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It's fine.Ask me a question. I like giving advice. If you don't like the advice I give, or the opinion I have, it's fine.
Sometimes you can't get through to people no matter how long and hard you try.
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I am a 17 year old girl and i am interested in a younger boy, he is 14. Believe me, i know it sounds bad but if you knew how he treated me, you might understand. The thing is i will be 18 in the month of may, and he will only be 15 in October. Also, it's weird to think, my brother is 12 and the boy i'm interested in is 14. He acts very mature for his age, even with his friends!... and looks like he is 17 or 18. One person that I've talked to about it said he might be infatuated by a pretty older girl that has come his way. Honestly, if that were true, he might have just made a move on me already and he hasn't. My mother mentioned that it's illegal when i turn 18 and if i pissed off anyone in the family, they could turn it into a legal manner, and i could go to jail. I know its different, when the age range is 16-19 but does the age difference really matter in this case, or should I leave it be, since i'm finally happy? PLEASE HELP.
The thing is, right now, in this day and age and in these circumstances (this is a high school relationship), yes age does matter.
My parents have always told me that when it comes to love, yes age is just a number....unless you're a teenager. ;)
Think about it, he is a fourteen year old kid. You are almost an adult. You're turning 18, so I can probably safely presume you will be graduating this year? Or at least very soon.
You two are going to have very different things going on in your life very soon; you'll be thinking seriously about college majors or career paths or moving out and living on your own, whatever the case may be, while he's going to be preoccupied with just enjoying his teen years and being a kid for a little while longer.
It might not seem like such a big deal right now, because you have been bitten by the love bug. But remember that this is most likely infatuation, and if you want a real relationship, part of what makes a real relationship work is compatibility and wanting the same things as your partner.
Just my opinion though, take it or leave it. ;) Good luck.
UGH.
15/f
For SOO long, I thought I had a "fear of commitment" issue, and that's why I've turned down EVERY guy who's asked me out
But lately I realized, it's not that I fear I won't be able to get out of a realtionship...
It's that I'm afraid of what people will think!!!
Just to say, I'm a total perfectionist. EVERYTHING needs to be perfect.
Whenever I like guys, they are PERFECT. GORGEOUS, smart, funny, popular...usually assholes... like it would ever happen.
I always occasionally find myself liking more down-to-earth guys, that usually like me to start with...they're usually cute, short, hilarious, and sweet.
But EVERY TIME they ask me out or try to tell me they like me, my heart just sinks, and I panic. I would never want to be seen with them, I would never want people to know about it, and talk about it, and judge me and them and make fun of me and them
I know. I'm most likely the most shallow, ungreatful, petty, narrow-minded bitch in the world.
I don't know if there's some scientific diagnosis for it, but I have a FEAR OF OPINION.
It seriously just hammers the top of my head and causes so much frusturation and annoyance and paranoia.
It really needs to stop. I can't do ANYTHING without worrying about what people will think.
It's so bad, I can't even get dressed in the morning. I can't even walk out the door without worrying what others will think.
Just the thought of people talking behind my back, laughing at me, making fun of me, whispering about me...it just makes me feel small and terrible.
...
I'm asking for a lot of advice here...
1. I need to find a way to get rid of this FEAR. It ruins my life and self-esteem. And a simple "just don't think about what others will say!" really won't help, thanks though...
2. I need to get over that, then be able to take another huge step and date. I'm not RUSHING into it by the way, I just need to be ready to date sooner or later...I'm 15 and the "you're too young to worry about it" won't apply for much longer.
Call me a bitch, call me shallow. Whatever. If it needs to be said, please say it. I just really need some help here.
Thank you so very much
There is a scientific diagnosis for it: It's called being a teenage girl.
Let me elaborate.
You are feeling what every teenage girl feels, and though I can't speak for the boys, I'm pretty sure they go through it too.
You're at an age right now where of course you are going to worry about what everyone thinks of you. That's totally normal and natural.
Would you like to know why?
Because right now is the time when you are figuring out WHO YOU ARE. You're figuring out WHAT YOU THINK. You are FINDING YOURSELF. It's all part of adolescence.
So of course, you are going to worry about people judging you, thinking about you, talking about you. And though I'm sure you don't want to hear this, but it's true: Everyone goes through this. It's all part of that magical process called "puberty". Fun time isn't it?
