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I hate her
My dads girlfreind! For the past year she has came before everyone in his life! I mean come on now because I didnt get along with her and buy her crap she convinced my dad to make me come live with my mom. And now for the past year me and my dad fight everyday ..over her!
Im so sick of it I love my dad so much and wish we could have a relationship and talk like we used to but its impossible with her. No matter how many times I tell my dad how I feel he defends her. I wish she would die, she took the most important person in my life from me. what can I do?
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god, i know, it sucks like hell, but you have to see it from his point of view, not because you need to be fair, but because its the only way you'll gte back on track with him. imagine you have a boyfriend. you love him like hell, and your parents think he's bad for you, but no one see's the real him like you do. then when your parents criticise him, what will you do? jump to his defence of course. i know you don't like her, but maybe whilst you think your just trying to talk to him, it makes him upset that you don't like her. forget about her. its about your dad. if you think you can get rid of her, you r wrong. just tell him you want to spend time with him alone, cause you miss him, and that way he doesn't have to feel torn between the two people he loves, you and her. i know this situation sucks, i've been there, but if you love your dad, then you have to let his issues go, for a bit. :) good luck xxx
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Damn this sounds just like the situation I'm in now infact spot on...
I would try and tell your father how you feel about his wife, Let him know that you want to spend one on one time with him. Technically he is your dad and you really should be able to spend that father/daughter time with him. My situation is the exact same thing however over time I got tired of it and I couldn't take it anymore. I know you love your father I love mine too, but if your father wants to give up his relationship with his daughter to defend his wife then sadly there really isn't much you can do about it. You can hate his wife, call her names and wish she'd get run over by a bus..but that is not going to change the fact that she is your fathers wife.
Let me give you a little of what happended to me and what I did...
My stepmother I didn't like her for years, Pretty much everything you've said about your stepmom only mine loves to over criticize just about everything and anyone basically she controls my father and makes choices for him. I've talked to him on several occassions but he is constantly defensive of his wife and acknowledges she did no wrong...Over the years sadly the stress has gotten the best of me and I had to go my seperate way.
The only thing I can tell you is to sit down with your father and sternly tell him how you feel, Spill all of it while you get the chance. Hopefully he will come around and hear what you are saying. Remember you aren't alone in this boat
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Im sorry you are having to deal with this.... it stinks!
My dad was a high paid security guard for NASA here in houston and when he met this lady kim, he left his whole life behind and went with her. She's absolute trash, NOW they live out in the middle of nowhere in a 100 yr old house that's run down. she works at a restarant and he now spends his days behind the register at a dollar store. A DOLLAR STORE. WTF?
His new wife is mean to me thank god I don't live with them, but I feel bad for my little sister because she does! And kim is such a bitch. ...my little sis tells me that kim talks bad about me all the time and verbally abuses my little sis when dads not home and when sis tries to tell him, he calls her a liar!
Neither I nor my sister can figure out exactly HOW this woman came into our life and turned our dad from a successful man. Into a man who has nothing!
My advice is, see if you can talk to him privately. She doesn't need to be there that might make you more nervous. Tell him that kids should come first and that you are happy that he is happy, but you are absolutely miserable because of her attitude. Tell him if nothing changes, you will be forced to cut ties with them and as much as it will hurt you, this is something that you must do for the your own sake. Noone should have to live with such built up resentment!!
Inbox me if you want to talk. Or email me. Im here for you!!
Stephanie.ellick@gmail.com
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