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Hey guys my name's Erin, and I love helping people. I know how hard life can be at times, and sometimes you just need some adivse. That's what I'm here for. Whatever the question is, I'll be more than happy to answer it!

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my mom said she would buy me birth control pills and to just tell her if me and my boyfriend are gonna ahve sex because she knows him and she likes him and weve been together for a while...were thinkin about it but i just wanted to know how effective against pregnancy is a birth control pill?? is it safe to use a condom AND birth control at the same time? and should i just tell my mom or just do it behind her back because i heard you have to go to the doctor to get the pills...thats embarassing

it is safe to use a condom and birth control at the same time, and actually it's safer that way. i would tell your mom, and you have to go to a doctor to get them even if you tell her, and if your under 18 you need her there to sign for you, becuase you are still a minor. definitely tell your mom, because if something goes wrong, she already knows and it won't be such a shock for her, and she can more readily help you out. but going to the doctor shouldn't be embarassing, and it's for your own health. if you're embarassed to go to the doctor to get the pill, then you're not ready to have sex.

*All my friends say I'm cute, but I think I'm ugly. They've all had boyfriends and I haven't. I'm 13 and in 7th grade, I've never been kissed or anything my little 11 year old brother already had his first kiss and he was making-out with the girl. I don't know what to do. I sort of guess I'm just ugly. But I can't take it. What can I do? It's tearing me apart it makes me feel unwanted.*

you're 13, you have PLENTY of time for your first kiss. and just because you've never had a boyfriend does NOT mean you're ugly. i'm sure you are a very pretty girl, and any guy would be lucky to have you. i didn't have my first kiss or boyfriend until i was 16, and most of my friends had already at least kissed a guy, if not done more with them. i know it's probably hard for you being the only one without a boyfriend, but just be patient. it will happen, and when it does, you'll realize that it's not a big deal that you didnt' have a boyfriend when you were 13 when all of your other friends did. if there's a guy you like, then maybe you could start talking to him, maybe ask him to hang out, and who knows, maybe he likes u too and then maybe he'll ask out! just be patient, and have fun! good luck, and i hope this helped.

Well I've been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years now. We're both 17, I'm a junior and he's a senior which means he'll be graduating this year. We're really close and madly in love. I'm just really afraid of what will happen when he goes away to college. All the colleges he has applied to are somewhat close to here besides one. I watch movies and shows and see couples break up all the time with the whole college situation. I was wondering what other people thought about my situation. I love him so much, and we're both willing to try and make it work. I'm just really scared, it's crazy what love can do to you. So I was wondering if anyone could suggest anything..thanks a bunch

i was in a similar situation to yours last year. my bf and i were together for 2 years, and we were both going off to college. i went half way across the country, and he went an hour away from home. i was scared too, because i didn't want to lose him, but we both knew that some things had to change. i've heard stories of all kind-people that stayed together long distance, or people that broke up, and it all depends on the kind of relationship the couple has. my bf and i decided to do sort of an open relationship, so we're free to hook up with other people at school, but when we get back home we're still together. we both love each other very much, and so far it's worked out. it's really hard, especially if you are the jealous type, but its just something that you have to learn to accept. we didn't want to stay together because it would be way too hard for us, and we didn't want to feel like we were taking away from the "college life" that we are supposed to have, but we didn't want to break up either, cause that would be too hard too. so basically we put our relationship on hold while were in school, and when were home we're together. i hope this helped, but remember, do whatever feels right for you too, not what other people tell u, because what worked for one, may not work for you. good luck, and be strong-if it was meant to work out, it will.

Ok I go out with this boy-----hes in 8th grade and i'm in 7th. He's really nice and sweet and fine and everything like that, but when we talk on the phone, it seems like we have nothing to talk about, because we have no classes together. What might strike up a really good conversation??I need help real bad!!!!!!!!!!!I really want to keep him and we just kissed today and hes so good......plz help---I rate!!!!!!!!!!

don't worry about it. i've been dating my bf for almost 2.5 years now, and i hated talking to him on the phone cause we never had anything to talk about. you just have to be calm and talk to him as if he were one of your friends. ask him how his day was, ask him questions about his classes, tell him things that happened in ur classes, talk about friends, movies you've seen, new songs you've heard, things you've done recently, stuff like that. you don't have to talk on the phone every night, and you dont' have to talk for that long! just keep it short and sweet, and you'll be fine. hope this helped!