At this point, you are psyching yourself out. If you freak yourself out thinking that this is some kind of unique and freakish problem, then yes, you are going to feel like it "hammers the top of your head". But sweetie, in all honesty, if you just try and put it into perspective and realize that it's normal for a teenager to feel these same insecurities, it's easier to deal with. And I am here to tell you that you are not alone. Hopefully that makes you feel comforted so you can just start to relax.
Seriously, take a deep breath. Relax hun. This isn't some kind profound medical issue. This is just a teenage girl trying to find herself, figure it all out.
It'll pass once you put it into perspective. I can say this because this year, I personally have come into my own somewhat. I'm happy to report that I've just got it together, thanks to just experience and those silly hormones calming down a little finally, and most of those insecurities went away.
So relax. Because you will reach a point when YOU are ready, a point when it honestly will not matter to you what people say about the guys you choose to date. For now, if you aren't in a place in your life where you can do that comfortably, then don't do it. That's fine. It comes with maturity, both physical (i.e. puberty and hormones again, yay) and emotional (i.e. just living life).
Right there is this guy that i have been out with before, but he finished me cos i dint talk to him that much.
But recently i found out he really liked me and the things is i really like him.
but how do i tell him?
if i text he tells his mates :/ and wen i ring i get scared ...
What on earth shall i do !?
im 14 years of age and i am female.
You live, you learn, and there's no problem with liking him again.
You found out that he likes you too, as in heard it from someone other than him. The thing that you need to do is talk to him about this, get those feelings out in the open. And hear it directly from him.
I'd talk in person. Don't bother with the texting because that's a little too impersonal and like you said, he could show his friends. And even talking on the phone might not be best, because you can't gauge his reaction and such.
You broke up first because you two didn't really talk much, so that tells me that it wasn't a mature relationship. I am not saying this as an insult sweetie, so please don't take it that way. I say mature as in something past "I like him, he likes me, giggle giggle".
By talking to him in person about how you two feel, you're taking that step forward to having a more meaningful relationship.
Try it, give it another shot. Hope it all works out =]
If you know that a guy is interested in you and he sometimes caresses your legs and you dont tell him to stop but you dont make it seem like your even phased by it, what impression would the guy get?
I actually had this happen to me believe it or not ;]
When he would "caress my legs sometimes" it would make me a little uncomfortable but I didn't want him to stop, like you said. So I'd sit there, not knowing what to do but still hoping he'd keep touching me, you know?
We started going out a few weeks later and it turns out that he thought it was cute, because it just made him try harder to get my attention.
Good luck! =]
15/f
I hang out with a feww cool kids, Im under 5 feet, 95 lbs, adorable, smart but closeminded. I think Im great but not enough to be cocky.
Point is, Ive never kissed a guy and I cant figure out why. People are usually shocked when I tell them, and that makes me feel special :]
Could that be what's keeping me from kissing a guy or getting a boyfriend? If so, how do I stop it?
Also Ive only had three boyfriends. I want a really really close companion I can trust [a boyfriend, yeah]. Im just TERRIFIED of asking around and getting rejected, ruining a friendship, being made fun of. Any tips to help me?
Also, my history teacher said Im biased. I tried looking it up but didn't get much feedback. Soo..what does that mean again? I wanna say she said Im judgemental but that might not be right.
Everybody is afraid to some extent of getting rejected. It's pretty much human nature. But the trick is not to let that stop you from going for something.
With that said, take a chance. What's (be honest now) the worst that could happen to you? Someone says no, people might talk, then what? Everybody moves on. Believe it or not, when you make a mistake, people don't obsess over your mistake 24/7. They're too preoccupied wondering who's obsessing over THEIR mistakes. See a pattern? People really do spend too much time worrying. =p
I really wouldn't worry about not kissing anybody yet, everybody moves at their own pace. There's no set time limit like if you don't kiss a guy by the time you are 15, you're a loser. Some of my friends who are seniors haven't had their first kiss yet. And that is perfectly alright.
The closet companions you can have right now are your friends. So don't worry right now about finding the guy of your dreams. That comes along very few times. There's this quote that I absolutely love that says "You don't go to high school to find your husband, you go to find your maid of honor." And it's so true.
So while having a boyfriend might seem very important right now, not having one is more than alright.
To each his own.
