of always doing hers and than when it comes to doing my own im sick of eyebrows. She gets upset that I don't want to do her stuff. She takes things from my room like hair clips, hair products and she gave away a 50 dollar blanket i had that I LOVED!!!!!! I alwasy bring it up to her so she knows I WANT IT BACK. I admit I may not be the best daughter, I dont spend alot of time with her and I dont show much interest in her. I am sorry but I dont find her interesting. there are so many other things that irritate me but my fingers are getting tired of typing. I guess she just always wants to be around me, she alwasy wants to know where I am, if I am home for the whole day we wont do anything together, no movie or anything, sometimes I will call her to my romm to show her funny things online but I end up trying to joke around with her and then she gets all offended but I swear I do not offend her, she just cant take a joke, my bfs mom and him always joke and they get along I am so jealous. I don't knwo what to do. If I go out and sleep out for like 2 days ( I call ehr everyday) she gets pissed off cuz I was gone, if I sleep out and come home during the day she gets pissed that I slept out. WHAT DO I DO!!! (link)
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Like the last person said you are an adult now, You can make your own choices. However, Maybe you and Mom need to spend more mother daughter time together. If your father left, Your sister moved out she might feel that she has to hold onto you. In her mind you are her daughter and she may feel that she is loosing you even though she isn't. If you want to go to college and Mom doesn't support that choice then maybe you and your mother need to have a talk. Let her know that you will always be there and she can call you anytime. Sometimes parents just need to hear that from there kids. As when there kid starts going to college, moving out etc. It's hard for a parent to let go. Try talking to her, Give her a hug. ;)
-BahaiMa22
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what do you do when you have a very very rude violent sibling who gets extra violent coz there on drugs and your mum's a single mother and disabled...I could physically stop him, but abuse gets you know where. && I wouldnt stoop to his level. he is younger, and I would get into trouble...it tears my family apart. and he's only 12
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It's time to tell someone. If he is only 12 years old and you are sure he is on drugs then you should get him help before it's too late. Like the last person said, Go to the police. I know it might be a hard choice for you but it's better than it being too late. Remember, You are his older sister and you are only doing what is best for him.
-BahaiMa22
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Hi i don't really know what category this belongs in but i really need help.
My neighbor is losing her house,car,and she can't pay the bills.Her husband lost his job and they want to move because they don't know what else to do. I really don't want them to leave. Is there anyway i could help them. I'm desperate
any advice is good.
thnks in advance
xoxoxoxoxo (link)
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Sadly, There is nothing you can really do. These days the economy has caused many people to loose there homes. People are still getting layed off left and right and being let go from there jobs. All you can do is support them and let them know that you care by being there for them if they need to talk. They could try to file for unemployment but the chances are so slim that they would get it right away only because there is a line of people out there these days waiting to get what they can get.
I'm sorry.
-BahaiMa22
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