i was going out with this guy for like a month and a half, one day he breaks up with me before school starts. second block my best freind/his best freind tells me she likes him and ask me if it would be ok if they went out. i sad yes and she said she wouldn't ask him out, an hour later i find out they are going out. I'm trying to be friends with them but it's difficult because he like wont really talk to me unless i talk to him (he is really outgoing and it's not like him) and now megan is getting mad at me cause people are aparently being mean to her. i sad i was sorry for that to both of them but neither of them are really talk to me anymore, i just don't know how to handle cause i havn't been handling it very well. And megan does know what i'm going through cause the same thing happend to her the only difference is that she and everyone else saw it coming to her but not me i also talked to her about it, she said she was sorry and she knew what i was going through but she hasn' done anything to really make me feel better but say she was sorry. then keith did the same thing in an e-mail, neither of them will talk aobut it to my face

let me make sure i understand this correctly. keith-your ex bf is now dating megan-your best friend, and neither of them are talking to you anymore? it seems to me that you just need to talk to them to their faces-first alone with megan then keith, and then talk to them together, because there seems to be some sort of misunderstanding. the way you put it it doesn't seem like you ever got mad at either of them or got into a fight, so it seems like there's no reason for either of them to be mad at you. you told megan she could go out with keith, so u can't be mad at her for that. just talk to them and tell them that you don't understand why they won't talk to you and you dont' understand what you did to make them upset or not talk to you. tell them that you still want to be their friend, and you want to work things out. and people being mean to megan has nothing to do with you, unless you spread a rumor about her-in which case she has a right to be mad. just talk to them and try and get things straightend out-chances are it was a slight misunderstanding, and things will be fine. hope this helped and best of luck.

ok well im 13/m and i have feelings for my friend. The problem is that she has been going out with her boyfriend for a long time (year and like a month) andso i've been trying to be there for her and be her friend but now her and her bf are going through some rough times and she doesn't think he likes her anymore. I want to make a move but think that might be taking advantage of her and her situation. Should i go for it? Is it taking advantage of her current situatuion?

that would definitely be taking advantage of her AND her situation. i would suggest against doing anything now, but make sure that she knows that you are there for her unconditionally. if things don't work out with her and her bf, she may see you and go to you for comfort and support, and i wouldn't expect anything out of it, not yet at least. if she and her bf break up, i'd wait at least a couple of weeks before you make your move, maybe even a month or so-just to give her time to get over him. if she seems to be getting over him quicker, than make your move then. but don't make it now. she already has enough stress on her shoulders dealing with her situation with her bf she doesn't need the added stress of having to deal with you making moves on her, and whether or not she wants to be with you or her current bf. hope this helped, and good luck.

I've been with my boyfriend for a couple of weeks now, and things have been going pretty good. We dont go to the same school, but we do see each other almost every weekend. Well last weekend he asked me what i was doing because he wanted to do somthin saturday night. Well on Friday night i imed him and asked what he wanted to do, and he said that he couldnt do anything because he had to go to some wedding. I was kinda madd because i didnt know if he would have even told me about the wedding if i didnt ask him what he wanted to do. A couple of days pass and it seems like were getting more and more distant. Im goin to the movies soon with some friends and i want him to go so we can see each other. What all can i do so our relationship keeps going and doesnt just lose interest?!?!?!

when relationships first start out, often the first couple of weeks/months even are a little difficult, especially if you don't go to the same school. i would suggest maybe calling him and trying to talk to him on the phone rather than online, and ask him to go to the movies with u and your friends. if he says he can't, then ask him if he wants to do something the next day. if he still says he can't and doesnt give a good reason, then you'll have to talk to him about it. just let him know that it seems like he's avoiding you, and you don't understand why. tell him that if there's something going on that's making him not able to see you, that you'd like to know about it. chances are he's just getting used to the idea of having a girlfriend, as often times, especially for guys, it takes some adjusting to. my bf and i had a lot of trouble for the first 2 months or so, but that was two years ago and we're still together, and we even live 1800 miles apart. i hope this helped, and just stick in there and hopefully things will get better soon. good luck