=]
I can not stand smoking. i mean i really cant, my entire family was shocked when they found out that my boyfriend of over a year smoked. We have talked about him quitting, ways to quit, trying to cut down, cold turkey, patches, ect. I cant be around him for like 20 minutes every time after he smokes he has to pretty much brush his teeth and use breath strips all the time and change his clothes just to be around me. I find it weird that he is willing to do all of these things but WILL OT STOP SMOKNG. He says he has been cutting down for the last .. nearly two years.. but he really has not. He says he really does want to quit, bad habbit, bad for his heart, ME..ect. I have been to just about every "quit smoking" web site with him reading, trying to understand, trying to help him put a mental block up. He thinks he is going to have terrible withdrawls so bad hes going to have a heart attack. (he has a heart defect but nothing really says that the withdrawls will do anything like THAT to him). So i dont know how or what more to say. Please any help, anything at this point.. thanks in advance
If he really does want to quit and is all for quitting, then I think the process will be easier.
What I mean by that is that he has to commit and really truly WANT to change. Not the flimsy "Oh yes, I'll try later" way of thinking.
My mom used to smoke, and she quit by gradually cutting down. She said the withdrawals weren't so bad this way, since she was getting her nicotine fix, just less and less each day.
How many packs a day does he smoke? Let's go with two just for explanation purposes.
Day One: Smoke two packs
Day Two: Smoke two packs minus one cigarette
Day Three: Smoke two packs minus two cigarettes
Day Four: Smoke two packs minus three cigarettes
Etc...
Also, if he feels like he needs to grab something else to make up for the one less cigarette, if it must be food, make it something healthy. One of my uncles quit cold turkey and would grab a cookie for every cigarette they weren't having. Not so great for you either.
Above all, your job as his girlfriend is to be supportive. Support him in his journey to quit. I'd imagine it'll be a whole lot easier on him with a good support system behind him.
Good luck to your boyfriend.
I'm not the most attractive person. I'm not ugly, but I'm not exactly pretty either.
But my boyfriend always tells me how I'm the most beautiful person on earth in his eyes, and I don't see how that is possible. I just feel like he is lying to me :-(
Any input?
You shouldn't feel like he's lying to you. Why would he lie?
You have some self-esteem issues, that's clear. Have you ever heard the saying, "You have to learn to love yourself, then others will love you"? Well sweetie, if you keep questioning whether or not he's telling the truth, that's going to wear down your relationship. He's trying to make you feel special because he loves you. That's not the time to wonder if it's true or not. Just take the compliment and realize that you are beautiful.
To him you're the most beautiful person on earth. You owe it to yourself, him, and the relationship to trust in what he says.
I'm 16 and I've been going out with this guy for three months. We met during the summer and I was doubtful that things would continue into the school year because we go to cross town rival high schools. He is different than any guy I've ever met. He isn't much into texting, just a couple of texts a day, but he calls me every night. Recently he got sick and he found out he has mono. He hasn't been able to go to school and I haven't been able to see him. It's driving me crazy, because I like him so much! For about the past week he has acted uninterested in me. He hasn't called as much, but when he does, its like old times. Should I just assume this has to do with him being sick, or should I worry that this time apart has hurt us? I don't want to break up with him, even if I did, I wouldn't do it until I could see him and break up face to face. Should I ask him what's going on? Should I just wait until he is better and see what happens? Thanks for any help!
Well, from what I know mono makes you so fatigued that you're really not up for much.
Maybe you should wait until he's feeling a little better before you assess your feelings. I really don't think that the whole "uninterested" thing is something to worry about.
So for right now, just call him up a few times a week to ask how he's feeling. He might only feel up to talking for a couple of minutes, but that's alright. And if he doesn't call you, I'd say it's safe to blame it on the mono.
When he does get better though, and his attitude about the relationship hasn't gotten better, then yeah, breaking up is the way to go. Long distance relationships are never completely easy, but don't feel bad if you have to end it if it's just not working out.
Good luck!
I like these two guyz: Travis and Jack. Ive known travis since last year and hes awesome! Last year he liked me and i liked him but he was too shy to ever ask me out..We were in the same english class and sat next to eachother so we talked a lot! Now this year we only have homeroom together and we never talk any more! i wanna talk to him but i dont know what i would say!!
Now this year i met this guy jack. Well we actually didnt meet he just made me laugh! im in his art class and i sit at the same table as him and he started sayin funny things so i laughed and then he started teasing me and he sooooooooooooooo cute!!! i think he mite know im interested but idk if he even knows my NAME! I wanna get to know him better outside art but i think if i went up to him and just said hi he would think i was weird and look at me strangley if he doesnt like me. Theres a slight chance he likes me because if i answer a question he always stares back and looks at me and sometimes i see him glance at me.
