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heyy. its highschool, and im just picky
15/f
I hang out with a feww cool kids, Im under 5 feet, 95 lbs, adorable, smart but closeminded. I think Im great but not enough to be cocky.
Point is, Ive never kissed a guy and I cant figure out why. People are usually shocked when I tell them, and that makes me feel special :]
Could that be what's keeping me from kissing a guy or getting a boyfriend? If so, how do I stop it?
Also Ive only had three boyfriends. I want a really really close companion I can trust [a boyfriend, yeah]. Im just TERRIFIED of asking around and getting rejected, ruining a friendship, being made fun of. Any tips to help me?
Also, my history teacher said Im biased. I tried looking it up but didn't get much feedback. Soo..what does that mean again? I wanna say she said Im judgemental but that might not be right.
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Everybody is afraid to some extent of getting rejected. It's pretty much human nature. But the trick is not to let that stop you from going for something.
With that said, take a chance. What's (be honest now) the worst that could happen to you? Someone says no, people might talk, then what? Everybody moves on. Believe it or not, when you make a mistake, people don't obsess over your mistake 24/7. They're too preoccupied wondering who's obsessing over THEIR mistakes. See a pattern? People really do spend too much time worrying. =p
I really wouldn't worry about not kissing anybody yet, everybody moves at their own pace. There's no set time limit like if you don't kiss a guy by the time you are 15, you're a loser. Some of my friends who are seniors haven't had their first kiss yet. And that is perfectly alright.
The closet companions you can have right now are your friends. So don't worry right now about finding the guy of your dreams. That comes along very few times. There's this quote that I absolutely love that says "You don't go to high school to find your husband, you go to find your maid of honor." And it's so true.
So while having a boyfriend might seem very important right now, not having one is more than alright.
To each his own.
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narrow-minded (closed-minded)
adjective
not willing to listen to nor tolerate other people's views; prejudiced.
open-minded
adjective
willing to consider new ideas; unprejudiced.
judgmental |jəjˈmentl| (also judgemental)
adjective
of or concerning the use of judgment : judgmental errors.
• having or displaying an excessively critical point of view of others
If that sounds like you than you've got a real image problem happening with your peers and even teachers. They aren't seeing you as adorable right now and nor are the boys. I hate to say it but they may even view you as an enemy, a brat, snobby or someone who thinks they're the most important person in the room.
Nobody likes to be criticized or judged. This may be why the boys stay away from you as they don't like your attitude or have been treated unfairly in the past or have the perception of this. And yes, you can be narrow-minded and judgmental without knowing it.
Biased means you are in favor of or against one thing, person, or group compared with another, usually in a way considered to be unfair.
So, you really need to think deep down if you have been doing this with others and start correcting it. A good idea is to meet privately with your history teacher and ask him/her about what to do with your social skills in and outside of class. Seek help from other adults you trust.
The boys will follow once you change your perception of others and just go with the flow whether you like their views or not. Be respectful of everyone in the same manner you would of them.
Be smart, be funny, be cute but cut this other stuff out by learning how to it feels to others and curb it. If they sense you're a friendly person they'll be on you like leeches but if they think you aren't or out to be top dog and or outdo them forget it.
People have their first date, first kiss etc. etc. when they are ready for it and in the moment. It has nothing to do with age but a lot to do with maturity and the relationship you eventually find yourself in.
Hang in there but work at correcting these things. I want you to see a professional adolescent/child councilor (not some guidance councilor who knows zilch) and tell him/her about your problems with school and get him/her to show you how to combat them and get rid of the stuff others don't like.
Remember, you HATE it when others judge you, don't like rejection or being made fun of. Neither do they even if what you were saying/doing wasn't meant like that.
You'll find a great boyfriend or he will find you when your mind, life and heart is open. You see, the step you are about to take now with correcting some faults may open the door for that person to find you. You have to work on this as well as confidence, modesty and maturity and once boys see this in you they'll come your way. i can't guarantee a kiss but things will happen. Use this time to better yourself.
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