okay here is the problem....i dumped my b/f 2 previous times. Now,he asked me back out and our group i hang out with was fighting(longgg story)and im like i do but i wanna wait until our group is all cool again..so now he thinks we are going out,and he is always hugging me and it pisses me off so bad and i dont know what to do...I am soo confused,please help me!
*crystal*

well, it seems like there's been a miscommunication between you and your bf. you need to talk to him and get your stories straight, and tell him that you don't want to date until your groups are cool again. but i do have a question for you. if you dumped him two times already, there must be something you don't like about him or the way he treats you or something. i would think hard about if you really want to get back together if you think it might just end up with you dumping him, yet again. but if you really do want to get back together with him, have an honest talk with him and tell him exactly what you told me, and things should work out fine. hope this helped, and good luck.

I'm 13 and i have gone out with this boy i really liked him and he was my first boyfriend but he dump me and now i don't want to go out with anyone because i have losed my confidence and scared i'm going to be rejected

that's a very common feeling to have after breaking up with someone for the first time. but that's the risk you take when getting involved in relationships. you put yourself out there and risk getting hurt. don't lose confidence in yourself just because your boyfriend dumped you. all relationships end in breakups, unles you end up marrying them, but at your age that's not an issue. but you can't think of it that way-you have to take advantage of the time you had with ur bf, and then learn from it. if you convice yourself of that, you'll be fine. i hope this helped.

Hello. :)
14/F ~ My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 4 months now, and the other night he came over. We sat around and talked for a little while, but then he started to pull moves on me... It's not the first time or anything.. we started to make out then he put his hands up my shirt and down my pants..then we started making out more.. then he pulled me on top of him and we made out more. Is it wrong for me to let him put his hands in those places? I'm just wondering so I can tlel him weather he can again or not. Thank you :)

there's nothing wrong with him putting his hands in those places, as long as you're comfortable with it. if you're not comfortable with it, then tell him that you want to wait a little before you guys do more stuff besides make out because your not ready. he should respect your oppinion and wait until your ready. if you are comfortable with it, then there's nothing wrong with it! hope this helped.

i like this guy and he kinda likes me but all my friends say hes really bad and they call him pot head and stuff like that. but i dont think hes bad at all. i kissed him at the movies and every one was like eww and stuff like that. but i really like him. what do i do? thanks.

if you really like him, and if your friend are your true friends, then they shouldn't care what you do, and you should go for it with him. i know that it's hard to do things that your friends don't approve of, but in the long run it's your life, and you should feel free to do whatever you want to do. unless you find out some really bad info on him, then i see no harm in dating him, as long as he's a good guy besides the fact that he's called a pothead...if he's got a good personality, then go for it. hope this helped

ok, my ex boyfriend was at my house last week hanging out with my brother, he stayed the night and in the morning im like "Hey, wanna sign my jeans" cuz i was having everyone sign them. he said sure...and he signed them saying "luv you always, Gary" then 2 nights ago he told me that he wanted my best friend back (he was her first bf and he really liked her but she broke up with him) but yea, then he made a crying face and said "Bryanna!!!!" and did another crying face (this was on a messenger) and he has no idea how much it hurt and confused me. I mean, he writes luv you always on my pants then he says he wants them. He confuses the hell outta me and I don't know what to do about it. when i ask him how he feels he just says he doesnt know. Theres obviously no point in asking him how he feels anymore. So how can I find out? I have seen him look at me a couple times but I guess it didnt mean anything. plz help. thanks 4 reading this, its kinda long lol

ok well fist of all, i'm a little confused at the problem, because you said he was your ex-boyfriend, so he has the right to want your best friend back. but i can understand where you're confused. maybe what he meant by "luv you always" was that he will always love you as a friend. but, that doesn't mean you can't talk to him about it. what he's doing to you isn't fair, and you deserve an answer. when you talk to him, don't ask him what he feels, but rather tell him that you are very confused by the fact that he wrote "luv you always", and then tells you that he wants your best friend back. since you guys aren't dating, you can't really give him the ultimatum saying "it's either me or her", but you can make it clear that you need to know whether the "luv" that he was implying when he wrote on your jeans was a friendly love, or something more. i hope this helped, and good luck.