I Dont Know what to do or who to like! I need advice about Travis and Jack!!!!!! PLEASE HELP!
Well, for Travis, it's clear that you are both shy. And as hard as it might be to do this, just say hi to him in homeroom and ask him how his week's been going. Try slipping something in like "Wow, I feel like we never get to talk anymore. Isn't that weird?" Then talk about how you two never talk anymore. Maybe then you guys could plan to do something together outside of school?
For Jack, just try saying hi to him outside of art. If he gives you a weird look, so what? That just means he's the weird one, not you. There's absolutely no harm in greeting someone who you know. What do you have to lose? I've been through plenty of embarrassing moments with other people that would put your Jack to shame. ;]
The basic point is just to reach out, you know? Talk to them both. Communication is key. Just be confident, even though I know it might be very hard. If you act confident, Travis will want to talk more possibly even outside of school. And Jack will definitely remember your name. =]
Good luck babe.
I had three dreams last night. Wake up then go back to sleep then wake up again. All of the dreams included a tornado and this guy i am talking to. My dad called me last night and told me he was driving through a tornado. (hes a truck driver) i told my friend and she said that im going to die from a tornado soon because i dreamt of one and i know that is not true but can you tell me what you think?
It's very odd that your dad was driving through a tornado..or was that part of your dream lol? I really doubt that the dreams mean you will die in a tornado. I believe that dreams are very symbolic.
The guy in your dream...was he protecting or trying to save you from the tornado? Sometimes in my dreams the guys I like or have a good relationship with are protecting me from some kind of evil or danger. I think it means that you want them to watch out for you.
Anyway, I went on to DreamMoods.com and found a few examples of what tornadoes can mean:
"To see a tornado in your dream, suggests that you are experiencing some extreme emotional outbursts and temper tantrums. Is there a situation or relationship in your life that may be potentially destructive?
To dream that you are in a tornado, signifies that you are feeling overwhelmed and out of control. You will be met with a series of disappointments for the next week or so. Your plans will be filled with complications."
From: http://www.dreammoods.com/dreamdictionary/t2.htm
tHERE IS A GUY I LIKE ONLY IN A FRIENDLY WAY BUT I THINK HE IS INTERESTED IN ME THE ONLY THING IS THAT HE IS NOT THAT ATTRACTIVE AND HE IS OVER WEIGHT. I KNOW HE WOULD MAKE THE PERFECT BOYFRIEND BUT i JUST DON'T KNOW IF I CAN BE WITH HIM WHEN I CAN NOT SEE MYSELF MAKING LOVE TO HIM. i FEEL LIKE IF HE WAS CUTE WITH THE CREDENTIALS AND ATTRIBUTED THAT HE HAS I WOULD DEFINENTLY BE INTO HIM BUT THE ONLY DILEMNA IS THAT HE IS NOT ATTRACTIVE. CAN YOU ALL GIVE ME SOME OPINIONS ON THIS.
Well, it's not all about looks sweetie. If he would make the perfect boyfriend and you like him, then why not?
"HE IS NOT THAT ATTRACTIVE AND HE IS OVER WEIGHT"...You're being shallow here don't you think? So what if he's not that much to look at?
Maybe you're not ready for a boyfriend if you can't look past the "unattractiveness" to see what a really makes a great person.
hey well my best friend is a guy cuz we relate really good. but we are also ex's so sometimes it gets kinda wierd and we are allways thinking about eachother. i really miss him, i haven't actually in person talked to him 4 a while now and sometimes i wonder what could have been. and well i'm kind of starting to like him again so i wanna know if he likes me without actually asking him...oh and i dont want him to know that i like him. 14,girl
It's totally normal to wonder about your ex and what could have been. Sometimes though, it's more a case of not quite getting over the relationship than actually wanting to try it again.
"i really miss him, i haven't actually in person talked to him 4 a while now". Being away from a person for awhile sometimes makes you build them up in your mind to be better than they actually are. Just saying. I've done that a few times.
If you are sure that you want to get back together though, you're going to have to talk to him about it. I know that you don't want him to know that you like him, but that kinda won't get you anywhere. ;]
Just put it out there. You guys are best friends, as you mentioned above, so he shouldn't take it and make fun of you or stop talking to you. Take the chance and make the first move.
