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I can't stand his mother
So my boyfriend who is 17, almost 18 in 2 months and is in foster care. His foster mother said he cant see his real family unless she is there and she hates his real sister so he isn't aloud to see her at all. Well yesterday we went over to his sisters to hang out and just have a good time like usual. Well his real brother was there [who is not in foster care] and he barrowed his bike to go get something from the store. Well on his way back my boyfriends foster mother seen him and fallowed him back to my boyfried's sisters house, then told my boyfriend he had to come outside. Well we went outside and his sisters daughter fallwoed so I went to take her in well as I went in his mother freaked out on him. I go back out side and she is tells me that I can't talk to him for a while and then they left I statred crying and his sister and her husband conforted me. About an hour later I settled down to a small cry and we were just talking and I got a text from him and he said we could talk and see each other and that he was allowed to see his sister every now and again. But I have a feeling its not over because I have seen her around town on my way home from summer school. It's like she is fallowing me and I have a feeling this isnt over yet. What can I do? I am only 16 and my boyfriends mother dislikes me alot. All I wanted was to be able to be with him and have no problems but she is always causeing them and trying to get us fighting. We have been dateing 3 months and no fighting and now this. I don't know anymore. I will not dump him and he wont dump me...
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There is no need to leave him, This isn't his fault. However, in 2 months he will be 18 and he will be free to do and visit whoever he wishes. Therefore his foster mother has no say on it anymore and she can be angry all she wants but she has no control over it as he will then be an adult. On the other hand, His foster mother has no right keeping your boyfriend away from his family. family is family no matter what the circumstances are. All you can do is comfort him, support him and tell him he will be 18 in 2 months and free to do whatever he wishes. If it is even possibly maybe you two can sort out a living arrangement together? If not remember 2 months isn't far away. The mother was in the wrong and also if it was me despite how mad she gets it certainly wouldn't stop me from seeing my siblings.
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The best thing I can think to say is this:
Take comfort that in two months, she no longer has any say over what he does, and who he spends time with.
I think its a shame that she isn't wanting him to spend time with his bio siblings.
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