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Getting alittle tired of the puff puff
I can not stand smoking. i mean i really cant, my entire family was shocked when they found out that my boyfriend of over a year smoked. We have talked about him quitting, ways to quit, trying to cut down, cold turkey, patches, ect. I cant be around him for like 20 minutes every time after he smokes he has to pretty much brush his teeth and use breath strips all the time and change his clothes just to be around me. I find it weird that he is willing to do all of these things but WILL OT STOP SMOKNG. He says he has been cutting down for the last .. nearly two years.. but he really has not. He says he really does want to quit, bad habbit, bad for his heart, ME..ect. I have been to just about every "quit smoking" web site with him reading, trying to understand, trying to help him put a mental block up. He thinks he is going to have terrible withdrawls so bad hes going to have a heart attack. (he has a heart defect but nothing really says that the withdrawls will do anything like THAT to him). So i dont know how or what more to say. Please any help, anything at this point.. thanks in advance
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I understand what your saying about wanting him to quit because smoking is not good for the health and it bothers you. But I think by you pressuring him like this and involving your family the way you say you have isnt right. Quitting smoking is something you can only do when you want to. The time has to be right. If he doesnt %110 want to, he wont succeed. And it sounds to me like the main reason that you want him to quit is because YOU dont like smoking. Not because of the health issues or anything like that. And thats kind of selfish. Im only being honest here. It you want him to quit, let him know, which you obviously have, but dont pressure him so much. That will only stress him out and possibly make him want to smoke more. Your supposed to love him for him and accept him. Giving your opinion is fine, but forcing it is not. What if you were with someone who was a vegetarian and hated meat and you loved it. How would you feel if they tried to get you to stop eating meat the way you and your family try to get him to stop smoking. Think about it. Again, im not trying to be mean. Im just trying to show you things from his possible perspective. Its good to try to put yourself in the other persons shoes. Good luck.
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If he really does want to quit and is all for quitting, then I think the process will be easier.
What I mean by that is that he has to commit and really truly WANT to change. Not the flimsy "Oh yes, I'll try later" way of thinking.
My mom used to smoke, and she quit by gradually cutting down. She said the withdrawals weren't so bad this way, since she was getting her nicotine fix, just less and less each day.
How many packs a day does he smoke? Let's go with two just for explanation purposes.
Day One: Smoke two packs
Day Two: Smoke two packs minus one cigarette
Day Three: Smoke two packs minus two cigarettes
Day Four: Smoke two packs minus three cigarettes
Etc...
Also, if he feels like he needs to grab something else to make up for the one less cigarette, if it must be food, make it something healthy. One of my uncles quit cold turkey and would grab a cookie for every cigarette they weren't having. Not so great for you either.
Above all, your job as his girlfriend is to be supportive. Support him in his journey to quit. I'd imagine it'll be a whole lot easier on him with a good support system behind him.
Good luck to your boyfriend.
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he should try chantix its a new pill that really does work! my mom is 48, smoked since she was 20, had quit maybe 3 or 4 times but only for a week and was always back on. she used this and she quit about a month later!! talk to a doctor!
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