Try something like, "Listen Bob, I've been thinking lately about when we were going out. I really miss it and I'd kinda like to try it again..." Short, sweet, to the point.
I can't think of a better way to find out if he likes you other than asking him or just telling him that you like him (as I said before). Because honestly, asking a friend to ask him doesn't usually work. Besides, this way it shows confidence. =]
So, I've been dating this girl for a while now. She's really great. I love her and care about her and everything, but I have feelings for this other girl. This other girl is out of this world. We'll call my girlfriend J and the girl I like L ok? ok. Well L knows I like her, and L really likes me. I never see L though. But I get so happy when I talk to her. J pisses me off a lot of the time. We fight over everything. We tried taking a break, but it didn't work out. We missed each other. I care about J, but I have these strong feelings for L also. I don't know what to do. I can't bring myself to end the relationship because I don't want to lose J. J has become one of my best friends, and I don't want to lose that. At the same time, these feelings for L wont go away.
Can someone help me?
(Don't say to sort out your feelings, cause I sorted them up there. I feel confused. And no, who would you rather be with. I get that all the time from my friends.)
Thank you.
Sticky business. I'm going to give you a few different ways you can look at this:
..When you date anyone for awhile, you're bound to have your problems. I don't know of anyone who has a relationship for years without a single issue. And if you did, you wouldn't be growing as a couple.
..The new girl girl in your life is just that: new and exciting. She's a fresh face, which is most likely one of the reasons you're so drawn to her. But, going for something new just for the sake of it isn't always the right thing to do. I bet J was new and exciting in the beginning also ;]
..However, if you do fight with J all the time about silly stuff, maybe it is time to move on. You said you tried taking a break but got back together because you missed each other. Maybe you're so used to the relationship that you can't stay away. It's normal, comfortable, feels safe. Understandable. But don't stay with someone just because you're used to it. That could keep you from new opportunities.
..With L, you should figure out if it's infatuation that will pass quickly. You wouldn't want to throw away a relationship for someone you'll not like in a week. People can have feelings for other people while in a relationship, but that doesn't mean they should act on them all the time.
...But other times they should. If you really are unhappy with J, the right thing to do would break up with her. It wouldn't be fair to her to lead her on. If you do break up with J, don't immediately move on to L. Give it time so nobody gets hurt.
Good luck, hope it all works out.
Heyy ,
I am 15 years old and my boyfriend is 17. We haven't been offically going out for that long but we have been "together" for a while. He doesn't go and get with every girl. But he is older and more experienced than I am. I am comfortable with him but i dont want to rush into anything that im not ready to do yet. But i just am hoping that he understands and doesn't get mad. So i was just wondering if anyone can help me on what to say , if the conversation comes up of doing something more serious , as in sex.
Well, if you are comfortable around each other, then I'd say to just tell him that you aren't quite ready for sex yet. Maybe try talking about this topic more anyway so that you two are more aware of each other's boundaries.
If he's a good guy, then he should be understanding and considerate of your feelings. It's really good that you don't want to rush into anything at the moment. You should never feel pressured into doing something you don't feel comfortable about.
Don't worry about him being more "experienced". If you think he's expecting certain things that you aren't ready for, well that's something you need to talk to him about.
Good luck, I hope everything goes well for you.
if a guy likes you and never ever looks you in the eye but talks to you, is there any meaning behind this other than the fact that he is shy?
Well, if you know for sure that he likes you, I'd say it's most likely due to shyness. He might not know how to show his true feelings. If you like him too, just strike up a conversation. See where it goes from there.
I think i may have fell for one of my very good friends but im not sure if its just cause i like hanging out with her and she is one of the coolest girls i know. We were close once but it was complicated and ever sense then we've just been friends like it never happened.I've been thinking about this for awhile and i just dont know what to do act on it or dont risk the friendship or dont. Im lost
You're definitely right to not want to risk the friendship. Friends are way more important than any dating set-up. So I would really think this over first.
You said you were close to her once. Could this possibly just be regret that that relationship had to end? Maybe you just want her back like that because you miss it, not because you miss her. Just a thought.
She is a very good friend of yours. I can definitely understand where you would have mixed feelings for her. I have a few guy friends that are amazing and sometimes I wonder if there's something more there. It's normal ;]. Just like I said before, sort through those emotions before you make a move.
