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No Mother Daughter Relationship
Hi I am 19 years old and live at home with my mother. my sister just recently moved out and my dad left us a year ago. I have tried to have a relationship with my dad but my mother is the one who kept it together when he left us with debt, and so if I go to see him she gets defensive and depressed. The Point in my question is that my mom irratates me. She never really supported me on going to school, while my friends parents are constantly asking "what are you going to do, what school do you wanna go to?" my mom never was interested she was just happy that I had a job didint care much about a career. When i told her I was going to school she thought I was moving out and got upset, then when she found out where my school was (which is right between my house and my bfs house) she got angry that it is close to his house and wanted it to be closer the her. She alwasy asks me to do her hair and her eyebrows and I alwasy do, I recently started telling her I don't want to do her eyebrows I am sick of always doing hers and than when it comes to doing my own im sick of eyebrows. She gets upset that I don't want to do her stuff. She takes things from my room like hair clips, hair products and she gave away a 50 dollar blanket i had that I LOVED!!!!!! I alwasy bring it up to her so she knows I WANT IT BACK. I admit I may not be the best daughter, I dont spend alot of time with her and I dont show much interest in her. I am sorry but I dont find her interesting. there are so many other things that irritate me but my fingers are getting tired of typing. I guess she just always wants to be around me, she alwasy wants to know where I am, if I am home for the whole day we wont do anything together, no movie or anything, sometimes I will call her to my romm to show her funny things online but I end up trying to joke around with her and then she gets all offended but I swear I do not offend her, she just cant take a joke, my bfs mom and him always joke and they get along I am so jealous. I don't knwo what to do. If I go out and sleep out for like 2 days ( I call ehr everyday) she gets pissed off cuz I was gone, if I sleep out and come home during the day she gets pissed that I slept out. WHAT DO I DO!!!
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Like the last person said you are an adult now, You can make your own choices. However, Maybe you and Mom need to spend more mother daughter time together. If your father left, Your sister moved out she might feel that she has to hold onto you. In her mind you are her daughter and she may feel that she is loosing you even though she isn't. If you want to go to college and Mom doesn't support that choice then maybe you and your mother need to have a talk. Let her know that you will always be there and she can call you anytime. Sometimes parents just need to hear that from there kids. As when there kid starts going to college, moving out etc. It's hard for a parent to let go. Try talking to her, Give her a hug. ;)
-BahaiMa22
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you're 19, so you're legally an adult. if you want to move out, you're aloud to. and wherever you wanna spend your time or sleep at thats your desicion. you need to tell your mother this so she'll understand. tell her you love her, but you need to move on. you cant be "mommy's little girl" anymore.
it may hurt her, but once she gets used to being alone, she'll get over it.
my advice may be a little harsh, so you dont have to follow it. im just giving you my opinion. :)
good luck.
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