I love my boyfriend very much, and he is just the sweetest thing to me. I wouldn't trade him for anybody else. My parents don't think he's a good influence on me, and want us to break up. If he doesn't change soon they'll keep us from seing each other and talking.
He's 2 years older than me, in high school when I'm still just a middle schooler. I met him through my younger brother's theatre group, he is a wonderful actor and an even better singer. I knew who he was for almost a year, but never talked to him since he was older, and I wasn't even in the play. some time in september he noticed me at the theatre group. We began talking on the computer and on the phone for several weeks until he asked me out. my parents had been sorta skepetical about the whole thing with an older guy from the begining, but let me go out with him anyway.
There have been a few times that I couldn't do or go places with him because he was older, or because my parents didn't think I was ready to do things. He takes things rather personally and got really upset with them, being extremely rude about them in his online diary. Later, after the problems had been solved, my dad found the website, nad was really disappointed in what he saw. That was about 3 weeks ago. My parents have never let go of the fact that he and I made out in front of my little bro, something both of us will never do again. They also like to rub in my face that he is very emmotional, and materilistic and they point out all his bad traits. They fail to mention how sweet he is to me, how well we get along, how he calls me every day no matter what, and comes to watch me ride horses when any other guy would be bored to death.
Last friday one of our friends told him that I was cheating on him with my ex. Which so didn't and will never happen. I told him so on saturday, and he believed me until he talked to her again, and on sunday he was mad at me. I felt so bad, being accused of something that he knows that as a person, I would never do that. Anyways, he hugs all his friends that are girls. I told my mom, and she almost had be convienced to break up with him.
Yesterday, I was talking to him on the phone, and I told him he needed to be more respectful to my parents. He replied with "I dont give a what your parents think" I then told him that why my mom was letting me use the phone before I was finished with homeworkd and chores was because I was supposed to break up with him, but that I didn't want to. He got all upset and got off the phone.
I dont know what to do, I want him to be able to get along with my parents, and I want them to see all the good things I see in him. How should I let him know that my parents thnk he is a bad influence, emotional, rude in his diary ect. ect. without making it sound like thats how I feel, and that they still like him well enough as a person. I agree with a few of the things they say, and I want him to know and to fix those things, but I dont want to sound rude, or demanding. Sorry about the question being so long, thanks so much if you can help me!

your guy seems like the typical "theater person." all my friends in highschool were theater, eventhough i wasn't, but the ALL acted like that-very emotional and often speak before they think. i think that you need to have a very serious talk with your boyfriend, and tell him everything that's bothering YOU. don't say what's bothering your parents, because then he'll think that you're saying that just so you don't seem like a bad person accusing him of things, and you're using your parents as a way out. don't hold back on what you need to tell him, because it is very important for him to understand that there are certain things that are necessary in order for a relationship to succeed, and one of those is definitely respect-respect to you and your parents. by being rude to your parents, he is in a way being rude to you, because he wont' respect your wishes for him to at least try and be nice to them. your parents do have good reason to not like him, because since he is 2 years older than you, at that age he is no doubt more experienced than you (not necessarily sexually, but just at life), and there's nothing you can do about that-it just comes with time. so i would talk to him about what's bothering you, and see if maybe he can work on adjusting his attitude about certain things. if he agrees to that, have a tlak with your parents and ask them if they can give you a couple more weeks to see if he really is going to change. hope this helped, and good luck

okay so .. i broke up with this guy a little while ago. But when i see him i still think about him. My friends say i should go back out with him .. but i dont want to .. i dont think im the type of girl to have a boyfriend but i also like having one too. I dont know what i should do. I dont even know if he still likes me. I think i just still have left over feelings for him but i dont think i could go back out with him. I kinda want to .. but then again im talking to another boy .. so i dont know what to do ..

well if you have any doubts about getting back together with this kid, don't. im sure the feelings you have for him are exactly what you said-left over. it's hard to get over someone, and it takes a while. but the worst thing you can do is get back together with him, because then when you break up again, it'll only make getting over him even harder. i would suggest investing your energy elsewhere, whether it be a different guy, or a sport, or school work-anything to get your mind off him. good luck

So I'm 16 and I haven't even had my first kiss yet. I have alot of guy friends but they are all what it sounds like "guy" friends not boyfriends. I'm not a tombboy or whatever..Am I missing something here.

no you're not missing anything! i didn't get my first kiss till i was 16 either, and i had guy friends that were only guy friends. you just have to be patient, and the right guy will come around. don't worry! it'll happen soon enough. trust me :O)