However, if you are sure of your feelings, maybe you should talk to her about it. Don't come right out with "Oh my God I love you!". Just say something to the effect of "I think that I might want us to try our relationship out again" or "I think I might like you as more than a friend".
Keep it light, and put no pressure on her.
Good luck. =]
okay so my cousin's, who is 26, parents got divorced when she was really young and her mom (who was married to my current uncle but i don't think is related to me) married another man (who is not related to me) and had my cousins half-brother. now the half-brother has casually been flirting with me + hinting at going out and such, but idk if we are related or not!? it's such a confusing family tree. any help?
Okay I have this "cousin" who is my actual cousin's half brother. It's my mom's brother (my biological uncle)'s stepson, in other words my aunt (by marriage)'s child from her previous marriage. Is that sort of like this for you? This "cousin" is not related to me biologically at all. I'm pretty sure in your case too you are not related biologically.
However, I am not COMPLETELY sure. Besides, though not biologically related, he is your aunt's child. Generally, I tend to consider everyone at family gatherings family ;]
If you aren't sure about how you two are related, maybe you should just stay friends. You wouldn't want to find out the hard way.
We havent gone out for very long but all of a sudden hes all lovey dovey on me. it feels like yesterday he was my friend but now hes kissing me all of a sudden. He likes to be affectionate but I don't quite feel comfortable just yet. What do I do??
I was in a similar situation as you. My ex-boyfriend would get super-affectionate with me when I totally wasn't comfortable with it just then. What worked was talking to him about it.
I suggest the next time you go on a date together, beforehand tell him that you aren't ready just yet to jump into "lovey dovey" mode. Do it nicely, and be sure not to act annoyed. Just bring it up casually and keep the conversation light. The idea is to just express concerns, not make him feel cornered and scared. ;]
So the guy I'm talking to is a little mad at me, for reasons that I fully take blame for. I've apologized but he doesn't think I'm really sorry. I'll be seeing him at his graduation party where there will be family, mine and his, how would I be able to catch his attention and make him sure I was truly sorry?
It all depends. I don't know your friend, but I'm going to give you three possibilities and you can see whichever one applies more...
1) He just needs space. He's not ready to accept your apology, and only time will heal.
2) He just needed space for that one day. He wasn't ready to accept your apology then, but he might be now.
3) He's totally forgotten and is no longer mad at you.
For all of these possibilities, the solution is simple. At the graduation party, just smile and say hi if you cross paths with him. Then, gauge his reaction:
1) If he stares you down with a "if-looks-could-kill" glare, back off.
2) If he smiles and brings it up again himself, then maybe you two could talk it out. That's the key, let him bring it up, not you.
3)And lastly, if he smiles hugely and gives you hug saying "I'm so happy you're here!" and doesn't bring it up at all, case closed and move on. ;]
Good luck and have fun at that party. =]
i asked this question already but i couldn't see the answers for some reason so here it is:
i really like this guy and i think he might like me back, hes been dropping a few hints and stuff but like he didnt flat out say that he liked me... (yet?) we've only hung out like 3 or so times. im seeing him again this weekend at a party and theres gonna be alcohol there. hes not really a big drinker but he does a little bit, and hes friends with everyone who does. this is gonna sound really stupid but my question is, should i act a little tipsy around him? because i kind of want to see if he'll take care of me and stuff. please don't tell me to act myself and stuff its not like im gonna get flat out drunk, im not like that. i just wanna see if he really does have feelings for me and stays with me...which he has before at a non-alcoholic beverage party. oh and like everyones gonna be drunk, so i dont want him to get the wrong impression of me thinking im like a big party pooper, i wanna be fun, cause i am fun =)
thank youu!
Like the person below me said, he basically wouldn't be worth it if he didn't want you anymore because you were above the influence at a party. Why drink just because everybody else is, and you think it would get more people to like you? Those people who wouldn't like you as much sober...well, forget them. =P
Besides, you are your own person. I understand that you would want to know if he'd take care of you when you're 'tipsy'. But think about this: if he takes care of you when you're a little drunk, it could just mean that he's a nice person, not that he necessarily likes you. So, why not do it the old-fashioned way...ask him or flirt a little.
If he's already stayed with Sober You to talk at a non-alcoholic party, what makes you think he wouldn't stay with Sober You at an alcoholic party? He likes you already sober, so what's the point in testing him by drinking?
Just my opinion on the matter. Above all though, just have fun and remember that you don't need to show off to him by drinking. I think you're already in his good graces hun.
Good luck! =]