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does age really make a difference?
I am a 17 year old girl and i am interested in a younger boy, he is 14. Believe me, i know it sounds bad but if you knew how he treated me, you might understand. The thing is i will be 18 in the month of may, and he will only be 15 in October. Also, it's weird to think, my brother is 12 and the boy i'm interested in is 14. He acts very mature for his age, even with his friends!... and looks like he is 17 or 18. One person that I've talked to about it said he might be infatuated by a pretty older girl that has come his way. Honestly, if that were true, he might have just made a move on me already and he hasn't. My mother mentioned that it's illegal when i turn 18 and if i pissed off anyone in the family, they could turn it into a legal manner, and i could go to jail. I know its different, when the age range is 16-19 but does the age difference really matter in this case, or should I leave it be, since i'm finally happy? PLEASE HELP.
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It's only illegal Id you guys have sex. ;)
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well when it comes to the law age does matter and there are alot of ways around this you can just stay friends until hes old enough or if you think its worth going to jail for and being on megans list for the rest of your life go for it but if you ask me its not worth it wait it out and if you two can make it thru the wait then you guys are ment to be together but when your waithing go out and meet new guys you might find someone you like better and if you talked to your mom listen to her because i think shes telling you what she would do if your little brother had a girlfriend that was older and if she pissed him off she would do that. i seen this happen my boyfriends little sister is dating this guy and alot of shit happened and her dad and step mom dont want hem together they dont like him now hes 18 and she just turned 16 so when her dad and step mom found out they called the cops took her phone away and she cant go anywhere until they brake up i tell you to wait and see what happens only time will tell and i truly believe everything happens for a reason.
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I know of a couple where the situation is flip flopped and the girl is 14 and the boy is 17. The age range is still the same and they seem to be managing just fine. She (just like the boy you're speaking of) looks like she's 17 or 18 and acts extremely mature for her age. They can talk to each other for hours on end and they have so much in common, despite the age difference.
You only live once and you're definitely not expecting to marry this boy. High school should be about having fun and experimenting and if this boy is as great as you describe him to be, he shouldn't be ordering lawsuits against you if things get bad.
Good luck!
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The thing is, right now, in this day and age and in these circumstances (this is a high school relationship), yes age does matter.
My parents have always told me that when it comes to love, yes age is just a number....unless you're a teenager. ;)
Think about it, he is a fourteen year old kid. You are almost an adult. You're turning 18, so I can probably safely presume you will be graduating this year? Or at least very soon.
You two are going to have very different things going on in your life very soon; you'll be thinking seriously about college majors or career paths or moving out and living on your own, whatever the case may be, while he's going to be preoccupied with just enjoying his teen years and being a kid for a little while longer.
It might not seem like such a big deal right now, because you have been bitten by the love bug. But remember that this is most likely infatuation, and if you want a real relationship, part of what makes a real relationship work is compatibility and wanting the same things as your partner.
Just my opinion though, take it or leave it. ;) Good luck.
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