I think that something wants me and my ex to be together. I want to tell him that I do want us to try again because I can't live with the fact of "what if". I have to find out because if I don't, it's just going to stay in the back of my head and I won't be able to move on with anyone else. So how should I tell my ex that I really care and that we should try again?

just tell him that you want to give it another shot. i understand about living with "what if", and if it's really going to bother you, then you have to see if it's possible. just tell him, and see what he says. he may not say yes, but that's a risk you're going to have to be willing to take. just tell him how you feel, and things should be fine. good luck!

hey i'm 13 years old and im not a geek or anything, and ithink i'm kinda pretty:-/.(i'm kinda skinny and 5 foot which i dont like, but anyways)
The only guys that have asked me out were kinda dorky, and only like one guy who i actually liked asked me out, but i misunderstood, not knowing that he liked me. This one guy who i sort of thought was cute asked me out, and I said yes, but he's kinda shy, and I don't know what to do, because he might be coming to my school, and he didn't really hang out with me or my friends when he visited, an everyone was making this huge deal about us, because someone found out. I think another guy who i might like might like me, who is really cute, but i just started going out with matthew, (and he's in 7th and im in 8th) and i don't ^really^ know him yet, and don't want to hurt his feelings(he showed me a poem about the last girl who broke up with him that was kinda creepy about how he hated her)
what should i do?(sry about it being so long!)
-needz advice!-

well, if you're going out with Matthew just to go out with him, then that's really not fair to either of you. but if you think you might kind of like him, then stick it out for a little, and try and get to know im a little better. see what things you guys have in common, and stuff like that. you may find out that you really do like him! if not, then be fair to both of you, and break up with him, because the only thing worse than rejection, is knowing that someone is dating you because they feel bad for you, or they're scared of hurting you. but at your age, i wouldn't be too concerned about it, because guys tend to get over things pretty quickly at that age. good luck!

theres this boy that i like but he is a grade older but i really like him and i went out with him but he dumped me when he found out my age what should i do and how can i get him to like me?

well, there's not a whole lot you can do to get someone to like you. it's just one of those things that happens. but, the only thing i can suggest would be to try and talk to him, and maybe the reason he dumped you was because you lied to him about your age? that's never a good way to start off a relationship. the best thing is to be honest with each other. but try just talking to him, in school if you see him or online if you have his screen name or whatever. maybe flirt a little, but keep it small at first because if there is the potential of him liking you, you don't want to over due it and scare him away. but make it kind of obvious that you're interested (because guys are often very bad at picking up hints) and see what happens from there. if things still aren't going the way you want, you can either decide to let it go, because there are plenty of other guys out there, or you can try and talk talk to him-tell him that you like him, and that your sorry you didn't tell him your age to begin with. hope this helped, and if you need anymore help, let me know! good luck.

yah i really dont know what to do anymore i swear my boyfriend is going nuts on me. just because i dont tell him what is wrong. i mean i cant tell him my feelings he has to go all pyscho on me. i dont like it i dont know what to do. plz help me.

i can understand why your boyfriend would be a little upset with you for not sharing your problems, but he does have to respect your privacy. one of the best advantages of having someone who cares about you in the way that a boyfriend often does is to have the security of knowing that someone's always there for you unconditionally, and will listen to your problems and help you through them, without judging you. if you feel like you can't tell him your feelings, then maybe you should reconsider your relationship with him, because you guys should be able to be open to each other. sit down with him and talk to him to figure out why he's going all psycho on you, and then maybe you guys can try and work something out. best of luck.

okay so i always fall for the "bad boys" but this time i like one of my old best friends, but the problem is he is a jerk, unreliable, and a stoner..... and like i dont know what to do, because we dont talk all that much anymore b/c he has a different group of friends than i do.. he liked me all of last year but i always said no when he asked me out because i didnt agree with him about the whole drug thing, and now i've realised that i liked him the whole time and still do and hes found another girlfriend and im just like.... sad. iono. should i tell him how i feel or not? i dont want to ruin his relationship.. sorry if thats kind of long

well, it all depends on how strong your feelings are for him. if they're overwhelming you, then you have to tell him, otherwise it's gonna bother you forever. if you do tell him, don't expect anything back from him, cause he does have another girlfriend-just tell him you need him to know, and leave it at that, and let things go how they will. good luck

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